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You know this word thrown around by females was supposed to make them less of objects and more of an active participant in our society. But I have observed that they are not up-to the task of upholding to societal responsibilities that they rather be objectified like they were decades ago. That aside, men should stop making a lady their epicenter. If you want to be happy as a person especially as a man, tie your life to a goal not a person especially a female . A goal like a project, business etc and whoever u r inviting to share a life with must form a sync and complement u in such a way that makes u better. When such ppl come into ur life, they make u more vibrant, creative and innovative. The mistake guys make is thinking that they can buy whatever they want and that's what girls pick on. The girl who said that girls don't want our love but our value is very right. Remember, behind every successful man is a woman. Nobody said behind every potentially successful man is a woman. Stop fighting for someone's love and validation and start becoming goal oriented

jorion:
You know this word thrown around by females was supposed to make them less of objects and more of an active participant in our society. But I have observed that they are not up-to the task of upholding to societal responsibilities that they rather be objectified like they were decades ago. That aside, men should stop making a lady their epicenter. If you want to be happy as a person especially as a man, tie your life to a goal not a person especially a female . A goal like a project, business etc and whoever u r inviting to share a life with must form a sync and complement u in such a way that makes u better. When such ppl come into ur life, they make u more vibrant, creative and innovative. The mistake guys make is thinking that they can buy whatever they want and that's what girls pick on. The girl who said that girls don't want our love but our value is very right. Remember, behind every successful man is a woman. Nobody said behind every potentially successful man is a woman. Stop fighting for someone's love and validation and start becoming goal oriented

Great advise bro. Guess I wasn't too clear about myself which I didn't reveal to her. Thank God this is a faceless forum so I can say this. I was earning 7 figures in naira a month from a tech startup until we short on funds and working to level up more funds. Have an investment/startup that worst case cashflow for a month is 6 figures in USD when launch operations. I have rejected some job offers with travel opportunity to work on things I believe in and that, coupled with other factors led to things being tough for now. What I have learnt is not to reveal your earnings to women even my mother doesn't know how much I earn. What I do is talk about some of my investment and potentials of it. Some ladies are not just worth the time and can't see beyond their nose. They just want a Zuckerberg, Dangote or Bill Gate forgetting that they put in work to get to where they are. Thinking back, I am now connecting why she was moving her things away from my apartment little by little.

This was someone that needed to do an operation of 1million naira and I really wanted to fund it when things clear. I pray things clear out on time and I will still give her the fund for it cos it's a life threatening ailment, if she will accept even though she doesn't pick my calls or reply my messages. All in all, I give God the glory cos he knows best. May we never make the mistake of loving the wrong person.