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Re: Am Confused Right Now by Nobody: 12:11am On Nov 19, 2018
Eberechi24:
Lol, they may not be a main wife/chick. She just have to careful to avoid stories that touch the heart.
..one babe one time dey yarn me about one guy wey she meet for facebook dem come dey yarn for phone.as dem dey yarn na so she say she jus hear one small pickin voice for background dey shout daddy! daddY! grin
Eberechi24:
Lol, they may not be a main wife/chick. She just have to careful to avoid stories that touch the heart.
..one babe one time dey yarn me about one guy wey she meet for facebook dem come dey yarn for phone.as dem dey yarn na so she say she jus hear one small pickin voice for background dey shout daddy! daddY! the bros quickly switch off fone then as he switch on d fone call her again claiming network na so she say she hear one female voice for background sayin honey who is dat on d fone.bros sharply cut off d call again.the babe said she was so broken hearted dat evenin:-).bros call nxt day to explain say na im small nephews be dat ...she say she come vex cut off d line:-).
Re: Am Confused Right Now by Offpoint: 12:22am On Nov 19, 2018
Slimzjane:
Don't insult me i beg you..I only need your advise thank you
Perhaps you can do me the favour of pointing out the insults.

You expect me to advice you on dating or marrying a man who's 11 years older than you right?
Are your parents aware of this bullshits? I believe they don't, cuz if they do they woulda spanked some sense into you.

If you're offended by my comment, I'm....











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Glad you did.
Re: Am Confused Right Now by Joyboy1(m): 3:57am On Nov 19, 2018
Slimzjane, you have honestly done well by trying to see counsel before you take actions! See don't mind some here bashing you because some won't even give it a thought before they jump at it. You see human will always have something to say. U marry someone younger than you, DEM GO TALK, someone rich, DEM GO TALK, someone poor DEM GO TALK. So please outgrow this!
What I'd just tell you candidly is to NOT JUMP into PREGNANCY if you aren't READY! It takes a lot to be a mother. I won't say the MAN doesn't or does have a plan for you...ONLY GOD KNOWS THE HEART OF MAN. Just do a little findings about the man and if you think you are satisfied....THEN LET HIM DO THE NEEDFUL! Pay your BRIDE PRICE
Re: Am Confused Right Now by gaby(m): 7:27am On Nov 19, 2018
kiddoiLL:
Oloriburuku ni bobo yi walai
Iya laya e lo je be....
Re: Am Confused Right Now by Eberechi24(f):
lefulefu:
..one babe one time dey yarn me about one guy wey she meet for facebook dem come dey yarn for phone.as dem dey yarn na so she say she jus hear one small pickin voice for background dey shout daddy! daddY! grin ..one babe one time dey yarn me about one guy wey she meet for facebook dem come dey yarn for phone.as dem dey yarn na so she say she jus hear one small pickin voice for background dey shout daddy! daddY! the bros quickly switch off fone then as he switch on d fone call her again claiming network na so she say she hear one female voice for background sayin honey who is dat on d fone.bros sharply cut off d call again.the babe said she was so broken hearted dat evenin:-).bros call nxt day to explain say na im small nephews be dat ...she say she come vex cut off d line:-).
lefulefu:
..one babe one time dey yarn me about one guy wey she meet for facebook dem come dey yarn for phone.as dem dey yarn na so she say she jus hear one small pickin voice for background dey shout daddy! daddY! grin ..one babe one time dey yarn me about one guy wey she meet for facebook dem come dey yarn for phone.as dem dey yarn na so she say she jus hear one small pickin voice for background dey shout daddy! daddY! the bros quickly switch off fone then as he switch on d fone call her again claiming network na so she say she hear one female voice for background sayin honey who is dat on d fone.bros sharply cut off d call again.the babe said she was so broken hearted dat evenin:-).bros call nxt day to explain say na im small nephews be dat ...she say she come vex cut off d line:-).
This story na eye opener o. Person suppose dey smart o. No be only person wey you meet for Facebook dey do this kind thing.

make I tell you my experience. e get one guy we dey come shop. I know am based on say him dey come shop. One thing led to another, we begin chat in whatsapp. im come dey yarn friendship mata. I come ask am Weda him get gf/wife. the guy denied am kpatakpata. I look am I no talk.
Him no know say na small world we dey.

