Ranchhoddas:
I can't understand the comments I'm reading. Is the girl totally blameless?

How come everyone is trying to paint the OP as one evil person.
He was minding his business and someone obviously troubled came to him and is causing him a lot of misery.

It can be argued that the OP is equally a victim here. Dude, try to set things straight with her but do not allow anyone to guilt you into feeling worse than is necessary.

None of these would have happened if she had not plied herself with alcohol that she could no longer find her way to her room.

Both of you are responsible for what happened. If the roles were reversed I'm sure she would not be getting all this flak.

Do not allow any Damocletian sword hang over your head.

I am not excusing the OPs actions so no one should quote me to say rubbish.

Ranchhoddas:
I can't understand the comments I'm reading. Is the girl totally blameless?

How come everyone is trying to paint the OP as one evil person.
He was minding his business and someone obviously troubled came to him and is causing him a lot of misery.

It can be argued that the OP is equally a victim here. Dude, try to set things straight with her but do not allow anyone to guilt you into feeling worse than is necessary.

None of these would have happened if she had not plied herself with alcohol that she could no longer find her way to her room.

Both of you are responsible for what happened. If the roles were reversed I'm sure she would not be getting all this flak.

Do not allow any Damocletian sword hang over your head.

I am not excusing the OPs actions so no one should quote me to say rubbish.

merahki:


I will quote you, but not to say rubbish hopefully!
There is a big part of me that gets your post
There is a sincerity and a willingness to make things okay in the poster's "voice"
However, from his narration, he kind of took advantage of the girl's "wasted-ness". Plied with drugs and alcohol? Agreeing to sex in this state of reduced inhibition would/could surely feel to the girl like covering herself with a blanket, for necessary comfort, but not something they would do if in a more conscious and alert state. Hence the term, " taking advantage of"
I don't know/think that rape was the intent for a fact though, so I am trying not to judge him

Ranchhoddas:
I can't understand the comments I'm reading. Is the girl totally blameless?

How come everyone is trying to paint the OP as one evil person.
He was minding his business and someone obviously troubled came to him and is causing him a lot of misery.

It can be argued that the OP is equally a victim here. Dude, try to set things straight with her but do not allow anyone to guilt you into feeling worse than is necessary.

None of these would have happened if she had not plied herself with alcohol that she could no longer find her way to her room.

Both of you are responsible for what happened. If the roles were reversed I'm sure she would not be getting all this flak.

Do not allow any Damocletian sword hang over your head.

I am not excusing the OPs actions so no one should quote me to say rubbish.

ExposedWicked:
I talked to her this evening. Seems like she hates me now... I called her into my room and she started saying funny stuffs like " i know we had sex but who started it. I know i didn't cos i knw myself, so u had me by ur own will .."
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To be honest bro. Am kinda messed up ryt now. Drama life is what av been trying hard to avoid and it seems this is merely the beginning.... My room mate even mentioned that the girl was planning to blackmail me.... For wat exactly ?... I av no idea...
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This is totally messy... I think a deep blow is coming my way now.
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Pls help me

chigoziri2403:
welcome to the league of baby daddies, expect pregnancy test result soon.

ExposedWicked:

I did not take advantage of her situation... We had sex about 5hours after she slept, so she was/supposed to be completely normal by then... Let just forget about the sex part. Just advise me on what to do now

Magiciann:


She's acting like a victim. To get her attention, start acting like a victim too. Anytime she's close to where you're, leave the place as if you're angry. If she talks first, reply as if she's a nobody but don't overdo it. As time passes, behave as if you are doing her favour by speaking to her. These rules don't make sense but that is what you need in dealing with illogical creatures called women.

njelrapheal:
I 100 percent support you

njelrapheal:
I 100 percent support you

Yoshy:
What if it's not a coincidence that the girl found herself in the OPs room?

What if she had a crush and that period of drunkenness gave her the morale?

What if the girl is actually shy, due to the fact that she have done what she always wanted to do, but now in her senses she is afraid to face the OP?

OP mentioned that she is a shy and indoor person, boom, found herself in OPs room after being drunk?

How exactly did she get there from where she went?

Girls are masters of manipulation, take it anywhere.

OP, you need to explain further how the sex happened after 5 hrs.

What were you doing in the same bed with someone you apparently rescued? Did she invite you to bed or told you she was afraid?


OP, why do you sound so guilty, did you actually engage her first for sex?

You'all can't possibly arrive at a conclusion until you get more facts about what actually happened.

sylvez:
The sex part can not forgotten!!! Na you won remove am from our mind!!!
You are simply a rapist, report your self to the police ASAP

The opportunity you would have used to win her heart, you blowed it up. You think she missed her way into your house abi or probably you are the only neighbour in the neighborhood. She entered your house for a reason, may be she thought she will be safe but instead you devoured her like a bush meat, you took advantage of her, you shattered her unconscious trust and you are claiming to be a nice person, you are a solenoid, stupid, foolish and a rapist.

Point is, she's hurt, as an introvert, you have tampered with her self esteem, she may never forgive you.

Are you a dog for crying out loud.

