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I dont like guys who dont reason ahead of time, you know what will happen when you have unprotected sex yet you begin to blame the lady for getting pregnant. I dont like guys who dont have sense of foresight.

Before you Bleep a girl raw, please reason your job and your capabilities, if possible find out if she can take birth control pills if the thing dey really shack you for brain. Please this is a new year and you young boys should learn to be responsible for your actions. Shittt like this make we the responsible guys feels we are dulling or we dont have sense, anyways next time I won't pity any young man who decides to be foolish.

P.s. try to study the book of proverbs young men!

What usually happens to this kind of guys, it's Karma. He rejects the good woman for a wife, she will manage by her own and the guy will lose her. Then, when he realizes, how is not easy to find a good woman for a wife, he will come back begging for her but she will be already married or she will never accept him back. This guy will regret it all his life. And it's true, the good loving woman and good to you it's hard to find.

Bia nwokem. go and take up your responsibilities and save that lady the shame. she have sacrificed alot for you so,dont pay her with cruelity maka chukwu.

MichaelBukamzy:
Bia nwokem. go and take up your responsibilities and save that lady the shame. she have sacrificed alot for you so,dont pay her with cruelity maka chukwu.

sad, all he cares now it's about himself

Angela777:
sad, all he cares now it's about himself

Yes so sad. 2 abortions for his sake and he sees that as nothing.dude left their city,and babe still visits him at the new city where he relocated to,helps him with chores,cooks for him and many other things just to make him happy,and he is still skeptical about her condition.that is cruel.

Don't allow any girl to tie you down with pregnancy. If any girl tries that with me, that's the end of the relationship. Just man up and take responsibility of the pregnancy till she put to bed. But if I were you, I won't dare marry that girl again. Two ladies tried that with me, they ended up becoming a babymama. Dem dey mad! Even my smallie wey I dey knack raw steady told me she can only get pregnant when she wants to.

To me,you are greedy and selfish. Your self centered attitude will ruin you and regret your actions. The lady is good,you love her and she has even aborted twice for you. That's the greatest sacrifice a woman can do. Stop using job or money to shy away from your responsibility. If you fail to put smile on the girl's face, believe me, things might turn around for bad.

All your excuses are flimsy. Someone's life and future is your hands and you are here seeking for advice rather than do the needful.I wish it was your sister,I wonder what you will do.

Go and ask real men,some ladies bring fortune and blessing to one's life, she's one of them and if you make her regret her actions, you will solely face the consequence. The N2M you are shinning like N2B might turn to 2K. It's not a curse bro, that's karma for you.

Go and see her parents,they won't kill you. When a job goes,there is always a better one ahead. Her smile and prayers will surely set you a better one.

Her smile is worth more than your N2M and your excuses bro..!! She has sacrificed her life, sacrifice your job if you truly understand what love and life means

Firstly (SAVING), go and Open a fixed account that will fix that money(2million Plus) for 2 year(in the bank) before you meet her parents. ReasonMarriage and child delivery might consume the whole thing. People do marriage with just 50k(palour weeding) and Deliver baby with 10k, buy baby things with another 10k... Child go grow if he won grow, i drank orange because no money for baby food but today i'm 30 plus.

Secondly(FAMILY), you need to understand that, family is a thing you will eventually have some day, and why not now? you can't run forever, it won't consume you if you are prudence and wise, it will only add to your income, she will bring , you will bring. na so. and even some of your family member that usually task you will now understand that you are a family man and they won't ask for help or reduce it.

Thirdly(SEX), research shows that married people are more focus in life, and more dedicated to work. no more bro send me 5k for romance fee, no more urgent kongi, you will be more dedicated to your work, and this marriage doesn't mean you won't play away march o, you will still run some free shows but it won't be as frequent and this will help you save more money.

