OilsPartsCars:


Gbam

Bro it's ovious go and read her comments and u might even think mayb she is related to the op girlfriend

This guy na serious Egbono...guy that babe doesn't love you she's only desperate to get married because of her age and i guess ur mum has already seen that. Trust me you will sure regret it if you dare go ahead to marry that girl she will so ride on you with her family support too. Think man,use your tongue count your teeth.

Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.

Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.

I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.

My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.

My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not

This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?

I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands.

mogbojaiye:



Yes madam I am already married, ,,,,,,but your advice totally stink for real, ,,,if u can give a thumbs up for a lady who isn't submissive then it totally shows a copy of who u are also in your home, ,,,i just shake my head for you, ,,,ur husband try sha

well if u shake ur head then I pity u for failing who raised u up and makes u think all human must thinks like u..they did a poor job.i also pity who could not send u to school to get exposure.I pity does who could not give u exposure to life for ur lying.
Finally I pity ur miserable yet to be wife and kids to have a pathetic broke, insultive man who will pass the Trend to d kids.unfortunatly making d country have some nuisance.

Donlexino:
Babe u smoke weed with that your eyes like that

Bros laugh wan kill me, ,,,,
No b lie oooo

Nobody knows what might happen April oo

mogbojaiye:



Yes madam I am already married, ,,,,,,but your advice totally stink for real, ,,,if u can give a thumbs up for a lady who isn't submissive then it totally shows a copy of who u are also in your home, ,,,i just shake my head for you, ,,,ur husband try sha

if my comment offend u.pls I would love to wake and see ur name under those who has committed sucide.troll my comment again.u did not buy me phone neither did I beg u to like my comment baby boy

Rosarie:
pls die of running stomach.talk rudely to me not my hubby.is a place of different mindsets.am good with insult if u say u lack upbringin.pls respect urself.u can say something without spitting thrash.i must not agree with u.

My friend, that man is enduring your bullshit. Your neighbors know it.

Your hubby is the real MVP for putting up with you.

Rubbish, see how she is yearning dust. No gumption. This is how you talk to him too right?

Resener13:

Big head. Continuewalking

You are the fly that wants to follow the corpse to the grave abi...leave her the hell alone!!!

OilsPartsCars:


My friend, that man is enduring your bullshit. Your neighbors know it.

Your hubby is the real MVP for putting up with you.

Rubbish

yes ND we rocking.keep rocking with our lives.plss get urs.

Dogalmighty17:


Her family has been very accommodating. They have been open to see my mom. My mom however, keeps finding one excuse or another not to go.

Don't call your mom a witch on this one. What an elder sees while sitting, you can't see any even when you're on Burj Khalifa.

By the way, where is your FATHER?

Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.

Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.

I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.

My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.

My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not

This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?

I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands.

Bros, if you marry this marriage the suffer wey you go see “till death do you part” still dey Somalia dey do press come jam you.
You must take charge of the relationship or else... your matter is a prayer point waiting to happen.
Let the relationship die... too many red flags:::::

Some of us knows that marriage ll not hold... We ve bn to the future..

Even ur mother ll be praying that financial help should not come cos she is seeing Wat u not seeing..

God's of ur fathers are about to save u from everlasting BP, extended family physicaland spiritual Interference and spouse wahala..

We that are married ve passed tru ds stage b4..

Some did intro and traditional yet ran for dear life, others did intro only but bail out... And they are all hapilly married now

U better follow ur mums derectives, she knew it's a trap and she wants more time so that ur eyes ll clear..

Probably u are jobless, underemployed or over aged hence being pitied,.. Hence U so desperate and she can sense it, abi no be why u demanding for respect.. if u in right position, women or ur in-laws ll respect u naturally

My bro.. Change town and time ll heal ur heart, forget about them

Rosarie:
well if u shake ur head then I pity u for failing who raised u up and makes u think all human must thinks like u..they did a poor job.i also pity who could not send u to school to get exposure.I pity does who could not give u exposure to life for ur lying.
Finally I pity ur miserable yet to be wife and kids to have a pathetic broke, insultive man who will pass the Trend to d kids.unfortunatly making d country have some nuisance.

