@op,

You don't discuss something as serious as that with your boyfriend over chats.

He has a right to know in plain words that he has a child on the way and he should let you know in plain words where he stands in this matter.

Don't make assumptions! He might want the baby after all and if he doesn't, life goes on.

By the way, you're in your final year and I would have expected you to have been dating a responsible man, with marriage in view at this stage.

All the same, being pregnant and having a baby isn't the end of the world.

So many people get married in final year or during NYSC...you can also tow that line.

Uyi168:
Open, if u know u and ur irresponsible bf wouldn't be able to take care of the baby, it's best u just get rid of it..

rid of it, we re talking about a life here.

Newboss:
If you can't keep/handle it, PLEASE go meet a doctor on possible evacuation at this very early stage

Left to me, I would want to have a child

What's in your womb is not the society's, but yours. So, the ball is in your court

If you want to keep it, then tell your mom about it. Mothers are very good at that. Men are assholes 9 out of 10 of the times

Just know we all love you and your happiness comes first

I was almost mistaking u for d bf. and what's with d plenty vexing face?

Op just try and talk to your mother about it. I'm sure she will guide u well. And of course stop playing with d situation with ur bf u need to come out straight! Let him know and stop biting about d bush in ur wassap msgs.

Faithlovve:


My issue now is, I feel so strongly I should keep this baby, I'm 24 and I've never been pregnant before. I felt so down at first when I got home but later I kept having a strong urge to keep the baby. I haven't told my bf because I'm sure he wouldn't want the pregnancy at all. He is also young like me.

So now I'm confused on what to do, I have so many plans for my future and wasn't even planning to get married early but I've always love babies and always love to have a baby at an early age.

My little contribution as bolded in your own statement. Additionally, I join others in asking you to tell your bf as well as your parents. No matter the difficulty you face, it has happen, so take it and remain strong.

You have decided to keep the baby.

Tell the guy plainly 'I am pregnant' simple

Hmmmm...e don sele. Tell him and let him know how you feel about it. By the way, you are one way ahead of the advice you seek: you already feel motherly towards your child. Biko, follow your heart.

kay0195:


I was almost mistaking u for d bf. and what's with d plenty vexing face?

Op just try and talk to your mother about it. I'm sure she will guide u well. And of course stop playing with d situation with ur bf u need to come out straight! Let him know and stop biting about d bush in ur wassap msgs.

The guy frowns at the thought of happiness normally . However, I agree she should keep and tell the bobo straight up.

Newboss:

So when you marry you will expect your wife to be using condom to protect her from HIV and STDs?

You'll say you guys are married, but they're dating too. This is not a one night stand or some FWB

If cheating is possible in dating, it's also possible in marriage. They're both monogamous
relationships So you will always use condom when fūcking your wife to protect yourself, abi? You know she can bang another dick and catch some nasty HIV/STD

continue replying with your dick,

please give that baby a chance to life.abortion is murder. forget about those that are telling u to abort that child. biko keep that baby he/she might be ur saviour tomorrow.more so ur boyfriend has the right to know about this pregnancy because is his seed, whether he accepts or rejects it is just thing, but please let him know about it.if he accepts it fine but if he doesn't then u then need to hustle hard to take care of urself and the baby. if u are grown to have sex u should be grown to take responsibilities.moreso keeping it away from ur boyfriend for a long time is compounding issues ooo.

Keep the pregnancy since you are already having a mind to keep her.
Inform your boyfriend, he may even be happy about it, you never can tell.
Keep yourself healthy,after three months,go and register for antenatal.
I wish you safe delivery.

When I dey look for someone that will get pregnant for me, this one is thinking about termination!
You are so funny, how is that discussion with your bf translate to 'he doesn't want the baby'? Seems, u assume and over calculate a lot.
For me, let the guy know, be str. forward. U can even snap the test result n send it to him if he thinks u r kidding.

First of all Nairalanders are humble only when requesting for help. After it is given they then become arrogant and belligerent.

If you know what's good for you go and abort the pregnancy.
Your boyfriend may support you emotionally and tell you to keep it but he'll do an about-turn once that baby is born. If you're not ready for marriage or financially stable enough to take care of a child then don't bring one into the world to suffer.

Stupid actions deserve stupid outcomes. You had sex without a condom, where you expecting nothing to happen? It's only after menopause or a case of infecundity that one is 100% sure no pregnancy can take place.

Kindly inform your boyfriend and please kindly prepare to keep the child... God will strengthen you.

Faithlovve:

My issue now is, I feel so strongly I should keep this baby, I'm 24 and I've never been pregnant before. I felt so down at first when I got home but later I kept having a strong urge to keep the baby. I haven't told my bf because I'm sure he wouldn't want the pregnancy at all. He is also young like me.

I'm still a student, not working yet. I just do small businesses from time to time. My parents aren't rich either and I really don't have friends.

