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majekdom2:
Identify, study the patterns and happenings in people’s life before you assume their responsibilities. One hard lesson I learnt. What has she been doing in her 26 years. It is your mum’s fault. She didn’t ask the right questions.

4dor:
Yes your mum is 100% at fault. Why? In this time and age she doesn't know you have to stay away from extended family members.

andyanders:
Then, you are confusing people by saying that the guy is a friend to your mother. You should have stated that a neighbor who has shop close to where your mother has her shop, took advantage of the grown lady of 26.

You made the public see him as a friend to your mother.Tell your mother to tell them to go find somewhere to address the issue as both of them are full blown adults.

QuitNotice:
Sorry I am so harsh, but you need to pay more attention to your english. A couple of novels would be great.

Talking about your mum, you only take people in when you have the time to groom them. She didn't pay much attention to the girl's activities. Women know women, even after a mere glance. Your mum didn't put in enough effort to check mate that girl's activities

dominusgai:
In what planet is it the moms fault? What kind of questions on this earth is she supposed to ask the girl?

The girl is 26 not 16. She doesn't come home late. There was no where in the story where the girl was said to be keeping late night.

Or are you telling me you expect the mom to be checking the note book of a 26 year old girl to know if she is going to her lesson?

Or are you telling me if the 26 year old daughter of your sister comes to ask to stay with you in the city you will be asking 21 questions?

Please list the questions she was supposed to ask, let us know them.

CreepyBlackpool:
The lady and her mother are mad like really mad, very very mad, like super mad, terribly mad, like high level madness, customised madness, HD madness, Superior quality madness, highly durable madness

Ardar:
yes I do

Ardar:
Hi everyone,

I have a very serious family problem, my parents decided to take a female relative of ours from our home town to come live with us in Port Harcourt, due to the fact that she couldn't continue with her education and had to learn a skill.

This lady was enrolled in one of these computer centers to at least be a computer literate since non of my family members had the time to teach her and she wanted to learn.

Every morning she goes on an errand for my mom before moving along to learn in the computer center, not knowing she was dating and sleeping with a guy.

My mom never thought she would ever behave in such a stupid way, I mean coming to an unknown place for the first time and already dating a guy within a short period was something my mom never expected.

She got pregnant a month before Christmas, she told no one and waited till we all travelled back home to tell her mother. All of a sudden we started hearing rumors of how the girl we brought back home got pregnant and my mom was to blame for it.

This girls mother took out the all the blame on my mom and not her daughter, this woman said that my mother neglected her daughter to fall prey to men in the city but took care of me because am her own child, till today my mom and the ladies mother are not speaking to each other.

For Christs sake this lady is 26 years old and 4 years away from clocking 30, am younger than the lady and due to my introvert nature i tend to stay indoors and out of trouble not even because of my mom, if I wanted to become wild i would have, a long time ago.

So pls is my mom truly at fault here?

Ardar:
Hi everyone,

I have a very serious family problem, my parents decided to take a female relative of ours from our home town to come live with us in Port Harcourt, due to the fact that she couldn't continue with her education and had to learn a skill.

This lady was enrolled in one of these computer centers to at least be a computer literate since non of my family members had the time to teach her and she wanted to learn.

Every morning she goes on an errand for my mom before moving along to learn in the computer center, not knowing she was dating and sleeping with a guy.

My mom never thought she would ever behave in such a stupid way, I mean coming to an unknown place for the first time and already dating a guy within a short period was something my mom never expected.

She got pregnant a month before Christmas, she told no one and waited till we all travelled back home to tell her mother. All of a sudden we started hearing rumors of how the girl we brought back home got pregnant and my mom was to blame for it.

This girls mother took out the all the blame on my mom and not her daughter, this woman said that my mother neglected her daughter to fall prey to men in the city but took care of me because am her own child, till today my mom and the ladies mother are not speaking to each other.

For Christs sake this lady is 26 years old and 4 years away from clocking 30, am younger than the lady and due to my introvert nature i tend to stay indoors and out of trouble not even because of my mom, if I wanted to become wild i would have, a long time ago.

So pls is my mom truly at fault here?

