...for me,i dont even see much issue with the date instead its with the gal and her family. you are marrying a gal because of her class. my guy. class means nothing without submition. arguements and disobedience from her will surely ruin the marriage. again family interferance will destroy the union.

i also met a working class lady who behaves exactly d same way. the money from the work makes them never to be able to completely bend for a man. LEAVE HER ALONE. only AGE will humble her. i did his advice i gave you. now av go a beer person who is humble and sill working and even younger.

your going straight the road of divorce if you marry her

Do the native law in February and the church/Nikkai in April and everybody is pleased

How old is supposed wife to be?

Mankosi:
How old is supposed wife to be?

30

U never start marriage the girl don dey give instructions, wetin go happen when una finally marry? Guy I dey pity u in advance. Sorry

Dogalmighty17:


30

she's in a hurry. Maybe she have another person on standby and want to know whether u are ready or not before she decide whether to give the other person a greenlight OR maybe she want to indirectly put pressure on u to hasten up. Nevertheless whatever it is, don't go into marriage this way because she will like to keep imposing her ideas and decisions on u and if u object then it may be a problem for both of u.

very frausting
http://www.jambwaecnecouni.com/what-to-do-when-conflict-arises-in-your-relationship/

If am your woman, I will feel this way. It's not about being desperate. Why did you propose when you know you ain't ready. It seems you are using marriage proposal as bait to keep her.

Just sort your issue with your mommy. Show some seriousness, you might keep postponing till the end of next year.

Forget those men that want you to quit your relationship, they are miserable.

Eberechi24:
If am your woman, I will feel this way. It's not about being desperate. Why did you propose when you know you ain't ready. It seems you are using marriage proposal as bait to keep her.

Just sort your issue with your mommy. Show some seriousness, you might keep postponing till the end of next year.

Forget those men that want you to quit your relationship, they are miserable.

Thank you.

Emotionally u r going to suffer if or when u marry that lady.... So many signs trying to tell u not to go ahead with the marriage...

All these mummy's boys.

Dogalmighty17:


I and my fiancee are sponsoring it ourselves. My mom is not contributing a kobo.

your mom threatening you on that issue has to do with something u are not telling us, your wife to be and her family in the other hand acted so imature, unless if there are other reasons which u didnt tell us. please brother pray and ask God for the best to do plus dont let people control ur life too much u may regret not going by what u believe or want. Good luck may GOD help u on this.

Op you have to ask yourself this hard question, what do I want? Is this the girl for me or there is someone better? If you have problem with her not submitting, I am afraid it would get worse but if there are other good characteristics and you can able to manage then go ahead. As for your mum, yes it is good to honour and obey but you are a man, you need to take your destiny in your hands. It is only a woman that can be told what to do not and she would gladly dance to it not you a man but before then you have to get your respect back from your inlaws.

You are so soft.

ftp baby

Where is the love?!

Mira200:
You are so soft.

Just too soft!

You people should cancel the wedding until further notice if your mom doesn't agree with the date. Marriage is deeper than what you think. Safe your head now!

Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.

Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.

I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.

My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.

My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not

This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?

I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands.

N my mama dey beg me make I marry upandan... Even if na 2moro she go gree

OP..are u a man or not?? U begged ur gf(even with her disrespect)..begged her mum..begged ur mum..begged n begged....why not beg me...since all u do is beg...

Take charge as a man...u sound weak as fuq!!! N these women know...they be playing u like chess mannn!

Eazie351:
The thing is, this ur PS3 has 2 controllers and i dnt knw whch pad to hold...
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BEHIND THE SCENES of those "beaming" pre-wedding pics.... I dey fear sef

the first pad is always okay..

lawman88:
you mean your mother threatebed to curse you just because she is not comfortable with the wedding date? please go with your woman. A CURSELESS CURSE SHALL NOT STAND....

Sure

Dogalmighty17:


Her family has been very accommodating. They have been open to see my mom. My mom however, keeps finding one excuse or another not to go.

Your mum doesn't like your girl. For your mum to even go as far as threatening to curse you tells it all.

Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.

Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.

I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.

My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.

My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not

This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?

