80% of boys who are left in the care of a girl are been molested but just 5 percent of them tell people about it. I am saying this here because this is a faceless forum .

My mum usually leave me in the care of a particular girl 4-6 years older than me I guess right from day one, she
was the one that started taking care of me from birth, she's the one doing everything (bathing,feeding etc) because she loved me from birth ....i think around 6-9 she started doing a quickie on me in the bathroom. She's married with kids already.

This is the first time I'm letting this out. A lot of men had similar experience back in the day

toyflare:
Warning! Long post alert!
Men get molested, and we hide it because it's either unbelievable or sounds ridiculous. My life as a kid until adulthood wasn't funny at all. First, it was the neighbor's housemaid, I was about 7 at that time and my parents were busy with work so I had to stay at my neighbor's house after school till our house maid is back from school. One day I went there, the maid called me into the kid's room and took away my clothes, made me lay down and did things I didn't understand as a child. It was confusing, and I really didn't understand what she was doing but I remember she was on top of me unclad swinging back and forth. This continued after a while, then I told mom. She didn't understand me, so I stopped going there myself and our maid told my mom she met me outside when she came back from school. I guess this made her believe me, so I had to wait in school then.

Then I was molested again by my own friend f4cking best friend turned gay! I was 10 then, and my friend was 6 years older. He was enrolled in a boarding school, I guess he learned the shit from there. When he came back he would always come to the house as usual when I noticed when we play, he touched my genitals and I wasn't comfortable with it. One day I went to his house, he was alone and locked up the place, said he wants to show me something in the room and I followed him. He went to the kitchen and brought a knife, told me to take off all my clothes or he will stab me. I was like haha very funny and he started swinging the knife and told me he joined a cult group and I shouldn't dare him. I was scared as fvck, took my clothes off with speed, he ordered me to lay on the bed and started the thing (can't go into detail cause it makes me sick) but I cried so much. Then after it he was like don't worry, you will start enjoying it soon. So I stopped going to his house but he kept coming to my house and I would lock my self inside the room and my dad will come knocking that my friend is here and I should come out. Then he started begging me that his not in any cult group, but was attracted to him. I didn't care to listen to him! So one day he came with a fancy toy and told my Lil bro he got it for him, but won't give it to him unless I followed him home. So my Lil bro asked me to go get the toy for him and I refused so he started crying, I couldn't tell him what was going on. He was very little at that time and wanted his toy, so I agreed to go, but my plan was to take the toy and fight with my friend if he tried anything stupid , so I went with my brother (my friend lives across the street) but when we got there he insisted I come in alone or he won't give it to me. My brother was like okay I'm going home . So I went in and he locked the door, I asked him for the toy and he said he won't give it to me unless I let him touch me again, I said no!!! And headed for the door, he grabbed me and pushed me to the chair I tried pushing him off but he was very much stronger than I was. Long story short, he did it again, gave me to the toy, I went to him, gave it to Lil bro and he hugged me. I went into the room and cried seriously asking God to forgive me. But it didn't stop here, it continued for years until I got older and strong enough and fought him one day before it all ended. Up till now, I still haven't told my brother what really happened.