I kw you hard a rough day, and u are just searching for whom to exchange insult with but I don't have time for ladies who easily cross their boundaries

What's a married lady of how many years of marriage did u say u again? Doing online by this time waiting for who to exchange chat with, let me just look up, ur husband is just managing u, because u don't know when to keep quite

Or you think I give a Bleep if u are married, I kw online is where u can run ur mouth because it's a faceless media, ,,so u can easily run your mouth like peacock

I kw ladies like u, but na ur husband I just pity becus he fell for ur body but character and attitude is zero (0) dats if u even possess such body. ladies like u are the type that pins a man down ,,,,they many for town by this time

You aren't a career woman because if u are u wouldn't b online by this time, ,,,i just pity your husband because na big mistake he make, ,,,,i pray for your family shalom

Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.

Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.

I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.

My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.

My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not

This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?

I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands.

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Get a life!

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Rosarie:
if my comment offend u.pls I would love to wake and see ur name under those who has committed sucide.troll my comment again.u did not buy me phone neither did I beg u to like my comment baby boy

I understand that the job u did by dis time of the nite while u were still single has made u always to stay awake even while u are already married,(night hustler) ,,,,but don't tag everyone here along with your boredom....u don expire already,let d new school girls take over ,,,,try sleep

You seem to be desperate and struggling. This type of struggle will continue even after the wedding. You need to allow your girl to satisfy herself by calling off the wedding because it's obvious she is considering another man. It is only after she is through with the man that she can settle for you. For now, the truth is that marriage never set for you.

@Dogalmighty17 take to your mother's wish.Infact, if I were her or your close confidant, I wuld have advised you part ways with that lady. If you however will find that difficult to do. Man, obey ur mother's wish, irrespective of whether she is contributing or not to the wedding.

You seem not to understand the saying "blood is thicker than water". I pity you, I don't pray any evil befalls you. Let such trying times come and see who will be the last man standing. I don't mean we don't have ladies/partners who would weather the storm with one during trying times. We do have them, but the lady in question and her family are not worth you forsaking/disregarding your mum.

Just like someone earlier commented "you will regret you go into that marriage if you do". Quit it now and obey your mum.

I can assure you the lady shall still portray her ego when she comes in and this tym wen u report to her family, they will advise her to quit that marriage. The Yorubas will say a bad wife can b accommodated but not bad in-laws

U don't have problem sef.

WUdec:
Sounds like you love her more than she loves you.


Secondly, any adult who lets his/her parent control his/her marriage or relationship is not mature enough to keep one.

Marriage should not come with pressure. Plus she sounds like she holds the remote.

You seem soft and easy to take advantage of. Nobody should ever force you to do what you don't want to.

Only you know the answers to your question.

You ain't ready for marriage yet, trust me on this one

fact.....
for me.. i don't think you understand what marriage is all about bro
have a rethink

excessmon:
I'm sure u are not more than 18 years old

with davido voice

Speaking from experience, if you marry that woman, your marriage will be hell on earth and she'll separate from you in a few months at the slightest excuse.

You're being played by her family. Run! Now!
Break up with her.

I wish I could pull your ears physically. Tell her family it is over. Tell them it's because she wanted to leave you due to flimsy excuses. Her mother doesn't want you and your mother has seen it. Your mother knows that girl wants to waste your money on wedding expenses, then she'll separate from you before April if you do the wedding in February. And if the wedding doesn't hold in February, the girl will leave you still. All with the tacit approval and sure support of her family, especially her mother. Their target is to waste your money. They have someone else they feel she should marry, not you. No commitment from your girl. They'll make you a divorcée and your mother is seeing that this is what will happen. Follow your mum's advice without questions.Don't marry that girl.

Be firm and wicked about it too. No one respects a soft man.

Dogalmighty17:
I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.

Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.

I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.

My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.

My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not

This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?

I must also mention that my mom was informed of the initial date of the wedding over a year ago. But she foot dragged in her support for months until much later in the year that I now had to take issues into my own hands.

Your mom does not like your fiancee. Her mom is not comfortable with you

Bros, you need to man up but unfortunately I don't think this your present situation is fixable... do you know why??

Your GF parents are aware you are soft, Your GF knows you be mumu, your mom know you are very weak even me sef con dey shame on ur behalf...

