₦airaland Forum

pek:
Judging from some comments from some ladies, it pains me to say they that understand the nitty gritty of marriage. Some have even called the man irresponsible. We have not been told why the man came back at that hour. Is it a one off or it is habitual. Coming back at that may also be work related. Back to the question, a dutiful wife should please the husband. You may not be okay with the request (NB, I said request not demand) but if she loves her husband and respect him, that 40 mins in the kitchen will not kill her. I am sure it is not everyday the man makes such request. He might have come so late and hungry but couldn't eat the EBA for some reasons. The rice will be the other alternative for him. Let's always rationalize issues before calling people names. And ladies, learn to treat your man well and you will get the best out of him.

Nope some men should learn to respect their women how can you wake someone to prepare food for you still select and request for rice.If the man was responsible he would enter the kitchen and prepare the food himself he would not die.Disturbing a woman's beauty sleep because you are hungry.I wonder who told some men that they are babies who should be pampered.

AmazonTopaz:
Nope some men should learn to respect their women how can you wake someone to prepare food for you still select and request for rice.If the man was responsible he would enter the kitchen and prepare the food himself he would not die.Disturbing a woman's beauty sleep because you are hungry.I wonder who told some men that they are babies who should be pampered.

Let me respond only to your last statement since you neglected all I wrote. Yes, men are babies who should be pampered!

ALL THE LADIES THAT SAID THEY WON'T COOK, NO PROBLEM I WILL COOK, EAT, REST THEN NA MY PIPE GO WAKE YOU UP BECAUSE I GO NACK YOU TILL 5;30AM MAKE I SEE HOW YOU GO GO WORK.

pek:
Let me respond only to your last statement since you neglected all I wrote. Yes, men are babies who should be pampered!

No they are not,no wonder they feel too entitled because society feeds them that notion.
Babies who would be claiming to be the head of
the family.

truthsayer009:
You, If I catch you.

Ishilove:
Why will I even serve him eba by 12 midnight? Light tea and biscuits or juice will be able to hold him till the following day.

This, of course, is if he has a reasonable excuse for coming home by that unholy hour. If his excuse does not fly, my icy countenance will be enough to rob him of his appetite.

If you like keep a Buhari countenance for Nnamdi Kanu... I will eat wella and still ride you all night

victorian:
My man is not that inconsiderate, he will prepare it himself when he comes back home on such hour. He's a good cook.

The only time, he wakes me up, is when he needs some touching and cuddling, that I cant resist or even say no.

I have said my own. Keep your hubby outta here

Anas09:
I'm not sure this has to do with tribe my dear.
I'm not Ibo, but i have a friend who does more than what is talked about here.
She is Ibo (Imo state). He is Yoruba (Ogun state). He was an e-Muslims who says he is now a born again Christian.

They never dated and married, he goes to church though, but he is still a muslim in his attitude, his wife is trash where he is. From the beginning of their marriage, if he returns home 11pm, then he'd returned early. Anytime he returns, what he wants is what he gets.

She kneels to serve him because she was told that's how to pls Yoruba husbands. If she serves him the food, she stays to clear the plates before returning to bed. Worst is, some nights he rejects the food, then she will begin to cry why he'd reject her food.

Shd i shock you? He does not know where the money comes from. She does so many things at once to keep the family going, yet he'll reject the food and make the lady cry.

See enh, I be Christian o, but true, i no go do am. You need to see what dis man does to this lady.

She has complex and insecurity issues.

weyreypey:
I have said my own. Keep your hubby outta here

Ok

Ishilove:

You've been dodging my question ba? You will be at home breast feeding your babies & you'll now be giving me hope here. Not fair.

You don't eat rice or EBA at 12 midnight. An educated and caring wife will serve neither of them. Get him light food and go back to sleep. Everyone wins and you as the wife won't age much. Only feminists know this.

ibkkk:
Well, it depends on my mood at that point in time.
I may prepare it if:
1. I'm expecting something from him at that particular time.
2.I "messed up" and wants his forgiveness.
Ordinarily, i wouldn't. You have to make do with what we have...

I wouldn't serve him eba as dinner,tho.

You would turn your marriage into a business venture where you are on a constant look out for gains..You can do better..

Qsscruz:
You would turn your marriage into a business venture where you are on a constant look out for gains..You can do better..

Thanks.

That kind of husband is a demon. He should better eat what he sees.

IamD18:
The loyalty of an average Nigerian wife depends on the financial state of her husband.

If a poor husband request for that, the wife will nag and end up insulting him.

