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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Nobody: 5:23pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
QuitNotice: Really? what mistakes did I make? |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by crunchyg: 5:30pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
0ubenji:And who are you, ass licker? |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by andyanders: 5:30pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Ardar: Then, you are confusing people by saying that the guy is a friend to your mother. You should have stated that a neighbor who has shop close to where your mother has her shop, took advantage of the grown lady of 26. You made the public see him as a friend to your mother.Tell your mother to tell them to go find somewhere to address the issue as both of them are full blown adults. 1 Like |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Nobody: 5:32pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Ardar:Sorry I am so harsh, but you need to pay more attention to your english. A couple of novels would be great. Talking about your mum, you only take people in when you have the time to groom them. She didn't pay much attention to the girl's activities. Women know women, even after a mere glance. Your mum didn't put in enough effort to check mate that girl's activities |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Nobody: 5:37pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
QuitNotice: Ok thanks for the advice 2 Likes |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Vtrd: 5:39pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
oluwaahmed post=7456[b:lol at the bolded. You are right jare. The man that poured the cream and gave her a vaginal cream pie should come and carry his load. |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by shege45: 5:42pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
thorpido:a 26yrs old woman? 2 Likes |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Nobody: 5:42pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
QuitNotice: The lady never showed any signs of been wayward, she was always so humble and respectful. My mom never thought she was like that, I guess she was good at pretending. 1 Like |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by innobarca(m): 5:49pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Your mom's friend impregnated her....Your mom didn't know and the said friend is also a neighbour. Your Mom use to send her on an Errand.... From her shop to her friend's shop sometimes maybe. Your mom did not notice anything until she got pregnant? Unbelievable. Unbelievable. Bringing someone from the village to the city ,you must watch and monitor her activities even if she is an adult. The girl getting pregnant does not make her a wayward girl or a bad girl,,,, Maybe,Maybe she do not know the pills the city girls use. |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Nobody: 5:51pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Ardar:She might be good in pretending, but I think your mum's experience should beat her in that. For example, a lady that is involved with a man is not in total control of her time, and can easily be found out whenever she uses more time than she should have. There are other traceable elements whose signal your mum should have picked. She simply didn't pay enough attention |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by SpecialAdviser(m): 5:55pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
It is not any parents fault if the kids get pregnant, talk more of one village ashawo you brought to town. |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Offpoint: 5:57pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
EbukaHades10:God bless mommy Ebuka |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Offpoint: 5:58pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Abortions:You sef... na "These days" not "This days. 2 Likes |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by godfrey01(m): 6:04pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Ardar: |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by uniqueflash(m): 6:08pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
sinaj:you don't just jump into conclusion's on hearing a possible one-sided story.both parties would form the basis for judgment |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by andyanders: 6:14pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
QuitNotice: Mehn, understand that she is already 26 and can code herself to look so innocent but any slightest opportunity, she will collect one round come back and pretend as if nothing happened. At her age, they shouldn't have taken her in because she can even break a home by sleeping with the man of the house. She is the that type that can pretend and be moving like snail around the house and once an opportunity comes her way, she will go for a quick one. The mother to the op shouldn't be blamed of her action but can only be blamed of bringing in a full blown woman to stay with them. She should have encouraged her to marry and learn handwork in her husband's house. |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Organs(m): 6:35pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Ishilove: I disagree with you, "Ishilove". "Thorpido" You are on Point. @Ardar, there are some details you left out. Now, why was she in a Computer school and not a conventional University, Polytechnic, etc? like, maybe you are in or attended? Also, you mentioned she ran errands for your mum and later goes to the computer school, i'd like to believe these are those low rated computer schools that people go to to get some computer education and not a realistic skill that can get you employed which goes to say she was just a househelp period. From Ishilove and Ardar's comment you will understand the average Nigerian mentality and the "help" they profess. Now, does this lady want to learn computer skills? most probably No, cos she never got to choose! Was Ardar's mum asking her questions about her progress, her concerns, relationships, dreams, ambitions etc, most probably, NO! Now does this lady have the privileges that Ardar enjoys? of course not, because she is from the village naa, and she is being helped and has to do as they say period. Now, does she feel different, ofcourse Yes, she is away from home remember, is she getting love and care from all the people around her? Now, if a man should come around professing Love, care and giving her attention, tell me why she will not be vulnerable. In most Nigerian middle class homes, the poor relation, househelp, driver, etc are just tolerated. In worst cases they are the witches and wizards, even eating the same food as oga and madam is a