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Glink2018:
You dey look for Wife?
I know you are one of those broke dude nairaland ladies will always run for.

Go hustle first and get money like davido, Wizkid, etc, and
All the nairaland tiwa sawage and hot ladies will begin to fall for you sharp , sharp
But as u desperately advertise yourself, nairaland ladies go don detect say dis one nah poor dude..
So, go and double your hustle

Brotherly lemme just say ur an incorrigible IDIOT OF THE HIGHEST ORDER for calling my post "desperate", please re-read my post abeg. BTW the population of women is more than twice dat of Men so please get ur facts straight b4 typing sh!t

sarcasticdude:
Brotherly lemme just say ur an incorrigible IDIOT OF THE HIGHEST ORDER for calling my post "desperate", please re-read my post abeg. BTW the population of women is more than twice dat of Men so please get ur facts straight b4 typing sh!t

I pity that unlucky lady that will resolve to spend the rest of her life with you.

Becoz your few statement you typed, clearly say the kind of person you are.

So, i wouldnt be surprise if you continue to use your stunted and horrible fingers to type nonsense at me on nairaland.

I could see the indecorous, irresponsible and unfaithfulness in word

I weep for your wife-to-be.

bukatyne:
It is the same way a woman feels when her husband is not in good terms with his in-laws.

My point is that sometimes, it is the family not the wife causing the trouble and it is our duty as spouses to protect our spouses from our family when we know that they are the issue.

Imagine a man who has a troublesome mother who troubled his dad and fomented trouble in the neighbourhood. Wouldn't it be wickedness for the husband to expect the wife to get along with his mother?

Would the husband remain single all through his life because he doesn't want a wife that will have issues with his mother?

Despite the stereotype that mother in laws are terrible, I know a MIL who told her DIL that she knew that her son was the problem and did everything to protect her DIL.

When you cannot cope with someone, don't expect your spouse or in-law to be able to do so. Some of us have not even been able to foster a harmonious relationship after knowing the person all our lives yet we want a husband/wife who just met them to do the magic.

Nobody says the guys family are never troublesome...but we all know most and not all ladies these days have strong reservations about their prospective in-laws. We guys most times know where the issue is coming from but due to family loyalty or love we turn a blind eye instead of trying to resolve the issue.

I have a friend who is living with his wife to be and younger sister in the same house. The lady complains about everybody around her bf, even his sister and their family. In one occasion she told my friend that she does not like the fact his sister is living with them, this is someone that they have not even paid her bride price yet.

chronique:
Following. For me, I think you should marry someone who doesn't give you stress, nor makes falling in love frustrating.


A lady who has a lot of pride in her, is also a no go area if you want to have sanity in marriage cos you'd end up always having to beg her when there's a disagreement. That can be frustrating to any man.


Once tried falling in love with someone like that and I was ready to make sacrifices to just make it work but the more I tried, the more I got frustrated. Despite her being even older than me and being a single mom, I didn't mind.


Was trying to focus solely on her good side. When I could no longer cope with being on her case, I just kept quiet and stopped all forms of communication with her and I told myself then, that at my age, I should not be chasing a lady that is close to xyz yrs, for a whole year because I want date. It doesn't make sense.

Word!

LatestNews180:
Marriage is not a friendship, there is a very big different between the two.Marriage is the coming together of a man and a woman to unit as one and form a home.It has to do with lifetime not friendship that you meet today as friend and break up tomorrow .

Marriage as they said is a beautiful thing; but how true is that statement if you're married to the wrong woman? The truth is that most single ladies who are ready to get married are wolves and lionesses that no man should ever get married to.


Some ladies tends to hide some of their characters and pretend to be a good one,just for you to put a ring in their fingers before the lionesses in them will come up.I have seen what some men are passing through in their marriage due to lack of examination of the person he wants to marry, I decided to put down these signs below that if you found in the girl you are dating you will have it in mind that marrying her is not gonna work out.


1.No drop of domestic blood
You may want to ignore the fact that she can't cook ,but does it stop there? can she clean ? wash and arrange the house without complaining that you aren't helping?.This is something to watch out for any lady you intend to settle with.She must be person that tends after her home like a precious vineyard;else if you make the mistake of marrying her you won't be able to stand her in a few years to come.

She's not Godly
May be you count yourself as one of those sinners in the town,but believe me your life will turn out even more miserable if you marry a lady who is not Godly.I wonder what your children will become in the society if you marry such a bad girl,no one is care to teach them something of the lord.So check her well,if she exhibits ungodly traits you should never even dream of taking her to the alter,a lady that smokes,drinks,lies, comes home late,curses,talks too much,nags,gossips,is lousy or has a raging temper is not godly ,you should never think of marrying such woman.


2.Materialistic and frivolous
So you really like her ,may be love her but she's just too materialistic and demanding,you are the one doing the paying,hmm!,did you think she's gonna stop it when she gets married to you,may be you are one of the big boys in the town and have a whole lot of money ,that doesn't mean you should marry a lady who's willing to help you spend half of it .Your wife should be a gatherer not a dispenser.


3.She doesn't do anything
Some guys will tell you that they can work for themselves and their wives,I don't advice you to marry a lady who depends on you for ''air''.If she can't do anything to earn a living ,has no skill,she is not educated as well ,has no plans of what she is doing ,then better not marry her else one you're going to see her as burden.


4.Don't really love her
Don't love a lady because your mum said that you should marry her,that she is good .Love is the most important thing in any relationship, don't marry to please your mum and displeases yourself because marriage is for a lifetime is not friendship,you should marry her for what you feel for and not because you want to please someone else,if you don't love her then please don't marry her.

5.She can't stand your family
Never marry a woman who cannot stand your family because a time will come when she won't be able to stand you too;who would you run to then? The same family you you abandoned for her! You shouldn't risk tearing your life to pieces like that.If your family says no to her then find out why,if she's the one that just doesn't like seeing your family members then the problem is even bigger.

6.Stay away from ladies that are very emotional, nothing you say or do can make them happy when they are in their moods.This can get very difficult and annoying in the long run.


Source- http://www.skyworld.com.ng/2018/06/6-ways-to-identify-girls-you-will-never.html

That #6 is major if you want peace of mind.

Second, the "silent treatment" attitude mode from a woman is another thing to look out for. Though cute and sexy initially, it can be very insidious when repeated constantly, and over several days. If she's not ready to work on herself into a better person... Ditch her for a better woman.