ikhileomotayo:


I was just being sarcastic. Of course I know what body count means.

And I was right in my assertion that if they follow your advise of giving up after just 1 year and moving on to another it increases their bodycounts

But coming to think of it, don't you think it will sink in if it was a married man giving this advise Toks Baba

Much respect bro

Toks2008:


No need playing smart. Nobody knows it all.

The advise will not increase the body count if premarital sex is avoided.

It's not rocket science. A lady waits till she feels she is ready for marriage then she tries out a relationship and ofcourse asexual one then if after one year the guy is not even discussing the possibility of settling down with her, she simply moves on.

It sounds very foolish but it will save her a lot.

As for your last line...i prefer to keep mum over that cos whether im single or married,it adds or removes nothing from you so just face front.

ikhileomotayo:


Your last sentence Nice one

But you and I know the percentage of Nigerian guys that will stay in a relationship for a whole year without sex is very low.

Anyway have a goodnight bruv

LaCruzz:
lol @dump him, as if the guy na trash, you think it's easy to let go of someone you deeply love?Okay about the premarital sex, you're right, but dumping a guy because he refused to say anything about marriage doesn't make sense to me sha, what if he's trying to know you more?you think it's easy to plan the future with someone you hardly know, even people that has been dating over 3yrs are not planning to get married talkless of 1yr,a lady must be patient with her man instead of rushing him, apart from trying to know her better... What if the guy is not financially stable, even mentally too, you think marriage would be the first thing on his mind, na marriage go put food on his table?Marriage is not for kids, it's for people who are ready in every aspect,, So dumping a guy does not make any sense to me, patience is golden

LaCruzz:
lol @dump him, as if the guy na trash, you think it's easy to let go of someone you deeply love?Okay about the premarital sex, you're right, but dumping a guy because he refused to say anything about marriage doesn't make sense to me sha, what if he's trying to know you more?you think it's easy to plan the future with someone you hardly know, even people that has been dating over 3yrs are not planning to get married talkless of 1yr,a lady must be patient with her man instead of rushing him, apart from trying to know her better... What if the guy is not financially stable, even mentally too, you think marriage would be the first thing on his mind, na marriage go put food on his table?Marriage is not for kids, it's for people who are ready in every aspect,, So dumping a guy does not make any sense to me, patience is golden

Toks2008:


Jesu..which aspect is hard for you to grasp? Discussing marriage may not be outright proposal but at least he is making his interest known to you.

A year is too much for a real man who knows what he wants to know if he wants you as a wife except you are dating a boy.

LaCruzz:
lol @dump him, as if the guy na trash, you think it's easy to let go of someone you deeply love?Okay about the premarital sex, you're right, but dumping a guy because he refused to say anything about marriage doesn't make sense to me sha, what if he's trying to know you more?you think it's easy to plan the future with someone you hardly know, even people that has been dating over 3yrs are not planning to get married talkless of 1yr,a lady must be patient with her man instead of rushing him, apart from trying to know her better... What if the guy is not financially stable, even mentally too, you think marriage would be the first thing on his mind, na marriage go put food on his table?Marriage is not for kids, it's for people who are ready in every aspect,, So dumping a guy does not make any sense to me, patience is golden

izzou:


I pity the single lady that will take your advice

She'll end up dating 7 guys in 7 years without anything to show for it.

Let people define their relationships. The important thing is to live happily ever after. That's what matters most

Toks2008:


Which water are you testing? This indomie generation wont kee me with laughter. Biko explain..

I know this advise will not make sense to some ladies who just want to fool themselves playing their lives away with randy guys in the name of dating. The advise will make sense to ladies who understands the idea of sexual decency,it will also make sense to some virgins but not to some group of ladies who are deep into sexual recklessness.

trust me sis,its easy to dump a guy who have not had s.x with you but will be extremely difficult to leave a guy who have had his way with you countless times so i understand you.

Toks2008:


The more reason why the advise is bae.A guy who truly wants a lady will stay even beyond a year and will practically make efforts to have her for keeps.

funmisticqueen:
That patience will.cost you your youth.

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Toks2008:


Jesu..which aspect is hard for you to grasp? Discussing marriage may not be outright proposal but at least he is making his interest known to you.

A year is too much for a real man who knows what he wants to know if he wants you as a wife except you are dating a boy.

Toks2008:
Lalasticla1.a i guess this makes sense.

kimbraa:
You failed to realise that in a bid to sound morally upright, you ended up entangling yourself in the web of immorality you were kicking against. Will dumping men after a year get them married? Is it easy to go from one man to the other in a no sex relationship? Try to be realistic. How do you do no-sex, claim to love the man and in no time, you're dumping him for another?

Someone gave me this your advice when I broke up with my ex; my bf came around, been 2yrs now, he's a good guy; hard working, focused, principled, supports my dream, inspires me, but I know we're not ready for marriage. Save the morality message, I'll gladly give him myself and wait than any other man that comes for marriage. Should I now dump him because Toks thinks I'm wasting my time? Heck no! I'm happy where I am.

LaCruzz:
Did you read the first thing you said at all Besides, are you married??

Colourich:
Ladies sometimes you need to ask your boyfriends Matthew chapter 11:3, I quote" are you the one or should we expect another "

Princealex1:
If you throw a stone over a fence and a dog yelps, know you stoned a dog

Toks2008:


This is very deep.

Toks2008:
Date only when you are ready for marriage,abstain from premarital sex and if you date a guy for a year and he is not discussing marriage with you...LEAVE HIM.

To a great extent,this is a good way to avoid guys who are just out to damage you.

Wuraola01:



I like you already

This is a good one, BTW. Especially the first statement
As for d second one, guys can be so wicked.
Imagine dating a girl for 3-5years with no intention of marrying her! That's bad

Eberechi24:
Very much on point. Many guys will not be in relationship if sex is not into play

I keep friends now. Friendship over relationship.

Toks2008:
Date only when you are ready for marriage,abstain from premarital sex and if you date a guy for a year and he is not discussing marriage with you...LEAVE HIM.

To a great extent,this is a good way for wise unmarried young ladies to avoid guys who are just out to damage them.