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Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by samsard(m): 11:44pm On Feb 18, 2019
ogawisdom:
Sex twice a week is excessive for couple married for over 10 years. Just focus on her companionship and Target twice a month.

It's not all about sex
WTF did you just say Unbelievable!
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by elonize(m): 11:44pm On Feb 18, 2019
Chiefochiefo:
It happened to me too. But I didn't find it offensive. Each day I could think of any better ways of bringing her back to the mood without letting her know my intentions. So, one day from work I branched off the mall bought her things beyond her imaginations, including instant eating things. I mean overdose of it and a cash of 20k, you can imagine the smiles on her face while eating them. We slept without disturbance from me. Next day I woke up and go to work. I monitored her for days till weekend, then on Sunday after church, we ate a palatable rice and chicken meal and off to bed to have our usual afternoon siesta, then she made the first move and I said no, that I wana rest besides you have headaches. She paused a while and said baby I was only joking, so someone can not joke with you again? by then my hands was already going through her soft body and guess what? The rest na history........
My advice is this, Women want many things but not really sure of what they want. Give them always, even when they don't request.
Search yourself and see where you are lacking and make amends.
Also do more home chores than usual.
Try these tins my guy, you will have a return match.
....Chiefo....
of all the advice, this is the one that has yanch, it makes sense,il always keep that in mind
but u nor finish dat part of d rest n.a. history o grin

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Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by samsard(m): 11:46pm On Feb 18, 2019
ogawisdom:


Did u marry her for just sex? Focus on companionship

If u sex twice a week after being married for over 10 years how many times do u want newly married to Bleep weekly. Sex twice or three times weekly is for newly married less than 5 yrs or those on honey moon
Oga this is pure nonsense! If it's normal in to your relationship, it doesn't mean it works in the average home. Stop spewing garbage.
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by mechanics(m): 11:52pm On Feb 18, 2019
Maybe she does not want to have more children.
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Jummyju: 11:56pm On Feb 18, 2019
MANGAM:
As women age, there sexual libido decline. Child birth is also another factor affecting sexual libido in women.
Ur wife is only adjusting to changes in her hormones.
but with the exemption of Edo women.... Those women can Bleep till 90yrs
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Rollzgold(m): 11:59pm On Feb 18, 2019
D preeq dey go break?
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Nobody: 12:01am On Feb 19, 2019
Op, some reasonable people with high functioning brains have advised you on what to do.

First try to get into her mind. Ask her what's wrong with her without bringing up anything about your sexual needs. Just ask her what is wrong and listen very carefully to what she will say even if she won't say much.

Next, STOP RAPING HER! ARE YOU MAD?!

Next, treat her exactly the way you did while you both were dating and watch how responsive she will become even without you making any move.

If you have been cheating, stop it! She may have found out and believe me, that is a libido killer for some women.

Take family planning seriously.

Ignore the agberos here telling you to go and get a side chick, bla, bla, bla. They are all from unstable, wretched homes.
If you go and get a side chick(s), you will end up with more children and you know what that means- a broken home, more bills to pay, acid baths here and there, paying school fees at old age, angry/ mentally unstable kids, more health challenges, sti/HIV.

Is that what you want? So be wise , use your head and solve things the right way.

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Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Andrez123(m): 12:03am On Feb 19, 2019
Ajengogo:
We have been married for almost 10 years now, with 5 kids. The last child is over 2 years old. My wife used to indulge me with sex a lot. And I enjoyed every bit of it. Sometimes I indulge her a lot too. I do sometimes resist it. Same with her too. Such has been our sex life so far; which has been good enough.

However, I started noticing a lot of reluctance in her each time I approach her for sex more than a year ago now. And it is getting worse these days. Each time I demand an explanation from her, she either complains of tiredness, headache or that she is seeing her period. The surprising thing to me now is that each time I touch her breast she cringes like a person that just stepped on naked electrical wire. Not to even mention several weird nightmares I experience each time I force my way, which even against my personal principles and ethics.

Note that I don't do sex like on a daily basis. Once or twice in a week is ok for me

Our sex life is dying. I don't know what becomes of this marriage without sex. And I do really love her. Any good suggestions will be appreciated
She's sleeping with another man.
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Pacesetter123(m): 12:08am On Feb 19, 2019
Zoharariel:
Married for just 10years & with only 5 kids? Is that an excuse? I know women who don born 6 & 7 pikins wey still dey collect steady preeks from outside. grin

The spirit of my ancestors from Nibiru is telling me that your wife is collecting an alternative banana outside.

Each time you touch her breast, she cringes?

Chaiii! Yahoo Boys don reprogram & adjust the frequency & wavelength of the sensual circuits of your wife's body, thereby rendering her sexual antenna unreceptive to your electromagnetic sexual waves being transmitted through your testosterone signal. grin

You can't trust these Nigerian women even if they're vomiting holyghost fire through their nostrils like a locomotive train. grin

If I were you, I would immediately hire 2 female Private Investigators to monitor & be following her about for a month. grin

If dem no catch am with atleast 3 guys for 3 different hotels, then NIMROD is not my ancestor. grin
Kikikikikikikiiiii,o boi!Dis one weak me

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Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Nobody: 12:11am On Feb 19, 2019
cococandy:
undecided

Look at how casually you’re suggesting infidelity to a married man. When it’s your turn to get cheated on, you’ll start foaming at the mouth like someone with chronic epilepsy.