Ardar:
Hi everyone,

I have a very serious family problem, my parents decided to take a female relative of ours from our home town to come live with us in Port Harcourt, due to the fact that she couldn't continue with her education and had to learn a skill.

This lady was enrolled in one of these computer centers to at least be a computer literate since non of my family members had the time to teach her and she wanted to learn.

Every morning she goes on an errand for my mom before moving along to learn in the computer center, not knowing she was dating and sleeping with a guy.

My mom never thought she would ever behave in such a stupid way, I mean coming to an unknown place for the first time and already dating a guy within a short period was something my mom never expected.

She got pregnant a month before Christmas, she told no one and waited till we all travelled back home to tell her mother. All of a sudden we started hearing rumors of how the girl we brought back home got pregnant and my mom was to blame for it.

This girls mother took out the all the blame on my mom and not her daughter, this woman said that my mother neglected her daughter to fall prey to men in the city but took care of me because am her own child, till today my mom and the ladies mother are not speaking to each other.

For Christs sake this lady is 26 years old and 4 years away from clocking 30, am younger than the lady and due to my introvert nature i tend to stay indoors and out of trouble not even because of my mom, if I wanted to become wild i would have, a long time ago.

So pls is my mom truly at fault here?

Rosarie:
My dear the one I saw growing up made me vow never ever to carry family relative to stay with me.they always end up been ungrateful.no matter what u do.

pussyAvenger:
selfish, family destroyer spotted

dominusgai:
I don't know if you ara a Christian, but if you insist on not helping your family, you should not bother helping strangers, it is stron hypocrisy as all part of the bible preaches that charity begins at home.

Secondly, no transgenerational wealth can come about without extended families bond. Read about all wealthy families that has had wealth for over 100 years, they involved their relatives.

One of the reasons the south south lacks family with wealth beyond 50 years is this mentality. You do now that Dangote was not the direct son of Dantata but the son of a relative.

Rosarie:
dead brain,; leech with a myopic mind spotted.mumu

pussyAvenger:
l know your type... and your type will never never cross my path

Now go fly your kite. Dunce!

Ishilove:
And I disagree with your disagreement. Are we forgetting here that this lady is an adult who should know better?? She is responsible for her poor choices, nobody else. Did Ardar's mother tell her to go deek hunting? Did Ardar's mother tell her not to comport herself? Do you need education to have common sense? Was she a virgin when she began dating who got her pregnant?

Please, stop passing the buck here. The lady is 4 years away from 30, not a naive teenager. She is solely for her predicament.

jesmond3945:
you are very intelligent, this is exactly what happened. You shouldn't have typed so much sha lol.

Rosarie:
u got no part.no direction.empty can.u can't even put ur feet on my foot print.so we can never cross dumb skull.next time u think befre u write thrash.see name sef pussy avenger kai.u be real fool.hopeless thing.can u say this name before ur father or mother.failure of a child

sharpwriter:
You really touched something deep here....may not be far from the truth of what happened when we look at it from your point of view. Africans are less empirical at connecting dots on issues.

jesmond3945:
yes your mum didn't have time for her, there was no emotional connection she acted as if she was doing a favour not that she really wanted to. My conclusion came from were you said nobody had time to teach her anything.

Ardar:
You know the worst part is that the guy that got her pregnant is even a friend to my mom.

thorpido:
Not exactly your mom's fault but if you bring a girl from the village to stay with you,you should have spent time educating and counselling her.
The moment you notice anyhow waka,you put her on the next night bus.

Boys for city tear eye and 'bush meat' dey quick fall.

The milk is spilt and there is little you can do now.Your mom has to take part of the blame.When someone is staying with you,you are responsible for that person's care and guide.

Organs:
Thank you Bros. You call me intelligent and put Very in front of the intelligent. I will do shakara wella today. By the way, can i take this "very intelligent" to the bank and exchange for some =N=

Seahawk:
Not when the person is a 26 year old woman

Ardar:
Hi everyone,

I have a very serious family problem, my parents decided to take a female relative of ours from our home town to come live with us in Port Harcourt, due to the fact that she couldn't continue with her education and had to learn a skill.

