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lawrykings:
Please I need your counsel on this.

There is this girl in my place of assignment, I met her, went on a date, we kissed on first date, we even almost bleeped but distraction from friends stopped that . Finally finally we got to Bleep each other at some point and it continued that way.

My problem now is whenever I am around her, there are lots of fishy things about her, (her calls) like I feel she isn't trustworthy and she is fucking plenty of guys and as the days goes by, I find myself developing feelings for her even though I tried to hide it by sometimes acting like I don't care but she breaks this defense mechanism of mine by acting submissive and nice when she knows I ain't happy.

it's really eating me I don't know what to do because I feel giving her my heart would be risky. Thank you sir.

Amaterasu:
It's like a guy that was crushing on my babe during their secondary school days is trying to rekindle their love though they never dated according to my gf. It started recently when my fiancee (I have told her she is the one I will marry, and she is fully aware of the reason
for the delay which has nothing to do with money ) went for their secondary school reunion party, she stays in another city from me, I discovered she called the guy late that day at about 8:00 pm after they returned from the party and the guy also called her at about 10:30pm that same night. The one that broke my heart was the next day call from the guy that lasted exactly 16mins (I looked through her call log) . Who listens to a guy she is not crushing on for 16mins on phone. I have not been picking her calls for 3days now. I didn't tell her what I saw, I have just been forming busy and pondering on it. Am I about to enter a dark pit if I eventually decide to marry her. House pls advise a brother.



And secondly, does it even make sense to talk about it with her again? I had a big quarrel with her about a year ago because of this same guy when she was on call with the guy and refused to pick my call for about 5min until she finished with the guy, that was the first time I she told me about him when I asked who she was on call with. The idea of talking about this same guy with her again is so irritating to me now.......

NB: I went to their house recently to spend the holiday just to get familiar with members of her family and she did this call thing a day to my arrival and some hours before I arrived . She is 30yrs old now meaning time is not on her side marriage wise but she is still thinking and behaving this way.

Amaterasu:
Babe that you almost bleeped on first date, you are here complaining of her receiving strange calls. You think only have access to that honey pot right? Even most promiscuous babes still try to pretend on first date, this your own na another level. You are the problem here not her. You are playing with your life by trying to take things too serious.

lawrykings:
strong words bro... emotions are just getting me here I guess. please what would you advise

lawrykings:
strong words bro... emotions are just getting me here I guess. please what would you advise

kollinzgee:
if youve being reading this drills from the start you should know a than must learn how to control his emotions and diick or he is bound to suffer in the hands of women forever start from page 1— 20 dats where your answer lies bye bro lol....

Amaterasu:
@Auto.ElectNG and @The.Car I appreciate your response had to go through them twice pondering over it.
Thanks bro

AutoElectNG:
Good that you appreciate.

Here is more information to guide you and any others interested in what's going on here

I once counselled a man...I am going to eliminate personally identifiable information, so as to substantially comply with the guidelines set forth by the American Psychological Association (APA) Standard 4.07 Code of Ethics to make impossible to zero in on the individual in question.

Save for the need to protect confidentially the story is essentially what happened in real life.

To make it difficult to identify the person in question, he has been married for more than 4 years but less than 10 years and he is African.

His problem was that he has a cheating wife. This was after several years of marriage.

That he had a cheating wife was slowly destroying him.

How did he know? The normal stuff couples do was denied him, and she became super protective of her mobile devices, even up into the bathroom until one day she slipped, and he swooped on the device and confirmed the suspicions that his subconscious had brought to his attention.

The man could not eat and started loosing weight and couldn't sleep either and yet the man was still deeply in love with her.

To make matters worse, they operated a joint account and his funds had become completely commingled with her funds.

Let's just say she had him completely by the balls.

How exactly does a man provide a home for a woman that makes bring him down with grief? (Ruth 3:1; 1 Timothy 5: 8 )

Imagine yourself in his shoes and then you will appreciate the below:

Amaterasu:
Babe that you almost bleeped on first date, you are here complaining of her receiving strange calls. You think only have access to that honey pot right? Even most promiscuous babes still try to pretend on first date, this your own na another level. You are the problem here not her. You are playing with your life by trying to take things too serious.

solomix10:
bleeping a girl on the first date does not really mean she is cheap or a hoe, maybe you havent heard of girls that gave out thier virginity willingly on a first date .... the strange calls is the issue

DAMAYYOR:
That's how I've caught feelings with this girl I used these drills on
We're dating already and I'm in love

ugnoble:
Seems everyone is sharing their experiences and I must say am impressed so far with the drills too. Here's my story.



