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Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Jolonjolo: 2:48pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
What it takes to part now is a DECISION, but when you marry, parting will leave you in a CONDITION. Agreement is the bedrock of lasting relationships. If both of you can't agree on a path now, take a decision and break it. Cheers |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by DEBJOCH1(m): 2:48pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
Love conquers all, go and read "in the light of trut " by Abd-ru-shin ), I am a born a again not a religion fanatic, I had a room mate who was a member of gray message, I kept inviting him to church, he said until I also followed him to his church before he will follow me, I followed him to his church, I discovered he is a member of Message, no doubt as a person who love learning, I listen to their song and sermon it was cool, the sermon was cool and calm, the messengers are very learned, they are not fanatics, they are not wicked, they love and share things with other. It's your choice and decision either to marry him or not, I am not a member of SCON but I believe in the popular saying of prophet TBJ which he also says as thus "love conquers all". 1 Like |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by mrMeen(m): 2:54pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
Shin wai are you not all Christians sotey |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Veetee(m): 2:58pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
NwaAmaikpe: |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by hidee20(m): 3:03pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
SweetBuns: Where is your home address?. |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Buffalowings3(m): 3:05pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
Run for ya life |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by hidee20(m): 3:06pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
Yuceeluv: Abeg can you describe how you picture it? |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by mudiana(m): 3:07pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
Religion difference is not a small something oh! Once dated this wonderful nice Muslim. Till date, even tho it was for a short time, it was d best. But as deacon son, popsy won't agree na. And I no get power to drag cos women plenty. We go dey alright las las. |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by MsGood(f): 3:07pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
LovingLife28:My sister, the bible says two can't walk together if they don't agree. I know it will be difficult but please leave him and trust God for the best for you. Please. This is a disaster waiting to happen. |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by KANUCHISOM202: 3:08pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
I THINK THIS IS A PERSONAL REVELATION, BEACAUSE SOMEONE CAN WAKE UP ONE DAY AND SAY GOD TOLD HER TO STOP USING A MAGGI CUBE AND EVERY BODY WILL THROW WAY THEIR MAGGI CUBE |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by MsGood(f): 3:10pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
NwaAmaikpe:What kind of advice is this na? Advising someone to sleep around? Are you for real? Keep it for your daughter. |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Actjulius: 3:17pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
Message churches are all over the world and it is not a cult. It is based on biblical truths and principles which run contrary to what most denominations believe such as the belief in only One God and not three persons in God. The same God appearing in 3 different forms throughout history. Jehovah became Jesus who had to leave for the Holy Spirit to take charge. Baptism is necessary for salvation and must be in Jesus Christ name as clearly done throughout the Bible No women preacher as the Bible clearly stated and you can’t see one throughout the entire Bible The frowns at immoral dressing, make up etc But nothing is secret about it as you can google and visit any place of worship around you and then decide whether anything is untoward there. It’s those biblical truths that attracted unwarranted hatred for the church and nothing more, hence the cult label! The fellow in question is likely not a true believer because he is already walking along the part of fornication and I am sure this relationship is a secret one and would not have been supported by any believer of the message Thank you 3 Likes |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by MilkANDpepper: 3:19pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
You can't marry him because he goes to another church and he isn't comfortable with yours either and you are asking us what to do again? Funny. Well, what you will do will come to you with time. Goodluck Any religion that can't love others unconditionally be it Christianity or William Branham or whatever is not for me. God is Love and love loves freely without boundaries. That's my standard. That is heaven. |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by MrGodwithin: 3:20pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
females are not allow to wear trousers in that Church. so am not comfortable now ,you saying they wear trousers but don't do makeup. the branch of the Church where I do worship whenever am in Lagos, females don't wear trousers or makeup or fix artificial hairs 1 Like |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by mechanics(m): 3:22pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
Any church contrary to the teachings of the Bible is not a Bible believing church, and one should avoid going there in order not to be misled, since you have known where he worship, and you don't like that place, you better quite the relationship, our goal on earth is to make heaven, anything apart from that is useless, the issue of high heel is for your own health, it's not good to wear high heel, and wearing of make up and trousers, when you read the bible, you will know better. 1 Like |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Actjulius: 3:24pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
LovingLife28: Your boyfriend is either a new believer or one who hasn’t decided to follow Christ fully otherwise he won’t be following a path that can lead him to fornication and other likely sins You owe yourself a duty to visit the church and speak to the Pastor there and then make your decision. Everything is open and everyone is easily approachable |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by okeniti: 3:24pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
Without coming across as patronizing to you but the keywords is your first relationship. It's all very romantic only having ONE partner for life and sounds good in theory, but this rarely happens practically. With time, people move on geographically, mentally, spiritually (to some degree) and socially. What we do with our time arguably is the most precious thing in this world. Take it from me, waking up at 02:34AM with regrets not allowing you to sleep properly is not a nice feeling. You need to ask yourself, if I could get the pros my boyfriend (with lesser of his cons) offers elsewhere what would stop me from going elsewhere? What am I getting from time spent in this relationship? Can I see growth and growing with this person? Also what are the people around him like? Ask yourself those questions, eat a nutritious meal, sleep on it and go from there really to make your decision. This advice is not professional. 1 Like |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by MrGodwithin: 3:27pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
what I love most about that church is that both males and females dresses decently. please don't really see big deal there. you and your partner can come to terms and decide what you guys want. |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by thorpido(m): 3:33pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
babyfaceafrica:They were having sex. |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Nobody: 3:35pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
