I noticed it when dad went away earlier this year.




How does someone overcome this thing?

By having compassion for yourself and recognizing this inner voice as a destructive enemy, you can begin to see who you are more clearly and realistically.

Think About What You Could Be Angry At

While some experience depression as a continual state of sadness or increased painful emotions, some depression can come in the form of a state of numbness - a lack of feeling that weakens all excitement and smothers your potential to feel joy. Suppressing or cutting off emotions could be a defense against something you aren't comfortable feeling. Many people who suffer from depression are actually masking a feeling of anger, turning their rage toward someone else on themselves. Anger can be a hard feeling to accept, as from a very young age we are often told it is bad to be angry, that we need to behave, and not to throw tantrums or get in fights. While acting abusive is never acceptable, feeling anger is a natural part of our everyday lives. By acknowledging and accepting or discussing your angry feelings, you are much less likely to turn these feelings against yourself or allow them to lead you into a depressed state.

Be Active

When you're depressed your energy levels can drop drastically, but the last thing you want to do when feeling down is to keep yourself from getting up. It's a physiological fact that activity fights depression. Get your heart rate up 20 minutes a day, five days a week, and it has been scientifically proven that you will feel better emotionally. Exercising increases the neuro-plasticity of your brain and releases neurochemicals called endorphins, which help to elevate your mood. Even just getting out of the house for a walk, a game of catch with your kids, or a trip to the gym is a medically proven method of improving the way you feel.

Don't Isolate Yourself

When depressed, you may hear thoughts telling you to be alone, keep quiet and not to bother people with your problems. Again, these thoughts should be treated like parasites that try to keep your body from getting healthy. Do not listen to them. When you feel bad, even if you feel embarrassed, confiding in a friend or voicing your struggles can lighten your burden and begin a process of ending your unhappiness. Talking about your problems or worries is not a self-centered or self-pitying endeavor. Friends and family, especially those who care about you, will appreciate knowing what's going on.

Even the simple act of putting yourself in a social atmosphere can lift your spirits. Go to a place where there are people who may have similar interests as you, or even to a public spot like a museum, park, or mall, where you could enjoy being amongst people. Never allow yourself to indulge in the thought that you are different from or less than anyone else. Everyone struggles at times, and your depression does not define who you are or single you out from others.

Do Things You Once Liked to Do ... even if you don't feel like it

Depression is one of the hardest emotional states to endure, because the symptoms themselves can destroy your will and energy to engage in activities you once loved. Giving in to this lethargic state can give your depression even more power, whereas staying active in your life, pursuing anything and everything you may find of interest will re-ignite your spark and keep you on your own side.

Though easier said than done, the times you feel most like slumping on the couch are the moments you should force yourself to take a walk, cook a meal, or call a friend. If you've ever been depressed before, do whatever it was that helped you feel better before. Coping strategies that have worked for you in the past are a great place to start. Activities that help you calm down and that raise your spirits are important, even simple things like baking brownies, taking a bath, or listening to upbeat music. Act against the critical inner voice that tells you nothing will help. Remember its only purpose is to keep you from feeling better.

* If you are religious by trusting that God has you in his hands and would never let you fall.
* If you are just religious in lip service only then you either use this oportunity to draw closer to God, put your cares in his hands and trust that he would not let you down.
* Get busy by doing things that benefit others not you ie volunterring
* Know that everyone has their own life path, your dad has chosen his. Now its left for you to choose yours and work towards it with God by your side.
* If you have good friends, spend more time with them. * Speak to a mature mind and seek counsel when difficult situations present.

delishpot:
* If you are religious by trusting that God has you in his hands and would never let you fall.
* If you are just religious in lip service only then you either use this oportunity to draw closer to God, put your cares in his hands and trust that he would not let you down.
* Get busy by doing things that benefit others not you ie volunterring
* Know that everyone has their own life path, your dad has chosen his. Now its left for you to choose yours and work towards it with God by your side.
* If you have good friends, spend more time with them. * Speak to a mature mind and seek counsel when difficult situations present.

I'm not the religious type.

JixNation:


I'm not the religious type.

Then seek God and find him. If you still say NEVER then go talk to a mental health expert. Besides religion you may try the rest I suggested up theren

MiaB:
By having compassion for yourself and recognizing this inner voice as a destructive enemy, you can begin to see who you are more clearly and realistically.