privilege to be grateful for. You guys should go and watch "Blind Side" and understand why we are just different from Oyinbos. A white family took in a black kid. One of the first questions the woman asked the kid was if he liked being called "Big Mike" because that was what they all called him, guess what, he does not like it at all. Now, tell me which Nigeria mother will even ask if you like the general Ekaete name? person wey we dey help......Also, watch "The Butler" and see how JFK, a President will sit down with a slave servant to understand his concerns and what is going on in his mind. @Ardar, i'll say, thank you for asking, I will say to you, this is majorly a failure from your mum, however, its not her fault. She truly does not know how. We need to change our attitude and mindset. I was lucky, (i considered it unlucky then, cos all my friends used to laugh at me and make fun of I and my siblings) in my mums house, everything was by seniority. Househelps, relations used to discipline us and order us around. It was best, however, it affected the relationship between my sister and my mum cos she accused my mum of disliking, even hating her and putting relations and househelps before her. Now, though, she knows better and it helped curb some of her excesses. 2 Likes |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Nobody: 6:41pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
A gurl child is the most difficult to train. It is not your mum's fault at all. She chose how to use her freedom by sleeping with a guy. All the same, I dont blame those putting the fault on your mum because they felt your mum could have done better in monitoring her. |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by mechanics(m): 6:47pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Your mum will be blamed since she was in her custody, she should have found out what she normally do in the computer lesson, since it had happened now, your mum and her mother should try and reconcile, because keeping malice is not biblical |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by vRendoh(m): 6:48pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
..if she had got married to the younger broda of Gov. Wike hope your mum for celebrate and claim the honour of bringing her to the city from the village. Such is life, as long as she is under your mum roof...She is responsible for everything. Your mum meant well but life throws different punches. Your aunty is right to be angry now....overtime she will call down. |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Ishilove: 6:49pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Organs:And I disagree with your disagreement. Are we forgetting here that this lady is an adult who should know better?? She is responsible for her poor choices, nobody else. Did Ardar's mother tell her to go deek hunting? Did Ardar's mother tell her not to comport herself? Do you need education to have common sense? Was she a virgin when she began dating who got her pregnant? Please, stop passing the buck here. The lady is 4 years away from 30, not a naive teenager. She is solely for her predicament. 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by andyanders: 7:08pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Ishilove: Exactly on point. SHe is an adult and should be held liable for her action.Nobody can force a dick into her without her consent at 26. 1 Like |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by odigie100(m): 7:14pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
tell ur mother to apologise to her for bringing her in to better her life |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Ishilove: 7:14pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
andyanders:I don't understand how anyone can blame the op's mum for the woman's predicament. 1 Like |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by bigsmoke2(m): 7:17pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Even for village that geh don dey chop diick tey tey just that the city diick hook her for throat. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by jesmond3945: 7:18pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Ardar:yes your mum didn't have time for her, there was no emotional connection she acted as if she was doing a favour not that she really wanted to. My conclusion came from were you said nobody had time to teach her anything. |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Greatfullheart: 7:21pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Hey My Friend it None of your Mum's Fault or any of your Family's Fault. Or Did Your Mother help Her to Sleep With The Guy?
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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by jesmond3945: 7:23pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Organs:you are very intelligent, this is exactly what happened. You shouldn't have typed so much sha lol. |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by sharpwriter(m): 7:27pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Organs: You really touched something deep here....may not be far from the truth of what happened when we look at it from your point of view. Africans are less empirical at connecting dots on issues. |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by MJmoz1: 7:43pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
na wa o again
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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Ikemefuna44: 7:48pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
There's more to this story than meets the eye. Your story is one sided and was told to 'clearly vindicate' your mum. For instance, in the main story, you did not mention that the man that impregnated her is a friend of your mum (you only mentioned it in passing in the comment section). I'll rather listen to the other party's story before coming to a conclusion. 1 Like |
Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by bigtt76(f): 7:58pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
If the man responsible has a shop next to op's mum and op's mum is a regular at the store, she probably would have noticed a change in the man's daily routine. For example 1. Does the man report to his shop later than he used to? If yes then the girl was going to collect preek before going to school or on her way to or from the errand. 2. Does the man all of a sudden starts leaving his store during break time unlike before when he was there all day? If yes the fi was collecting preek from him during her break time. 3. Does the girl go for lessons during the weekends? If yes...she goes for preek on weekends Sad that she played her benefactors and ended up playing herself |
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