Where is your self respect and self discipline

Anytime I want to sex any girl and she begins to feel like I'm taking advantage of her, or she's doing me some favour... I simply back out, now if she claims to be a virgin, I wee not even touch her at all.

Guys, this erection can actually be controlled, don't allow that erection to give you direction, if you do, you'll surely crash!!!

OTENABOBC1:
Do you know how dump you would look like to her if you hadn't bleeped her
That girl is an intro...she knows she wouldn't get laid looking sane so she went somewhere got drunk,traced her steps to your room just when your girl is gone..! Same steps she could have traced to her room but nooo...that isn't the plan,she woke up... mission completed...back to base like nothing happened but then you liked it ...& Now popping up like Chinese ad wherever you see her. Dude get her from someone & text her 'i'm sorry' sit back & be amazed at her surprising reply.
Speaking from almost exact experience that happened between me & a church_girl neighbour in my Lodge too...ogbeni its always a once something make sure you used protection & get used to the fact you got used in a way you liked though...

Fyi0:

You're an idiot!

merahki:
Imagine if you had let her stay without allowing what happened 5 hours later to occur
Picture this- she sleeps, wakes up and you make her some tea or cocoa and bread, or whatever
You talk to her while getting ready for your own morning runs (lectures I suppose?)
You ask her if she is okay and how she got into that state (nicely)
You then let her go with a "be safe" or something close

Are you done imagining this?
Now try to get the kind of immeasurable gratitude and appreciation, likeness(fondness) and trust she would have for you
You would score highly even with neighbours and your school people because she would tell everyone what an angel you were to her
You would have made a loyal friend (with or without) sexual benefits (consciously and willingly made)
Your relationship would become stuff of legend (well, of gist and stories)
My point? You could have come out smelling of coffee and vanilla essence from this story, instead of the is it skunksmell?Is it vanillasmell?curtain hanging over this story forever
(Cos I think you took advantage of her, even if you did not mean to)

Talk to her like you would have someone do to your sister or friend if this happened to them- from your heart. Ask her about that night, talk to her
You have shared body secretions, sharing mere words should be easy then
Go ahead, redeem yourself
Good luck

Ranchhoddas:


I get what you are saying!

Blame it on the alcohol

But the problem with this is that her "wasted-ness" was the consequence of a conscious decision to overindulge.

When people drink and drive, they start to drive in a manner that they ordinarily would not drive in.

Good and attentive drivers suddenly begin to drive like they are on a Formula 1 track when they get inebriated.

When they are caught, they are punished severely especially if others are hurt or placed in dangerous situations by their actions.

Whether they are inhibited or not is not factored into the judgement.

How is this different?

Fyi0:

Me too

Don't mind those ignorant idiots up there.
Somebody came into your room, slept there and in the middle of the night had sex with you. And some disgusting idiots are saying he took advantage of her.

Uglymugg:


How is lying still on a bed the same as driving?

Would you have felt better if she slept in the street?

She probably didn't know where she was, and instead of OP being a reasonable adult, he bleeped the girl and even said he waited for the alcohol to clear from her system.
Five hours, he said. He was counting the hours all night, which mean he couldn't sleep until he achived his goal.

Someone that just finish fvcking his Ex-GF oh?? It's not about Konji, he wanted to count scores on her head.

What if someone laced your sisters drink in a party she went to and she couldn't handle it.

Then she found herself in your friends house (the one guy she thought she could trust and also happens to like so she could keep her safe, rather than walk home and end up in a bush)

Luckily, that same day you chatted with your friend and he told you how he just fvcked his ex.

But still took advantage of your drunk sister. WHAT would you say? Would you start talking about the drunk driver tale?

I'll let missraine69 be the judge.

Ranchhoddas:
Your comprehension skills leave something to be desired.

Is involving my "drunk sister" supposed to make me start seeing things your way?

Move along!

I hope missraine (whoever that is) is not as dense as you are.

Uglymugg:


How is lying still on a bed the same as driving?

Would you have felt better if she slept in the street?

She probably didn't know where she was, and instead of OP being a reasonable adult, he bleeped the girl and even said he waited for the alcohol to clear from her system.
Five hours, he said. He was counting the hours all night, which mean he couldn't sleep until he achived his goal.

Someone that just finish fvcking his Ex-GF oh?? It's not about Konji, he wanted to count scores on her head.

What if someone laced your sisters drink in a party she went to and she couldn't handle it.

Then she found herself in your friends house (the one guy she thought she could trust and also happens to like so she could keep her safe, rather than walk home and end up in a bush)

Luckily, that same day you chatted with your friend and he told you how he just fvcked his ex.

But still took advantage of your drunk sister. WHAT would you say? Would you start talking about the drunk driver tale?

I'll let missraine69 be the judge.

torqque7:
Look Op didn't force her to his room,and didn't force himself on her for sex,there was no struggle and it was hours latter when the effect of the drugs wore out so she is just feeling cheap and cheated but she knew exactly what she was doing, o.p is a weak ass letting her make him feel guilty and threatened..dude you did nothing wrong.

Fyi0:

An idiot you are