Then again 3 years ago I was raped by my church group leader! I won't mention the church. This woman is married and older than my own mother! All her 3 kids are schooling in the UK! Her husband is a manager in one of the top oil companies ( Name withheld). At my workplace, I was working in the customer care sector and meet clients daily. Lots of sugar mummy's wanted me to be there son, some told me directly others where hiding about it but opened up later. This woman was just good to me and at the same time always preaching to me about Jesus so I didn't suspect her in any way. She invited me to her church because I just moved to the state recently and didn't have a church at that time. So I started worshipping at her church, so one day she invited me to her house fellowship and I went, after the fellowship she asked me to wait behind so I could help her tidy the place and I did before I left she gave me 4k for TP, I refused but she insisted so I took it. I kept going for house fellowship every week and she always gave me TP (4k, 6k, 10k). Every time I asked her why she gave me so much just for transport, she will say she's encouraging me because she knew I wasn't earning much.
So one day I went for house fellowship, as usual, I stayed behind to arrange the place, then took the plates to the kitchen. I noticed someone walk into the kitchen and turned off the light I was like, ma did you off the light? She said yes. I said okay... But I'm still using it, she didn't answer me and kept walking close to me then suddenly hugged me. I just stood, and was like ma is there any problem, she said no! And kept hugging me. After a while she let me go and I rushed off the kitchen and started gathering my stuff to go home. But when I wanted to open the door, I noticed it was locked! I searched for the keys and it wasn't where it supposed to be. I started calling for her and told her I couldn't find the keys, she said she kept it in her daughter's room I should go there and take it. I went there to look for it but couldn't find the keys, so I told her and she said she's coming to get it but she didn't come out, she was inside her room and refused to answer me. I stood there thinking of what to do next, then my girlfriend started calling me! I told her I just left the fellowship and she was shouting at me that it's almost 11 pm and I'm not back yet, I pleaded with her that we had a meeting blah blah blah. I ended the calling and started calling madam to come open her door let me go home for christ sake. The woman no gree, I called my roommate and told him the situation of things and he told me not to worry, I shouldn't answer my girlfriends call again, he will call her and tell her my phone was stolen and they beat me up but I'm home sleeping.
I was there waiting in the sitting room till past twelve before she opened the door almost unclad and was smiling at me. At this moment I was already angry asked her to open the door let me go and she started shouting at me before I knew it she slapped me! And my body went cold instantly. She said I should forget about going home today except I do what she says. Then the next minute she started begging me that she's sorry, she's lonely and needed someone to talk to. I couldn't say anything, as she was begging her hands were already going inside my Jeans. I was like Ma please I beg you in the name of God please stop let me go. I started preaching to her that she's married and this is evil the woman stood up and started crying that she's sorry it's the devil's hand work.
At that point, I thought everything was fine but I need to leave immediately! She told me the key is in her child's room and where to get it. I didn't trust going into that room alone, but I went anyway, the key wasn't where she said it was. And I as I was about leaving the room to go tell her, she's already at the door, then walked in and closed the door. She told me I can't go, and she hasn't had sex in a long time, so If I don't want her to tell her husband I raped her I should allow her do what she wants or she will call her husband and scream on the phone.
My eyes flashed before my eyes again, I tried talking to her again and she started calling him on the phone and put it on speaker phone so I can see she's not playing about it. I thought of going to prison and losing my job and worse ending up in the news. Then I accepted on the condition we use protection, she already had everything with her, even a lubricant! Then I knew she planned the whole thing. The sad truth is at that time I was still a virgin and never had sex with a woman.

Again sorry for the long post, but before you ask what's the name of this movie I really don't care if you believe it or not! And if you think it has no physiological effect then you're very wrong. I'm very withdrawn and find it extremely difficult to trust anyone. I have no friends! I don't ever near a church or want to hear anything about churches. (she attends a big church and I see her on TV sometimes singing praises). The moment I see an older woman I look at you in disgust, and before you say anything I'm already hating you. It's been years and I'm battling depression, so I need sleeping pills to sleep properly. At some point, I turned to drugs and later stopped because of its effects physiologically.
Being forced against your will to have sex is rape! And men get raped too and I don't think it's fun when it's a woman your mother's age and if that's a fantasy for you then you need to get your brain examined.

So sorry bru...yours is truly unique...I completely get you, it takes strength to go thru what you’ve been thru.
I was also molested by an uncle when I was 7 and a much elder gal when I was 11-13... the babe even got pregnant and put the blame on me...big man pikin na, she b feel say she don hamet. to be honest, it has really affected every aspect of my life till this day, am so withdrawn and have no support group, ppl don’t know what to make of me, cos am a loner, I trust no one, and I don’t like ppl... I tend to see the world from my distorted view...
But, I think you seriously need some Counseling man. You need to find someone you can confide in, pls don’t stop going to church, it helps me a lot, believing the words of the Bible has been a sure source of strength for me...
Long story short, padi, sorry man...you’ve been thru a lot.

Wisedove:
80% of boys who are left in the care of a girl are been molested.
My mum will leave me in her care right from day one,
was the one that started taking care of me from birth, she's the one doing everything (bathing,feeding etc) because she loved me from birth ....i think around 6-9 she started doing a quickie on me in the bathroom. She's married with kids already

Your mum doing a quickie on you?

