TheOdd1sOut:
I spent the whole of today indoors. The one friend I have in this world wasn't around for like 3 months so I was virtually alone. No plans for weekend.

I should I have called my bae? My bae changed base early last year and distance has taken its toll. A guyman of mine then told.me that she has found another boo where she is. I realized that my turn with her was over so I just freed her.

Here I am, I haven't asked a girl out since 2016, the latest gf of mine who left me has been with me for 3 years... and I don't know what to do.
I just wanked and I am tired of it all. No friends and no bae.

I.am considering that a change of location might help me. What do you guys propose?

TheOdd1sOut:
I spent the whole of today indoors. The one friend I have in this world wasn't around for like 3 months so I was virtually alone. No plans for weekend.

I should I have called my bae? My bae changed base early last year and distance has taken its toll. A guyman of mine then told.me that she has found another boo where she is. I realized that my turn with her was over so I just freed her.

Here I am, I haven't asked a girl out since 2016, the latest gf of mine who left me has been with me for 3 years... and I don't know what to do.
I just wanked and I am tired of it all. No friends and no bae.

I.am considering that a change of location might help me. What do you guys propose?

Ladylite:


Changing the location of a leopard from the zoo to the wild does not remove or increase the stripes on its body. Bros wake up to reality, soapy(wanking) will weaken your willpower and keep your emotions weak and down. How you have wasted a large portion of your life on what would not give you greatness.

Bitter truth my Guy, is you are either proud or infected with low self esteem. What stops you from walking up to people and being friendly.

At your age, you have only one friend.... Who does that. Grow up and go out of your comfort zone. You are the one loosing. I don't care if you are a genius but you are loosing. Success in life largely depends on networking with friends and helpers.
Someone needs to shake you out of the useless life you are building for yourself through idle wanking. No man is an island o. Position yourself to be inspired else you will expire for sure.


Now look at how you are reasoning things so wrongly. Instead of focusing on building your life and increasing your achievements. You are so insecure, you can't make it alone.

See ehn, you don't deserve a friend or girlfriend because you are a burden.... A parasitic one at that. If you truly offered great value your friendships won't end and distance won't kill your love life. But since you are boring, what else do you expect. Everyone moves on.


My words may hurt but it is the wake up call you need. Get off your bum bum and go make some good friends out there. Make money too so you can travel and go wherever you want.


It is sad and so immature of you to be coming here and expecting us to sympathize with you when life gave you too many opportunities to have friends and keep them. You didn't read books or even have a mentor to show you how to live a balanced life. Yet You have good looks and great gifts inside you bt you are just focused on the wrong thing. Wake up bro.

So you have so much work to do on yourself. So much work that you don't have time to be entertaining such low level thoughts right now. Idleness has wasted you through porn and soapy, when you could be reading a book that will give you ideas, or trading online or teaching a Whatsapp class.... Why did you allow your life waste like this, you must wake up o.

XhosaNostra:
It could just be a passing phase or what could become the new you, indefinitely. IMO, there's nothing wrong with a bit of solitude.

Once upon a time, I used to be very outgoing & I had a lot of friends. Honestly, I don't know how I did it because now I can go months without even talking to my nextdoor neighbour. After a long period of alone time, I'll start feeling social again & I'll briefly fleet around, to socialize, only to go back to the hermit mode once more. Rinse & repeat. I'm fortunate in a sense because I still have some friends, mostly childhood friends. I have no idea how to make friends as an adult. Let me rephrase that, I make friends easily because I'm friendly, I just don't wanna be friends, if that makes sense.

Recently, I had a chat with a new neighbour. A couple of days later she came over & we chatted some more. Before leaving, she asked for my number & I honestly didn't wanna give it to her because I don't wanna be friends like that. Alas, I did give it to her because I didn't wanna come off rude. It's been almost a month & I have no intention of talking to her on the phone or in person for that matter. Our encounter happened when I was in one of my more social spells, but now I'm back to doing my own thing. This is how I drive people away, not intentionally or regretfully, but I need my space. I'm not doing anything important or special when I lay low, I'm just spending some quality time with me, myself & I...the rest can wait.

TheOdd1sOut:
I spent the whole of today indoors. The one friend I have in this world wasn't around for like 3 months so I was virtually alone. No plans for weekend.

I should I have called my bae? My bae changed base early last year and distance has taken its toll. A guyman of mine then told.me that she has found another boo where she is. I realized that my turn with her was over so I just freed her.

Here I am, I haven't asked a girl out since 2016, the latest gf of mine who left me has been with me for 3 years... and I don't know what to do.
I just wanked and I am tired of it all. No friends and no bae.

