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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by BabaIbo: 11:51pm On Dec 20, 2018
Having a bad wife is better than having a bad in-law...

Your mum loves you more than the way your fiancee and her family do.

Is this how your mom used to act prior to this situation?

Can you cope with your fiancee in the future when the problem arise (increase since the problem is there already).

No lady or guy is perfect, they all have weakness but what matters is covering up for each other and not using it against themselves.

If truly your woman is disrespectful, my brother think twice before going into a relationship that your mom is against(especially when you don't know why she is against it and again your woman and family are aware that your mom is against it), if you do, with time you will realize why she is against it.
What about your dad, what is his take on the issue?

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 11:51pm On Dec 20, 2018
KingKJ2014:
The woman I am dating currently doesn't submit. she fits into that description of being trying to be bossy because she has that independent spirit and she is 30.

A WOMAN'S AGE IS ALSO THE AGE OF HER CHARACTER.

HOW LONG DO YOU THINK YOU HAVE TO CHANGE HER?

my advice for you is "MAN UP", Show her that you are in charge here.

If she feel uncomfortable to summit to you, Let her go. else you are digging your own grave.

it is just a matter of time before you die of heart attack (God forbid)

See sense thumbs up

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by djon78: 11:51pm On Dec 20, 2018
Fate is trying to warn you, but you can't understand
You are soft, you are not assertive like a man
If I were you listen to your mum
Intact shift the wedding to August not even April
Let everything expose itself
Don't rush this
And you sound like a very young man
So take your time

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 11:56pm On Dec 20, 2018
BabaIbo:
Having a bad wife is better than having a bad in-law...

Your mum loves you more than the way your fiancee and her family do.

Is this how your mom used to act prior to this situation?

Can you cope with your fiancee in the future when the problem arise (increase since the problem is there already).

No lady or guy is perfect, they all have weakness but what matters is covering up for each other and not using it against themselves.

If truly your woman is disrespectful, my brother think twice before going into a relationship that your mom is against(especially when you don't know why she is against it and again your woman and family are aware that your mom is against it), if you do, with time you will realize why she is against it.
What about your dad, what is his take on the issue?


Bro I will support u and also go against u

Non of them is good bad wife / bad in law

And will now supports u ; there is something the mother is seeing dat the guy is not because lve done cloud e eye already, the mother can't walk to him and say don't marry dis girl, because do u kw why, e day back fire mostly when d son is very stubborn, he will foolishly go and tell d wife ( may b he don go hid marry her) say his mother said he shouldn't marry her that time, by then PART 2 wahala don start again, ,,,,,,,,you hardly see parents tell there children not to marry a particular person instead they will fight it to make sure the occasion does not hold

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by publicenemy(m): 11:56pm On Dec 20, 2018
Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.

Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.

I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.

My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.

My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not

This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?

I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands.

If she is so eager to quit the relationship I suggest you just let her go. You should never beg a woman to be with you, no matter what. Shift it to April and if she decides to throw away 3 Years of relationship with you then let her go otherwise you marriage will not last.

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 11:57pm On Dec 20, 2018
IamD18:
Low self-esteem is damn bad!

What nonesense! Will you die if you don't marry the lady?

If little issues like wedding date can make her family advice her to call off the relationship, what then will happen when a bigger issue shows up in your marriage.

Trust me Bruv, if they really want you. I mean, if the lady and her mother really respect and like you, WEDDING DATE will not be enough reason for her to think of calling off the relationship, it won't just be enough reason for the mother to tell you to leave her daughter alone.

The earlier you understand that no one is irreplaceable, the better for you.

In my opinion; Kindly part ways with her,Mr.


PART WAYS!!!!!

Best Advice of the year 2018
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by koyyes: 11:58pm On Dec 20, 2018
You caused this by dating for too long.

You must have said something to your mum about the girl that is making her drag her feet. If you really love this girl, why can't you convince your mum to accept the date?

