Miravik900:
Hello My Nl family I will be brief want you guys thought on this.

So have been dating this girl for 7 months now we have had our ups and downs but the relationship is quite fantastic...

So this is the issue I'm a guy that has anger issues and when I'm angry I become very abusive like calling her a b*tch a hoe and a whole lot..

She is a good gal met her a virgin and she hasn't given me any reason not to trust her and I just can't control myself from calling her ugly names when angry...

I never knew this was hurting her so deeply when I called her names since January this year she has been harboring a lot in her heart a lot of things that I have said.

We had an argument three weeks ago and I called her a prostitue since then the relationship has never been the same we hardly talk and just today she called me that she wanted a break and time to heal also told me how she has come to hate me since January and regret dating me, that she doesn't know how long it will take her but we need to take a break from the relationship.

I acknowledge have been at fault most times tho but I don't just know if have lost her? Or she will come back.
What do you guys think?

UnusualEmissary:
Ehn, should she continue taking your insults or what?

Besides, your concern seems to be focused on something secondary.

You should focus on the the primary factor which is YOURSELF.

When you change your silly attitude, then you guys are less likely to have issues.

It's that simple, isn't it?

Yugoslavia247:

You no get brain.

How you go call a gal you took her virginity a prostitute.

You also make her regret losing her virginity to you.
You make her a fool.

And you equate her to street olosho.

Why because you had your way.

You no get sense once again.

Gal wey you suppose dey pet. They even dey respect say you met her pure.

Now you have damaged her mental health. She would feel used.

Now she will see the sex on the day you deflowered her as a mistake.
She will live regretting it.

From all I see you lack home training and a spoilt brat whose mouth was not tamed from childhood.

anthonyuncle:
you are immature.

you have no respect.

she will definitely leave you.

Miravik900:


Yeah I'm trying to kill that aspect of me but I just wanna know if she will come back?

Yugoslavia247:


You don't want to change.
You can never change.

Better leave that gal.

Mumu

virginprincess:
Nairaland men has finally brainwashed you with their nasty comments about women,imagine calling a girl you deflowered a hoe ,you better let her go so you don't destroy her mental health with your abusive words,go and look a real prostitue to date so that when you call her one she won't see it as an insult since she is already one.

Miravik900:


I'm changing Nl too is also making me have insecurities the way they bash the female changer here this had made me stereotype all ladies but I'm trying to change

Yugoslavia247:


Now it is nairaland fault.

You don't know the color of your problem.

Better leave the gal.

We bash so called feminist broke shaming guys.

Does your gf broke shame you.

Miravik900:


I'm changing Nl too is also making me have insecurities the way they bash the female changer here this had made me stereotype all ladies but I'm trying to change

Miravik900:


When I hadn't discovered Nairaland I wasn't like this to be sincere

Miravik900:


Maybe I should just stay off Nairaland cuz with all these redpill stuff I now find it hard to trust the female gender I can't leave her she is everything to me right now

Miravik900:


Deep down I'm very sorry for all those words I said but I don't wanna lose her

Miravik900:


Yeah I'm trying to kill that aspect of me but I just wanna know if she will come back?

Persephone1:
Kill with what? Snipper or gun?

You are suppressing a trait instead of dealing with it and being totally freed of it. Kindly book an anger management class, search online for help, you can do online therapist if physical ones are expensive. You really need to work on attacking people verbally. Let that be your focus. When you have this in place, your lady will know you are not only sorry but you also want to be a better person. Then she can consider you.

virginprincess:
My brother don't let this men deceive you,most of them droping this comments not in any serious relationship,so don't let them destroy yours,you better give them space,they are joykillers and home breakers.

Starz825:


you are getting it wrongly....

redpill doesn't mean you treat a lady badly....

redpill is just there to make you stay alert...against people's manipulation....(ladies in particular)...

redpill isn't about being disrespectful towards your woman....do your good part but you won't take shit from them...staying on your toes is what redpill is all about....

redpill even teaches that when you are angry ...don't say a word. just wall away ....makes you the real man you are....

redpill no be to dey bash woman with derogatory words......people do that here cos they feel thats the only way to react online...no dey follow people comment like that....most are not like that in the real life..

your own maturity will help you balance things up

Miravik900:
Hello My Nl family I will be brief want you guys thought on this.

So have been dating this girl for 7 months now we have had our ups and downs but the relationship is quite fantastic...

So this is the issue I'm a guy that has anger issues and when I'm angry I become very abusive like calling her a b*tch a hoe and a whole lot..

She is a good gal met her a virgin and she hasn't given me any reason not to trust her and I just can't control myself from calling her ugly names when angry...

I never knew this was hurting her so deeply when I called her names since January this year she has been harboring a lot in her heart a lot of things that I have said.

We had an argument three weeks ago and I called her a prostitue since then the relationship has never been the same we hardly talk and just today she called me that she wanted a break and time to heal also told me how she has come to hate me since January and regret dating me, that she doesn't know how long it will take her but we need to take a break from the relationship.

I acknowledge have been at fault most times tho but I don't just know if have lost her? Or she will come back.
What do you guys think?

Yugoslavia247:

You no get brain.

How you go call a gal you took her virginity a prostitute.

You also make her regret losing her virginity to you.
You make her a fool.

And you equate her to street olosho.

Why because you had your way.

You no get sense once again.

Gal wey you suppose dey pet. They even dey respect say you met her pure.

Now you have damaged her mental health. She would feel used.

Now she will see the sex on the day you deflowered her as a mistake.
She will live regretting it.

From all I see you lack home training and a spoilt brat whose mouth was not tamed from childhood.

Miravik900:


I will work on my self thank you but do you think she will come back?

Demigod22:
A healthy society would have put up a plan to assess or check this OP and some other people in relationship, if they are mentally healthy for relationship.

Some people are mentally illed, emotional wreck, psychopathic and damaged. They are going about distorting people's emotional and psychological health in the name of relationship.

My girlfriend of one month was telling me the other day, that I don't monitor her phone, I don't ask to read her chats, or her password. She said I am not angry when she say no to sex, I don't force her to have sex with me, I don't boss her around.

The annoying thing is that she want me to be jealous, force her to do things against her will,beat her. I have been thinking about the maniac she dated that damaged her mindset. Guys like OP.

Octopusssy:

Young man, words are like knives; when used carelessly can cause a lot of damage. When anger leaves, the consequences and hurt still remain. You are verbally abusive and toxic and there is so much hurt a person can take before they break.

You have wounded your girl with your bad words and it may never heal. Resentment has taken the place of love.

Someone has explained the meaning of red pill and I agree. My partner is a very tough redpiller, but he treats me with the utmost love and respect. In your next relationship, kindly apply the principles of the redpill the right way