But if a rich husband comes back late by 2:00am and request for that. The wife will bow 3 times before him, rush to the kitchen, prepare the rice immediately, serve him, bow 3 times again before him and say "Igweeeeeeeeeee!"

She will even be giving him bl0wjob as he's eating the food just to please him.

lmao

trapQ:
Someone who knows the couple has told you what's up with them both but as the typical dimwitted Nigerian man that you are, you must find a way to blame the woman for the man's excesses.

Why didn't you quote the portion of the Bible that commands men to live their wives like Christ loved the church and died for it? It is only the part that suits you people that you quote.

Moreover, most Nigerian men are thrash and it has nothing to do with their wife's attitude.

It's either you need a brain reset or that tumor in your brain needs to be removed. How can a fellow lady like you enslave herself to some guy who has little or no regard for her..."..they never dated and married...", doesn't that even tell you there's something wrong with the lady in question, then she further ends up in a marriage subjecting herself to being treated like trash...listen, a man would take advantage of you only if he finds the opportunity to do so especially if you've got low self-esteem issues. The next time you want to hit someone with a post, look at my moniker clearly and avoid it because I will hit you harder and FYI, I don't suffer fools gladly, especially feminists like you.

IamD18:
The loyalty of an average Nigerian wife depends on the financial state of her husband.

If a poor husband request for that, the wife will nag and end up insulting him.

But if a rich husband comes back late by 2:00am and request for that. The wife will bow 3 times before him, rush to the kitchen, prepare the rice immediately, serve him, bow 3 times again before him and say "Igweeeeeeeeeee!"

She will even be giving him bl0wjob as he's eating the food just to please him.

This guy don crase finally

No biggy , I was brought up in a home where eating late isn't an issue, most times we wait for our Father to return before we eat, we don't see it as anything, just that we have this strong family bond, no one leaves the other and eat. Couple with Lagos traffic most times , marriage is based on understanding, personally i won't be able to sleep if someone with me isn't satisfied or complains of hunger. Rice doesn't take anything , my dad comes back with fresh corn at night and we will have to boil it, funny enough even those sleeping will rise to munch on the corn.

i will quickly prepare it for him...afterall i am his wife...anything for my hubby o

truthsayer009:
You've been dodging my question ba? You will be at home breast feeding your babies & you'll now be giving me hope here. Not fair.

What question-?

crestedaguiyi:
my wife will, she might murmur and try to convince me to eat the eba but will ensure i eat before going to bed.

its all a function of how you treat each other.

she has woken me at 12.35 am to take her to the club that she is not feeling the vibe in the house.

i did but that was after 30mins of complaining sha

My type of woman

He just came back from work and,, I will cook rice for him.. imagine the whole Ajah traffic

Ishilove:
She has complex and insecurity issues.

She does and the man knows, hence he does more.

Nawa for this ladies generation.

it's not a big deal at all. if she can wake at midnight and ask for sex, that shouldn't be a big deal.
moreover y'all both sign for better for worse.

If he keeps doing it. sit him down and talk it out.
The moments y'all allow rudeness into the y'all life, the love will fade off

Yoighaman:
There is a problem with the woman, check very well, many women of today are not that submissive to their spouses to the extent of taking BS, something is wrong with her which the guy knows and capitalizes on...could be her looks, level of education, self-esteem, family background, etc...just check, something is wrong somewhere.

Her problem is that she is too Christian. Altho, i keep telling that that is not is not Christianity.

She was a virgin at 30+ yrs when she married that man. That man is the only man she has ever known. The man treats her like shit, yet she cries and begs for him not to leave her.

Some yrs ago, he brought a girlfriend's picture to the house, she saw and took it and bid, was too scarred to confront him, when he asked, she denied taking it. When he discovered she indeed took it, he got angry left the house claiming the woman dared him. He moved in with the girlfriend for more than a yr. She kept crying and begging for him to come home.

Him and the said girl, fell out, she arrested him. She was called. She ran around for his bail. That very day, was her younger sister's traditional marriage, she didn't participate, all to bail the man.

He came back home and continued with his nonsense till date.

Who says ibo women are arrogant?

Indelible sister franca my young children indeed separate the horn of a monkey.

Ishilove:
What question-?

The fact that you are asking me "What question" already answered my question. Well, thanks for your time on NL. It was nice knowing you. Bye

NuhRegular:
Depends on a few things..
If that's his usual return time from work
If he has been an amazing husband to me and has never given me any reason to doubt him
If there's actually rice to boil.. Then no problem.. Other than that? Eat your eba and go and sleep

rukoyah42:
I'll let him understand that it can't be possible,atleast he should have called me.

Noted

Eba @12 midnight