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JESUSBOIY do u realize the magnitude of your name I was once like you but with conscious fellowship with the word of God, I broke out of such situations, the word of God puts you over in life, visiting a therapist won't change anything... U should talk to Jesus about it... NLanders can't help you on this one, their suggestions will only b temporary, Jesus is the lasting solutions! Hope u break out pretty soon, all the best!

Uglymugg:
I know a drug that can help you. My friend was also like you before he started using it. He now slays mutiple women a week. It also enhances your memory abilities and your overall dopamine level.

Oga I need the drug too o

Gloriawinning:
I had an ex that was just like you or maybe worse because he wasnt only scared of been seen , he thought he doesn't deserve to be seen I dated him with courage and decided to love him without prejudice. Things went great initially I felt fulfilled at the point when he'd dance for me at home which was something he dares not try outside.
Later turned out he suffered from severe paranoia which I din't notice initially so he for some reason believed I am interested in other guys (let me not say too much) in the end he beat me Olumi bi aso oke!!!!! So please forget woman for now and go to therapy.
By the way don't be too hard on yourself it is your nature and I'm you will find true love that lasts eventually .

This made me laugh so hard.....

Na God help You
Such a person could kill after being obsessed with you

Are u still alive or dead now
I want to koman collect ur valuables

MissWrite:
Lol. We should really create a club for people like us so that you realize that you're sooo not alone.

I too have this condition the op has and i used to think i was the only one.

When i go to church i stay outside, far from people to avoid that handshake we do as a sign of peace every sunday.

I can't eat in a restaurant, even if I'm hungry and someone else offers to pay I'll say no.

some people complain i can't ever look them in the eyes when talking to them.

I almost lost the few friends i have cause i wouldn't let them visit me, even when they were in my street i refused to show them where i live.

Been back home from school for weeks now and I only ever leave the house on sundays. I dont even know where the few friends i have live not to talk of visiting them.


How did you get over your own condition

Op if only you knew how many more people are in this your situation,you go calm down

Growing up, i was a very chronic stammerer. I hated talking in public. I kept to myself most of the time. whenever I was told to read a paragraph of story book in primary school, you would hear my heart beat extraordinarily fast. Fear of been laughed at would be written all over my face; i gradually developed low self esteem. Then my mum ensured I went to a very notorious secondary school as a boarder. there, i met another chronic stammerer who doesn't care at all. This guy would raise up his hands to answer questions and would prolly use more than 5 minutes answering a question. we would all laugh, yet he doesn't care.
That guy changed me. Now, i realise everything is just in your head. I no longer stammer; i had no idea I could stop until i started talking more in public places stamping my feet on the floor before i make a complete statement. All these are just in your head. with the right attitude, you may not even need a therapist. Face your fears and tackle it.

Op u are not alone...mine is even worse...like very bad...I av been relegated indoors for like months now..d new tenants in my compound for months now haven't even seen my face for ones because I can only come out at night when everyone has gone to sleep... depression n anxiety is killing me slowly... I REALLY NEED HELP.. Op plz don't let urs get worse.

tolugar:
Bros I think we have bigger problems at hand now.

This buhari thing is really on our nerves right now

Pls try again later pls

Is this the topic of discussion?

Mhen
I spent time googling up stuffs

I exhibit symptoms of social anxiety disorder coupled with depression

And very high anxiety levels

Buh this is Nigeria
No one cares or they see it as something am gonna get past soon
Am 22 already

No wonder life no deh sweet me at all

EpicMaurice:
I too have this condition the op has and i used to think i was the only one.

When i go to church i stay outside, far from people to avoid that handshake we do as a sign of peace every sunday.

I can't eat in a restaurant, even if I'm hungry and someone else offers to pay I'll say no.

some people complain i can't ever look them in the eyes when talking to them.

I almost lost the few friends i have cause i wouldn't let them visit me, even when they were in my street i refused to show them where i live.

Been back home from school for weeks now and I only ever leave the house on sundays. I dont even know where the few friends i have live not to talk of visiting them.


