Ganjafama:
@op read this and save your life.


I had an uncle whose wife is a medical doctor. They were financially okay because my uncle was working with the UN. He found out his wife was cheating on him with their house boy. He forgave her and continued eating her food and sleeping with her.
They lived in peace for some few years during which time she became better at concealing her adulterous acts. Suddenly, my uncle fell sick and his legs started to decay.

To make matters worse, she had him confined to a room on ground floor of the house since he was bedridden and couldn't walk. On the guise of bringing somebody to care for him, she brought in another house boy who was fvcking her steadily. My uncle died some months later. He died a sad, lonely man. Interestingly, their last child who looked every inch like his father died of a mysterious ailment some few months after his father died. The woman is still alive screwing up and down. The mistake my uncle made was not reporting her to family who would have performed some cleansing rituals. Int tead he chose to keep it to himself and he paid the price.

tiredoflife:


Not everyone who hates feminists are failures OK
Get that in ur fish brain
Money I have seen and still seeing u won't earn it in ur lifetime and even if u are an ashi in hell in ur after life
U serve God almighty but wen its time to marry ur people must pour drinks on the ground to ur forefathers
See how stupid and double standard u are

So while u boast u are a feminist
Why not give urself out in marriage don't involve family in anyway and see if ur feminist will work
Mumu na mumu

patani:


You can see how you’ve justified your stupidity. Intelligent people read the whole statements before commenting. Idiot. Mention me again and mess urself up.

HeWrites:


Stealing indeed.


Monitor your life bro... You don't need to be monitoring me.

It's not a must to have the same view as you.

tiredoflife:


Eriwi twist ur neck there
What I am saying is bullshit
Tell ur wife to do am
Make u know and chop her food
U will meet me in the after life to open gate for me when I come in fifty years time

bayulll011:


bros why naa,u talk to moronnn that has IQ of 20% this one a potential sluuty in d making I beg talk to better people with good understanding

Ganjafama:
@op read this and save your life.


I had an uncle whose wife is a medical doctor. They were financially okay because my uncle was working with the UN. He found out his wife was cheating on him with their house boy. He forgave her and continued eating her food and sleeping with her.
They lived in peace for some few years during which time she became better at concealing her adulterous acts. Suddenly, my uncle fell sick and his legs started to decay.

To make matters worse, she had him confined to a room on ground floor of the house since he was bedridden and couldn't walk. On the guise of bringing somebody to care for him, she brought in another house boy who was fvcking her steadily. My uncle died some months later. He died a sad, lonely man. Interestingly, their last child who looked every inch like his father died of a mysterious ailment some few months after his father died. The woman is still alive screwing up and down. The mistake my uncle made was not reporting her to family who would have performed some cleansing rituals. Instead he chose to keep it to himself and he paid the price.

Boss13:
First, I must say you are causing yourself more harm by intruding into your wife’s privacy. At this point, I don’t think you have the right to arrest your wife’s lover. He has committed no crime. Your line of thought would only cause you more damage.

Second, your wife is actually not matured. She is seeking romance outside of her matrimonial home. She is putting her marriage and family at risk. That lover of her would dump her if circumstances changes because nobody wants extra financial baggage.

Third, call a meeting and bring forth your evidence because after all confrontations, your wife has refused to change. However, if you consider your wife promiscuous, then that’s absolutely a huge problem because it has nothing to do with the guy, but your wife. If the guy leaves the equation, another player may enter.

Finally, I cannot advice your to divorce your wife. That’s a sensitive situation. However, like you said that your wife may read this; let me ask her - MADAM WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU? YOU’RE COMPROMISING YOUR SITUATION WITH STUPID GAMES. THE MAN YOU’RE CHEATING WITH ONLY WANT FREE OR CHEAP SEX. PLEASE STOP IT AND ACT MATURED AND BE RESPONSIBLE.

mysaviouralive:
Hello Admin pls move this to the front page and I will be in the comment section reading.

Pls I want to take a boldness step and I will not mind where it can lead to. I have to open an account now to post this. My wife is also a guest of nairaland and she will be seeing this post.

It happen that I got married to my wife over Nine yrs ago and we only have a Kid. I was working in a big company then before the new management came in and change the policy of the company and I was laid off. I was idle like 3yrs before I got another job. she is working in one of the biggest bank in Nigeria. Like 5yrs ago I noticed she will be smiling whenever she is chatting with one of her male colleague. I ask what are they normally discussing, but she told me that it was their office issue that they are discussing. I know the guy and his family and the guy has came to my house not more than four times.

It happen one day that I demanded to give her phone to browse because I was having problem with my phone. she gave me the phone around 10:30pm and I noticed she has has cleared all their chat. This make it look suspicious and I asked her immediately that why did you deleted the chat, but she told me it was a mistake. I think over it for sometime because I trust her then, but on the other hand my mind was telling me to find out more. As an IT expert I connected her phone to my system and do some forensic research on the phone, alas what I discovered was bad. My wife and the guy have been having an affair and chatting and sending their nude to themselves. I called her immediately and demanded to explain the pixture but she denial it and was telling me another story that she snap the pixture and to show me how she was Hot so that we can have sex that night.

she said I should show her where I got the nude pixs and before she came back from the office she has wipe all the pixs that I showed her thinking that I cannot recovered it anymore and I asked her why should you do that but was just begging me. I recovered all the pixs back and the chat she believe she has deleted and I have more proof that she has been cheating on me.

So I asked her to tell me the truth what is going on with the guy and her but she was just begging me. But I told him I dont want her to do or have anything with the guy again that if I catch her again she will not like what I will do for her, with the hope that she will change. Recently I noticed she stil chatting with the guy again and I rake on her to stop it but she told me that she was just explaining office issue she has when he (the guy) not around because she is the one that relief him on work.