You've been dating this girl for 3 good years and now, you find out she is not submissive. Must she have all the right qualities and yet, be a dundi united? You can't have it all so stop being difficult if not, the God that does not sleep will ensure you meet worst females.

If you have suddenly become allergic to miss independent and you are looking for the type that will be a robot for you, there a many of them but you must pay them heavily for playing that part otherwise, your home will forever be unstable.

Your choice.

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by madridsta007(m): 11:58pm On Dec 20, 2018
lawman88:
you mean your mother threatebed to curse you just because she is not comfortable with the wedding date? please go with your woman. A CURSELESS CURSE SHALL NOT STAND....

This advise will ruin you, Mr Man.

People, do not dishonour your parents because of a man or woman whom you have no spiritual attachment to. A boyfriend/girlfriend/fiancee/fiance is not a husband/wife. This is basic understanding.

Dont be foolish and let emotions be the decision-maker for you. Emotions are a terrible decision-making methodology.
Use logic and common sense.
There are millions of women out there that can easily replace her- do men ever understand this?

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by tola9jaa: 11:59pm On Dec 20, 2018
Dogalmighty17:


Her family has been very accommodating. They have been open to see my mom. My mom however, keeps finding one excuse or another not to go.

May be your mother didn't like her

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 11:59pm On Dec 20, 2018
publicenemy:


If she is so eager to quit the relationship I suggest you just let her go. You should never beg a woman to be with you, no matter what. Shift it to April and if she decides to throw away 3 Years of relationship with you then let her go otherwise you marriage will not last.

There is another guy in d picture already that's why the girl has d boldness to say she wan comot from d 3 year old relationship........op never smart for woman matter

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by youngdopeboy: 12:01am On Dec 21, 2018
Broh, why desperate they threaten you upandan and you comfortable with it you should control the whole thing not to be controlled!!! wait, I don't get it!!! you wanna choose her over your own mother you would have been the greatest fool of all time....... the should call it off nah.... is it your life that they are calling off mtchwww

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by U1(m): 12:02am On Dec 21, 2018
I don't think this can ever be an issue for me if God makes the kind of wedding I desire possible. No too much noise or too many people.

I am sure it's the entire ceremony that comes with a wedding that's responsible for particular interests in specific date.

Focus should be on what comes after the day. But people...

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by KingKJ2014: 12:03am On Dec 21, 2018
mogbojaiye:


There is another guy in d picture already that's why the girl has d boldness to say she wan comot from d 3 year old relationship........op never smart for woman matter

With Her Age, I seriously suspect there is guy somewhere.

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 12:03am On Dec 21, 2018
youngdopeboy:
Broh, why desperate they threaten you upandan and you comfortable with it you should control the whole thing not to be controlled!!! wait, I don't get it!!! you wanna choose her over your own mother you would have been the greatest fool of all time....... the should call it off nah.... is it your life that they are calling off mtchwww
I tire o
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by flyca: 12:04am On Dec 21, 2018
1. You dated a lady for 3 whole years, got engaged to her, now you have small problem with her and you are calling her “this girl”.

Something is wrong with your head angry

2. What exactly do you mean by lack of respect? undecided So you want a working class woman (obviously a family can't run fully with only your income), then you also want her to be prostrating to serve you beans and bread. And maybe answer you “sir”, abi?

You are out of your mind! angry
Shebi her mother told you to leave their daughter alone? Eh... Why did you go and beg? Why not marry a pre-mature woman that don't know her left from right? Someone that is not working?

I am almost compelled to curse you!
Gerrrrrrraaaahia mehn!

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by globatop: 12:04am On Dec 21, 2018
The lady might feel insecured with changed dates, take ur girl to Registry, take ur certificate, party can follow anytime.
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by asuustrike1: 12:04am On Dec 21, 2018
IamD18:
Low self-esteem is damn bad!

What nonesense! Will you die if you don't marry the lady?

