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Please Help A Young Girl by Nobody: 7:45pm On Oct 25, 2018

Hello everyone;

I really need your candid advises, am in my very early twenties. Currently, I work as a cashier in a betting center and i have plans of quitting by the end of this year so by next year i will start acquiring a skill {sewing}. Am currently dating my boss who is a single guy about 33 years and we have plans of getting married but the problem is am scared of being a liability in the sense that i have no professional skills and am just a ssce holder. Though we already talked about this and we agreed to shift everything till next year but am still not comfortable with it cos i believe once am married nd kids start coming,then i wont have time for myself anymore and he is no longer happy as a bachelor. He is financially stable but i need to generate my own income too. He said he loves me so much few months after i started working for him and its almost 2 years since i have been working for him nd its not up to 6 months since we started dating but he wants marriage which am not ready for.

What should I do huh

Should I just break up with him and build something for myself or should i just go on with everything and accept his support??
Please if u have better ideas, help me its really needed.

I believe there are experienced and matured minds here so help. please.

Re: Please Help A Young Girl by IamD18: 7:53pm On Oct 25, 2018

Marriage won't stop you from achieving your career dreams.

Re: Please Help A Young Girl by Oreofepeters: 7:57pm On Oct 25, 2018

You don't wanna be a liability to him well I doubt if you are a Nigerian because every woman here is a liability.....

However breaking up with him might not make your dreams come true, you guys could as well plan it out after marriage.
Sit him down tell him what's on your mind.,...

Re: Please Help A Young Girl by Madmoizelle: 8:01pm On Oct 25, 2018

Marriage and career are two different things, if you feel you're not ready, don't go into a lifetime commitment, you can suggest that he set up a business for you so he won't shoulder all the responsibilities later, sure you wouldn't like waiting for him to give you money before you can do anything..

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Re: Please Help A Young Girl by DateMynd44(m): 8:20pm On Oct 25, 2018

mumu. no go school u hear? when once he enter u finish that marriage u go wait tire

Re: Please Help A Young Girl by adoniza(m): 8:29pm On Oct 25, 2018

Being independent and self sufficient should be your top priority, marriage is nothing. You can spent a very happy and fulfilled time on Earth without getting married.

Focus on building yourself.

Re: Please Help A Young Girl by Yuneehk(f): 8:39pm On Oct 25, 2018

Oreofepeters:
You don't wanna be a liability to him well I doubt if you are a Nigerian because every woman here is a liability.....

However breaking up with him might not make your dreams come true, you guys could as well plan it out after marriage.
Sit him down tell him what's on your mind.,...

Dafuq is wrong with y'all who go behind their keypads to type nonsense. What's with the generalization eh Oreofe? It's a good thing you acknowledged your fact of every woman in Nigeria being a liability. You have women in your family, so they're all included.

If the females come with their generalizations towards the men, na una go still complain. Talk about double standards!
Op, acquiring a skill would be really cool so that way, you're no liability to him. Person no go do you shakara sef because you'll be earning your own cash. If he truly loves you, uncle will wait. Equip yourself, and don't go "empty handed" to a man's house. All the best!

Re: Please Help A Young Girl by Agboki: 8:39pm On Oct 25, 2018

1st ooh if him wan marry u make em go c ur people,not marry 4 mouth second as em go pay 4 ur head finish,go start 2 dey learn ur sewing immediately no procastinate 3rdly I go tell u say if em truly dey serious and u love am,now is d best tym 4 u 2 marry bcoz serious guys scares and I no wan c u 4 Shiloh20....!

Re: Please Help A Young Girl by Oreofepeters: 8:48pm On Oct 25, 2018

Yuneehk:
Dafuq is wrong with y'all who go behind their keypads to type nonsense. What's with the generalization eh Oreofe? It's a good thing you acknowledged your fact of every woman in Nigeria being a liability. You have women in your family, so they're all included. If the females come with their generalizations towards the men, na una go still complain. Talk about double standards!
Op, acquiring a skill would be really cool so that way, you're no liability to him. Person no go do you shakara sef because you'll be earning your own cash. If he truly loves you, uncle will wait. Equip yourself, and don't go "empty handed" to a man's house. All the best!

why the thing cum pain you like this nau? if a Nigerian lady is earning 1 milli per month and the husband earning 50k per month. She would still collect from that 50k, is that not liability.?Her money it's hers but her husbands' is our money (Nigerian mentality). This and so many other factors contributed to the generalisation.

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Re: Please Help A Young Girl by ststyreal(f): 10:28pm On Oct 25, 2018

Make sure you have something to take care of yourself with. Go learn something before entering the marriage. This is just my own little advice to you as a married woman.

Re: Please Help A Young Girl by KINGinVAHALA: 10:59pm On Oct 25, 2018

Yuneehk:
Dafuq is wrong with y'all who go behind their keypads to type nonsense. What's with the generalization eh Oreofe? It's a good thing you acknowledged your fact of every woman in Nigeria being a liability. You have women in your family, so they're all included. If the females come with their generalizations towards the men, na una go still complain. Talk about double standards!
Op, acquiring a skill would be really cool so that way, you're no liability to him. Person no go do you shakara sef because you'll be earning your own cash. If he truly loves you, uncle will wait. Equip yourself, and don't go "empty handed" to a man's house. All the best!

Re: Please Help A Young Girl by Nobody: 11:10pm On Oct 25, 2018

Hey I like you for thinking like a well thought out girl. You have time to start something no matter how small, don't go into that marriage as a full time unending liability. Suggest to him that you wanna start school and try to gain admission into a university before your wedding.

Trust me when I say this, that his shacking love will most likely die a natural death if he ever have a temporary setback someday and you aren't there to back him up financially through it.

Young lady, secure a JAMB form asap.

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Re: Please Help A Young Girl by TIDDOLL(m): 11:29pm On Oct 25, 2018

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Op, i believe you arent the person in focus here.

For her to even think about being self reliant.
Bigups for that!!
My advice...
He is 33, probably feeling the pressure to start a family.

To be candid, marriage isnt her best bet right now.
When the Kids starts coming, the strength start waning.
With kids comes Responsibilities.
Not to talk of unforeseen circumstances.

Marriage is not the end of life, neither is it the begining[b]

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