This week they are still chatting late in the nite cos I always seen the chat, though she will delete it as soon as they chat finish but I always have the chat and also today they have chat alot to the extend that my wife was crying when she expecting good reply from the guy but the guy fail him and I noticed she has intimate with the guy rather than me her husband.

My wife can lie and so Promiscuous. I have called her severally to change but she did not, recently I heard she was talking with one of her online friend from Abuja when the guy told her he will be coming to visit her this coming week, and I expect my wife to tell me but uptill now she has not saying anything on it. This make me not to have much trust in her again because if she tell me something I will still think over it like five times again before I accepted.

So my plan now is to call the wife of her colleague and explain everything to the wife and I also planing of arresting her colleague because I still have the proof and dont mind what can come out of this, because I tired and cant continue like this anymore, ever since I have caught her I did not enjoy my home anylonger and I tried to erase it from my memory but not get it wright.

Pls save me and save my marriage if possible.

Thank you.

tiredoflife:


What tribe are u
This is what I have being saying.
But some Zeeworld idiots are telling him to sit the wife down and ask her to stop
This guy go die soon
E no go tey

Ganjafama:
Itsekiri. Niger Delta tribes don't play with anything concerning ancestors. See this link below
https://www.nairaland.com/4488657/how-cheating-wife-led-husband
The man and his wife were people I knew personally. Intact, they lived close to us. It was a similar issue that led to his death.

dennel:
M sorry Mr. Op... wanted to try an epistle about those whores but I don't have dt time! However, thumbs up to those beautiful, rich, faithful, supportive, virtuous women out there who always have in mind the marriage vows n never do anything stupid out there (tho I know we have very few of them) ...
Your story touches! But someone of a soft n good heart like you shd only take the issue to her parents; let them realise what's happening, esp if you definitely paid her bride price... let them see things! N better still run for your life, leave the kid, she wouldn't suffer her kid!
Seek God n be sure of what your next move shd be, she might have a change of mind n be back better, or better still get on with your life n you'll get a better direction...

Eating such a woman's food, well*

God help you brother

Ishilove:

Aunty, speak for yourself and stop your satanic generalisation.

trapQ:
Lmao....Only dumb and/or overage women marry divorced men. No young educated and enlightened girl will settle for a divorce unless she's doing so to escape poverty. The wife will do good.
She's got money too

I don't support cheating but it is outright stupidity and double standards when men encourage cheating among men but vilify women for doing so.

dikcom:


What do you mean by privacy in an institution of marriage?

GreenCap:


you wanna turn princess iPhone into a zombie device? by spoofing it from a root device?

yettymuse:
Divorce is not even an option because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You just have to make your marriage work. I hate to hear about cheating causing dissolution in marriages or relationships.

By the way your wife could be flirting and not cheating completely... Are you still doing those things you were doing during courtship? 9 years is a long time and trust me you must have begin to adopt the mama and papa style. When was the last time you both went for a dinner, movies, walk, vacation...?
Do you even still remember to call your wife sweet names?? Some foot massage after a hectic day?... Raunchy whatsapp message whilst at work?, breakfast in bed.... Little gift, lingeries, etc..

How's is your sex life? Do you communicate your fantasies and cravings? , when was she last time she got an orgasmic gift and said "THANK YOU"! Hunku you're married so no limits, no boundaries... Set everything on fire!

Maybe your marriage needs a rejuvenation, we sef dey get bored sometimes..

Reignite 'em romantic spark and set the atmosphere on fire. Instead of snooping, change your mode of dressing, stay trim and fit, wear a clean hair cut and smear some cologne mix n match.

If all this doesn't work, pray and watch WAR ROOM, please watch this movie and your marriage would be back to how it was.

tiredoflife:


This is what I don't like about u all
Once a man marries a woman he has no business with her parents
The woman becomes bond to his traditions

He is to take her to his people
Those are the ones who know how to clean a contaminated wife
Not her parents

Kids full nairaland I swear
Did he marry into her traditions or she married into his

dennel:


Kids full nairaland I swear
Did he marry into her traditions or she married into his



Wah rubbish is the idiot saying ?!

Fish go chop ya mouth
U will never ever understand what I am saying
Wen ur wife cheat on u sit her down u hear
Ask am to stop
Even beg am
U go know wetin I dey talk in the after life




This is what I don't like about u all
Once a man marries a woman he has no business with her parents
The woman becomes bond to his traditions

He is to take her to his people
Those are the ones who know how to clean a contaminated wife
Not her parents

Kids full nairaland I swear
Did he marry into her traditions or she married into his

chigoziri2403:
the reason you are still in the marriage is because she provides for you, emotionally you are under her

trapQ:
It's a free world. Marry your fellow man.

Viking007:
It's funny how in just one sentence you summarized the entire story and hit the nail on the head. The husband is obviously under the wife. No reasonable married adult will run to nairaland to create a thread about his cheating wife.

mankettle:
@ Op.
1. keep the evidence.
2. don't tell the wife.
3. Since you have proof that your wife is committing adultery,, a. if you can tolerate her, don't divorce her if not get a divorce. get a lawyer to advise you.
4. if getting a divorce you can sue the colleague as the named party. if you are lucky, the Judge may award damages to you.
5. on no account must you arrest him as the offence he committed is purely civil and not criminal? except you stay up north.
6. do not allow the wife to loose her job as it will affect your finances.

MetroBaba1:


Understand The Simple Logic. Don't Quote Me If You Lack Basic Understanding.