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Tajbol4splend:
Really, have a very good man but just don't want to, too bad that innocent guy thinks differently, he has no idea he's single

So you think we have not agreed and discussed matters before hand?
Not sure how relationships work in your books but in my book communication helps tremendously! You communicate, agree and you live life don’t see how that’s difficult to comprehend.

MissRaine69:
So you think we have not agreed and discussed matters before hand?
Not sure how relationships work in your books but in my book communication helps tremendously! You communicate, agree and you live life don’t see how that’s difficult to comprehend.

So he even does know, na wa o, maybe he's using you to satisfy his sexual desire because I don't know the kinda guy that takes such, better think it through

MissRaine69:
How do you think we ended up in a relationship if we don’t have the same ideals? Or discussed these things beforehand. Not everyone just falls into relationships yoo know! Some people look for and find their others based on the overlooked aspect called compatibility.
Well be scared if your mindset is stuck in the 20th century.
You are a funny muffin!

lol.. I love 20th century... at least we are not modern day roboot

I've actually given this a prolonged thought and I don't think I'll ever get married. On the one hand, I'm very scared of having my children experience broken home and on the other, I'd rather raise my children alone than let them experience a broken home so I'm thinking of having kids through surrogacy and adopting one.

Tajbol4splend:
So he even does know, na wa o, maybe he's using you to satisfy his sexual desire because I don't know the kinda guy that takes such, better think it through

I am content with our situation.
Thank you for your concern.

loswhite:
lol.. I love 20th century... at least we are not modern day roboot

You are the robot. I make my own rules.

MissRaine69:
You are the robot. I make my own rules.

That's the problem...smh. You need to do some reprogramming coz this version of your robotics is terrible... Gud9t

why is the op acting like a dick?

lilmax:
why is the op acting like a dick?

He wants to be noticed

lilmax:
why is the op acting like a dick?

He wants to be noticed

loswhite:
That's the problem...smh. You need to do some reprogramming coz this version of your robotics is terrible... Gud9t

Just because I don’t subscribe to how you see life does not mean I have less then a life then you, that’s just absurd and archaic thinking. You and I are a different type of people. People like me exist in abundance. Why I would want to spend this one life I have trying to prentend to fit in, please others or conform and be unhappy is an utter waste of life in general.

So I can take his money

I don't think I'll marry. Nigerian men are seriously write-offs!

To make sure my surname doesn't die.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I don't think I'll marry. Nigerian men are seriously write-offs!

Give Yourself A Break young Lady... Who Is The Crush That Broke You This Bad? Talk To Me Privately let Me Help You

IamPlato:
Give Yourself A Break young Lady... Who Is The Crush That Broke You This Bad? Talk To Me Privately let Me Help You

Where's the heart to even break? I'm cool hommie!

UyaiIncomparabl:
Where's the heart to even break? I'm cool hommie!

oya read that post again and judge yourself... witch or vampire which one are you



If You Are In Love thats Exactly What You Will Say. Just Dont Go And Fall For The Wrong Guy sha

Marriage Is A Beautiful Thing... I Already Have A Vision For My Extra Ordinary Type of Wedding... One Like No Other, will Be Happening At Mid Night Of The New Year in A Beautiful Private Elite Party... More Like A Gift For The Woman Who Fought Beside Me Through The Times



But You Know What? These Days I Am Beginnin To Change My Mind because women Only Want You Rich First.

1. So I can fulfil the scriptures
2. So my village people don't say I am a Ritualist (possess blood money)
3. So my village people don't say I'm having issues
4. Joy of fatherhood and husbandhood
5. My opinion, my life, my business

MissRaine69:
I am content with our situation.
Thank you for your concern.

Well I'm not concerned, just saying

ibkayee:
So I can take his money

onye ochi

I ask myself this question every other day. If I get married today it'd be to satisfy my mother.

1) I'm perfectly happy in my current unmarried state
2) I do WHATEVER I want without explanation to ANYBODY
3) I don't worry about keeping late nights cos when I'm late I can just sleep over at a friend's place without wondering if my wife will suspect foul play
4) Having Variety Sex
5) No unnecessary affiliations (wife's parents, families, friends, neighbors, pastors, acquaintances) it's too cumbersome
6) Maybe it's just me but I noticed married people automatically look older?
7) Cost of marriage in Nigeria sef is enough to start a small scale business
It's more expensive keeping a married life than a single life
9) Problems of alimony, compensation etc when the marriage goes sour (case in point Jeff Bezos)
10) Too numerous to mention

Might sound childish but marriage makes no sense to me except for 1 reason

Why Marry?
1) To raise up a child in a conventional family home

I don't still know why society and family can't just let one be!

I wanna get married cause I want kids, and I need my kids to have a father, and also the joy it could bring marrying the right man.

SheCool:
I wanna get married cause I want kids, and I need my kids to have a father, and also the joy it could bring marrying the right man.

1) You don't need to get married to have kids
2) You don't need to get married for your kids to have a father
3) You don't need to get married to find the right man. Statistically speaking women feel they've found the right man till they get married.

So why ruin all the joy wit marriage??

ceeroh:
Marriage is not for everyone!

I wish most Nigerians would realize and accept that!

Regiinald:
please speak for yourself and not others.
infact you have no facts to prove what you wrote up there.

he is right. Most of you think Marriage is an achievement, you breed like rat, hence we have over 200M people, many of these are from families with little resources.

SheCool:
I wanna get married cause I want kids, and I need my kids to have a father, and also the joy it could bring marrying the right man.

this babe like simple life..how fa ma.

Nope a baby mama will do, just need the kids.

InansBobo:
1. So I can fulfil the scriptures
2. So my village people don't say I am a Ritualist (possess blood money)
3. So my village people don't say I'm having issues
4. Joy of fatherhood and husbandhood
5. My opinion, my life, my business

Hilarious! You're actually concerned about ur village people's opinion of u

MrBrownJay1:
Nigerians want to get married because, in Nigeria, MARRIAGE is synonymous with HAPPINESS... and sadly, many will gladly marry any donkey out there, in order to join the "happily married" bandwagon (while being truly miserable in their heart)

also most have been brainwashed into believing that their life purpose is to find a mate, marry that person and becoming "one". thats what your parents tells you you must do, thats what you religious leader tells you you must do, thats what friends and family tell you you must do....so at the end, many do believe (wrongly) that if you DONT get married, you would have failed in life

This is very true of most Nigerians. They won't admit but it's written boldly in their subconscious

Marriage is a scam, I don't know if I will ever get married, though based on the people I am seeing in this country, maybe if I am out of this country.

I don't even know.
The only reason I can find is that's the way things are done. Everyone else gets married and wants to get married. So why not you.
And maybe for the legal benefits. I don't even know what they are though.

Someone once asked this question on twitter and I think it made FP here. What are the benefits of marriage, especially to women.

I have a very strong reason why I wouldn't want to get married though.