Lastly (God), almost every scripture says, sex you have in your matrimonial home is a blessing, i.e you get blessed while fucking(isn't that beautiful?) do you have an idea of how many angles curse you while you are having premarital sex? who knows you could have been more successful in life if you didn't Bleep those girls or even your said fiancee. Premarital sex is never free bro... do birth control, Bleep once or twice a week so you can enjoy it for long.

bye

Angela777:
What usually happens to this kind of guys, it's Karma. He rejects the good woman for a wife, she will manage by her own and the guy will lose her. Then, when he realizes, how is not easy to find a good woman for a wife, he will come back begging for her but she will be already married or she will never accept him back. This guy will regret it all his life. And it's true, the good loving woman and good to you it's hard to find.

And if the lady does not accept,she becomes bad one forgetting the shame and stress the guy caused her. Let's hope he would retrace and do the needful.

Emmy417:
Without wasting much of the time, let me just go straight to my point.
Ve been dating this girl for 2yrs now. & honestly speaking, she's just the best among all the girls i ve dated. She's hardworking, she cooks well. Good @ house chores. Before I got my washing machine late last year. Each time she comes around from Portharcourt, she washes all my cloths and do every needful things. Was with her in Portharcourt, but left there 2017 cos I got a better job in Lagos. She still comes to visit me each time she gets little opportunity from where she's managing. Her work.
When I was in Portharcourt with her 2017. She took In twice same year 2017, we got rid of the pregnancy. Last month been December she came around in Lagos to visit me, & it happened that we did it, & now she's pregnant. Even her elder sister called me this evening. We were discussing. They are insisting I should come see there parents be4 the pregnancy becomes obvious.
Frankly speaking, my problem is am not ready to settle down now. I feel am been forced to go do knocking of door and introduction. I told her she can give bath, I will support her financially. Till when am ready, I will come do the necessary things. Buh she & her sister are refusing. My job isn't even secure, it's contract. The little money I ve saved, 2million plus, planning on using that money to relocate to Abuja & start up something there. I can even move her with me. once am done with this job late this year. I ve not even build a house. Not even in the village nor town here. The house we live in, in the village is my uncle's own. I can't marry a wife & still live there.

Plsss fellow Nairalanders, am so so confused & depressed same time. That i ve been battling with for a long time. Depression. She's also aware.
And this, I want to keep away from my family. Don't want them to know that a girl is pregnant for me.
Please help me out, what do I really do now. I no longer concentrate at work. Am lost.

So you don't know how to use condom....smh

ayenika1:
And if the lady does not accept,she becomes bad one forgetting the shame and stress the guy caused her. Let's hope he would retrace and do the needful.

Yes, I agree with you and agree in she will be her husband blessing.

Why not easy?

Emmy417:
Not that easy for me bro.

Bro u are a murderer, two innocent kids terminated as a result of "ipia oku" and u want to build house in the village or city b4 u marry her. I know couple of guys that resides in their family house in the city that are married not to talk of village. Better marry that gal b4 amadioha visit u

MichaelBukamzy:
Yes so sad. 2 abortions for his sake and he sees that as nothing.dude left their city,and babe still visits him at the new city where he relocated to,helps him with chores,cooks for him and many other things just to make him happy,and he is still skeptical about her condition.that is cruel.

Humans are evil, they are utterly selfish, egoist, wicked and mean. He didn't even think about all the lady's sacrifice and present condition but only himself, himself and himself bringing up meaningless excuses. This is utterly pathetic. U knew all this and yet kept having unprotected sex, made her have 2 abortions and yet still wants to run away. The evil that men does lives with them.

Oga, go and live up to your responsibilities and stop shying away with flimsy excuses.

If you run away, the lady just needs to wake up naked in the middle of one night and placed an eternal curse on you.

Selfish thinking human folks everywhere.

Spits.

simplebb:
Humans are evil, they are utterly selfish, egoist, wicked and mean. He didn't even think about all the lady's sacrifice and present condition but only himself, himself and himself bringing up meaningless excuses. This is utterly pathetic. U knew all this and yet kept having unprotected sex, made her have 2 abortions and yet still wants to run away. The evil that men does lives with them.

Oga, go and live up to your responsibilities and stop shying away with flimsy excuses.