Think About What You Could Be Angry At

While some experience depression as a continual state of sadness or increased painful emotions, some depression can come in the form of a state of numbness - a lack of feeling that weakens all excitement and smothers your potential to feel joy. Suppressing or cutting off emotions could be a defense against something you aren't comfortable feeling. Many people who suffer from depression are actually masking a feeling of anger, turning their rage toward someone else on themselves. Anger can be a hard feeling to accept, as from a very young age we are often told it is bad to be angry, that we need to behave, and not to throw tantrums or get in fights. While acting abusive is never acceptable, feeling anger is a natural part of our everyday lives. By acknowledging and accepting or discussing your angry feelings, you are much less likely to turn these feelings against yourself or allow them to lead you into a depressed state.

Be Active

When you're depressed your energy levels can drop drastically, but the last thing you want to do when feeling down is to keep yourself from getting up. It's a physiological fact that activity fights depression. Get your heart rate up 20 minutes a day, five days a week, and it has been scientifically proven that you will feel better emotionally. Exercising increases the neuro-plasticity of your brain and releases neurochemicals called endorphins, which help to elevate your mood. Even just getting out of the house for a walk, a game of catch with your kids, or a trip to the gym is a medically proven method of improving the way you feel.

Don't Isolate Yourself

When depressed, you may hear thoughts telling you to be alone, keep quiet and not to bother people with your problems. Again, these thoughts should be treated like parasites that try to keep your body from getting healthy. Do not listen to them. When you feel bad, even if you feel embarrassed, confiding in a friend or voicing your struggles can lighten your burden and begin a process of ending your unhappiness. Talking about your problems or worries is not a self-centered or self-pitying endeavor. Friends and family, especially those who care about you, will appreciate knowing what's going on.

Even the simple act of putting yourself in a social atmosphere can lift your spirits. Go to a place where there are people who may have similar interests as you, or even to a public spot like a museum, park, or mall, where you could enjoy being amongst people. Never allow yourself to indulge in the thought that you are different from or less than anyone else. Everyone struggles at times, and your depression does not define who you are or single you out from others.

Do Things You Once Liked to Do ... even if you don't feel like it

Depression is one of the hardest emotional states to endure, because the symptoms themselves can destroy your will and energy to engage in activities you once loved. Giving in to this lethargic state can give your depression even more power, whereas staying active in your life, pursuing anything and everything you may find of interest will re-ignite your spark and keep you on your own side.

Though easier said than done, the times you feel most like slumping on the couch are the moments you should force yourself to take a walk, cook a meal, or call a friend. If you've ever been depressed before, do whatever it was that helped you feel better before. Coping strategies that have worked for you in the past are a great place to start. Activities that help you calm down and that raise your spirits are important, even simple things like baking brownies, taking a bath, or listening to upbeat music. Act against the critical inner voice that tells you nothing will help. Remember its only purpose is to keep you from feeling better.

Thanks a lot.
I will try my best.

delishpot:


Then seek God and find him. If you still say NEVER then go talk to a mental heath expert

What do you mean by the last paragraph?

JixNation:


What do you mean by the last paragraph?

There are people who studied phychology and the rest. They deal with mental health. You can seek out one and try.

delishpot:


There are people who studied phychology and the rest. They deal with mental health. You can seek out one and try.

You can drop somebody's contact you know if you don't mind, as there are some personal terms, I wouldn't like to say here.

JixNation:


Thanks a lot.
I will try my best.

Stay in touch

Don't withdraw from life. Socialising can improve your mood. Keeping in touch with friends and family means you have someone to talk to when you feel low.  
All is well and very sorry for your loss

MiaB:
Stay in touch

Don't withdraw from life. Socialising can improve your mood. Keeping in touch with friends and family means you have someone to talk to when you feel low.  
All is well and very sorry for your loss

Family is out of it now. Since dad died, none of the family members seems to care.

JixNation:


Family is out of it now. Since dad died, none of the family members seems to care.

How about close pals?

JixNation:


You can drop somebody's contact you know if you don't mind, as there are some personal terms, I wouldn't like to say here.

I dont know anyone personally. If you happen to consider talking to a regular person who is good at listening, you can send a message (E-mail) and I will do my best to listen and share a word or two of encouragement with you. God bless.

MiaB:
How about close pals?

Few and mom have been supportive. Thanks to them.

delishpot:



I dont know anyone personally. If you happen to consider talking to a regular person who is good at listening, you can send a message (E-mail) and I will do my best to listen and share a word or two of encouragement with you. God bless.

Mail me on jixnation@gmail.com since this email is not currently accessible.

MiaB:
By having compassion for yourself and recognizing this inner voice as a destructive enemy, you can begin to see who you are more clearly and realistically.