I no too dey log into my fb account, so that day I no know wetin carry me go fb, Omo see guy for friend wey I sabi (unto fb level. you understand how fb dey suggest friends give you)
I activate my Detective skill. I come go through him Facebook timelines, I come gather information wey I need. him guy name, im wife name and the day the wedded.

The next day, I ask am again, he denied. I no argue, I just call am him popular name wey him friends dey call am for fb. The guy shock. Call am him real name, Tell am the day him wedded. He was shocked.
I really felt bad for him wife cause them be newly weds then. Wetin vex me no be say him dey chyke women. Na the denial. Him take causeof kpekus wey him no sure Im go get deny him family.

Wetin men dey do these days, na only God go save us.
Re: Am Confused Right Now by Nobody: 1:53pm On Nov 19, 2018
Slimzjane:
My mum is late...I told ny sis and she told me is to tell him NO
listen to her.
Re: Am Confused Right Now by Nobody: 11:14pm On Nov 19, 2018
Eberechi24:
This story na eye opener o. Person suppose dey smart o. No be only person wey you meet for Facebook dey do this kind thing.

make I tell you my experience. e get one guy we dey come shop. I know am based on say him dey come shop. One thing led to another, we begin chat in whatsapp. im come dey yarn friendship mata. I come ask am Weda him get gf/wife. the guy denied am kpatakpata. I look am I no talk.
Him no know say na small world we dey.

I no too dey log into my fb account, so that day I no know wetin carry me go fb, Omo see guy for friend wey I sabi (unto fb level. you understand how fb dey suggest friends give you)
I activate my Detective skill. I come go through him Facebook timelines, I come gather information wey I need. him guy name, im wife name and the day the wedded.

The next day, I ask am again, he denied. I no argue, I just call am him popular name wey him friends dey call am for fb. The guy shock. Call am him real name, Tell am the day him wedded. He was shocked.
I really felt bad for him wife cause them be newly weds then. Wetin vex me no be say him dey chyke women. Na the denial. Him take causeof kpekus wey him no sure Im go get deny him family.

Wetin men dey do these days, na only God go save us.
this ur story ehn happens all d time.if to say u werent curious and wore ur investigative cap na so d guy wife for come jus attack u accusing u of trying to snatch her husband.a newly wedded husband wey suppose dey house dey enjoy im new wife dey stress imsef enter street dey chase woman.see ehn there are many married men these days pretending to be single and searching for partners and many of dem full social media.though a few married guys go admit to a babe that they are married and all they want is a casual relatiinship.na those ones i respect than d chicken hearted ones wey go dey lie.
Re: Am Confused Right Now by Eberechi24(f): 11:32pm On Nov 19, 2018
lefulefu:
this ur story ehn happens all d time.if to say u werent curious and wore ur investigative cap na so d guy wife for come jus attack u accusing u of trying to snatch her husband.a newly wedded husband wey suppose dey house dey enjoy im new wife dey stress imsef enter street dey chase woman.see ehn there are many married men these days pretending to be single and searching for partners and many of dem full social media.though a few married guys go admit to a babe that they are married and all they want is a casual relatiinship.na those ones i respect than d chicken hearted ones wey go dey lie.
My dear, person suppose tear eye for street o. them no dey play for express.
Re: Am Confused Right Now by David160(m): 4:46am On Nov 20, 2018
Slimzjane:
Gud evening guys..
Am 19 years old and i am dating a 32 years old man..I fall in love with him because he is more mature and caring that the other guys i have dated... He is a banker and am a student in 300l, I met him on fb [online].. He is very mature and i respect him alot, well the issue is he want me to get pregant for him..oh i forgot i have been dating for a year plus now..He do say it jokingly before about wanting a baby badly his mate are married and stuff..I told him am not ready am too young...He ask him when am i going to be ready i am 19 for crying out loud..He is financially okay and he take care of me alot, am not just ready and i don't want to loose him..He has been calling and texting me to get the answer am confused i don't want to get pregant and i don't want to loose him...Elders in the house how should i explan to him without him breaking up with mehuh??
if you don't want to loose him then get pregnant
Re: Am Confused Right Now by Gaspardd(m): 5:12am On Nov 20, 2018
He his most likely a pedophile, or a fool or both, and ordinarily if you have your self esteem, this isnt something you should brood over but since u think he cares for you, then u took it the wrong way.