LovingLife28: It’s early days and you have the best chance to do the right thing. Run and let him not see your break lights. You’ll save yourself LOTS and LOTS and I mean LOTS and LOTS of REGRETS. He is not the one for you. Go find your man. What you two are experiencing isn’t love. Don’t find out the hard way. Run while you are still INTACT. You are lucky you are not married yet or have babies with him. If he doesn’t turn into a monster while you are with him, a monster from that Brannan establishment will pay you a visit one day and it won’t depart from your house. |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Kennydoc(m): 3:46pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
LovingLife28: It's unfortunate what you're going through. The mistake you made is failing to establish the entirety of who he is, including his religious views right from the beginning. It's one of the things that should be sorted out in the first month of relationship. You should have found out the church he attends and his views about core spiritual values. Judging from what you narrated, I think that relationship will not likely work. You need to be with someone your heart is completely at peace with. The issue in contention is something you simply can't gloss over. I know you're scared of how to start afresh, but it's better to start afresh now than to face the impending doom. I can assure you than if you continue to trust God, you will ultimately meet someone you will love better and your heart will be at peace with. I had a failed relationship, and when it failed, I thought I was doomed cos the girl in question was a very nice girl. I only had a few issues with her (mainly her size and a few other things bothering on body features) but her good virtues and facial beauty far outweighed the few issues. I didn't want to lose her, but I was still worried and unhappy about those issues. I prayed and fasted for God to take away that burden I had, but it remained. Something else happened, and she broke up with me. I thought I was already messed up as I didn't believe I could meet another girl as good as she was. Two and half years down the line, I met another girl who happened to be everything I ever desired in a girl: spiritually, physically, intellectually, emotionally, psychologically etc. It's been almost a year, but I still consider myself privileged to meet her. What I'm saying is that there is a better package ahead for you. You don't have to force yourself to remain in a relationship that will most likely mess you up psychologically and spiritually simply because you want to keep a good man. There are other great men out there, and God can cause your path to cross with theirs if only you can be patient and trust Him for that. |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Actjulius: 3:47pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
gbosaa: How can a Christian turn a monster? The issue at stake is doctrinal differences just like a MFM member will not agree with a RCCG member. Howbeit just as the Bible stated that 2 cannot walk together except they agree, she needs to marry someone who believes like her e.g that allows all the things she wants and she should be ready to accept all it’s attendant consequences, period. |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Triangles1(m): 3:53pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
SweetBuns: Boys full everywhere but how many of them ready to settle down when there's no money, don't forget money is the main key to open woman's heart. |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Triangles1(m): 4:08pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
NwaAmaikpe: You just gave the best advice so far but people will condemned you as they can't see beyond 21st century. Marry to experienced partner not the one that has been caged in the past. The lifes we lived now is beyond chioma chukwuka. |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Edonojie007(m): 4:21pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
Hello,i Know What Love Is; Is a crazy craving intimating passion for someone,something or somewhere. But there are three things which forms the basics of our life,which man hardly notice: Love(passion),Faith(belief) & Wisdom(knowledge & understanding). Anything can form a man's belief/faith; Science,Philosophy,Religion,socialism E.T.C And these three things(love,faith & wisdom) are very difficult to end,but easy to begin with. If ya'll love is thicker than the rest two,then change the scenerio. |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by ttmax09(m): 4:22pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
NwaAmaikpe:You where making sense at first, bt i don't know what happened along the line. |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by ttmax09(m): 4:28pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
IT4U:Op i implore you heed this advice, am sure you don't want to look back 10 years from now and start regretting your marriage |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by NamelessOGBENI(m): 4:42pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
The Message Church. I need to find out one or two things about this church. In matters of matrimony or religion, I offered no advice to save myself from being held responsible for any person's woes in the world or in the next. Peace Out! |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Oyindaberry(f): 4:45pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
Marry according to your faith. If you won't be able to cope with his religion, it's not too late to step out of the relationship. There are tons of men in the world Sis...By the way, its my first time hearing about this kinda church. |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by stankezzy: 5:02pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
Sister the mistake most people are making in this post is that they don't use Google or their brain well , the braham and Catherine coolman are the greatest preacher that have ever lived after the bible time , u will find history about them in God's generals , braham came first then later years around 60s and 70s Catherine came , both of them are from USA , in the case of braham the problem the congregation had was that the world was not as developed as in the time of Catherine so the made some minor mistakes. God so much used these two people that in their healing services cut off legs , amputated legs and hands , blind eyes with no balls grow back as everybody is watching , so with braham the people of his time started to like trying to (worship ) or believe in him instead of believing in his God , braham was a very good christian , why the members built their doctrine around him which is wrong was because of the wonders they saw happen when he prays , mind u it was early 19 century , somebody should not come and say it is lies what I wrote , it all happened in USA , they have records and and majority of people that recorded it are not even christians , so finally the church is not a cult but they are making some little mistake which started after the death of the man |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by stankezzy: 5:17pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
But wemen are too difficult to please , in this case her problem is that the church is over righteous then go for drug addicts or robbers , they are always available , just like the problem am having with my fiancee , she insist she must be wearing very tight skirt to show her shape and I ask her , this shape u are showing is it not to draw attention of men which u have chosen or accepted one so why showing shape again , if u are inside with me , if u want to wear pants , fine but out side no , u have got a man already , do u know she refused and we started having problems 2 Likes |
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Nobody: 5:25pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
My dear is better you break up on time for your safety and your salvation. LovingLife28: |
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