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Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by ExposedWicked: 12:52pm On Oct 26, 2018
I escorted my ex gf out when she came for a visit . The time was somewhat 8.. When i finally got back, i found a girl lying on my bed. She was drunk, i could sense the stench of alcohol from a distance. I was shocked because i wasn't expecting anyone that evening and i don't mingle with any of the hostlers.

At first i was rude enough to asked her out. She was staggering when she was about living and was uttering gibberish. When i saw the way she was messed up i finally decided to accommodate her for few hours to allow the alcohol go down..

I gave her excessive milk to drink. I later found out she was drugged from a party she attended that evening... She slept well and because i was fully satisfied i wasn't getting myself into jamboree, i decided to lay down too..

Towards the middle of the night, one thing led to another and we had sex . In the morning, she left so early that i didn't even notice when she left.

I made enquiring about her and found out she was a chronic keep-to-myself(introvert) and she barely hanged out with the peeps around.... Ever since that night, she has been away from me. ... I actually saw her today in our school campus walk way and i wanted to talk to her but she just zoomed off....

I want her to see me as a friend and a nice person. I want her to come around and talk to me but this, all these are not making sense...

Please what would you advise a brother to do...

PS- Pardon typing and grammatical errors...

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by Nobody: 1:01pm On Oct 26, 2018
ExposedWicked:


I want her to see me as a friend and a nice person. I want her to come around and talk to me but this, all these are not making sense...


"I took advantage of her when she was drunk and needed a safe place to stay, but I swear I'm a nice person"

This is what your post sounds like when you remove all the other bullshiiit.

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by ExposedWicked: 1:09pm On Oct 26, 2018
Admin401:


"I took advantage of her when she was drunk and needed a safe place to stay, but I swear I'm a nice person"

This is what your post sounds like when you remove all the other bullshiiit.
I did not take advantage of her situation... We had sex about 5hours after she slept, so she was/supposed to be completely normal by then... Let just forget about the sex part. Just advise me on what to do now
Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by chigoziri2403(m): 1:11pm On Oct 26, 2018
welcome to the league of baby daddies, expect pregnancy test result soon.

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by ITbomb(m): 2:38pm On Oct 26, 2018
Leave her alone, if the sex was good, she will come to you.
Otherwise, respect her distance. Don't even bother talking to her

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by pedrilo: 3:55pm On Oct 26, 2018
u now want to make her a permanent sex mate abi?

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by Nobody: 4:21pm On Oct 26, 2018
undecided

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by clazzyice: 4:44pm On Oct 26, 2018
grin grin grin
chigoziri2403:
welcome to the league of baby daddies, expect pregnancy test result soon.

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by Adasun(m): 4:53pm On Oct 26, 2018
ITbomb:
Leave her alone, if the sex was good, she will come to you.
Otherwise, respect her distance. Don't even bother talking to her
would he? He thought he had already captured free pu.s.sy

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by BanevsJoker(m): 5:15pm On Oct 26, 2018
OP has no idea he could go to jail for this. Please share this your story in your neighbourhood WhatsApp group.

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by Nobody: 5:55pm On Oct 26, 2018
Imagine if you had let her stay without allowing what happened 5 hours later to occur
Picture this- she sleeps, wakes up and you make her some tea or cocoa and bread, or whatever
You talk to her while getting ready for your own morning runs (lectures I suppose?)
You ask her if she is okay and how she got into that state (nicely)
You then let her go with a "be safe" or something close

Are you done imagining this?
Now try to get the kind of immeasurable gratitude and appreciation, likeness(fondness) and trust she would have for you
You would score highly even with neighbours and your school people because she would tell everyone what an angel you were to her
You would have made a loyal friend (with or without) sexual benefits (consciously and willingly made)
Your relationship would become stuff of legend (well, of gist and stories)
My point? You could have come out smelling of coffee and vanilla essence from this story, instead of the is it skunksmell?Is it vanillasmell?curtain hanging over this story forever
(Cos I think you took advantage of her, even if you did not mean to)

Talk to her like you would have someone do to your sister or friend if this happened to them- from your heart. Ask her about that night, talk to her
You have shared body secretions, sharing mere words should be easy then
Go ahead, redeem yourself
Good luck

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by ExposedWicked: 6:27pm On Oct 26, 2018
merahki:
Imagine if you had let her stay without allowing what happened 5 hours later to occur
Picture this- she sleeps, wakes up and you make her some tea or cocoa and bread, or whatever
You talk to her while getting ready for your own morning runs (lectures I suppose?)
You ask her if she is okay and how she got into that state (nicely)
You then let her go with a "be safe" or something close

