ogawisdom:
People should go back and use the Bible which is the manual for marriage. Biblical standard for marriage is timeless and God's plan for marriage.

A woman that can't submit to his man should not marry. This days u hear something like equal partnership in marriage which is not biblical. The man is the head of the union whether broke or rich. The man must love n care for the wife.

The man must provide for his household, u are not a head for nothing

cooldood:
Increase in marital failures- reasons: Gender equality jingle, Marriage is partnership jingle, social media craze, love for instant gratification,etc. Let me stop here for now.

xtivin2:
More women are getting born, more women are getting educated, more women are getting jobs. Until there is a reduction in 2&3 this trend will continue.
Reasons;
2. The more a women get educated the more she becomes difficult to control except God steps in
3. Women are getting jobs, they feel they don't need a man anyways to carter for her needs.

BTW, I forgot to add the social media, its becoming too crazy

Makschinchin:


Thanks for your contribution. But I will contest the last two points you mentioned. It's not something peculiar to 'women' only. It's also the same for the men.

BTW, you even generalised it, all women are not the same nah, haba

Makschinchin:


Please don't stop there, give solutions

cooldood:

I don’t think things will get better rather it will get worse going forward. The moral fabric of the society especially in countries like 9ja has been shattered. Is it social media’s negative use you want to curb or is it the push for gender equality that you want to stop? The solution for individuals is simply to find someone who shares similar ideologies with you and who had solid parental upbringing and also trained him or herself properly. And then try to raise your kids in a proper way.

xtivin2:
More women are getting born, more women are getting educated, more women are getting jobs. Until there is a reduction in 2&3 this trend will continue.
Reasons;
2. The more a women get educated the more she becomes difficult to control except God steps in
3. Women are getting jobs, they feel they don't need a man anyways to carter for her needs.

BTW, I forgot to add the social media, its becoming too crazy

xtivin2:
More women are getting born, more women are getting educated, more women are getting jobs. Until there is a reduction in 2&3 this trend will continue.
Reasons;
2. The more a women get educated the more she becomes difficult to control except God steps in
3. Women are getting jobs, they feel they don't need a man anyways to carter for her needs.

BTW, I forgot to add the social media, its becoming too crazy

pansophist:
Shot answer. Marriage cannot survive in a capitalist modernize world. Every fault that leads to divorce can be traced to the modernize world somehow.

ZIMDRILL:


fair point but look at the other side

women were not been a chance to education simply becoz one felt that it would enriching thr husband to be,

women were and in african traditions are not allowed to inherit her husband's wealth, the deseased brothers takes everything for her to have hands on the wealth she has to marry one of the brothers or else she goes back to her parents place empty handed

for a woman to survive she had to be married, women are important while she is a wife, the moment the husband passes away, she is seen as an outcastif she doesnt remarry or if she wants to what they built as husband and wife

pansophist:


And your point is?

ZIMDRILL:


you cant figure it out?

pansophist:


It is ambiguous, and I do not want to misconstrue. Can you elaborate?

Risingphoenix12:
Speaking from experience. (divorcee)

My opinion on some causes of marital failures:

1) Lack of preparation. A successful marriage takes a lot of hard work, commitment and resolution. Its more much than hormones and fuzzy feelings. Expectations are not well managed before the union is sealed. Its also much more than what the other person says but what he/she does.

2) Poor foundation - Like tedpgrass mentioned.. mental and morality connect are both key... but also.. the rate of evolution of both parties must be matched. You can start out on the same level but if one advances mentally/morally than the other... then there's a disequilibrium and potential for issues.

3) Compatibility- an offshoot of (2) above... from seemingly innocuous things as eating habits to deeper things like spirituality etc... A successful marriage is meant to be a marathon.. not a sprint.. so think far into 6 decades.. Can you live with this for that long? and is it something you'll be OK with for that long?

4) Lack of selflessness- As time goes on, there is a tendency to want to focus on what's best for you (as an individual) instead of what's best for you as a couple. One must seek the other's development and wellbeing and vice versa... If efforts and considerations are equally matched, it helps forge the bond of the union... unfortunately, if one-sided... doom lurks.

I'm sure there are many more... just wanted to share a few i could think of.

Makschinchin:


Thanks for this response sir. I also will advice we go back to Biblical standard for marriage. Everything was well spelt out, Wife submit to your husband... Husband love your wife... Fathers do not provoke your children to wrath... Children obey your parents in the Lord... Servants honour your masters... And so much more. I believe if we obediently follow these steps and continue to be led by the Holy Spirit, we will enjoy our marriages and make happy homes.

God help us all, Amen

xtivin2:
More women are getting born, more women are getting educated, more women are getting jobs. Until there is a reduction in 2&3 this trend will continue.
Reasons;
2. The more a women get educated the more she becomes difficult to control except God steps in
3. Women are getting jobs, they feel they don't need a man anyways to carter for her needs.

BTW, I forgot to add the social media, its becoming too crazy

Makschinchin:
In today's world, it's no doubt that there are lots of marriages that have failed and many are still failing. There are so many divorcees and the numbers keep increasing. It makes me wonder why it is so. Marriages are meant to be enjoyed not endured, but it so happens that many marriages today are far from being enjoyed.

What could be the cause of increased marital failures in the society today? Is it infidelity, or could it be linked to finance, maybe family interferences, the kids, juju (lol), dishonesty, laziness??

I want us to share our personal experiences or honest thoughts on this issue and also profer possible solutions to curb the increased rate of marital failures in the society. We could help one or two people by our honest thoughts and solutions given.

Over to the married people and others in the house

Ottocycle54:

The main problem is this equality nonsense
Now women believe they are equal to men and hence, they don’t heed to corrections, no respect, full of themselves and infidelity from women side

Check my signature to migrate to Canada

asuustrike1:

Have you thought of other religious beliefs before advocating for bible based marriage? You have to be specific with a target audience

Risingphoenix12:
Speaking from experience. (divorcee)

My opinion on some causes of marital failures:

1) Lack of preparation. A successful marriage takes a lot of hard work, commitment and resolution. Its more much than hormones and fuzzy feelings. Expectations are not well managed before the union is sealed. Its also much more than what the other person says but what he/she does.

2) Poor foundation - Like tedpgrass mentioned.. mental and morality connect are both key... but also.. the rate of evolution of both parties must be matched. You can start out on the same level but if one advances mentally/morally than the other... then there's a disequilibrium and potential for issues.

3) Compatibility- an offshoot of (2) above... from seemingly innocuous things as eating habits to deeper things like spirituality etc... A successful marriage is meant to be a marathon.. not a sprint.. so think far into 6 decades.. Can you live with this for that long? and is it something you'll be OK with for that long?

4) Lack of selflessness- As time goes on, there is a tendency to want to focus on what's best for you (as an individual) instead of what's best for you as a couple. One must seek the other's development and wellbeing and vice versa... If efforts and considerations are equally matched, it helps forge the bond of the union... unfortunately, if one-sided... doom lurks.

I'm sure there are many more... just wanted to share a few i could think of.

ZIMDRILL:


good points

remember MARRIAGE IS THE ONLY THING THAT GIVE YOU A CERTIFICATE BEFORE STUDY AND PASS THE EXAM