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Re: My Life Is At Stake by MetroBaba1(m): 11:12am On Dec 07, 2018
Respect55:

Where do u reside. Just get her to let go. I don't like violence

I reside in Port Harcourt.

PM me.
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Nobody: 11:14am On Dec 07, 2018
Respect55:


What do I stand to gain by holding some things back?
I have been careful from the beginning. I haven't promised her marriage neither have I borrowed anything from her. Not even sex
I don’t know and I apologize if I was a bit confrontational in the beginning I’m trying to understand the psychological reason behind the change. People change for many reasons emotional one of them. Peer influence You said the mother was the one that said she had the money did money ever come up in your relationship and is there a new woman to perhaps inspire the beast in her?

I pray God keeps you safe
Re: My Life Is At Stake by linearity: 11:32am On Dec 07, 2018
Respect55:

Would have reported to the church but we will be punished for courting without the church board 's notice.
I think her mum is even part of this so reporting to her is even out of the equation now.
I don't trust the police.
I'm thinking of leaving

You said your life is in danger from someone threatening to do you harm, but afraid to report her to the church for fear of punishment from the church?

And you don’t trust the Police to even petition them?

Bros, you neva serious.

The only to be safe is to document her threats, take pictures of her stalking you and expose her.

Petition the church and including lots of evidence, copy her on that petition.

Petition the local police, copy the police at the state level, also copy her.

Expose her on Facebook and warn her to desist from you.

She wants to control you and you can’t be careful enough to persuade her otherwise, so you must go full throttle against her or pack your baggage and leave PH.
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Respect55(m): 12:01pm On Dec 07, 2018
mhizbel:

I agree with you to an extent... But did you involve prayers? It's part of the background check.
I didn't
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Respect55(m): 12:04pm On Dec 07, 2018
solasoulmusic:
I don’t know and I apologize if I was a bit confrontational in the beginning I’m trying to understand the psychological reason behind the change. People change for many reasons emotional one of them. Peer influence You said the mother was the one that said she had the money did money ever come up in your relationship and is there a new woman to perhaps inspire the beast in her?

I pray God keeps you safe
My last conversation with the mum was that I 'should do the right thing' (in her words). We lost conversation after that meeting. We only greet in church
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Respect55(m): 12:07pm On Dec 07, 2018
linearity:


You said your life is in danger from someone threatening to do you harm, but afraid to report her to the church for fear of punishment from the church?

And you don’t trust the Police to even petition them?

Bros, you neva serious.

The only to be safe is to document her threats, take pictures of her stalking you and expose her.

Petition the church and including lots of evidence, copy her on that petition.

Petition the local police, copy the police at the state level, also copy her.

Expose her on Facebook and warn her to desist from you.

She wants to control you and you can’t be careful enough to persuade her otherwise, so you must go full throttle against her or pack your baggage and leave PH.
All these things listed here will just cripple my little efforts here. It's not enough to make an entry BUT DO U HAVE MONEY to follow it up.
Maybe I will have to go to church
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Nobody: 12:09pm On Dec 07, 2018
Respect55:

My last conversation with the mum was that I 'should do the right thing' (in her words). We lost conversation after that meeting. We only greet in church
Thank you for shedding light without insult it’s hard to find a man on here who is mature enough to stick to the point. So do the right thing as per ? Marraige ? Is she pregnant and I’m so sorry but also how long have you known each other it’s possible your a victim of a desperate mother and bride but the whole threatening and stuff sounds more serious .. also what’s her mums role? How did you meet her ...did you request for it ....is she the one putting the pressure and please can you be specific

Call the name of Jesus sha if you still dey stubborn
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Nobody: 12:54pm On Dec 07, 2018
Respect55 I'll advise you to hookup with solasoulmusic, I think she's the right person for you.
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Nobody: 1:34pm On Dec 07, 2018
androidroot:
Respect55 I'll advise you to hookup with solasoulmusic, I think she's the right person for you.
just trying to understand the situation o
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Nobody: 1:44pm On Dec 07, 2018
solasoulmusic:
just trying to understand the situation o
Send him a PM to know more about the real situation
Re: My Life Is At Stake by linearity: 2:02pm On Dec 07, 2018
Respect55:

All these things listed here will just cripple my little efforts here. It's not enough to make an entry BUT DO U HAVE MONEY to follow it up.
Maybe I will have to go to church

I believe the lady is a coward, she is just try to intimidate you to see how you react. And, she will continue to push, if you let her.

You do owe her anything. It does not cost a penny to write a complain and send it to the Police...sorry except to buy money to buy a pen and paper.

When write to the Police, company their boss at the state level and make that fact known to them. You are a Nigerian citizen and have the right to complain to the Police if your life is in danger. They may demand money from you, don’t give them if you don’t have, copying the State level will put them on notice if they don’t act.

Also copy this lady, when you write the Police, let them know that, if anything happens to you, they should hold the lady and her mother responsible.