Crenzywilliams:

So sorry bru...yours is truly unique...I completely get you, it takes strength to go thru what you’ve been thru.
I was also molested by an uncle when I was 7 and a much elder gal when I was 11-13... the babe even got pregnant and put the blame on me...big man pikin na, she b feel say she don hamet. to be honest, it has really affected every aspect of my life till this day, am so withdrawn and have no support group, ppl don’t know what to make of me, cos am a loner, I trust no one, and I don’t like ppl... I tend to see the world from my distorted view...
But, I think you seriously need some Counseling man. You need to find someone you can confide in, pls don’t stop going to church, it helps me a lot, believing the words of the Bible has been a sure source of strength for me...
Long story short, padi, sorry man...you’ve been thru a lot.

How's the child now?

Kewtt:

Your mum doing a quickie on you?

Do you even know how to read at all? Go over it again

Boys get raped too, not just by other guys but by ladies too...I was, and I am deeply touched by some of the stories I have read here... some so crazy but yet unique. It’s such a crazy world,

cococandy:
That’s super sad.

Sexual harassment and or molestation is a big deal and it affects those who are the victims probably for the rest of their lives

Loretta will you keep on ignoring my mentions forever

Kewtt:

How's the child now?

Was aborted, after much talk, fights and beatings Igot from my parents. It was the pregnancy that ended everything, and I think I still resist my parents for the beating, cos they didn’t even know the full story, she even said I raped her, came with her gran mama to make some trouble...

Meanwhile some of these aunties are here reading our stories o..

Kewtt:

How's the child now?

Was aborted, after much talk, fights and beatings I got from my parents. It was the pregnancy that ended everything, and I think I still resist my parents for the beating, cos they didn’t even know the full story, she even said I raped her, came with her gran mama to make some trouble...
I keep it all within, how am I suppose to tell anyone how I was made to suck co*k when I was just 7?

Crenzywilliams:

Was aborted, after much talk, fights and beatings Igot from my parents. It was the pregnancy that ended everything, and I think I still resist my parents for the beating, cos they didn’t even know the full story, she even said I raped her, came with her gran mama to make some trouble...

Your first born.. . take heart

Hmm
It took a similar thread sometime ago to make me realize the damage that was done to me. I was a serial victim, looking back now , I wonder why I was a target, I do have good looks but what's sexually attractive about a minor? .I
First experience. I was 4 or thereabout. KG 2 or 3, Aunty E would come visiting during holidays. She was actually a cousin, I was the last born so I was everyones fav. She will play with me all day long, trouble started when she started bathing me, my memory kinda faint now , but I remember she would lock d bathroom.. Get naked and make me touch her.. I did not understand what was happening.. But she left and didn't visit until years later. She's close to her 40s now.. Unmarried , my mom keeps praying for her not knowing what she did to me.. She might have thought I forgot.

Second experience I could remember was an aunty that rented in the same house as my Grand parents then. So whenever I am sent to stay with my Grand parents, she would take me into her room as per big aunt, and she would spread honey or sometimes milk on my palm to lick. After then she will get undressed and make me finger her and she will touch my little man till it got erect.. Make me suck her boobs. After everything, she will still give me honey .. And yes I began to enjoy it.. I was very young then..

When I was 6 or 7, there was this day we were at home and our neighbors started having sex, I think they were kinda related, it was just me, my elder bro, and my elder sis at home, so we caught them having sex and we took turns to peep and it aroused curiosity..
After that incident my sis will convince me to do what we saw them doing... It started little by little.. She would bring home hints and other porn magazines, after reading and getting horn.y , she would make us have sex.. I was beginning to enjoy it , but never new d damage it was doing to me. She later made me give her bj it went on till she got admission and left home, I think I was 8 or 9 by the time.. And was already very sexually aware of my self.. I had this pervert mind, I would sneak in with some female neighbors around my age and would have sex, play with each others genitals.. Back of the flower and all. I had my first and only 3 some at the age of 9, during a church retreat. They were twins , ah those girls go don grow fine now sha..