Think About What You Could Be Angry At

While some experience depression as a continual state of sadness or increased painful emotions, some depression can come in the form of a state of numbness - a lack of feeling that weakens all excitement and smothers your potential to feel joy. Suppressing or cutting off emotions could be a defense against something you aren't comfortable feeling. Many people who suffer from depression are actually masking a feeling of anger, turning their rage toward someone else on themselves. Anger can be a hard feeling to accept, as from a very young age we are often told it is bad to be angry, that we need to behave, and not to throw tantrums or get in fights. While acting abusive is never acceptable, feeling anger is a natural part of our everyday lives. By acknowledging and accepting or discussing your angry feelings, you are much less likely to turn these feelings against yourself or allow them to lead you into a depressed state.

Be Active

When you're depressed your energy levels can drop drastically, but the last thing you want to do when feeling down is to keep yourself from getting up. It's a physiological fact that activity fights depression. Get your heart rate up 20 minutes a day, five days a week, and it has been scientifically proven that you will feel better emotionally. Exercising increases the neuro-plasticity of your brain and releases neurochemicals called endorphins, which help to elevate your mood. Even just getting out of the house for a walk, a game of catch with your kids, or a trip to the gym is a medically proven method of improving the way you feel.

Don't Isolate Yourself

When depressed, you may hear thoughts telling you to be alone, keep quiet and not to bother people with your problems. Again, these thoughts should be treated like parasites that try to keep your body from getting healthy. Do not listen to them. When you feel bad, even if you feel embarrassed, confiding in a friend or voicing your struggles can lighten your burden and begin a process of ending your unhappiness. Talking about your problems or worries is not a self-centered or self-pitying endeavor. Friends and family, especially those who care about you, will appreciate knowing what's going on.

Even the simple act of putting yourself in a social atmosphere can lift your spirits. Go to a place where there are people who may have similar interests as you, or even to a public spot like a museum, park, or mall, where you could enjoy being amongst people. Never allow yourself to indulge in the thought that you are different from or less than anyone else. Everyone struggles at times, and your depression does not define who you are or single you out from others.

Do Things You Once Liked to Do ... even if you don't feel like it

Depression is one of the hardest emotional states to endure, because the symptoms themselves can destroy your will and energy to engage in activities you once loved. Giving in to this lethargic state can give your depression even more power, whereas staying active in your life, pursuing anything and everything you may find of interest will re-ignite your spark and keep you on your own side.

Though easier said than done, the times you feel most like slumping on the couch are the moments you should force yourself to take a walk, cook a meal, or call a friend. If you've ever been depressed before, do whatever it was that helped you feel better before. Coping strategies that have worked for you in the past are a great place to start. Activities that help you calm down and that raise your spirits are important, even simple things like baking brownies, taking a bath, or listening to upbeat music. Act against the critical inner voice that tells you nothing will help. Remember its only purpose is to keep you from feeling better.

depression has a become a part of me.I've been feeling depressed for a year and a half and now nothing ever excites me like you said in your writeup.mine has metamorphosed into a state where it comes intermittently and it comes with full intensity and disrupts my normal thinking,making me feel like I'm a failure

sanmtiago:
depression has a become a part of me.I've been feeling depressed for a year and a half and now nothing ever excites me like you said in your writeup.mine has metamorphosed into a state where it comes intermittently and it comes with full intensity and disrupts my normal thinking,making me feel like I'm a failure

Things interests me. I'm just sad, basic needs I need are no longer coming like they used to when old man was still here.

Lalasticlala.
Please help push this to front page.

JixNation:


I'm not the religious type.

Since I overcame suicidal thoughts(nothing seemed worth living for then), I actually enjoy being depressed

Like presently, I've been avoiding human contact, though I av to go thru d motions. I just lock my self up inside and ruminate/meditate/analyse. I really don't know if that qualifies as depression sha, cos I feel better n at peace after each session. I never limit my tots. Best case scenario, worst case scenario? They're game

ashjay001:


Since I overcame suicidal thoughts(nothing seemed worth living for then), I actually enjoy being depressed

Like presently, I've been avoiding human contact, though I av to go thru d motions. I just lock my self up inside and ruminate/meditate/analyse. I really don't know if that qualifies as depression sha, cos I feel better n at peace after each session. I never limit my tots. Best case scenario, worst case scenario? They're game

Best scenario, making other happy.
They like to see me, I believe they are not making me happy as I make them.

JixNation:


Best scenario, making other happy.
They like to see me, I believe they are not making me happy as I make them.

Well, u have to find peace from within. Make urself happy or at peace, with ur lot.

JixNation:
I noticed it when dad went away earlier this year.