Once the lady and her mother knows that, the Police, your church and all have known that, they will be the first people to be interrogated by the Police if anything happens to you, they will not only back off, they will start praying for your safety, because they know their peace depend on it.

Make such you document and include all their threats in your complain. You can’t just seat back and allow someone else to control your life like that.
Re: My Life Is At Stake by linearity: 2:02pm On Dec 07, 2018
linearity:


I believe the lady is a coward, she is just try to intimidate you to see how you react. And, she will continue to push, if you let her.

You don’t owe her anything, to marry no bi by force. It does not cost a penny to write a complain and send it to the Police...sorry except to buy money to buy a pen and paper.

When write to the Police, company their boss at the state level and make that fact known to them. You are a Nigerian citizen and have the right to complain to the Police if your life is in danger. They may demand money from you, don’t give them if you don’t have, copying the State level will put them on notice if they don’t act.

Also copy this lady, when you write the Police, let them know that, if anything happens to you, they should hold the lady and her mother responsible.

Once the lady and her mother knows that, the Police, your church and all have known that, they will be the first people to be interrogated by the Police if anything happens to you, they will not only back off, they will start praying for your safety, because they know their peace depend on it.

Make such you document and include all their threats in your complain. You can’t just seat back and allow someone else to control your life like that.
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Respect55(m): 2:47pm On Dec 07, 2018
solasoulmusic:
Thank you for shedding light without insult it’s hard to find a man on here who is mature enough to stick to the point. So do the right thing as per ? Marraige ? Is she pregnant and I’m so sorry but also how long have you known each other it’s possible your a victim of a desperate mother and bride but the whole threatening and stuff sounds more serious .. also what’s her mums role? How did you meet her ...did you request for it ....is she the one putting the pressure and please can you be specific

Call the name of Jesus sha if you still dey stubborn

Yes, they want marriage. I know I will marry but this si so prompt. We lasted for just 10 months . Actually, we got talking through the youth's whatsapp group. We went private and sincerely, I asked her out. Yes I did. They just want instant marriage, engagement, assurance. That's just what broke us.
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Respect55(m): 2:47pm On Dec 07, 2018
androidroot:
Respect55 I'll advise you to hookup with solasoulmusic, I think she's the right person for you.
That's just all u can say?
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Respect55(m): 2:51pm On Dec 07, 2018
linearity:


I believe the lady is a coward, she is just try to intimidate you to see how you react. And, she will continue to push, if you let her.

You do owe her anything. It does not cost a penny to write a complain and send it to the Police...sorry except to buy money to buy a pen and paper.

When write to the Police, company their boss at the state level and make that fact known to them. You are a Nigerian citizen and have the right to complain to the Police if your life is in danger. They may demand money from you, don’t give them if you don’t have, copying the State level will put them on notice if they don’t act.

Also copy this lady, when you write the Police, let them know that, if anything happens to you, they should hold the lady and her mother responsible.

Once the lady and her mother knows that, the Police, your church and all have known that, they will be the first people to be interrogated by the Police if anything happens to you, they will not only back off, they will start praying for your safety, because they know their peace depend on it.

Make such you document and include all their threats in your complain. You can’t just seat back and allow someone else to control your life like that.
I still doubt I will win. Her dad is mostly in and out of the country. He doesn't know all these. Wish I could talk to him for peaceful resolution. I don't trust the police since i don't measure up to their financial status
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Respect55(m): 2:52pm On Dec 07, 2018
solasoulmusic:
just trying to understand the situation o
Don't get talked into his hands like that
Re: My Life Is At Stake by CyberWolf: 3:02pm On Dec 07, 2018
I think the OP is just a troll, he is not serious at all.
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Nobody: 3:25pm On Dec 07, 2018
Respect55:

Yes, they want marriage. I know I will marry but this si so prompt. We lasted for just 10 months . Actually, we got talking through the youth's whatsapp group. We went private and sincerely, I asked her out. Yes I did. They just want instant marriage, engagement, assurance. That's just what broke us.
make it clear no need for threats that’s why it’s the courting phase it’s not set in stone God protect you it’s one thing to want a marraige we all do but to make it work it takes bravery run my brother into the arms of someone who won’t see you without and not want to give
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Nobody: 3:26pm On Dec 07, 2018
Respect55:

Don't get talked into his hands like that
thanks
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Nobody: 3:27pm On Dec 07, 2018
androidroot:
Send him a PM to know more about the real situation
I wanted whatever I say to be in the open
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Nobody: 4:30pm On Dec 07, 2018
Respect55:

That's just all u can say?
Who knows what God has for you (Solasoulmusic)
Re: My Life Is At Stake by HarunaWest(m): 5:00pm On Dec 07, 2018
Respect55:
Hello friends. Please I'm in a deep problem. I won't like to bore u with unnecessary details, so I will keep it short.