I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands.

your mum is not prolly in support of your marriage to your woman, there's a reason she's dragging the whole thing, there must be something she's seeing.. I'd advice to tell your mum jokingly that you are parting way with that lady and see her reaction. Just becareful don't offend your mum, you might end up regretting all your life.. And now that the lady and her family are ready to go peacefully, don't waste her time. It might be the right time.

Bros, you have to think twice o, not after when you have settled down, you will start saying had I know, please pray about your marriage and seek guidance from your pastor, once your prayer has been answered then you can go ahead, the curse of your mum won't affect you, because you didn't offend her.

In all the submissions here seek Gods revelation in prayer and fasting.....both of you need to pray ....no human being is perfect

Your woman hardly submit.
Her mother didn't even mediate or find out if her daughter is overbearing but was indifferent about it ending.
Your mum, I can seduce does not love your wife that much. Why would she curse you over this small thing? I wonder how post wedding will be with these hot tempered mothers.

Just move on. That babe is not for you

Snowfancy:
your mom threatening you on that issue has to do with something u are not telling us, your wife to be and her family in the other hand acted so imature, unless if there are other reasons which u didnt tell us. please brother pray and ask God for the best to do plus dont let people control ur life too much u may regret not going by what u believe or want. Good luck may GOD help u on this.

I LL GO WITH THIS...PLS REMEMBER THAT IT'S TOO EARLY FOR ALL THIS DRAMA...

TAKE CHARGE

Bro am not married but trust me don't take my word to urself as insult but it's the truth,

1. How old are you? Because u seems soft I mean very soft when it comes to handing relationship or even interacting with a lady, dis lady and her family has gotten your MUMU keypad, and u will definitely not like it after getting married trust me, ,,,i grow up in the hard way in my family and this is exactly how it all began

2. Follow your heart, ,,does your girlfriend feel marriage is competition? Or u just hit lottery and she wants to show u off to her friends


3. Where u for meet d girl by d way ,because it seems to me u begged her a lot before she even accepted to date u meaning u were just an option


4. Na ur mama born u, na she kw your journey for 9 months and na she kw where she Waka go b4 she born u.....use ur head bro

5. She even reported you to her parents and the mother said u said her daughter doesn't have respect, ,,,,,,bro I can swear with my life that girl will never say anything good about u to her parents wen u eventually get married to her mark my word

prettyesther20:
And a man that listens to his family is ready to leave his family? U are too baised

God/Allah bless you dear... the guys are all shouting that the girl is obeying her family forgetting that the man is doing the same.
please both of you are practicing sane thing. it's not easy changing wedding dates, it looks embarrassing and childish. it's better you don't fix a date if you guys ain't ready nd before you fix a date, the two families ought to be there to deliberate on it.
you are the man, you know your woman and your family better than us, besides we just heard one side of the story.
nobody knows what the lady in question is also passing through. so please before we judge, let's put ourselves in the girls shoe. (it's better we don't fix a date rather than change it thrice and it's enough to end everything cos no one knows what will happen in April too)
please, I'm not here to judge anyone but this matter should be resolved between the two families...
nairaland just might not give you the perfect answer cos we dont know the situation.
the best advice you will ever get is the one you actually gave to yourself so please I'll advice you to do it the right way.
thanks

IamD18:
Low self-esteem is damn bad!

What nonesense! Will you die if you don't marry the lady?

If little issues like wedding date can make her family advice her to call off the relationship, what then will happen when a bigger issue shows up in your marriage.

Trust me Bruv, if they really want you. I mean, if the lady and her mother really respect and like you, WEDDING DATE will not be enough reason for her to think of calling off the relationship, it won't just be enough reason for the mother to tell you to leave her daughter alone.

The earlier you understand that no one is irreplaceable, the better for you.

In my opinion; Kindly part ways with her,Mr.


PART WAYS!!!!!

Atire oo! Na the girl dey feed you?

Do court wedding in Feb and the traditional one in april.

This kind of Bleep happens when the bride's family is richer than the groom to be family.
I purposely said no to the date my wife's family agreed to, so that they would know that am the sailor of my ship.....they grumbled and we ended the meeting without consensus....they called me after a week to tell me they have agreed to my date when they did not see my call. When am very certain that i wont go to them to beg for food and am not too old to find another woman if they refuse to concur.