I.am considering that a change of location might help me. What do you guys propose?

Humanoid01:

I'm partially like the OP! I wouldn't call myself an introvert, but someone with social anxiety. I have a mild speech disorientation that makes me stutter (sometimes) and jumble words that don't correlate with the way it was formed in my mind. I really want to make friends, but I can't because I don't know what to say, I don't know how to initiate a conversation. I write way better than I talk, because I have enough time to think and craft my words the way I want. It's difficult to make friends with that, when the majority of people these days focus on one's flaws.

Humanoid01:

I'm partially like the OP! I wouldn't call myself an introvert, but someone with social anxiety. I have a mild speech disorientation that makes me stutter (sometimes) and jumble words that don't correlate with the way it was formed in my mind. I really want to make friends, but I can't because I don't know what to say, I don't know how to initiate a conversation. I write way better than I talk, because I have enough time to think and craft my words the way I want. It's difficult to make friends with that, when the majority of people these days focus on one's flaws.

Ladylite:


Sorry Bros but You are nothing like the OP. You are a smart and intelligent introvert and that is so special.

If writing is your special skill, why not make friends online. Why not make friends all over the world. You can write books and become very great on Kindle.

Then since you have identified your weakness in public speaking. Simply solve it. There is no point knowing what you can't do and still celebrating it.

Download Dale Carnegie books on public speaking and making friends and study them voraciously. You can break out of that shame or weakness of not knowing how to speak by reading and practicing ahead.

See, you just have to try it small small and soon you will get better.

God bless, happy Sunday

Ladylite:


Sorry Bros but You are nothing like the OP. You are a smart and intelligent introvert and that is so special.

If writing is your special skill, why not make friends online. Why not make friends all over the world. You can write books and become very great on Kindle.

Then since you have identified your weakness in public speaking. Simply solve it. There is no point knowing what you can't do and still celebrating it.

Download Dale Carnegie books on public speaking and making friends and study them voraciously. You can break out of that shame or weakness of not knowing how to speak by reading and practicing ahead.

See, you just have to try it small small and soon you will get better.

God bless, happy Sunday

loshybab:

I have a bit of social anxiety too,but I am a step ahead of you in that initiating convo is the least if my problems, especially if it's on a 1-on-1 basis.

My advice for you is to know your own flaws and play the worst case scenario of what might happen in your head and think of a way to manage it so that,if it eventually happens,you won't feel bad or feel less bad. You will even be the first to laugh over it.

Forget about whatever anyone thinks about your flaws and always have it at the back of your mind that you're special. Whatever you're going thru with your disorder or anything you might wanna call it,is a tip of the iceberg,compared to what some ither people are going through. Imagine someone that can't even speak at all,what would you have him do?

Baba,this life sweet pass make person dey make you feel sad ooo,wake up and enjoy yourself biko!!!

TheOdd1sOut:
I spent the whole of today indoors. The one friend I have in this world wasn't around for like 3 months so I was virtually alone. No plans for weekend.

I should I have called my bae? My bae changed base early last year and distance has taken its toll. A guyman of mine then told.me that she has found another boo where she is. I realized that my turn with her was over so I just freed her.

Here I am, I haven't asked a girl out since 2016, the latest gf of mine who left me has been with me for 3 years... and I don't know what to do.
I just wanked and I am tired of it all. No friends and no bae.

I.am considering that a change of location might help me. What do you guys propose?

lefulefu:
that u alone is not even what is worrisome but the one u moaning about not having a girlfriend or whatnot.where u work or school dont u find girls there? being indoors sometimes isnt that bad.u can be indoors sometimes and relax and watch some movies.and u dont need to have plenty friends to be sociable.since i have been in this country since last year september i have only 3 close friends here.two of them are fellow nigerians and the third is a canadian girl.the rest are just aquantances not friends.most times here when i am not in class or the library i am at home and sometimes in the evening i visit my nigerian friend.its not all the time cos most times if i am not in the library studying or in class then i am indoors in my room relaxing.bro u dont need to go to parties or have plenty friends for u to be sociable.dont look down on urself cos u dont have a girlfriend cos for one thing having a girlfriend is not an acheivement.this is a time for u to focus on ur job and save money or if u in school u should plan ur life ahead.op like u i am yet to get into a serious relationship but then its not because of self esteem but more because u hardly have anytime.from classes i go to the library and from the library i go home in the evenings after being so tired but then i have friends.if na konji dey hold u then i suggest u have a friend of benefit .

gowonmaharajah:

where do you school, bro?

Humanoid01:

Lol playing worst case scenarios in my head could send fear chills down my spine. Does that really work for you?

