pls house i need advise about a particular matter...here it goes..
I have a cousin (a female) who is at a crossroad. She has a little problem about getting married. The problem here is that she has already given the family a guys name, but the father said "pastor told him they are not compatible". Since she is from a Christian family, they do pray about such things.

Eight months later, she gave her dad another name and the Dad said they are compatible has being told by that same pastor. The problem now is that the guy is a muslim and my cousin never told her dad that.

Now the same father is saying she can't get married to a moslem has christians always believe that they must not marry unbelievers. Had it been my cousin already told her dad that the guy was a moslem, he wont bother telling the pastor about it.

My cousin is now worried because the pastor said they are compatible but her father is more concerned about the religion. Her father isnt happy with her choice hence might not want to a part of the union. pls she needs advise. She is on nairaland reading your comments. Pls let all be mature in our response. I used a phone in typing all this, so ignore all grammatical blunders... thanks.

mynd44
lalasticlala

Religion is indeed one of the major problem to humanity. If your religion requires you to hate someone. you need a new religion.


See the way her father and the pastor dey play with her life like Nairabet.

Compatible
Not compatible

Why do I feel like your post is about blood grouping?

She should go through ths thread https://www.nairaland.com/4824694/types-spirits-delay-some-single#72641948

Religion is the opium of the masses.

I don't blame those guys that impregnate their girlfriend just to posses her first before any other things.

That is how my pastor is wasting his time telling me to pray before going into marriage, I don't believed in such a prayer.

Your cousin must be too tender to take decision and her father must to religious to believed anything that come out from his pastor.

Lastly, I don't think a Christian parent will accept a suitor from Muslim background...Impossicant!.......maybe she should look for another man from christendom and be more decisive this time, as for the confused pastor I've nothing to tell him.

What's wrong with some parents sef... They aren't exposed.

Religion has turned many to fools. The pastor is just guessing.

dingbang:
What's wrong with some parents sef... They aren't exposed.

they are part of the reasons nigeria is backward. Imagine a parent stopping remi tinubu,fashola or amosuns wives from marrying them where dem for dey now

ednut1:
they are part of the reasons nigeria is backward. Imagine a parent stopping remi tinubu,fashola or amosuns wives from marrying them where dem for dey now

I dey tell you. The choice of who to marry should solely be the child's right, the parents can only give advice or insight but to totally have a say in who to marry is absolutely wrong.

the pastor ought to have known that the guy was a Muslim Na, since he knows the one that is compatible and the one that is not...

Eberechi24:
She should go through ths thread https://www.nairaland.com/4824694/types-spirits-delay-some-single#72641948

Lmao...you just had to refer her to this thread

daben1:
the pastor ought to have known that the guy was a Muslim Na, since he knows the one that is compatible and the one that is not...

Im telling u..D one dat he said is compatible Na muslim, D ones dat re not compatible Na christains...D father listened 2 d pastor wn he said they wer not compatible, now muslim don dey compatible him no won obey pastor again


Im sure d pastor was not aware b4 d prayer

OneSentence:
Lmao...you just had to refer her to this thread

Am helping a sister in need.

daben1:
the pastor ought to have known that the guy was a Muslim Na, since he knows the one that is compatible and the one that is not...

exactly

Your cousin should under no circumstance marry a muslim no matter how "compatible" they are. Can't your cousin see what muslims are doing worldwide?

If any of my sister brings a muslim home, she will be excommunicated from the family. In fact, there is no single muslim blood in my lineage and I am a yoruba man. The acts of the majority of muslims has tainted that religion.

My verdict? Your cousin should look for a good christian to marry.

#mytwocents.

The truth is that I and only I would decide whom I would get married to, if it goes right, fine, else I live with the consequences.

Parents are not perfect and cannot make perfect decisions all the time...

Its time this bullshit of parents and pastors approving who to marry for their kids

9japrof:
The truth is that I and only I would decide whom I would get married to, if it goes right, fine, else I live with the consequences.

Parents are not perfect and cannot make perfect decisions all the time...

Its time this bullshit of parents and pastors approving who to marry for their kids

... Thank u for dis, my dad always tell all his children dat I can never choose for u cus u are all responsible for ur happinesses, if u like bring cripple man to me dat u wanna marry in as much u are happy with it den wat my own to say no and nt to talk of religion matter... Abeg mk her dad free her to marry who her heart choose joor, na dat same religion dey mk naija go backward. Religion my foot.

resurgent4oodua:
Your cousin should under no circumstance marry a muslim no matter how "compatible" they are. Can't your cousin see what muslims are doing worldwide?