@ cococandy. foaming at the mouth ke, lai she warapa...eebu eleyi ti poju na, lol
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by crunchyg: 12:12am On Feb 19, 2019
sisisioge:


Biko accept my beg, no call the dude for my case. Thanks
Sisi I hope you are settled now in your Ikeja house? Have fun
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Rcash: 12:22am On Feb 19, 2019
That one is your own Kampala
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Pacesetter123(m): 12:23am On Feb 19, 2019
apelike1:


Help in the house when he got work to do, comes back from work to feed his family, pays for the house bill, child's welfare and even the wife's welfare. And you expect him to do some house work undecided

With this kind of mentality you and your type deserve a madman who will take care of your body by panel beating it to stupor undecided

Useless women!
Useless women? Haa!Dat was too harsh.
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by kazyhm(m): 12:24am On Feb 19, 2019
cococandy:
5 kids will ensure that she’s always tired. Especially when the last one is still a baby. Lord have mercy.

P.S forcing your way will make sure that she feels revolted some more by the act of sex and maybe even disgusted by you. I wouldn’t ever enjoy anyone who forced himself on me. EVER AGAIN


1) Start by apologizing to her. You have committed a crime against her spirit and body by raping her. Let’s hope she forgives you.
2) consider permanent birth control. If you can afford vasectomy, very good. If you can’t, use condoms. Birth control shouldn’t always be a woman’s problem to deal with. However if she wants to take on the responsibility of birth control for your family, very good as well. Thank her.
3) find out if there are additional issues related to her decreased appetite for sex. Too much work at home or outside the home?, fear of pregnancy, resentment for you for any reasons including your offense of raping her? Etc. resolve those issues.
4) start over. Build the romance up again. Show more interest in her besides sexual interest. That works to make sex more appealing after you’ve been with someone for a while.
5) decrease your expectations.
6) when you do start having sex again, ensure that she enjoys it. Many men see their women as masturbatory aides instead of physical beings who should achieve orgasm same as them. I would get tired too if the sex is always about your orgasm. If it’s over when you cum. Then No thanks.

You're just stupidly senseless...... You can as well suggest this man commit suicide

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Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by MissRaine69(f): 12:31am On Feb 19, 2019
This is a lot more common than you realise, it’s just most couples do not seek to address the matter.
1. Routine sets in especially were sex is concerned
2. Complacency -couples get comfortable and stop trying
3. The children take over and the focus changes
4. Libidos do change, hormones do play a major part this needs exploring.
5. Attractions vary, have you changed?
6. How we feel about ourselves especially change also impacts on relationships. Has your wife put on weight? Does she feel insecure? Did you make a flippant comment regarding her body as these things do have a lasting impact.
You need to stop challenging her and talk to your wife. Find out what is on her mind. What has happened to the intimacy in your relationship this is something that needs to be addressed. What’s appalling and should stop is this business of yours of forcing yourself on your wife. You are killing whatever ounce of respect she might have had for you. All you are doing is thinking about your needs and disregarding her feelings

When was the last time you did anything nice for your wife without expecting sex?
Intimacy is not just about sex I don’t get the impression you do any of that based on your right up.
Have you ever had a date night?
When was the last time you took her out and spent time with just her minus the children?

There is a lot of stupidity, juvenile traits and ignorance based on some of the responses but then this is NL it’s to be expected.

She is the mother of your children it’s not all about you and your needs, find out what’s on her mind, unless you did something and you think she does not know about it? This is not impossible to resolve.

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Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by kapelvej: 12:31am On Feb 19, 2019
Zoharariel:
Married for just 10years & with only 5 kids? Is that an excuse? I know women who don born 6 & 7 pikins wey still dey collect steady preeks from outside. grin

The spirit of my ancestors from Nibiru is telling me that your wife is collecting an alternative banana outside.

Each time you touch her breast, she cringes?

Chaiii! Yahoo Boys don reprogram & adjust the frequency & wavelength of the sensual circuits of your wife's body, thereby rendering her sexual antenna unreceptive to your electromagnetic sexual waves being transmitted through your testosterone signal. grin

You can't trust these Nigerian women even if they're vomiting holyghost fire through their nostrils like a locomotive train. grin






If I were you, I would immediately hire 2 female Private Investigators to monitor & be following her about for a month. grin

If dem no catch am with atleast 3 guys for 3 different hotels, then NIMROD is not my ancestor. grin
evil. see d nimrod head
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by davillian(m): 12:32am On Feb 19, 2019
She keeps telling u nothing is wrong
May be she has found herself a huge energetic corck handled by a younger man. grin
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by mistyebby(f): 12:39am On Feb 19, 2019
MANGAM:
As women age, there sexual libido decline. Child birth is also another factor affecting sexual libido in women.
Ur wife is only adjusting to changes in her hormones.