Ladylite:


Changing the location of a leopard from the zoo to the wild does not remove or increase the stripes on its body. Bros wake up to reality, soapy(wanking) will weaken your willpower and keep your emotions weak and down. How you have wasted a large portion of your life on what would not give you greatness.

Bitter truth my Guy, is you are either proud or infected with low self esteem. What stops you from walking up to people and being friendly.

At your age, you have only one friend.... Who does that. Grow up and go out of your comfort zone. You are the one loosing. I don't care if you are a genius but you are loosing. Success in life largely depends on networking with friends and helpers.
Someone needs to shake you out of the useless life you are building for yourself through idle wanking. No man is an island o. Position yourself to be inspired else you will expire for sure.


Now look at how you are reasoning things so wrongly. Instead of focusing on building your life and increasing your achievements. You are so insecure, you can't make it alone.

See ehn, you don't deserve a friend or girlfriend because you are a burden.... A parasitic one at that. If you truly offered great value your friendships won't end and distance won't kill your love life. But since you are boring, what else do you expect. Everyone moves on.


My words may hurt but it is the wake up call you need. Get off your bum bum and go make some good friends out there. Make money too so you can travel and go wherever you want.


It is sad and so immature of you to be coming here and expecting us to sympathize with you when life gave you too many opportunities to have friends and keep them. You didn't read books or even have a mentor to show you how to live a balanced life. Yet You have good looks and great gifts inside you bt you are just focused on the wrong thing. Wake up bro.

So you have so much work to do on yourself. So much work that you don't have time to be entertaining such low level thoughts right now. Idleness has wasted you through porn and soapy, when you could be reading a book that will give you ideas, or trading online or teaching a Whatsapp class.... Why did you allow your life waste like this, you must wake up o.

kneehighbootz:


Ladylite, I had to log in because of this post. It's almost like you're speaking to me. Thank you for this great comment. I appreciate you and I thank whatever gave you this wisdom you possess.

Would you be interested in mentoring me? Thank you.

kneehighbootz:


Ladylite, I had to log in because of this post. It's almost like you're speaking to me. Thank you for this great comment. I appreciate you and I thank whatever gave you this wisdom you possess.

Would you be interested in mentoring me? Thank you.

Well, this explains a lot of things.

Humanoid01:

I'm partially like the OP! I wouldn't call myself an introvert, but someone with social anxiety. I have a mild speech disorientation that makes me stutter (sometimes) and jumble words that don't correlate with the way it was formed in my mind. I really want to make friends, but I can't because I don't know what to say, I don't know how to initiate a conversation. I write way better than I talk, because I have enough time to think and craft my words the way I want. It's difficult to make friends with that, when the majority of people these days focus on one's flaws.

Raalsalghul:
Well, this explains a lot of things.

Ladylite:

On what area exactly

kneehighbootz:


Like what

XhosaNostra:
It could just be a passing phase or what could become the new you, indefinitely. IMO, there's nothing wrong with a bit of solitude.

Once upon a time, I used to be very outgoing & I had a lot of friends. Honestly, I don't know how I did it because now I can go months without even talking to my nextdoor neighbour. After a long period of alone time, I'll start feeling social again & I'll briefly fleet around, to socialize, only to go back to the hermit mode once more. Rinse & repeat. I'm fortunate in a sense because I still have some friends, mostly childhood friends. I have no idea how to make friends as an adult. Let me rephrase that, I make friends easily because I'm friendly, I just don't wanna be friends, if that makes sense.

Recently, I had a chat with a new neighbour. A couple of days later she came over & we chatted some more. Before leaving, she asked for my number & I honestly didn't wanna give it to her because I don't wanna be friends like that. Alas, I did give it to her because I didn't wanna come off rude. It's been almost a month & I have no intention of talking to her on the phone or in person for that matter. Our encounter happened when I was in one of my more social spells, but now I'm back to doing my own thing. This is how I drive people away, not intentionally or regretfully, but I need my space. I'm not doing anything important or special when I lay low, I'm just spending some quality time with me, myself & I...the rest can wait.

TheOdd1sOut:
I spent the whole of today indoors. The one friend I have in this world wasn't around for like 3 months so I was virtually alone. No plans for weekend.

I should I have called my bae? My bae changed base early last year and distance has taken its toll. A guyman of mine then told.me that she has found another boo where she is. I realized that my turn with her was over so I just freed her.

Here I am, I haven't asked a girl out since 2016, the latest gf of mine who left me has been with me for 3 years... and I don't know what to do.
I just wanked and I am tired of it all. No friends and no bae.

I.am considering that a change of location might help me. What do you guys propose?