Are you done imagining this?
Now try to get the kind of immeasurable gratitude and appreciation, likeness(fondness) and trust she would have for you
You would score highly even with neighbours and your school people because she would tell everyone what an angel you were to her
You would have made a loyal friend (with or without sexual (consciously made and willing) benefits
Your relationship would become stuff of legend (well, of gist and stories)
My point? You could have come out smelling of coffee and vanilla essence from this story, instead of the is it skunksmell?Is it vanillasmell?curtain hanging over this story forever
(Cos I think you took advantage of her, even if you did not mean to)

Talk to her like you would have someone to do to your sister or friend if this happened to them- from your heart. Ask her about that night, talk to her
You have shared body secretions, sharing mere words should be easy then
Go ahead, redeem yourself
Good luck
I talked to her this evening. Seems like she hates me now... I called her into my room and she started saying funny stuffs like " i know we had sex but who started it. I know i didn't cos i knw myself, so u had me by ur own will .."
.
.
To be honest bro. Am kinda messed up ryt now. Drama life is what av been trying hard to avoid and it seems this is merely the beginning.... My room mate even mentioned that the girl was planning to blackmail me.... For wat exactly ?... I av no idea...
.
This is totally messy... I think a deep blow is coming my way now.
.
Pls help me

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by Moveonmax: 6:44pm On Oct 26, 2018
You raped her. For now, just keep your friendship hand inside your pocket and find every possible way to apologize Biko. Na pucci den sen u go skul to feck?

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by Emaggy: 6:51pm On Oct 26, 2018
I'll start by saying this, Alaye you Bleep. Try your best not to involve more persons. Know this as a fact, everyone has a price. It differs from person to person. Since you said she seems like an introvert, try to get her to follow you to an open place preferably a restaurant. Talk to her and please be remorseful in your speech. Record your conversation with her and get her to talk more about what happened and pray she forgives you. Hope this helps.

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by Uglymugg: 7:06pm On Oct 26, 2018
ExposedWicked:
I talked to her this evening. Seems like she hates me now... I called her into my room and she started saying funny stuffs like " i know we had sex but who started it. I know i didn't cos i knw myself, so u had me by ur own will .."
.
.
To be honest bro. Am kinda messed up ryt now. Drama life is what av been trying hard to avoid and it seems this is merely the beginning.... My room mate even mentioned that the girl was planning to blackmail me.... For wat exactly ?... I av no idea...
.
This is totally messy... I think a deep blow is coming my way now.
.
Pls help me

Cc: mynd44, lalasticalala, farano this guy is about to be blackmailed by a girl. Pls help let's get more eyes on this thread.

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by bumeks(f): 8:05pm On Oct 26, 2018
just imagine someone doing the same to your sister , how Will u feel?
Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by elantraceey(f): 8:14pm On Oct 26, 2018
merahki:
Imagine if you had let her stay without allowing what happened 5 hours later to occur
Picture this- she sleeps, wakes up and you make her some tea or cocoa and bread, or whatever
You talk to her while getting ready for your own morning runs (lectures I suppose?)
You ask her if she is okay and how she got into that state (nicely)
You then let her go with a "be safe" or something close

Are you done imagining this?
Now try to get the kind of immeasurable gratitude and appreciation, likeness(fondness) and trust she would have for you
You would score highly even with neighbours and your school people because she would tell everyone what an angel you were to her
You would have made a loyal friend (with or without sexual (consciously made and willing) benefits
Your relationship would become stuff of legend (well, of gist and stories)
My point? You could have come out smelling of coffee and vanilla essence from this story, instead of the is it skunksmell?Is it vanillasmell?curtain hanging over this story forever
(Cos I think you took advantage of her, even if you did not mean to)

Talk to her like you would have someone to do to your sister or friend if this happened to them- from your heart. Ask her about that night, talk to her
You have shared body secretions, sharing mere words should be easy then
Go ahead, redeem yourself
Good luck


You would have left to keep on believing he didn't take advantage of the girl, like you must have sex with any girl that spends a night at your place..... mmtttthhheeeewwww.
Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by Samfigo1(m): 8:26pm On Oct 26, 2018
But Op you've done foolishly! I am not ashamed neither do I owe you any apology if I call you a FOOL.