Since we were kids, we were allowed into d females hostel.. This particular year, my mom camped close to their sisters. Whenever there is a program, they would switch of lights in d hostel because they don't expect anyone to be there, so we just hid under a big blanket and did unimaginable things that night.. It was a destructive enjoyment. Fast forward age 10, I had my first 'real sex' with dee.. Dee was 11. She used to hawk for her mom. So there was a day she hawked pass our house and I was the only one at home. She came over and from play, we had real sex, she was fully aware and enjoyed it! She was later impregnated by someone younger when she was just 15.
I could count many sexual escapades I went ahead to get from a very tender age. Because I was exposed too early.
It made me to be sexually ahead of my peers. My sexual urge was too high for my age. I never knew d damage until I grew older..

The problem is that, when we've been exposed to sexual acts early on.. Guys start enjoying it and the society never gets to hear.

Osaze007:
Mine was funny
At age 7 I was molested by a church member he was 12 I think
Then I got to boarding school and was molested from JSS2 to SS3
It affected my self confidence

Not funny bro...its saddening.

Stay strong..

I had been sexually active from age five and everyone kept wondering why I loved women so much growing up.. That I can vividly remember.

Them give me "apple" chop too early..

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Funny enough this females will hardly give it to adult male

its a crazy fantasy on their part.Just like when some adult Male desire underaged girls.

MYHUBBY:
well this is something I've once experience in my secondary school days.

I was in SS1 going to SS2 when they deployed this Corper to our school Corper Chiamaka. she's very sound in accounting which made me liked commercial class. I happen to be one of her best student that pay attention and understand her teaching. she started treating me special among my classmates. I followed her to her rented house one day when the scenario started. I saw Corper Chiamaka getting undressed, I couldn't hold my view, I decide to leave the room and she said no. she get totally undressed left with her bra. she told me help her loose at the back with her big yellow backside staring at me. I just control myself, immediately I unloose it, she put her boobs in my mouth for suck. she started moaning, she gave me a BJ thereafter and we had sex. that was my first sex banging someone I see as my mentor, she disorganized me and made me see her as a prostitute rather than mentor. since then I always avoid her. she made hate sucking boobs till date. my ex's don complain tire

I guess I need to apologise for my earlier standview cos it seems not all of us have a shock absorber to cushion the possible aftermath cos I'm quite amazed that your experience made you hate boobs of all things,BOBBY.

NAH WAH O.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Funny enough this females will hardly give it to adult male

My broda I tire o. Though they will give but not without serious battle but it's like it is a demonic fantasy in many women to take advantage of presumed innocent boys which is why m8st of the victims experienced it at very tender age.

This is crazy, I have heard about male molestations but I didn't know it was this bad....like the percentage is as high as that of the female folk too. Some people are just mental. What is attractive about a small peepee that their little finger can't handle?
So, I guess people can see part of the reason why I advocate for mothers to be present in the formative years of their kids lives but some people will see it as a lazy wife doing nothing, watching Africa magic all day.
Please women, no matter the financial situation you find yourselves, find time for your kids, ask them questions, actually listen to them and let them know you will protect them no matter what. That is your job when daddy is fully engrossed with work
So many bad experiences...it is well

otherway:


I guess I need to apologise for my earlier standview cos it seems not all of us have a shock absorber to cushion the possible aftermath cos I'm quite amazed that your experience made you hate boobs of all things,BOBBY.

NAH WAH O.

I swear. infact I've never dated a bursty lady and I won't get married to any lady with much breast. it sound irritating to me when I read guys making fantasies about boobs that ladies do beg me to suck

eosigwe:
but all this niggaz saying they can't get over it.. like WTF... how? you were molested at the age of 4,5,6,7 or even 8 and right now you are 28, 29, 30+ and you saying you can't get over it, you hate women, your John Tommy does not erect, you have lost confidence, yen yen yen. That is total bullshit. Total crap. You guys are weak. You have erectile dysfunction. Quit excessive masturbation. Those situations you experienced as a child are not the cause of your sexual problems right now. I was seriously molested by our househelp for 4 years. Between 4 and 8 years. If I hear say I never get over am. So much weakness in the world mehn. Everyone's seeking sympathy.