How did you get over your own condition

That restaurant own na die
5hrs to finish 1 plate DAT I would gulped in 30ses at home

Buh the problem is nobody understands
They measure me using Pple who have nothing to battle !!

I dunno if shyness is different.
Cos coupled with this condition


I shy like mad

My dear, life sucks. U will be hit, scammed, lied to,oppressed etc especially here in naija which is why as long as ur born here it's either u survive or u survive. Lets be positive, nothing will happen if u keep ur head High and say or do what u need to say or do..get up homey

You can visit a good government hospital, it a medical condition that can be resolve with medication. I am currently undergoing treatment with national hospital Abuja for anxiety disorder. The good thing is that the medication is very cheap

lmfao!!!
Shii funny as fvck

This guy has come again with his parody threads? Lol. I guess Nairaland is too hard a habit to break for him.

oshe111:
This made me laugh so hard.....

Na God help You
Such a person could kill after being obsessed with you

Shey you saw that I said let me not say to much ? Well He tried to kill us both two times when I tried to leave him.
First time he said he will drive his car down a flyover now now and we'll both land on the bottom express, I looked down at the busy express the thing said M55 Portsmouth or something and I became dizzy!!. I prayed and begged for my life that day.
Second time he brought out a knife saying we are both going to die today!! All of a sudden he needed to poop and ran to bathroom , I ran out and luckily saw a classmate and jumped in her car that's how I fled never to go back again.
I had developed a strange problem where I thought i have to go back to save him because he needed me but now I know he needed a doctor.
Thanks for listening

damtan:
Growing up, i was a very chronic stammerer. I hated talking in public. I kept to myself most of the time. whenever I was told to read a paragraph of story book in primary school, you would hear my heart beat extraordinarily fast. Fear of been laughed at would be written all over my face; i gradually developed low self esteem. Then my mum ensured I went to a very notorious secondary school as a boarder. there, i met another chronic stammerer who doesn't care at all. This guy would raise up his hands to answer questions and would prolly use more than 5 minutes answering a question. we would all laugh, yet he doesn't care.
That guy changed me. Now, i realise everything is just in your head. I no longer stammer; i had no idea I could stop until i started talking more in public places stamping my feet on the floor before i make a complete statement. All these are just in your head. with the right attitude, you may not even need a therapist. Face your fears and tackle it.

lol that guy is a G haha and kudos to your mum , boarding school is the way to go.

Gloriawinning:
Shey you saw that I said let me not say to much ? Well He tried to kill us both two times when I tried to leave him.
First time he said he will drive his car down a flyover now now and we'll both land on the bottom express, I looked down at the busy express the thing said M55 Portsmouth or something and I became dizzy!!. I prayed and begged for my life that day.
Second time he brought out a knife saying we are both going to die today!! All of a sudden he needed to poop and ran to bathroom , I ran out and luckily saw a classmate and jumped in her car that's how I fled never to go back again.
I had developed a strange problem where I thought i have to go back to save him because he needed me but now I know he needed a doctor.
Thanks for listening

Hmmmm.....
Must have gone through alot
Hope he isnt stalking You and has finally moved on....

Thanks for sharing!

tolugar:
Bros I think we have bigger problems at hand now.

This buhari thing is really on our nerves right now

Pls try again later pls

JESUSBOIY:
Hello. social anxiety is killing me. I have suffered this for most part of my life and I must say it has affected tremendously. I now have low self esteem,lack of self confidence and self hate.

I have isolated my self from most social situations because of the fear,anxiety ,embarrassment and discomfort i often face during and after every social event.
I stay indoors often.

I skip church services because I am afraid I do be asked to participate in one or more even that would trigger fear. I am afraid to walk to put offering in front because of fear that am getting watched. The fear that people must have noticed my anxiety brings more anxiety.
If I manage go i sit at the back and never stand up.


I can't talk to a group of people, if I try, I start shaking and trembling. I avoid talking to girls I find attractive.


I can't go into a place where everyone is already seated, if I do I will tremble, look down or blush. It it embarrassing when they notice it.