How does someone overcome this thing?

Hear the word of the Sovereign LORD O simple one:

If only you had paid attention to my commands, your peace would have been like a river, and your well-being like the waves of the sea.--Isaiah--48:18

Submit to God and be at peace with him; in this way all will be well with you.--Job 22:21

The ear that listens to the reproves of life abides among the wise!!!

JixNation

Are you sure it's not as a result of betting? Have you been losing from betting lately?

Gboy101:
Jixation

Are you sure it's not as a result of betting? Have you been losing from betting lately?

Not betting.
I said, it happened immediately I lost dad.

I don't stake too much on betting.

Going by what I see here, your depression was triggered by grieve. Though you are depressed, Chances are , you are still grieving losing him coupled with depression.

No matter what you do right now, it all will be a trial and error process, if you can't get to the root of the cause of your depression and individuals factors that aids it.

Yes, there are general things you can do. You can check out my post on "Dealing with depression" to get an understanding of this condition.

JixNation:


Not betting.
I said, it happened immediately I lost dad.

I don't stake too much on betting.

You had better not stake at all. It slowly steals your peace of mind you won't notice.

Hipsofagoddess:


You had better not stake at all. It slowly steals your peace of mind you won't notice.

Started before he went away. Wasn't battling depression shít. Just this last year.

JixNation:


Started before he went away. Wasn't battling depression shít. Just this last year.

Then he could provide your basic needs. Now you are using the money for your basic needs to bet. Start by eliminating the small things you feel bears no significance. Right now you needs a fresh slate to start.

MiaB:
By having compassion for yourself and recognizing this inner voice as a destructive enemy, you can begin to see who you are more clearly and realistically.

Think About What You Could Be Angry At

While some experience depression as a continual state of sadness or increased painful emotions, some depression can come in the form of a state of numbness - a lack of feeling that weakens all excitement and smothers your potential to feel joy. Suppressing or cutting off emotions could be a defense against something you aren't comfortable feeling. Many people who suffer from depression are actually masking a feeling of anger, turning their rage toward someone else on themselves. Anger can be a hard feeling to accept, as from a very young age we are often told it is bad to be angry, that we need to behave, and not to throw tantrums or get in fights. While acting abusive is never acceptable, feeling anger is a natural part of our everyday lives. By acknowledging and accepting or discussing your angry feelings, you are much less likely to turn these feelings against yourself or allow them to lead you into a depressed state.

Be Active

When you're depressed your energy levels can drop drastically, but the last thing you want to do when feeling down is to keep yourself from getting up. It's a physiological fact that activity fights depression. Get your heart rate up 20 minutes a day, five days a week, and it has been scientifically proven that you will feel better emotionally. Exercising increases the neuro-plasticity of your brain and releases neurochemicals called endorphins, which help to elevate your mood. Even just getting out of the house for a walk, a game of catch with your kids, or a trip to the gym is a medically proven method of improving the way you feel.

Don't Isolate Yourself

When depressed, you may hear thoughts telling you to be alone, keep quiet and not to bother people with your problems. Again, these thoughts should be treated like parasites that try to keep your body from getting healthy. Do not listen to them. When you feel bad, even if you feel embarrassed, confiding in a friend or voicing your struggles can lighten your burden and begin a process of ending your unhappiness. Talking about your problems or worries is not a self-centered or self-pitying endeavor. Friends and family, especially those who care about you, will appreciate knowing what's going on.

Even the simple act of putting yourself in a social atmosphere can lift your spirits. Go to a place where there are people who may have similar interests as you, or even to a public spot like a museum, park, or mall, where you could enjoy being amongst people. Never allow yourself to indulge in the thought that you are different from or less than anyone else. Everyone struggles at times, and your depression does not define who you are or single you out from others.

Do Things You Once Liked to Do ... even if you don't feel like it

Depression is one of the hardest emotional states to endure, because the symptoms themselves can destroy your will and energy to engage in activities you once loved. Giving in to this lethargic state can give your depression even more power, whereas staying active in your life, pursuing anything and everything you may find of interest will re-ignite your spark and keep you on your own side.

Though easier said than done, the times you feel most like slumping on the couch are the moments you should force yourself to take a walk, cook a meal, or call a friend. If you've ever been depressed before, do whatever it was that helped you feel better before. Coping strategies that have worked for you in the past are a great place to start. Activities that help you calm down and that raise your spirits are important, even simple things like baking brownies, taking a bath, or listening to upbeat music. Act against the critical inner voice that tells you nothing will help. Remember its only purpose is to keep you from feeling better.

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