MissRaine69:

I am quite capable of standing by my beliefs without worrying or caring about what anyone else thinks or says.
Why? Because I don’t want to.

alexola20:

Thanks bro.

My mother even worse pass my wife sef.
You see I have nowhere to go.
Mama sits on the property in 9ja.
Wife claiming the one in EU.

Reason for my everyday cry.No where to go.
How can I trust any woman again when the closest ones have shown me more pepper and salt on my injuries.

ceeroh:


As my personality isn't for everyone, so is my response. Go fvck yourself Mr. maturity.

NB: Lemme reply you because you're the OP. I wouldn't wanna get married because asides giving birth and cooking, the lady would virtually have nothing more to offer. So why the stress? Any fertile female can give birth, even mad women give birth .
I might even end up adopting Children and continue with my life.

For those tearing me apart, this is it:
Don't get me wrong. I know my view sounds somehow. But if you look carefully, that's what most women do these days. Even those that work don't wanna share responsibilities with their husbands... Is that not the same as just cooking and giving birth?
As for the women in my family, that's a topic for another day, I wasn't raised by one. Not a broken home, but passed away when I was very young. Pops didn't remarry, and I never really felt her absence, maybe because I don't know what it feels like to have one. There's no house chore too big for me to handle, I grew up doing all those, perfectly. So I ask myself, what do I need a woman for? Asides giving birth and cooking, most of them have nothing more to offer. That's the truth. Some are even dirty and very disorganized, I can't stand a dirty environment. Never! But if you're gonna be offering something else asides what I listed above, then let me see. But how many of them have tangible things to offer?
And as for companionship, fvck it! I'm a hardcore introvert.

MrBrownJay1:
Nigerians want to get married because, in Nigeria, MARRIAGE is synonymous with HAPPINESS... and sadly, many will gladly marry any donkey out there, in order to join the "happily married" bandwagon (while being truly miserable in their heart)

also most have been brainwashed into believing that their life purpose is to find a mate, marry that person and becoming "one". thats what your parents tells you you must do, thats what you religious leader tells you you must do, thats what friends and family tell you you must do....so at the end, many do believe (wrongly) that if you DONT get married, you would have failed in life

MissRaine69:
I wouldn’t.

Splinz:




Whilst sheer thoughts like having little angels run around my house shouting: 'Daddy! Daddy! Daddy!' excites me a lot, I wouldn't be a proud father of such children if I don't marry their mother.

Why? Simple. I don't wanna breed bastards.

Debramaye:
reasonable comments like this lights a spark of hope in my heart for my country Nigeria

chemberlin:
You have fail to give yourself brain...Ask your father why he didn't get married again..The answer is because he loved your mom is much and that does not mean he can do it alone with out a woman just as you are thinking now in that your shallow mind.

ceeroh:


As my personality isn't for everyone, so is my response. Go fvck yourself Mr. maturity.

NB: Lemme reply you because you're the OP. I wouldn't wanna get married because asides giving birth and cooking, the lady would virtually have nothing more to offer. So why the stress? Any fertile female can give birth, even mad women give birth .
I might even end up adopting Children and continue with my life.

For those tearing me apart, this is it:
Don't get me wrong. I know my view sounds somehow. But if you look carefully, that's what most women do these days. Even those that work don't wanna share responsibilities with their husbands... Is that not the same as just cooking and giving birth?
As for the women in my family, that's a topic for another day, I wasn't raised by one. Not a broken home, but passed away when I was very young. Pops didn't remarry, and I never really felt her absence, maybe because I don't know what it feels like to have one. There's no house chore too big for me to handle, I grew up doing all those, perfectly. So I ask myself, what do I need a woman for? Asides giving birth and cooking, most of them have nothing more to offer. That's the truth. Some are even dirty and very disorganized, I can't stand a dirty environment. Never! But if you're gonna be offering something else asides what I listed above, then let me see. But how many of them have tangible things to offer?
And as for companionship, fvck it! I'm a hardcore introvert.

alexola20:

How would you know?
It took decades to see my own mother true colour.
In fact my wife is stupid but with my evaluation still much better than my mother.
But also brainwashed by her own mother.
Man has no say.

alexola20:

How would you know?
It took decades to see my own mother true colour.
In fact my wife is stupid but with my evaluation still much better than my mother.
But also brainwashed by her own mother.
Man has no say.

upliftinglife:




I see your pain but it is understandable. I am one of you I hate my freedom being taken away. Where a woman, coming into my life, will make me not want to move (travel the way I want).