You should be ashamed of yourself for saying this gibberish. If you know how hurtful it is psychologically you won't spew that trash. I pray my son doesn't experience this nonsense, because if anything like that happens to him, I may do something bad.

I was molested by my aunt when I was 8, she made me licked her anal and virginal countless times. so bad

the memory linger on and on, it really affected my urge for sex.


But my mom wouldn't believe me even if I tell her.

otherway:


I guess I need to apologise for my earlier standview cos it seems not all of us have a shock absorber to cushion the possible aftermath cos I'm quite amazed that your experience made you hate boobs of all things,BOBBY.

NAH WAH O.

Lol, this guy em, u just be monkey

MYHUBBY:



I swear. infact I've never dated a bursty lady and I won't get married to any lady with much breast. it sound irritating to me when I read guys making fantasies about boobs that ladies do beg me to suck

I'm really scared because for a guy to have a phobia for BOoBBY cos of an episode of sexual molestation is unbelievable. Please get over it biko cos Boobby is bae.

I was molested when I was 7 by our house help,7 by my sisters friend who is 25 pretty with big boobs, 10 by my lesson teacher but the truth is I enjoyed them all and asked for more like Oliver twist, don't hate me for this

One BAD THING I've noticed on this thread is the DEAFENING SILENCE of all these self-acclaimed FEMINISTS on Nairaland that do not even know the real meaning of feminism. Say no to molestation of all sorts. Let the insults start!

Crenzywilliams:

Lol, this guy em, u just be monkey

My brother call me whatever I no send. This is getting scary,that a guy will hate to suck boobby because of wettin? Boobby wey I no dey take eye see especially the one wey firm come get BIG nippi.

tomdon:



No mind them. They have ED.
I am vehemently opposed to defiling a girl child. But men coming to talk about depression because of toto as a boy. Nonsense. They're mad!!!

so much weakness in the world now. Everyone is seeking sympathy

zinnyzee:
Heh... This is a new one on me.
I always thought the molestation and abuses were one sided. This is an eye-opener.

my dear open your eyes o it happens both ways!!! I too was molested by my maternal aunty but I will share my experience later!

Sigmabond:
One BAD THING I've noticed on this thread is the DEAFENING SILENCE of all these self-acclaimed FEMINISTS on Nairaland that do not even know the real meaning of feminism. Say no to molestation of all sorts. Let the insults start!

Don't mind them, foolish and hopeless hypocrites wey dem be.

If it is a thread for ladies who got molested they would have poured their frustrated lives on the thread. Stupid hypocrites they are.

Feminism kee them.nzuzu ndị mmadụ

inereunwa1:
my dear open your eyes o it happens both ways!!! I too was molested by my maternal aunty but I will share my experience later!

Hmm.

otherway:



I totally agree with you.

I happen to be an extremely good looking guy and all my life I have been "molested" even till my 40s but I don't understand the correlation between loss of sexuality and being molested especially for a guy.

Just two years ago one lady was just using me as a intimacy gadget but me sef just commot face.

At 17 I was practically raped by a calabar girl, at 19 ladies will just come to me and just find a way to get me laid and I will even enter my room in my uni days and see naked girl in my bed,at 21 two sistas wanted to tear me apart,at 25 two ladues were taking their turn on me on a regular basis not mentioning rape threats and so on.

I can't continue to write all the funny experience I had and even till date in my mid 40s i still run from ladies who just want to take advantage but it has never affected my sex life.

it leave me wondering how can"toto" cause depression. How? they should seek treatment. Such experience is not the cause of their sexual problems. But na dem dey rush you ooo

tomdon:



No mind them. They have ED.
I am vehemently opposed to defiling a girl child. But men coming to talk about depression because of toto as a boy. Nonsense. They're mad!!!

LMAO...so toto itself is now one of the leading cause of depression. Wonderful

pcguru1:


You'd be surprise but unlike them, I don't think I can share it out in public or even with parents, so guys get abused , I know I was abused by my female house help when I was younger, but I don't think it affected me though in any way.

That's terrible. I never knew houshelps could be this terrible.