You re like sn driving a car at d speed of 120miles/hr with ur eyes closed. My point here is u re about to step into sth of which u dont even have 1% control of the situation.
And again fact is that getting pregnant for him doesnt mean u re not going to loose him. Its either his foolishness will make him loose u, or your wiseness will make u loose him, the other side of the spectrum is both of your foolishness will make you guys not to loose eachother.

So you have to decide for yourself, but then all your decisions will have consequencies... thank you
Re: Am Confused Right Now by Nobody: 5:56am On Nov 20, 2018
Never you, I repeat never you get pregnant for him, of you guys do have unprotected sex, take pills, I'm telling you this, don't put your life and future at stake for any man, don't be a baby mama, love is carrying you like wine but your eyes will clear when he gets you pregnant and find reason not to marry you.

Be smart.
Re: Am Confused Right Now by Nobody: 7:28am On Nov 20, 2018
Ma Dear i dnt knw u cos NL is a faceless forum, but lemme advice u like ma kid sis...Plz listen 2 ur elder sis. Marriage as a whole is not a day job even child bearing.One tin u should ask urself is as a woman wat can u offer in d marriage apart 4rm sex remember u re stil a student Y not wait till @lest get ur certificate cos d discomfort dat comes with pregnancy no b here it can even disturb ur studies.One tin u should ask urself again is after d pregnancy wat next, yes he said marriage den ask urslf again, Do i want 2 b a house wife, wat do i want 4 maself....Remember ur mom is late listen 2 ur elder sis

Even thou u wnt to, Get ur certificate 1st plz explain 2 him dat d stress will b much 4 u as u re stil in sch, All d best. WHAT WAS UR ELDER SIS REASON FOR SAYING NO.
Re: Am Confused Right Now by Willexmania(m): 8:06am On Nov 20, 2018
samysmoothfresh:
19yrs, 300level? shocked shocked

19rs dating 32yrs? shocked shocked

19yrs falling in love? shocked shocked

boyfriend wants 19yrs old to get pregnant? shocked shocked

uzoho nigeria goal keeper is said to be 19yrs old but has a 16yrs old kid? shocked shocked

buhari why? why? why? cry cry
OGa What Is Wrong With A 19 Year Old FallinG In LOvE.. undecided
Re: Am Confused Right Now by kindredspirit(m): 8:30am On Nov 20, 2018
You need to focus on your studies because the way you're going regarding issues of boyfriends and men, you're going to get what's coming to you.

You say you're in 300Level in university, which I think is a lie, because in August 2017, ( in your thread where you said your best friend snatched your boyfriend after you took her to his house ), you hadn't even entered university then. So, how did you get into 300Level within a year ??

You're just a child, quit messing around with men.
Re: Am Confused Right Now by Mcslize: 11:52am On Nov 20, 2018
Diamond23:
B4 he wife u or wot?....y not ask him hz reasons. Dat all hz mates r married wit kids z not enough reason asking u to get pregnant unless he z planning to marry u buh wntz to make sure if u r fertile or not cux dat z wot some of dem do!
I thought same.


Slimzjane , this seems to be the likelihood of the reason he is wanting you to get pregnant first. Maybe he just wants to be sure you are fertile.

You surely know that there are some persons that are not fertile. They start having issues to conceive after marriage. And that's why you see some couples staying for years without having a baby. One needs to be sure of one's partner.

Even though I am not in support of bearing a baby out of wedlock, this likely seems to be the reason for his pregnancy request.

What you need to do: have a one on one discussion with him and ask him for the reason why he wants you to get pregnant for him before marrying you. He should be able to tell you the reason. If it happens to be the same thought like ours, then assure him that you are fertile. If he Still doesn't believe, go with him to the hospital to confirm your fertility rate.
Re: Am Confused Right Now by samysmoothfresh: 12:06pm On Nov 20, 2018
Slimzjane:
There is nothing new under the sun broda...I only need advise for this big step thank you
dont "broda" me!!