Your GF is actually in a pity relationship with you and thinks she could bail out anytime she wants... the girl no get fault na .. which woman no like to dey in control.

Have you ever thought about why this babe wanna settle with you and not other guys despite her class??

look here my friend, Call her and discuss how you feel about the whole thing and counter her with solid facts why things need to change ... If she no gree and opt for breakup .. bye bye .. don't beg! . I personally don't think that girl is a bad person. she's 30! she doesn't have much time to waste too!
it's obvious this girl s not pretty much into you and you are too blind to see it.
Men don't cry and beg like a sisi!!

You don't even have much bisiness with her parents sef ... when you disarm their daughter well well.. Dem sef go get d signal.

And ur mom matter sef nobi issue... She go adjust when she realize her boy don finally turn man.

This one is begging a woman and her family to let her marry him





In 2018 where ladies are the ones begging for marriage and stylishly proposing .




Wait too, are you ugly, jobless and totally crippled? That's the only logical reason I can think of why you would beg a woman to marry you





You're a disgrace to all men worldwide.




If she wants to you she will hold onto you! No time for sh1t

i find it hard to believe that people would actually ask the poster to leave his woman because she feels he is wasting her time. As a woman you don't have all the time in the world and when a man starts dragging his feet like this, it is only natural that we become scared. I for one will rather end the relationship if my mother inlaw to be keeps on shifting a date that she had knowledge of a year before. poster i believe you have sister please put your mom in the position of that girls family...there you have it. what is your moms reasons for postponing someone else's happiness. You have been with this girl for three years. you alone know whether she is the best you have seen so far and whether you kind find a better replacement when you leave her. And mind you some people are irreplaceable.

The girl has another man in the wings.I believe this is why she wanted to leave you easily. Your mother with the maternal intuition can not be wrong.

doreto:
Speaking from experience, if you marry that woman, your marriage will be hell on earth and she'll separate from you in a few months at the slightest excuse.

You're being played by her family. Run! Now!
Break up with her.

I wish I could pull your ears physically. Tell her family it is over. Tell them it's because she wanted to leave you due to flimsy excuses. Her mother doesn't want you and your mother has seen it. Your mother knows that girl wants to waste your money on wedding expenses, then she'll separate from you before April if you do the wedding in February. And if the wedding doesn't hold in February, the girl will leave you still. All with the tacit approval and sure support of her family, especially her mother. Their target is to waste your money. They have someone else they feel she should marry, not you. No commitment from your girl. They'll make you a divorcée and your mother is seeing that this is what will happen. Follow your mum's advice without questions.Don't marry that girl.

The question is does his mom have any reason to postpone their marriage. A date she had knowledge of for a lengthy period of time. why shift it to far April when you are not the one funding the wedding. All i see is a woman that does not want a woman her son has choosen. if i were to be the lady i will call it off and my reason is this... a man who is controlled like this can be told to pick another woman tomorrow after wasting my precious time.

This is social media be rest assured to get a social response that at the end won't help you but cause more confusion.

Some matters are better taken to God in private than coming to nairaland.

OK let me give you my own response: Leave the girl and your mama to settle the matter at this point.

Your Will Power Is So Weak That Even If I advice You, you Will Still Go Back And Continue With Your Malliability.

Pls my brother call this wedding off outrightly cos You will regret ever going into the relationship.If she and her family don't respect you as a man,my brother once she is married to you,her old self will come back.If a lady or a man does not change before marriage,they cannot change in marriage. I made the greatest mistake of my life when I thought my wife to be whom does not have respect for my mother and myself will change in marriage,but this happen to be the most regrettable event of my life,cos i lost my mum practically cos of that just a year after the wedding.pls how I wish I can see you right now,don't make this mistake.You can call me to buttress more on this- 08119936638

mogbojaiye:


Look at the advice u are advising somebody.., ,, is that how you run to ur parents when ever your hubby did something wrong to u, ,,,not an insult ma, ,,,when ur hubby is awake show him this thread and hear his own conclusion too

And what do you call a man that allows his mother to keep changing his wedding date? please let us be reasonable this guy is creating bad blood between his woman and his mother. He should take decisions as a man.