If you are like me that has a strong sex hormone, I would rather sleep somewhere far away from where she slept.
Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by emmaitive(m): 8:38pm On Oct 26, 2018
you jst played with ur destiny guy
Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by braine(m): 8:49pm On Oct 26, 2018
bumeks:
just imagine someone doing the same to your sister , how Will u feel?



What a ridiculous analogy. What brings his sister into this matter now? That's how you will come online and say rubbish.

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by Nobody: 10:04pm On Oct 26, 2018
ExposedWicked:
I talked to her this evening. Seems like she hates me now... I called her into my room and she started saying funny stuffs like " i know we had sex but who started it. I know i didn't cos i knw myself, so u had me by ur own will .."
.
.
To be honest bro. Am kinda messed up ryt now. Drama life is what av been trying hard to avoid and it seems this is merely the beginning.... My room mate even mentioned that the girl was planning to blackmail me.... For wat exactly ?... I av no idea...
.
This is totally messy... I think a deep blow is coming my way now.
Pls help me

This I am sure has taught you a lesson and will help make you a better person ultimately.
It was brave of you to have approached her for the surely uncomfortable talk.
I don't have any answers but maybe? tell her you are sorry.
Alcohol loosens inhibition, and this may have played a part in her "agreement" to have sex with you. Is she saying you raped her? Or not?
If both of you were drunk, it would have been easier to absolve you of taking advantage of her.
However, it is still possible for this to turn out well for both of you.
Reiterate how sorry you are, and hopefully your sincerity would make her truly forgive you. Ask her what you can do to make her feel better/forgive you, etc? And never be caught in this kind of situation, with any girl, again.

(I honestly have no answers though, I just tried to say something that I feel will help the situation in any little way)
Good luck

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by Damzy007: 10:07pm On Oct 26, 2018
Lol. See funny comments. grin
Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by sacajawea: 10:18pm On Oct 26, 2018
ExposedWicked:
I escorted my ex gf out when she came for a visit . The time was somewhat 8.. When i finally got back, i found a girl lying on my bed. She was drunk, i could sense the stench of alcohol from a distance. I was shocked because i wasn't expecting anyone that evening and i don't mingle with any of the hostlers.

At first i was rude enough to asked her out. She was staggering when she was about living and was uttering gibberish. When i saw the way she was messed up i finally decided to accommodate her for few hours to allow the alcohol go down..

I gave her excessive milk to drink. I later found out she was drugged from a party she attended that evening... She slept well and because i was fully satisfied i wasn't getting myself into jamboree, i decided to lay down too..

Towards the middle of the night, one thing led to another and we had sex . In the morning, she left so early that i didn't even notice when she left.

I made enquiring about her and found out she was a chronic keep-to-myself(introvert) and she barely hanged out with the peeps around.... Ever since that night, she has been away from me. ... I actually saw her today in our school campus walk way and i wanted to talk to her but she just zoomed off....

I want her to see me as a friend and a nice person. I want her to come around and talk to me but this, all these are not making sense...

Please what would you advise a brother to do...

PS- Pardon typing and grammatical errors...

Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by Ranchhoddas: 10:29pm On Oct 26, 2018
I can't understand the comments I'm reading. Is the girl totally blameless?

How come everyone is trying to paint the OP as one evil person.
He was minding his business and someone obviously troubled came to him and is causing him a lot of misery.

It can be argued that the OP is equally a victim here. Dude, try to set things straight with her but do not allow anyone to guilt you into feeling worse than is necessary.

None of these would have happened if she had not plied herself with alcohol that she could no longer find her way to her room.

Both of you are responsible for what happened. If the roles were reversed I'm sure she would not be getting all this flak.

Do not allow any Damocletian sword hang over your head.

I am not excusing the OPs actions so no one should quote me to say rubbish.

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Re: Please Advise, I Had Sex With My Drunk Neighbor by Nobody: 10:38pm On Oct 26, 2018
ExposedWicked:

I did not take advantage of her situation... We had sex about 5hours after she slept, so she was/supposed to be completely normal by then... Let just forget about the sex part. Just advise me on what to do now

She's acting like a victim. To get her attention, start acting like a victim too. Anytime she's close to where you're, leave the place as if you're angry. If she talks first, reply as if she's a nobody but don't overdo it. As time passes, behave as if you are doing her favour by speaking to her. These rules don't make sense but that is what you need in dealing with illogical creatures called women.

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