If you run away, the lady just needs to wake up naked in the middle of one night and placed an eternal curse on you.

Selfish thinking human folks everywhere.

Spits.

Me too just weak oo. i am happy the lady's father is a retired soldier.i bet that he will not take it likely with his cruel ass.

dingbang:
Bring that money let me give you a pos so you use to set up a big mobile banking shop, and then you get married to her. Next time try and be responsible by having sex with a condom or better still keep your Dingdong in your trousers like me and avoid sex till your dreams come true.

elucidate more on this sir.

overdrive:
elucidate more on this sir.

pls call me on my number displayed on my profile so we can talk

Being a baby mama isn't easy. You should've thought this through before being intimate with her.
Go and do introduction. Congratulations!

Emmy417:
Without wasting much of the time, let me just go straight to my point.
Ve been dating this girl for 2yrs now. & honestly speaking, she's just the best among all the girls i ve dated. She's hardworking, she cooks well. Good @ house chores. Before I got my washing machine late last year. Each time she comes around from Portharcourt, she washes all my cloths and do every needful things. Was with her in Portharcourt, but left there 2017 cos I got a better job in Lagos. She still comes to visit me each time she gets little opportunity from where she's managing. Her work.
When I was in Portharcourt with her 2017. She took In twice same year 2017, we got rid of the pregnancy. Last month been December she came around in Lagos to visit me, & it happened that we did it, & now she's pregnant. Even her elder sister called me this evening. We were discussing. They are insisting I should come see there parents be4 the pregnancy becomes obvious.
Frankly speaking, my problem is am not ready to settle down now. I feel am been forced to go do knocking of door and introduction. I told her she can give bath, I will support her financially. Till when am ready, I will come do the necessary things. Buh she & her sister are refusing. My job isn't even secure, it's contract. The little money I ve saved, 2million plus, planning on using that money to relocate to Abuja & start up something there. I can even move her with me. once am done with this job late this year. I ve not even build a house. Not even in the village nor town here. The house we live in, in the village is my uncle's own. I can't marry a wife & still live there.

Plsss fellow Nairalanders, am so so confused & depressed same time. That i ve been battling with for a long time. Depression. She's also aware.
And this, I want to keep away from my family. Don't want them to know that a girl is pregnant for me.
Please help me out, what do I really do now. I no longer concentrate at work. Am lost.

Why did you allow ur future wife to abort twice for you
You are wicked

You don't think that before you bleeped her.... Right?
Well, you need a good advice since you've at least 2 million plus, just get a small apartment and move on with her... You can start a good business if you see the one you like, with your wife help too since she is hard working.... Your unborn child has no problem then.... Ask for advice bit not too much, to much advice can mislead you bro...

Nobody is talking about the two innocent souls that was murdered by Op in connivance with his girlfriend. Why are you people advising him? I believe if he had the opportunity he would even do it again. What if your girl died in the process? Probably you dont even care. You were not ready to do the right thing but was ready to do the wrong thing. How do you think you would have sex with a girl unprotected and she won't get pregnant. For that your girl to willing abort your babies then she is capable of anything.

No offense bro but you gotta man up. You're sounding like a sissy. Being a man isn't cos you have a penis. Being a man means standing up to the occasion.

If you really want this lady, go with your people and see her parents. Start planning for marriage. You're a man. Man up! The marriage mustn't be rushed. She can have the baby first while you set yourself up

Except you don't want to marry the lady.

jesmond3945:
Nobody is talking about the two innocent souls that was murdered by Op in connivance with his girlfriend. Why are you people advising him? I believe if he had the opportunity he would even do it again. What if your girl died in the process? Probably you dont even care. You were not ready to do the right thing but was ready to do the wrong thing. How do you think you would have sex with a girl unprotected and she won't get pregnant. For that your girl to willing abort your babies then she is capable of anything.

I'm even scared right now and I can't wrap my head around the narrative. How expensive is protection? One mistake is acceptable, a second time? Haa. I'm now thinking, what was he expecting skinny dipping? rainbows and fireworks?