If any of my sister brings a muslim home, she will be excommunicated from the family. In fact, there is no single muslim blood in my lineage and I am a yoruba man. The acts of the majority of muslims has tainted that religion.

My verdict? Your cousin should look for a good christian to marry.

#mytwocents.

the SW muslim is not a fanatic

OK that's great.

I will wash the clothes but I won't iron it.

And the guy said that since arsenal is not competing for the title, tomorrow is Sunday.

So, who dem epp? Shey de don bath?

Your friend should better fight for what she wants and stop allowing daddy and pastor control her like a puppet. It means she didn't really want to marry the first guy... that's why she just let go of him.

She should be firm and stand her ground. Every resistance will relax.

ednut1:
the SW muslim is not a fanatic

Yes but I still don't trust any muslim.

The tendency to gravitate towards terrorism is always there.

Rosay15:
... Thank u for dis, my dad always tell all his children dat I can never choose for u cus u are all responsible for ur happinesses, if u like bring cripple man to me dat u wanna marry in as much u are happy with it den wat my own to say no and nt to talk of religion matter... Abeg mk her dad free her to marry who her heart choose joor, na dat same religion dey mk naija go backward. Religion my foot.

You mean she should marry into islam? Can you marry a muslim?

resurgent4oodua:


You mean she should marry into islam? Can you marry a muslim?

... Yes I can cus dis religion of tin is a doesn't worth it. If I love d person and am happy being with him, Bleep religion... My happiness really matter and is only God dat know who is serving him truly.

Rosay15:
... Yes I can cus dis religion of tin is a doesn't worth it. If I love d person and am happy being with him, Bleep religion... My happiness really matter and is only God dat know who is serving him truly.

You can do that at you and your children's peril. Na your life. But as for me and my family, hail no to muslim suitors. Any other religion is alright so it's not about intolerance but the evils of islam.


Take care.

resurgent4oodua:



You can do that at you and your children's peril. Na your life. But as for me and my family, hail no to muslim suitors. Any other religions is alright so it's not about intolerance but the evils of islam.


Take care.

.... That's y my life is different from urs aside dat I don't force my opinion on anybody either my unborn children or my loved ones... Have a blessed Sunday. Peace.

resurgent4oodua:



You can do that at you and your children's peril. Na your life. But as for me and my family, hail no to muslim suitors. Any other religions is alright so it's not about intolerance but the evils of islam.


Take care.

If all Muslims are bad and evil, I don't think you would still be alive and for you saying you live in SW, I doubt that cos here in SW, we are first people before religion.

If you continue with this hatred, then you a problem to this society.
Enjoy your bitterness wherever you are.

The union can never hold, the problem they will both face later in their life has surfaced...... If they dare force thier ways into into palace of this union, the story will later not be palatable to tell.

Why did the pastor not see it in his revelation the religion the guy belong? Things have been moduled up in this part of the world.

FantasticJ:


If all Muslims are bad and evil, I don't think you would still be alive and for you saying you live in SW, I doubt that cos here in SW, we are first people before religion.

If you continue with this hatred, then you a problem to this society.
Enjoy your bitterness wherever you are.

I don't only live in the SW, I am a yoruba man with plenty muslim friends. But at the same time, I recognise the dangers of islam and the havoc it has wrought worldwide so this is not about hatred or bitterness. I am only being careful. Islam is a vehicle for terror and destruction.

Oju lalakan fi'n sori... until massive reforms takes place in islam, the vast majority of people on earth will be scared of the religion.

Stop trying to deflect blame. Fix your religion.

resurgent4oodua:


I don't only live in the SW, I am a yoruba man with plenty muslim friends. But at the same time, I recognise the dangers of islam and the havoc it has wrought worldwide so this is not about hatred or bitterness. I am only being careful. Islam is a vehicle for terror and destruction.

Oju lalakan fi'n sori... until massive reforms takes place in islam, the vast majority of people on earth will be scared of the religion.

Stop trying to deflect blame. Fix your religion.

That is enough to validate what I said earlier. Maybe you could fix those guys shooting up their mates in the US also.
Think beyond religion and your life will never remain the same.

Luminary1:
Religion is the opium of the masses.

Classic Karl max

Let her look for a third prospective spouse and present to them

She might be lucky this time