Now coming to what they can offer, I denounced my friendship with a girl because she asked me, "won't you manage a girl if all she can offer is sex". I was mad. Because I can't stand the scene of seeing my kids suffer because of a lazy woman.

But still, I have seen woman with integrity. The once that have much to offer. Yes, I live in the semi-developed area of the country and it gave me much insight about women and their live. The only thing it requires to get one that meets your standard is just stepping out of your comfort zone.

Mind you I don't chase after women. You know that small life of an introvert, always on my own. But you have to signal to them with your body and eyes, then let them do the dating. And you, you do the shakara.

Bro my bottom line is, step out of your comfort zone, with just words a woman can tell you who she is. Remember this, keep the slay mamas away. They are the once that will alway give you the impression that all a woman can offer is sex. Instead try search for those once that you don't see regularly, those once with self respect. They are a lot of them, only that mechanics has caused us not to know who the mad once are.

Use you introverted character to your advantage. Getting a woman is not hard.

mhisbliss:
It all boils down to our societal values, norms and what people would think and say about you if you aren't married, especially if you're a girl, why pop out a baby or two or three for a man without him putting the ring on it and not expecting people to think you're a shameless baby factory who is just cohabiting with an unserious man who loves getting you pregnant?

So beneath all this "I don't care what people think about me" mantra everyone chants, is an insecure and timid person wishing he or she is really about that, lastly marriage gives you a kind of leverage, because in the face of society, you're legal and as a legal partner you kinda have a say when someone is in your turf, and you sometimes get compensation when it hit the rocks, example jeff bezos and his ex wife.

BabbanBura:


Nope, I won't kill myself cos my life is sweet. It's you that rather needs your advise, bitterness oozes all over you! But as I doctor, I would instead want to remand you @ yabaleft for some observation and cooling off

UyaiIncomparabl:


Same here. But what else should she offer?

skukimania:


Don't worry. By the time you meet the woman that will arrest your heart, you will change this ringing tone of yours.
OK, bye.

upliftinglife:



A woman should be of help financially to her man.

ceeroh:


As my personality isn't for everyone, so is my response. Go fvck yourself Mr. maturity.

NB: Lemme reply you because you're the OP. I wouldn't wanna get married because asides giving birth and cooking, the lady would virtually have nothing more to offer. So why the stress? Any fertile female can give birth, even mad women give birth .
I might even end up adopting Children and continue with my life. Love u bro!

For those tearing me apart, this is it:
Don't get me wrong. I know my view sounds somehow. But if you look carefully, that's what most women do these days. Even those that work don't wanna share responsibilities with their husbands... Is that not the same as just cooking and giving birth?
As for the women in my family, that's a topic for another day, I wasn't raised by one. Not a broken home, but passed away when I was very young. Pops didn't remarry, and I never really felt her absence, maybe because I don't know what it feels like to have one. There's no house chore too big for me to handle, I grew up doing all those, perfectly. So I ask myself, what do I need a woman for? Asides giving birth and cooking, most of them have nothing more to offer. That's the truth. Some are even dirty and very disorganized, I can't stand a dirty environment. Never! But if you're gonna be offering something else asides what I listed above, then let me see. But how many of them have tangible things to offer?
And as for companionship, fvck it! I'm a hardcore introvert.

CaptainMitch:
To make sure my surname doesn't die.

Blankstare:


You must be joking right?

Nicoddemus:
Most people are saying they don't wanna get married. That's just a total self denial of primitive human existence. God himself in his higher wisdom made woman to be a helpmate to the man and for companionship with the understanding of the critical needs and basic desire of the man he created. Yet some on nairaland derives pleasure trying to subvert natural Principe. Anywhere na forming sha. If you have met the wrong person or encountered difficulties in your life don't let is twist your understanding of marriage and why you should get married. As for me i believe in love....( calm down am not naive). I want to love and be loved. Companionship. And to groom healthy children.

ImaIma1:


Mine was a dinner on a Sunday evening.

Not all women are money conscious

ceeroh:


As my personality.....

Dreew:


This is the kind of wedding I want. Something private and very reserved. How did you pull this off without people thinking you're weird. Or you're not in Nigeria then?

Quorax:
your last line made me laugh. Why use Jeff to analyze your post? Are we in America or Nigeria? Funny people everywhere.