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| I Married My Husband Despite The Red Flags-now I Live With His Abuse by Beke2020(op): 8:49am On Oct 22, 2018 |
Dear Jzhane, I have been trying to reach you for the past two months. Well am in an emotional and verbally abusive marriage which has lasted for 4 years 9 months. We and dated for a whole year before marriage. To be honest, I saw all the red alerts but I kept telling my self he loves me and can’t hurt me. Through out the courtship he will quarrel,yell and get angry at me at the slightest provocation but I thought it was the pressure of planning the wedding. Plus his mother disagreed to him marrying me so from the start. There were complications but I felt standing by him will solidify our marriage. Just few days after the wedding ,all his characters of abuse intensified but I kept giving excuses for him. Also he had to collect a loan for the wedding from where he works which couldn’t cover the cost of both the traditional and white wedding. So from day one we were struggling financially. I kept faith hoping he finished servicing the loan things will normalize but still it got worse. Immediately after the wedding also I got pregnant so all the pressure I was getting from him was affecting the pregnancy. I almost lost it getting prepared for the baby was strenuous but my mum helped providing most of d baby things. Six months into the marriage he was cheating with a lady whom he introduced to me ...more https://livelystones.com.ng/i-married-my-husband-despite-the-red-flags-now-i-live-with-his-abuse/
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| Re: I Married My Husband Despite The Red Flags-now I Live With His Abuse by IamPlato(m): 8:53am On Oct 22, 2018 |
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| Re: I Married My Husband Despite The Red Flags-now I Live With His Abuse by IamPlato(m): 9:27am On Oct 22, 2018 |
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| Re: I Married My Husband Despite The Red Flags-now I Live With His Abuse by spyg1(m): 9:33am On Oct 22, 2018 |
Sorry about the way your hubby is maltreating you. Why did he break your phone? To be honest I can do more than that if I discover that you're cheating on me. |
| Re: I Married My Husband Despite The Red Flags-now I Live With His Abuse by Beke2020(op): 12:31pm On Oct 22, 2018 |
Hmmnn, why not walk away instead of going violent spyg1: |
| Re: I Married My Husband Despite The Red Flags-now I Live With His Abuse by TheApologist: 12:58pm On Oct 22, 2018 |
This is serious. While I do not support divorce, staying in a relationship with an overtly abusive man is a dangerous game to play. Like it's normally said, the only way to win with a toxic person is not to play but unfortunately, the evil in the hearts of men can be concealed for as long as it's desired to entangle unsuspecting prey. Sincerely I really do not know what to advise but I'm more concerned about your little daughter. Children raised in such environments themselves turn out to be aggressive, unlovable and unkind. For now I think you do need to give him a space, find somewhere else to hold up for now, you can then try to appease him from a distance but most importantly make yourself independent of him especially financially so as to be able to cater for your needs as well as that of your daughter. May God give you strength to carry through. |
| Re: I Married My Husband Despite The Red Flags-now I Live With His Abuse by Beke2020(op): 1:22pm On Oct 22, 2018 |
A tempory separation is for now TheApologist: |
| Re: I Married My Husband Despite The Red Flags-now I Live With His Abuse by Beke2020(op): 6:35pm On Oct 22, 2018 |
 TheApologist: |
| Re: I Married My Husband Despite The Red Flags-now I Live With His Abuse by Beke2020(op): 11:44pm On Nov 03, 2018 |
Lady reached out to us today saying she want to opt out despite all counseling. We do not support divorce. Kindly comment on blog, who knows, that little advise may encourage her |
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