What broke the camels back is a beautiful girl that was was crushing on me, after managing to woo and she agreed decided to come to my place. When she arrived I started shaking, trembling, faster heart rate, lost of focus, and feeling blank. I couldn't look her in one the eye or even hold a conversation with her.

I think she noticed it and has started avoiding me.

Nairalanders, I feel too low right now, I don't know if I am the only one suffering from this. Its killing me, no amount of advice I have gotten has really helped me.... I don't know what drugs would...


lalasticlala

Call me. I'll counsel you for free. 07038148140

oshe111:
Hmmmm.....
Must have gone through alot
Hope he isnt stalking You and has finally moved on....

Thanks for sharing!

Yep glad hes moved on

Gloriawinning:
Yep glad hes moved on

Nice!
Happy for You

Gloriawinning:
I had an ex that was just like you or maybe worse because he wasnt only scared of been seen , he thought he doesn't deserve to be seen I dated him with courage and decided to love him without prejudice. Things went great initially I felt fulfilled at the point when he'd dance for me at home which was something he dares not try outside.
Later turned out he suffered from severe paranoia which I din't notice initially so he for some reason believed I am interested in other guys (let me not say too much) in the end he beat me Olumi bi aso oke!!!!! So please forget woman for now and go to therapy.
By the way don't be too hard on yourself it is your nature and I'm you will find true love that lasts eventually .

The part "In the end he beat me, O lu mi bi aso oke" got me laughing. It's actually more than funny.

I believe you're feeling fine now anyway.

JESUSBOIY:
Hello. social anxiety is killing me. I have suffered this for most part of my life and I must say it has affected tremendously. I now have low self esteem,lack of self confidence and self hate.

I have isolated my self from most social situations because of the fear,anxiety ,embarrassment and discomfort i often face during and after every social event.
I stay indoors often.

I skip church services because I am afraid I do be asked to participate in one or more even that would trigger fear. I am afraid to walk to put offering in front because of fear that am getting watched. The fear that people must have noticed my anxiety brings more anxiety.
If I manage go i sit at the back and never stand up.


I can't talk to a group of people, if I try, I start shaking and trembling. I avoid talking to girls I find attractive.


I can't go into a place where everyone is already seated, if I do I will tremble, look down or blush. It it embarrassing when they notice it.

What broke the camels back is a beautiful girl that was was crushing on me, after managing to woo and she agreed decided to come to my place. When she arrived I started shaking, trembling, faster heart rate, lost of focus, and feeling blank. I couldn't look her in one the eye or even hold a conversation with her.

I think she noticed it and has started avoiding me.

Nairalanders, I feel too low right now, I don't know if I am the only one suffering from this. Its killing me, no amount of advice I have gotten has really helped me.... I don't know what drugs would...


lalasticlala

Hello brotherly, I will encourage you to get books on how to overcome fear.

Fear and self doubt are greatest enemies to human potential.

Face your fears and over them, you will definitely be fine.

Asquare84:
You can visit a good government hospital, it a medical condition that can be resolve with medication. I am currently undergoing treatment with national hospital Abuja for anxiety disorder. The good thing is that the medication is very cheap

Wow I stay in abuja
How do I go about this

MissWrite:
Lol. We should really create a club for people like us so that you realize that you're sooo not alone.

You need to keep a few things in mind CONSTANTLY.

1. It's okay to mess up. Don't take yourself too seriously. If you fall, you get back up and move on. It's nobody's business.

2. People really don't think about you as often as you think. Even when they're staring directly at you, their mind could be on a million other things.

3. Everyone thinks other people are thinking/talking about them (or maybe most people). So if you're nervous about people judging you walk to the offering box, the next person probably is too.

The next thing you need to do is FACE YOUR FEARS. It's the only way to get over them. I used to always pick a table by the corner when I went into a restaurant (or a public space). Not because I liked to sit by the window (although that was cool) but because I felt I would be on display in the middle; and I didn't like the attention. So I favored the periphery. This was ages ago, though. So once I noticed this about me, I consciously went for the center. You'll have butterflies in your belly at first but, after a few times, there's nothing. Get out of your comfort zone; and remember: it's okay to mess up.