When ever you have enough time, go through the thread by Arlington
1. TTC trying to conceive
Trying To Conceive A Child? TTC
You will understand how lucky you are. Women are funny, the moment you know you are pregnant for a man, so far you are not fucking around, let him know you are pregnant. Faithlovve am sure by the time the kid is 4 years old, you wouldn't regret your decision

MoonWater:

When ever you have enough time, go through the thread by Arlington
1. TTC trying to conceive
Trying To Conceive A Child? TTC
You will understand how lucky you are. Women are funny, the moment you know you are pregnant for a man, so far you are not fucking around, let him know you are pregnant. Faithlovve am sure by the time the kid is 4 years old, you wouldn't regret your decision

I just went through that thread now and it breaks my heart and making me feel quilty and ungrateful. I'm really confused now. Funny thing is I don't even feel any pregnancy symptoms like no weakness no vomiting, I'm just normal but only that my breast been sore and heavy and I missed my period.

I just really wish I make up my mind about this fast. I'm scared also. Thanks for the advice.

Faithlovve:


I just went through that thread now and it breaks my heart and making me feel quilty and ungrateful. I'm really confused now. Funny thing is I don't even feel any pregnancy symptoms like no weakness no vomiting, I'm just normal but only that my breast been sore and heavy and I missed my period.

I just really wish I make up my mind about this fast. I'm scared also. Thanks for the advice.

Have you told your man about the pregnancy? If yes, what was his reaction?

Everything in life is determination

I like your courage to keep the child

Inform him and see his reaction

If you deeply love him even though he doesn't want the child keep the pregnancy

That child will bless you for not aborting

Most doctors claim to do abortion but if any error occurs,
for life your name will be sorry

Do inform any member of his family that knows about your relationship with him

It's a 50/50 thing God will see you through and if it doesn't work out, you still have your child

Some people did mistakes in the past that have kept them in painful mood and they wish they would have kept it

The most important thing now is to know you guys genotype

sacramento1212:


Have you told your man about the pregnancy? If yes, what was his reaction?

Well I told him this night and he said I should go for a scan by Tuesday to know how far gone I am. He doesn't sound happy. He asked if I want to keep it I said no so he just concluded I do a scan first and if it's still very early I take medication instead of a D and C so I won't have complications. So that's it.

Keep the pregnancy but let him choose to marry you. Let him be the one to bring up marriage if he wants.
So that in future, he won't say you forced him to marry you because of pregnancy. This way you can always keep your head up proudly.
Cheers and congrats.

frozen70:
Everything in life is determination

I like your courage to keep the child

Inform him and see his reaction

If you deeply love him even though he doesn't want the child keep the pregnancy

That child will bless you for not aborting

Most doctors claim to do abortion but if any error occurs,
for life your name will be sorry

Do inform any member of his family that knows about your relationship with him

It's a 50/50 thing God will see you through and if it doesn't work out, you still have your child

Some people did mistakes in the past that have kept them in painful mood and they wish they would have kept it

The most important thing now is to know you guys genotype

I'm AA and 0+. The issue is the relationship is not even up to a year yet. I don't just think neither of us want to keep it. Pleaae do read my reply to the poster below yours. Thanks.

midastouch040:
Keep the pregnancy but let him choose to marry you. Let him be the one to bring up marriage if he wants.
So that in future, he won't say you forced him to marry you because of pregnancy. This way you can always keep your head up proudly.
Cheers and congrats.

I don't ever want to be in that situation a guy will marry me simply because I got pregnant for him. I rather be a single mom than that. Thanks

Faithlovve:
Good morning nairalanders.

Sorry for the early Sunday morning disturbance. I had sex with my bf about 3weeks ago without protection. I actually miss calculated my period so I wasn't accurate with my safe period. If not I would have used the morning after pill to prevent any pregnancy.

So, it all started last 2weeks when I was expecting my period according to my wrong calculations and didn't see it. I went to a pharmacy to complain after 3days of not seeing it he said I should wait for at least a week and I should also calculate my period well. Which of course made me to start counting again and then I realised the mistake and knew I had sex exactly a day after my ovulation. So now 2weeks after my actual ovulation that I was meant to see my period it didn't show up and I'm now a week late.

So, yesterday I went to do a blood test and it was positive but don't know how far. I was told I have to do a scan to determine that of which they had closed for the day. Worthy of note I did home based test a week before after my previously miscalculated missed period and it was negative.

After leaving the clinic where I had the test yesterday I got those strips again and tested this time again and discovered I was now positive with two red lines indicator. At the clinic I asked if I could use some pills to get rid of it they advised it could be dangerous and cause bleeding but I can pay for a D&C and get it done in about 30minutes and it's between 20-30k.

My issue now is, I feel so strongly I should keep this baby, I'm 24 and I've never been pregnant before. I felt so down at first when I got home but later I kept having a strong urge to keep the baby. I haven't told my bf because I'm sure he wouldn't want the pregnancy at all. He is also young like me.

I'm still a student, not working yet. I just do small businesses from time to time. My parents aren't rich either and I really don't have friends.

So now I'm confused on what to do, I have so many plans for my future and wasn't even planning to get married early but I've always love babies and always love to have a baby at an early age.