This lady was enrolled in one of these computer centers to at least be a computer literate since non of my family members had the time to teach her and she wanted to learn.

Every morning she goes on an errand for my mom before moving along to learn in the computer center, not knowing she was dating and sleeping with a guy.

My mom never thought she would ever behave in such a stupid way, I mean coming to an unknown place for the first time and already dating a guy within a short period was something my mom never expected.

She got pregnant a month before Christmas, she told no one and waited till we all travelled back home to tell her mother. All of a sudden we started hearing rumors of how the girl we brought back home got pregnant and my mom was to blame for it.

This girls mother took out the all the blame on my mom and not her daughter, this woman said that my mother neglected her daughter to fall prey to men in the city but took care of me because am her own child, till today my mom and the ladies mother are not speaking to each other.

For Christs sake this lady is 26 years old and 4 years away from clocking 30, am younger than the lady and due to my introvert nature i tend to stay indoors and out of trouble not even because of my mom, if I wanted to become wild i would have, a long time ago.

So pls is my mom truly at fault here?

Ardar:
Hi everyone,

I have a very serious family problem, my parents decided to take a female relative of ours from our home town to come live with us in Port Harcourt, due to the fact that she couldn't continue with her education and had to learn a skill.

This lady was enrolled in one of these computer centers to at least be a computer literate since non of my family members had the time to teach her and she wanted to learn.

Every morning she goes on an errand for my mom before moving along to learn in the computer center, not knowing she was dating and sleeping with a guy.

My mom never thought she would ever behave in such a stupid way, I mean coming to an unknown place for the first time and already dating a guy within a short period was something my mom never expected.

She got pregnant a month before Christmas, she told no one and waited till we all travelled back home to tell her mother. All of a sudden we started hearing rumors of how the girl we brought back home got pregnant and my mom was to blame for it.

This girls mother took out the all the blame on my mom and not her daughter, this woman said that my mother neglected her daughter to fall prey to men in the city but took care of me because am her own child, till today my mom and the ladies mother are not speaking to each other.

For Christs sake this lady is 26 years old and 4 years away from clocking 30, am younger than the lady and due to my introvert nature i tend to stay indoors and out of trouble not even because of my mom, if I wanted to become wild i would have, a long time ago.

So pls is my mom truly at fault here?

Ardar:
Hi everyone,

I have a very serious family problem, my parents decided to take a female relative of ours from our home town to come live with us in Port Harcourt, due to the fact that she couldn't continue with her education and had to learn a skill.

This lady was enrolled in one of these computer centers to at least be a computer literate since non of my family members had the time to teach her and she wanted to learn.

Every morning she goes on an errand for my mom before moving along to learn in the computer center, not knowing she was dating and sleeping with a guy.

My mom never thought she would ever behave in such a stupid way, I mean coming to an unknown place for the first time and already dating a guy within a short period was something my mom never expected.

She got pregnant a month before Christmas, she told no one and waited till we all travelled back home to tell her mother. All of a sudden we started hearing rumors of how the girl we brought back home got pregnant and my mom was to blame for it.

This girls mother took out the all the blame on my mom and not her daughter, this woman said that my mother neglected her daughter to fall prey to men in the city but took care of me because am her own child, till today my mom and the ladies mother are not speaking to each other.

For Christs sake this lady is 26 years old and 4 years away from clocking 30, am younger than the lady and due to my introvert nature i tend to stay indoors and out of trouble not even because of my mom, if I wanted to become wild i would have, a long time ago.

So pls is my mom truly at fault here?

andyanders:
Mehn, understand that she is already 26 and can code herself to look so innocent but any slightest opportunity, she will collect one round come back and pretend as if nothing happened. At her age, they shouldn't have taken her in because she can even break a home by sleeping with the man of the house. She is the that type that can pretend and be moving like snail around the house and once an opportunity comes her way, she will go for a quick one.

The mother to the op shouldn't be blamed of her action but can only be blamed of bringing in a full blown woman to stay with them. She should have encouraged her to marry and learn handwork in her husband's house.

Ardar:
You know the worst part is that the guy that got her pregnant is even a friend to my mom.