There's this girl i've been in a relationship with since 2009. I had (might still do) plans to settle with her and as such I decided to avoid going physical (and partly because am a shy guy who isn't much into girls even though they seek my attention ). Now, the drama started years back when I made known my decisions to her as to marriage and she declined with reasons been that she never knew I was serious and that she had someone who has shown interest in that regards.


Now fastforward to late last year I called her for a discussion concerning my plans (which was the the fourth time am doing so) and she still refused and later told me she just want an asexual(that's no sex) relationship with me. This is a girl who always show me green lights and has been visiting me often but I never yielded to her. Now, after our last discussion she told me she loved me but never knew I was serious so she cant help it as she doesn't want to double date or cheat her 'main' bf. I now told her if she would want me to continue with someone else and she said yes after some seconds of silence and now told me to also never forget to show her the person Lol...


I kept cool but slowly started to withdrew myself from her, to which she noticed and started complaining. She even jokingly complained to my kid sis when she saw her on her way to work, to which my sis told me about it when she came back. Now after reading some of the drills, I came to understand I have really bleeped up through these years to not even touch her.

Now after reading through some drills, I decided to act. She called just once three days ago( because I decided I wouldn't be the one calling anymore or even sending text like I used to as to which i've kept it so for the past one month plus now ) and I decided never to call back because to me, she wasn't serious( calling me once is just like her just beeping my line). Now, fastforward to yesterday, she called me like five time but I never answered, she sent a message telling me she's been calling and am not picking up, if am ok and if am at home. I never replied nor returned the call and to that she called back several more but I never answered and she resort to calling my mum and my mum told her she wasn't around and that she'll let me know she called but she wasn't satisfied so, she started calling again and like before, I never picked, then she sent in a second text, asking what's it and that this is unlike me, that I should please pick up her calls. I didn't pick up more of her calls still nor replied to the text. Now, she has called once more this morning and I've never answered yet.



Now, my question is:

1) when should I answer her(i just wanna punish her small make she for know say she done f for my side.)

2) if I'm to pick up her calls Now, how/what should be my response cause I know the questions will roll. She may ask what's wrong or what she did. I just want to try my best not to be so direct with my answer.

3) I need more tips or advice on how to go about this whole thing.

coleB:
u had all the time since 2009 to reel her in and make her urs but u didnt.. u didnt guv her d intimate bonding she needed those years..
from look f things u ve lost her in the marriage aspect. afterall we can't marry all our friends.
she found martiage in the hands f another sharper guy, while she found true friendship in u.

no need stirring d waters..
count ur losses for not acting fast, she's a good friend though.
d sooner u see her as a friend and not a Marriage partner, d faster u will heal ursef

kollinzgee:
;DOga harddon before I came across you and Charles nneji. Men I really suffered with girls they are not worth your ballz they will smash it and hate you for giving it to them. The very first girl I use the bang rule on fell so hard and respect me a lot this is a very big girl men spend heavily for though she is married now Sha but each time she sees me she feels butterflies in her stomach.

Jsparrow01:
Guy, hw can I get the bang rule or where can I purchase it from

Jsparrow01:
Guy, hw can I get the bang rule or where can I purchase it from

kollinzgee:
happy new year to you all,sir hardonn and my great brotherhood of alphamales.i discovered this thread 2016 then i was a wussbag and a weakman infact a houseboy to them ladies yet i got rejected and dumped.you cant imagine hw confident i ave become woow am so outspoken and fearless and superconfident around women, i av turned kevin hart with the way i make ladies laugh their hearts out(couldnt do that before) my ex even said i av changed. though it took me long time to find my lost balls but i have it now,and am in charge of my emotions and a ladiesman.to the rest of you dnt give up on the fight to regain your balls no matter hw hard it is.life is designed to favour alphamales.

DaySpringer:
How long did it take you?

SPOLO:
Boss hardon
What's ur take on this.
I know she is just forming shakara but that's their way.
So this is what actually happened, we were joking and she said she won't give me her contact and I told her that the last a girl did that she didn't see her menstrual blood at the required time which she laughed and said that she is a witch that if she gives me i will loose my potency and I said no problem with that so she finally said her number is on her profile.
Then I told her I won't loose my potency that if she think am lying let me do her 'upa to upa' in NY dialet meaning skin to skin and if she won't get pregnant... Although I was just joking and she took it serious..

So I have her number but I think it won't be right for me to call her now and I don't wanna chat her for now I hope this will go well?

HARDDON:
Dating Drills how far I've drifted from your alluring thrills!

Romance we must once again.
No matter how life tries, she cant separate me from your warm embrace.

Romance we must again