Trust me; you'll be fine.

.

So true.

JESUSBOIY:
Hello. social anxiety is killing me. I have suffered this for most part of my life and I must say it has affected tremendously. I now have low self esteem,lack of self confidence and self hate.

I have isolated my self from most social situations because of the fear,anxiety ,embarrassment and discomfort i often face during and after every social event.
I stay indoors often.

I skip church services because I am afraid I do be asked to participate in one or more even that would trigger fear. I am afraid to walk to put offering in front because of fear that am getting watched. The fear that people must have noticed my anxiety brings more anxiety.
If I manage go i sit at the back and never stand up.


I can't talk to a group of people, if I try, I start shaking and trembling. I avoid talking to girls I find attractive.


I can't go into a place where everyone is already seated, if I do I will tremble, look down or blush. It it embarrassing when they notice it.

What broke the camels back is a beautiful girl that was was crushing on me, after managing to woo and she agreed decided to come to my place. When she arrived I started shaking, trembling, faster heart rate, lost of focus, and feeling blank. I couldn't look her in one the eye or even hold a conversation with her.

I think she noticed it and has started avoiding me.

Nairalanders, I feel too low right now, I don't know if I am the only one suffering from this. Its killing me, no amount of advice I have gotten has really helped me.... I don't know what drugs would...


lalasticlala

When ever dis wanna hapn, remind urself dat u gonna die somday so why shy?

JESUSBOIY:
Hello. social anxiety is killing me. I have suffered this for most part of my life and I must say it has affected tremendously. I now have low self esteem,lack of self confidence and self hate.

I have isolated my self from most social situations because of the fear,anxiety ,embarrassment and discomfort i often face during and after every social event.
I stay indoors often.

I skip church services because I am afraid I do be asked to participate in one or more even that would trigger fear. I am afraid to walk to put offering in front because of fear that am getting watched. The fear that people must have noticed my anxiety brings more anxiety.
If I manage go i sit at the back and never stand up.


I can't talk to a group of people, if I try, I start shaking and trembling. I avoid talking to girls I find attractive.


I can't go into a place where everyone is already seated, if I do I will tremble, look down or blush. It it embarrassing when they notice it.

What broke the camels back is a beautiful girl that was was crushing on me, after managing to woo and she agreed decided to come to my place. When she arrived I started shaking, trembling, faster heart rate, lost of focus, and feeling blank. I couldn't look her in one the eye or even hold a conversation with her.

I think she noticed it and has started avoiding me.

Nairalanders, I feel too low right now, I don't know if I am the only one suffering from this. Its killing me, no amount of advice I have gotten has really helped me.... I don't know what drugs would...


lalasticlala

When ever dis wanna hapn, remind urself dat u gonna die somday so why shy.

BigGuyMan:
Lmao

Better stop masturbation as soon as possible

When severe Konji hold you self confidence go come automatically

u dey craz ooooo....lol

Emzyme:
Wow I stay in abuja
How do I go about this

You can obtain a medical card from the hospital for a sum of 1500 then consultant fee of 1000 therefore you will see a doctor who will attend to you initially and refer you to a specialist in MOPD department that were the specialist are. I can't recommend the drugs I am using cos your conditions may be different from me but the drugs are just 1000 naira and it will last for a month

Asquare84:
You can obtain a medical card from the hospital for a sum of 1500 then consultant fee of 1000 therefore you will see a doctor who will attend to you initially and refer you to a specialist in MOPD department that were the specialist are. I can't recommend the drugs I am using cos your conditions may be different from me but the drugs are just 1000 naira and it will last for a month

OK thank you sir

itsmeurLady:
JESUSBOIY do u realize the magnitude of your name I was once like you but with conscious fellowship with the word of God, I broke out of such situations, the word of God puts you over in life, visiting a therapist won't change anything... U should talk to Jesus about it... NLanders can't help you on this one, their suggestions will only b temporary, Jesus is the lasting solutions! Hope u break out pretty soon, all the best!

I seem to have lost faith .