I want to agree with you, maybe if the relatives didn't call, he may have influenced the poor girl into removing the pregnancy (again).

Somehow, I feel he's made up his mind on what to do. People advising on here may just be wasting their time.

You are so evil and your heart is desperately wicked.

So, she should be with the pregnancy all alone for 5 to 6 months that you’ll have time to leave your work? What if it is one of your family members that is down with a terrible disease? You will tell them to wait?

I spit on you! Tueh

Sad thing the woman never forgets her abortion killed babies and to kill the 1st born is very painful, these 2 abortion babies will hunt her all her life. It is so cruel to send to abortion a young lady who is in love with you and it is more cruel to do it twice and much more cruel to abandon her with the 3rd one. The author is describing her as a very loving and caring person. What bad did she do to you, heartless man? for to hurt her and damage her life just because you are lazy to use a condom

Have really taken note of all you said here. & i ve made up my mind to go see her parents @ any slight opportunity i ve. But my going there with two or 3 of my frnds is not to break the news of the pregnancy to them. will go there with drink to let them know that am dating there daughter. like am going out with there daughter & ve the intention of getting married to her at the long run.
Cos i was meant to understood by she & her elder sis that i cant pay her dowry now that she's pregnant. until she delivers. they said that's there tradition.
Am hoping this works out fine. i appreciate all your positive & negative comments here. those criticizing me tho, u should understand that this can happen to anybody. i neva bargained for this. just feeling like am been pressured to get married to her. Dec this year would make me 27yrs. & my intention is to get married @ 28 or 29yrs. like i said, she's the best among al the girls i dated. several times she had caught me cheating, she still forgives. not like she caught me on bed cheating, but severally she had seen some incriminating stuffs in my closet. buh i already ve someone i ve in mind to get married to. who is 19yrs tho just got admission into the University. ve been planning future with that one. don't know how to break this news to her. not sure i would tell her even. not now atleast. she lacks some vital character which i think is youthful exuberance.
But this one pregnant for me claims to be 21yrs, buh kinda looks older than that. still doubt her age. she's more mature tho in reasoning etc than the 19yrs old. & she's a graduate. studied accounting.
Really planned on getting married to someone i give atleast 5 to 6yrs. not still sure she's 21yrs. & i heard ladies age more than men.
Just like all my plans ve failed. Smh.

Emmy417:
Just scared, I know how many years it took me to save such amount of money, now seeing myself raising a family with it. Frankly speaking, quite difficult for me. Ve already planned on relocating & starting up something with that money. This whole issues now. Am so freaking confused.

Bro.. take it easy... i ll advise you try to look at it from a different perspective. Try to ask yourself what's the worst that could happen? Parents angry, okay, it's nlt the first-time. They could be mad, okay, you ll relocate. You don't like her or see a future with her, okay, youmay actually love the child, and get to experience something different. I know I may not sound like what you want to hear, but trust me, when you analyze the worst, and see that there is actually a solution to the worst, then your "problem" gets reduced

Newboss:
Dude, don't marry anyone because of pregnancy.
Don't let any stupid person on Nairaland blackmail you. Marriage is not for pregnancy protection

I second. leave these dudes talking crap

Emmy417:
Money is also a problem here. My contract ends ending of this year. Will I start up family with roughly 2 to 3million naira? Money that I ve planned in using to build myself.

Just imagine.."Money that I ve planned in using to build myself"
U are very selfish and wicked...you are only thinking about yourself and what you think you will loose...what about her??...

I pray someone does this wicked act on two of your sisters.

Biingoo:
Don't allow any girl to tie you down with pregnancy. If any girl tries that with me, that's the end of the relationship. Just man up and take responsibility of the pregnancy till she put to bed. But if I were you, I won't dare marry that girl again. Two ladies tried that with me, they ended up becoming a babymama. Dem dey mad! Even my smallie wey I dey knack raw steady told me she can only get pregnant when she wants to.

And you think it will be well for you

I pray someone does this to all your sisters.