You dey call me, a 23yrs old guy broda then later you go con go call one 32 yrs old man darling and baby



dont broda me again o


back to your topic, i know what you should do but i will not tell you so as not to feel guilty when shiiit goes AWOL but i will only tell you to use your head!

Re: Am Confused Right Now by Mcslize: 12:08pm On Nov 20, 2018
Offpoint:
Perhaps you can do me the favour of pointing out the insults.

You expect me to advice you on dating or marrying a man who's 11 years older than you right?
Are your parents aware of this bullshits? I believe they don't, cuz if they do they woulda spanked some sense into you.

If you're offended by my comment, I'm...



Glad you did.
The age difference is not bad c'mon! You should know girls mature faster in body than guys. If the guy marry his age mate of 30-32, the girl will surely look like his aunty. Marry someone younger than you in age.

Go online and check out girls of 23-29 , they look way mature in body. Don't marry a woman that you will go out with and people will be asking you is this your aunty? That will be pretty embarrassing don't you think?

Go and see girls of 20 to 25 years old. They look like they are 30yrs. If they don't tell you, you won't know. Like me , I look younger in my age. If I tell some people how old I am they find it hard believing. And most importantly, I am not among those that like reducing their ages.

I wanted to do it back then by reducing my age but hell no, I decided to leave it like that already people say I look younger. So if someone like me go for a girl I am older than with 10yrs, you won't even know I am that old in age but gallant in body and look.
Re: Am Confused Right Now by Offpoint: 12:52pm On Nov 20, 2018
Mcslize:
The age difference is not bad c'mon! You should know girls mature faster in body than guys. If the guy marry his age mate of 30-32, the girl will surely look like his aunty. Marry someone younger than you in age.

Go online and check out girls of 23-29 , they look way mature in body. Don't marry a woman that you will go out with and people will be asking you is this your aunty? That will be pretty embarrassing don't you think?

Go and see girls of 20 to 25 years old. They look like they are 30yrs. If they don't tell you, you won't know. Like me , I look younger in my age. If I tell some people how old I am they find it hard believing. And most importantly, I am not among those that like reducing their ages.

I wanted to do it back then by reducing my age but hell no, I decided to leave it like that already people say I look younger. So if someone like me go for a girl I am older than with 10yrs, you won't even know I am that old in age but gallant in body and look.
11 years difference not bad? c'mon dude, max should be 5. anything above that should be considered abnormal.
Re: Am Confused Right Now by havilla(f): 1:47pm On Nov 20, 2018
Mcslize:
The age difference is not bad c'mon! You should know girls mature faster in body than guys. If the guy marry his age mate of 30-32, the girl will surely look like his aunty. Marry someone younger than you in age.

Go online and check out girls of 23-29 , they look way mature in body. Don't marry a woman that you will go out with and people will be asking you is this your aunty? That will be pretty embarrassing don't you think?

Go and see girls of 20 to 25 years old. They look like they are 30yrs. If they don't tell you, you won't know. Like me , I look younger in my age. If I tell some people how old I am they find it hard believing. And most importantly, I am not among those that like reducing their ages.

I wanted to do it back then by reducing my age but hell no, I decided to leave it like that already people say I look younger. So if someone like me go for a girl I am older than with 10yrs, you won't even know I am that old in age but gallant in body and look.
i really hate it when Nigerian men go on about not marrying a woman close to their age because the woman would look older or like his “aunty”, please is marriage all about physical looks or how people would see you outside? What happened to getting married because you love her personality, love each other and are friends? Being with someone closer to your age is the best because you relate like friends and it’s soo natural, when you get old you both age together and even depart this world around the same time.
Re: Am Confused Right Now by havilla(f): 1:49pm On Nov 20, 2018
Offpoint:
11 years difference not bad? c'mon dude, max should be 5. anything above that should be considered abnormal.
my sentiments exactly.
Re: Am Confused Right Now by EternalTruth: 3:06pm On Nov 20, 2018
mezarddinny:
is everyone igbo? how much do yoruba parents collect? paying brideprice doesn't mean he won't dump her

you all need to think things twice before clicking submit
why Igbo matter dey like give u sleepless night?
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