Please I need advice people...help me know what to do.

Thanks.


Update please... I have to update because of people saying I should let my BF know. I actually did stylishly and it made me conclude he doesn't want it.

From your calculation I can see it's a baby boy you are going to have....pls don't remove it...he could be our next president one day.

Faithlovve:


Well I told him this night and he said I should go for a scan by Tuesday to know how far gone I am. He doesn't sound happy. He asked if I want to keep it I said no so he just concluded I do a scan first and if it's still very early I take medication instead of a D and C so I won't have complications. So that's it.

Are you not in final year? Some of your mates are married with one or two kids. It's your choice though but you can tell your Mum, Sister, best friend or someone with your best interest at heart first to know their own opinion.
Your less than one year boyfriend wouldn't have your best interest at heart when push comes to shove.
Think well. It's not about now. It's about the future.
It's still your choice though cos pregnancy and caring for kids isn't child's play.
If you choose to abort, stay safe. Use the best. Don't joke with your life or future fertility. Your boyfriend may have moved on by then.

Faithlovve:


Well I told him this night and he said I should go for a scan by Tuesday to know how far gone I am. He doesn't sound happy. He asked if I want to keep it I said no so he just concluded I do a scan first and if it's still very early I take medication instead of a D and C so I won't have complications. So that's it.

You already know that you are pregnant so that one is ruled out now. You have partly notified your man that you may be pregnant which is as well good. By Tuesday noon, you should break the news to him fully that it’s confirmed and that you want to keep it because of the risk involved in abortion.

The next and most important step now is to inform your mother. She has to know and she will further break the news to your Dad. I don’t know what your family background is like but mine won’t support abortion so i believe yours may do same. Good that you are almost done with school so the stress won’t be much on you.

My opinion: Abortion should be the last thing you should consider. If you do so, you may regret it in future. Many out there have spent so much to just get a confirmation that the pregnancy test conducted is positive but yours just happened and it’s not as if you planned for it. If your man at the end of the day rejects it(which will be very foolish of him to do so), forge ahead with the pregnancy and i believe with the support of your family, you will be fine.

You are not the 1st to be a single mum and will not be the last.

Madam,

Nobody on this forum will openly tell you to abort a Child. So keeping it is the way to go.

However, know that there will be times when you will regret this decision (even married mothers who prayed for pregnancy have these moments) and wish you had never even met this ur boyfriend. A child alters ur life- physically, financially and socially- so do not think all these courage and determination gist u are hearing here will buy SMA and pay school fees.

My advice exactly is that u take a deep breath and objectively analyse your situation, come to terms with what it is and begin to make plans for the long haul.

1. Depending on your family and the people ur mother has insulted or advised in the past, be ready to face better ridicule.
2. Build your financial capability. Learn a trade/vocation if ur job may not be accommodating for ur new status.
3. Seek support from family and friends. Now is the time you need them most. Swallow ur pride and learn to ask for help without necessarily being a burden.
4. Put your personal goals on hold; or alter them to fit with your new status.
5. You need faith. Trust me, it will pull you through those difficult times.

So... quickly go and register for one correct Ante- Natal clinic (the child being healthy from the womb saves u cost and heartache) and change ur wardrobe before Xmas price kicks in.

Enjoy the best.

Okay
You entered a room ,locked the door,took off your clothes,did the do, enjoyed it and got pregnant .
How exactly does nairaland come into the mix?

Don’t have a child you can’t afford to care for o

baby124:
Don’t have a child you can’t afford to care for o

Co-signed but First, she needs to tell the boy then inform her parents.

yettymuse:
You and your boyfriend are unserious o, una never know wetin dey happen, you see you gangan, you go dey alright laslas. Una still dey play love with screenshot. Issokay!. Them nack you belle you dey find massage join. Preek girl!

SMA gold and molfix coy are currently on promo.
Antenatal is free in all government hospitals.

Errrmm... All babies dey carry wetin them go chop come from heaven.
Wishing you a stress-free H&H 9months ride.

At least ogi and garri are cheap.
The baby go manage am.

The most practical thing to do if u are not capable is to carry the baby and give birth then give it up for adoption.

Not through motherless babies home.
If u are the smart one, u will discover lots of childless couples around you.
Look for the food and well to do one and approach one of them.
U might demand some conditions to be fulfilled, agreed upon,written down and signed by the two parties.

And some monetary rewards too at the end of the day.
That way, u helped a childless couple and yourself.
Get rid of that so called boyfriend asap and next time, don't let dicck confuse you. A good man is more than satisfying you in bed only. There will ba a time you will get tired of the banging also and just want to be.

I shall not be part of a team conspiring to commit murder unless the mother's life stands at risk.

However, I hold the view that children deserve the best possible life they could get from both parent.

This is your life, body and decision to make. Understand the laws of cause and effect and take a stand.

I want you to first fully understand what you up against. I wish you foresight not hindsight.

Person wet get head, no get cap.. Person wey get cap no get head.

How I wish she was my girlfriend.. Final year, pregnant.

Its well