If little issues like wedding date can make her family advice her to call off the relationship, what then will happen when a bigger issue shows up in your marriage.

Trust me Bruv, if they really want you. I mean, if the lady and her mother really respect and like you, WEDDING DATE will not be enough reason for her to think of calling off the relationship, it won't just be enough reason for the mother to tell you to leave her daughter alone.

The earlier you understand that no one is irreplaceable, the better for you.

In my opinion; Kindly part ways with her,Mr.


PART WAYS!!!!!
Have you thought of his mother'sI proposition?. His would be in laws are not taking him serious because of wedding date or do you think other suitors are not coming?
I see that the guy is not mature enough to make decision hence believing some fallacy of his mother cursing him for standing his ground. Na him dey marry,na him dey wear d shoe. So you expect him to stick to his mother's date because of one silly curse? Let him stand is ground. If his parent disapprove then he should approve the law court. Anybody can stand as a parent since this archaic parents of ours are bend of destroying people's joy. My friend got married years back without involving his parent

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by maj59(m): 12:05am On Dec 21, 2018
Eazie351:
The thing is, this ur PS3 has 2 controllers and i dnt knw whch pad to hold...
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BEHIND THE SCENES of those "beaming" pre-wedding pics.... I dey fear sef
funny
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 12:06am On Dec 21, 2018
Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.

Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.

I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.

My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.

My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not

This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?

I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands.

Shift the date to June not even April that your mum wants. Intentionally do that.

Stand like a man now and show that you are the decision maker.

If you don't start now ,you will never be able to make decisions she will honour in your marriage.

If she decides to leave. Let her go.

You may think you will never love any other like her but its a lie, Its because you have never tried loving another.

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 12:06am On Dec 21, 2018
KingKJ2014:


With Her Age, I seriously suspect there is guy somewhere.

There is already guy , ,,,but am not sure d op is aware, ,,,,d OP should just tell her he is no long interested in her because she don't keep their affair to her self, ,,,,,the OP will b surprised to see d girl wedding card to another guy b4 middle of Jan......he go surprise

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 12:09am On Dec 21, 2018
tamethem:


Shift the date to June not even April that your mum wants. Intentionally do that.

Stand like a man now and show that you are the decision maker.

If you don't start now ,you will never be able to make decisions she will honour in your marriage.

If she decides to leave. Let her go.

You may think you will never love any other like her but its a lie, Its because you have never tried loving another.

Am sure dis is the guys first love

I tell guys fall in love as much as u can make woman kw see u finish but they go say am a Christian.......while some go endure con die at 50 years out of frustration and terrible marriage way d wife don put am tru
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Emanodimo(m): 12:11am On Dec 21, 2018
Dogalmighty17:


Her family has been very accommodating. They have been open to see my mom. My mom however, keeps finding one excuse or another not to go.

From, what you have said your mother doesn't like her. Also, for your mum to think of cursing u tells she doesn't like ur gf , not bcuz of u. Ur mom suggested April, while ur gf suggested February tells that she doesn't like ur gf .

Ask you mum why she doesn't want you to get marry to her, she will pour her mind .

Ur gf choose to be unrealistic, what's her age that she feels like date changes can harm her achievement .

Go along with one of ur aunt to pay ur gf parent visit. Trust me, she will perceive what is wrong about her ur gf nature for disrespect. . .......

Then, u will understand why ur mom have been behaving like that .

Also , both of u should meet marriage counselor and pastor
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 12:12am On Dec 21, 2018
I was once in a relationship where my fiancee's parents were putting so much pressure on me to marry their daughter. They promised heaven and earth to make sure that everything go according to plan. I noticed their desperacy and an unusual discussions whenever I'm with them.

We both love each other to the extent that she had started working on how to go about change of name cheesy...but then my mom was strongly against it. At first, I refused to listen to her because I was scared of losing my beautiful angel and the fear of starting all of over again gave me a serious concern.