After sending her to labour room after every two years. And five kids to carter for including you and the maids plus family members. Give her break na or better still, do your homework properly.

Find her mumu button because if that button is lost, until you find it, forget it.

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Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Nobody: 12:41am On Feb 19, 2019
apelike1:
Mr Man!

Your wife is receiving another's man dicck!

if you can't do a DNA test on your children I advised you divorce your wife! I repeat divorce your so called wife.

Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by echodrum(m): 12:42am On Feb 19, 2019
Ahmed0336:
Your own is a joke compared to mine.

Well, if she ll give her consent go to any registered pharmacy and ask for SPANISH FLY.

It will help increase her libido
Spanish fly abi?? What is her diagnosis? That is how you guys push people into thier untimely death.

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Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by whiteeyes: 12:44am On Feb 19, 2019
Olalan:
You need to get her to talk something isn't right with her........
BTW hope you haven't also been failing in your responsibility as a lover,husband and father
The way some men even approach the sex thing sef is annoying. how can you be having pre-intimacy and rubbing the woman's nipple like say you dey tune radio station it'll naturally put her off off course!

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Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Nobody: 12:44am On Feb 19, 2019
Ajengogo:
We have been married for almost 10 years now, with 5 kids. The last child is over 2 years old. My wife used to indulge me with sex a lot. And I enjoyed every bit of it. Sometimes I indulge her a lot too. I do sometimes resist it. Same with her too. Such has been our sex life so far; which has been good enough.

However, I started noticing a lot of reluctance in her each time I approach her for sex more than a year ago now. And it is getting worse these days. Each time I demand an explanation from her, she either complains of tiredness, headache or that she is seeing her period. The surprising thing to me now is that each time I touch her breast she cringes like a person that just stepped on naked electrical wire. Not to even mention several weird nightmares I experience each time I force my way, which even against my personal principles and ethics.

Note that I don't do sex like on a daily basis. Once or twice in a week is ok for me

Our sex life is dying. I don't know what becomes of this marriage without sex. And I do really love her. Any good suggestions will be appreciated

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Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Coolgent(m): 12:50am On Feb 19, 2019
ogawisdom:
Sex twice a week is excessive for couple married for over 10 years. Just focus on her companionship and Target twice a month.

It's not all about sex
embarassed
Oga i knew someone who do it 3 to 4 days in a week, they are married for 4yrs.
Is it healthy?
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by eddyslim(m): 12:50am On Feb 19, 2019
sisisioge:
5 kids in like 10yrs! I would cringe too shocked

I hope you have help in the house.
You don't mean it, do you?
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by SamOyovwi: 12:50am On Feb 19, 2019
Na responsible man be this na
Shibaraba:
Find another pussy

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Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Nobody: 12:58am On Feb 19, 2019
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Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Icon79(m): 12:58am On Feb 19, 2019
First question, how old is your wife? If she's 50 or younger (and healthy), then she's definitely getting it from someone else. If she's over 50 then it's probably the early stages of menopause.


O pari


Ajengogo:
We have been married for almost 10 years now, with 5 kids. The last child is over 2 years old. My wife used to indulge me with sex a lot. And I enjoyed every bit of it. Sometimes I indulge her a lot too. I do sometimes resist it. Same with her too. Such has been our sex life so far; which has been good enough.

However, I started noticing a lot of reluctance in her each time I approach her for sex more than a year ago now. And it is getting worse these days. Each time I demand an explanation from her, she either complains of tiredness, headache or that she is seeing her period. The surprising thing to me now is that each time I touch her breast she cringes like a person that just stepped on naked electrical wire. Not to even mention several weird nightmares I experience each time I force my way, which even against my personal principles and ethics.

Note that I don't do sex like on a daily basis. Once or twice in a week is ok for me

Our sex life is dying. I don't know what becomes of this marriage without sex. And I do really love her. Any good suggestions will be appreciated
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Oludrex(m): 1:00am On Feb 19, 2019
@ajengogo I have a solution to the issue I promise PM me. my favourite uncle had the same issue after six years of marriage but now they Bleep like rabbit
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Coolgent(m): 1:01am On Feb 19, 2019
Donjazzy12:

My guy all the suggestions from guys just goes on to show how out of touch men of nowadays are about women.

Very important: Check to see if there is a particular woman your wife have gotten very close to within this period. If there is, then it is a hopeless case. The said close friend is her lesbian partner and that is why she cringes whenever you touch her boobs.

I can on my own count at least 12 homes broken by these scenarios. Suddenly, the wife hates sex with hubby but be very close to a female friends. In all cases, it turned out the wives were being brutally fingered and sucked until every sex interest for their husbands dies permanently.

Most if not all women fall easily for lesbians and the moment they are sucked and fingered furiously a few times they fall yakata. Even if you like let your dick be 50 inches, they won't be interested!

Honestly, I strongly believe your wife has fallen Victim.
U are right 100%
Op try to figure it out pls.
Re: My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex Anymore by Icon79(m): 1:02am On Feb 19, 2019
My sista, that one shocked me as well shocked


O pari

Pamloveh:
You force your waY sometimes embarassed

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