I came to the city of Portharcourt on a permanent basis roughly two years ago after service to look for job. Along the line, I met this cool, calm, gentle lady in the church. Things were going well but I noticed one attitude of hers along the line. She would abuse and threaten me at every misunderstanding. She is from this city.

Along the line, her mum insisted that I should get wine and make my intention towards her daughter clear and official and I shouldn't worry after that. They are very very well-to-do.

I told her that I'm not yet established here and needs to get my life together to start planning for marriage but she and her daughter were not in for that.

We broke off. The daughter has been on my neck since. She is threatening my life that I should leave portharcourt or she shouldn't be blamed for whatever becomes of me thereafter.

Moreover, I haven't taken anything from her - financially or even lovemaking. I haven't touched her. I took this as a joke till she stared frustrating all my efforts to secure job or even start a little business I'm doing now.

She traced me to my business place today and warned again. As if that was not enough, she sent me a deadly text this night that removed sleep from my eyes.

She has even dared me to involve the police and find out she is from this city.

Please, I need a helping hand. Help!
From my observations,she has realized that your a weakling. and you must have told her that your scared of PH city in one of your interactions.She knows your weakness, and she's using it to scare that Sh#t out of you. Nevertheless, don't have in. Report her to the cops as well as her mum. Find DSS office in PH, and report her as well trust me...Na she go come beg you.

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Re: My Life Is At Stake by Nobody: 5:04pm On Dec 07, 2018
androidroot:
Who knows what God has for you (Solasoulmusic)
android grin

So automatically when you try to provide solutions on here you must be interested in the person ?
Re: My Life Is At Stake by jaymichael(m): 5:24pm On Dec 07, 2018
Respect55:

Would have reported to the church but we will be punished for courting without the church board 's notice.
I think her mum is even part of this so reporting to her is even out of the equation now.
I don't trust the police.
I'm thinking of leaving
The first thing you meed to leave is the so called church. That is a freaking cult. which kind of "church" requires their approval to court, date or marry someone of your church. Marriage issue is customary and I haven't seen any biblical basis why the church should even get involved in the first place.

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Re: My Life Is At Stake by Oyindidi(f): 6:01pm On Dec 07, 2018
Respect55:

On a serious note?
How do I get to meet u please
Where in ph are you?
Re: My Life Is At Stake by Nobody: 6:30pm On Dec 07, 2018
Respect55:

Would have reported to the church but we will be punished for courting without the church board 's notice.
I think her mum is even part of this so reporting to her is even out of the equation now.
I don't trust the police.
I'm thinking of leaving
Punishment ke? What Nonsense is that? U Dont trust d police abi? When matter red, na d same police to investigate d case. Just find Ur way to station now

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Re: My Life Is At Stake by Homeboiy: 7:10pm On Dec 07, 2018
Oga your a weakling

Threaten her back



Men no fit threaten me e come be woman

Bear your cross
Re: My Life Is At Stake by eaddyboy: 7:26pm On Dec 07, 2018
Report the whole stuff to the necessary authorities and show exhibits of her threat as well ..Your Life is of Paramount importance bro, don't joke with it. Goodluck
Re: My Life Is At Stake by okoroemeka(m): 7:36pm On Dec 07, 2018
this is trouble,do not wait to find out what a scorned woman can do because u will find out the hard way,go and make peace with the lady and fvck her very well and your safety is assured,if u can't do that pls pack away to were she will not know and see u,do not ever ask what a love jilted lady can do,use your sixth sense and make peace temporarily while looking for an escape route.

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Re: My Life Is At Stake by Nobody: 8:41pm On Dec 07, 2018
solasoulmusic:
android grin

So automatically when you try to provide solutions on here you must be interested in the person ?
Sorry about the whole drama, I was just trolling; maybe I'm depressed.

Still something might work out, who knows?
Re: My Life Is At Stake by samuelchimmy(m): 8:59pm On Dec 07, 2018
I didn't read any comments ,I'm just here to tell you ,to wake up my friend,what kind of slumber is the devil allowing you to wallow in... .... God I feel like slapping you right now,how can you live in a city for 2years and still be afraid of the city itself,by now you should have blended neatly and have nothing to be afraid of...... What nonsense how can you allow a girl to threaten you like that...... As wise man ,you should know what's giving her mind and uproot that stuff sharply.... Physically or intellectually...... Meet some strong men both legit and "ilegit" .....


Pls don't tell me I don't know anything about pH , cos I worked there for 3 rugged months in which I could have died many times ,but I didn't,......

My advice. If a girl chicken you out,chicken her out back.... Shikina

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Re: My Life Is At Stake by Nobody: 9:02pm On Dec 07, 2018
Learnstuffs:
Keep records of her threats. They will be invaluable for investigations. A signed undertaking and restraining order will be issued if you follow up the case with proofs of evidence.

For now be careful with her so that justice will not be served post mortem

like she can't send someone to make do her threat change ur no change ur address infact leave the port for her for some times biko

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