My mom informed everybody and they all join hands
that it is more safer for me to have a broken relationship than a failed marriage. Though it was very painful for me but I had to drop the relationship and let her go, months before our planned wedding dat. I just looked for an excuse to cover it up and let her see why marriage wasn't an option for me that time. She cried, cried and cried for several days but then it was better for us to be happy separately than being a the other way round.

Now, years after we are both happy in our respective ways.... please, becareful with your decision there might be a reason (that's beyond your understanding) why your mom doesn't want it to be done in February.

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by KingKJ2014: 12:12am On Dec 21, 2018
mogbojaiye:


There is already, ,,,but am not sure he is aware, ,,,,d OP should just tell her is no long interested in her because she don't keep their affair with her self, ,,,,,the OP will b surprised to see d gir wedding card to another guy b4 middle of Jan......he go surprise


The fact that she has the guts to call off the relationship and he has to beg. Baba is already playing a losing game.

His fear is "Where will I start from?", "What will people say?", "I cant get a woman like her again"

You better tell yourself the unpleasant truth than those comforting lies.

THERE IS ALWAYS A PATH IN THE DARKEST FOREST.

DONT SETTLE FOR MEDIOCRITY.

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Emvicprints1: 12:13am On Dec 21, 2018
Op I sorry for your life by the time you would have quarrel after marriage her mother would so torment your life you would want to kill your self. My brother just run run for your life
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by djon78: 12:14am On Dec 21, 2018
tamethem:


Shift the date to June not even April that your mum wants. Intentionally do that.

Stand like a man now and show that you are the decision maker.

If you don't start now ,you will never be able to make decisions she will honour in your marriage.

If she decides to leave. Let her go.

You may think you will never love any other like her but its a lie, Its because you have never tried loving another.



and most of the time the next one that comes will be 100x better. Happened to me. My babe then called off our relationship. It was painful, but the next woman that came around was 100x better in looks, character, love and respect for me.

Fate is warning that guy

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by flyca: 12:15am On Dec 21, 2018
Resener13:

You’re mad. Is she not this girl? A stupid one at that

I will let for enjoy your foolery because you are not the OP! May what has befallen him not befall you. Shebi he went to the girl's family to beg and cry before they accepted him back undecided
You refer to your woman as “this girl” and you are crying lack of disrespect. Wonderful!
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by IYANGBALI: 12:16am On Dec 21, 2018
Pls let me have the girl's number, we can still do our wedding this year
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nathan2016: 12:16am On Dec 21, 2018
What i followed here is that both families have childish pride.

Oga you and your woman should decide when you want the wedding base on your both of your convinence.
Wedding no b marriage o

Forget those people talking bullshit like marriage is bla bla bla both marriage.
Ask any of the families to bring money for ordinary decoration. Yo wil see run

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Lexusgs430: 12:17am On Dec 21, 2018
Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.

Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.

I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.

My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.

My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not

This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?

I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands.


My friend, it is not said that you must marry this girl..... Loads of red flags seen........ If you are already having issues with your inlaws now, not a good sign for the future..

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Nobody: 12:19am On Dec 21, 2018
KingKJ2014:


The fact that she has the guts to call off the relationship and he has to beg. Baba is already playing a losing game.

His fear is "Where will I start from?", "What will people say?", "I cant get a woman like her again"

You better tell yourself the unpleasant truth than those comforting lies.

THERE IS ALWAYS A PATH IN THE DARKEST FOREST.

DONT SETTLE FOR MEDIOCRITY.

No b lie bro
,such relationship after married it does not last, ,,,that was how a friend of my got fried up because he refused to accept reality, ,,,it was after marriage it became done on him that he married an unsubmissive lady as a wife, ,,,

She refuse to relocate with him because my mother said I should not go to that state with u, ,,,and dats d state d guy has all his investment worth millions of naira........dude got frustrated and had to back out,no divorce no separation just parted ways


I don't like a mummy's girls or a daddy's girl, ,,trust me they are thorns on d flesh

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