There are lots of factors that would reduce your wife's sex life with you.
1. Age, as some women progress in age, their urge gradually reduces
2. Child birth, most women are really affected by number of children they have delivered.
3. Stress. This is another factor that could drastically reduce the sexual urge of most women.
4. Fear of pregnancy.
5. Have an affair with a more experienced sexual partner, this factor has really caused a lot of gridlock in the relationship of people, when she sees you unattractive or incapable of satisfying her

My Recommendations
1. I would suggest you see a therapist first privately, then she goes and finally both of you..This would give a lot of room to discover what might have gone wrong.
2. Help her a lot in other house duties. Research has shown that some ladies become less interested in sex when lots of stress like child birth, take care of children, work, family issue hit them.
3. Spend more thin with her, talk to her about it, take her out, revitalize your marriage with romance, surprises, vacations, etc, this would strengthen your relationship and increase your closeness.
4. Avoid blame, show her love, cuddling, and even research on how best to wao her when you both have sex, she might be tired of your regulars..Try something new and interesting.
5. Seek God...
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Donjazzy12:

Remember you openely confessed that you practiced lesbianism in your Secondary School and that you still struggle with it even as a so called married woman.

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She's simply pregnant, again.

ogawisdom:


Did u marry her for just sex? Focus on companionship

If u sex twice a week after being married for over 10 years how many times do u want newly married to Bleep weekly. Sex twice or three times weekly is for newly married less than 5 yrs or those on honey moon

i will be happy if what u guys spew here is what you do in reality.

Twice a week isn't bad for couples married for 20-30 years not to talk of 10 years.

People like u preach holiness here and Fvck olosho outside while you claim holy holy to your wife.

dingbang:
She is aging. Its normal, her sexual drive would decline.

one thing is to have libido decline, understand it and trying to get your partner to understand you and another thing is to deprive your partner and act as if everything is normal. there is more to decline libido in this case.

This post just shows that Nigerians are rapists. This motherf$#ker is raping his wife and it seems no one is yet to see this.

You should jump over a cliff you fool! Thats why she doesn't want you to touch her. You've violated her dimwit. Ughhhh people here are sooo daft and do not understand consent... no hope!. We need bubonic plague to seriously wipe out the Nigerians that think like the people on this thread. TF!!!!

Zoharariel:
Married for just 10years & with only 5 kids? Is that an excuse? I know women who don born 6 & 7 pikins wey still dey collect steady preeks from outside.

The spirit of my ancestors from Nibiru is telling me that your wife is collecting an alternative banana outside.

Each time you touch her breast, she cringes?

Chaiii! Yahoo Boys don reprogram & adjust the frequency & wavelength of the sensual circuits of your wife's body, thereby rendering her sexual antenna unreceptive to your electromagnetic sexual waves being transmitted through your testosterone signal.

You can't trust these Nigerian women even if they're vomiting holyghost fire through their nostrils like a locomotive train.

If I were you, I would immediately hire 2 female Private Investigators to monitor & be following her about for a month.

If dem no catch am with atleast 3 guys for 3 different hotels, then NIMROD is not my ancestor.

She may not be what you're painting. Whatever is happening to her might be natural or medical. I am a woman and I can relate...

Your wife is depressed ...... Put yourself in her position, you will understand. Raping her will only cause more harm. Correct your mistakes before it's late

whiteeyes:
The way some men even approach the sex thing sef is annoying. how can you be having pre-intimacy and rubbing the woman's nipple like say you dey tune radio station it'll naturally put her off off course!

Hahaha hahaha..
Some of you no well on this forum walahi
.... Radio station kwa? Maybe he tugs at her breast like someone strangling a neck

shakmati:
Could it be that she is dancing to the beat of another drummer? If you're sure she's not then rush and seek medical psychological and/or spiritual attention for her because something is killing her slowly inside that you know not of!

suggestions like this will break his home

Why does it always have to be the man's fault tho?

It's funny how they easily make out excuses for her; that she's the one with the low libido or hormonal in-balance and all that, yet it's him who has to fix her.
It's always all about what he has to be doing more or less. Why is there so little sympathy for the male folk? really i don't get it.

She denies him his conjugal rights, the mere sight of her own husband disgusts her, yet it's him who needs to figure her out? Telling a grown arse man the number of times he can fúck his own wife in a month, he should pretend not to want sex so he can get sex, aren't you lot just stupíd?

sharpwriter:


Hahaha hahaha..
Some of you no well on this forum walahi
.... Radio station kwa? Maybe he tugs at her breast like someone strangling a neck

I'm dead

DateMynd44:
force yourself on her.
If she resist panel beat her body to stupor, u paid for her bride price so u can do whatever you want with her

Lol you no well

mukthar2000:
Did u said both have been married for almost 10 years now, with 5 kids. The last child is over 2 years old. And u expect the woman to be as sexxy as when u just met her then? brother try to understand ur wife nothing rough with her and don't ever think she has any date somewhere, I believe she doesn't have more zeal for sex anymore like b4, just manage anyhow she give it to u please

He didn't say he stopped finding his wife attractive. There is a difference here.

OP, your sex life might have been great over the years but it is obvious you both do not communicate on the same wavelength. It seems to be missing based on your narrative. I believe it would be fair to say the chores seem to be taking their tolls on her, coupled with the fact that the kids are there to look after. She probably is scared of getting pregnant and the only way she knows how best to make you understand this is via her actions, particularly when you make your move.

Perhaps you planned the number of kids you guys wanted, perhaps not, but I strongly believe now is the time to sit down and talk things through. Getting pregnant by accident after five kids might just be too much for her to handle.

Explain the weird dreams. Also, this isn't a physical issue. Its spiritual based.

Ajengogo:
We have been married for almost 10 years now, with 5 kids. The last child is over 2 years old. My wife used to indulge me with sex a lot. And I enjoyed every bit of it. Sometimes I indulge her a lot too. I do sometimes resist it. Same with her too. Such has been our sex life so far; which has been good enough.

However, I started noticing a lot of reluctance in her each time I approach her for sex more than a year ago now. And it is getting worse these days. Each time I demand an explanation from her, she either complains of tiredness, headache or that she is seeing her period. The surprising thing to me now is that each time I touch her breast she cringes like a person that just stepped on naked electrical wire. Not to even mention several weird nightmares I experience each time I force my way, which even against my personal principles and ethics.

Note that I don't do sex like on a daily basis. Once or twice in a week is ok for me

Our sex life is dying. I don't know what becomes of this marriage without sex. And I do really love her. Any good suggestions will be appreciated

She doesn't love you any more. And She s fucking someone else. It's over bro. HML is over!

sisisioge:
5 kids in like 10yrs! I would cringe too

I hope you have help in the house.

5 kids were not born same day, they ain't all toddlers, don't be a lazy asx.

Mizwisdom:



Can you prove that age causes decline in sex drive in female?


OP, she has too much work to do with five kids. Do you help with house chores? She's not a machine bruh, she'll get tired with five kids if you don't help her

Yes,age causes decline in sexual drive.

Ahmed0336:
Your own is a joke compared to mine.

Well, if she ll give her consent go to any registered pharmacy and ask for SPANISH FLY.

It will help increase her libido

Don't just conclude on the medication. My advice will centre on two areas: 1. She might be going through some emotional stress. I will be frank with all married men that most of the married women we have don't like to suffer, they like living in abundance. So, when times r hard for the husband, it begins to show in their attitude n character including tricks when it comes to sex with their husbands. And immediately the financial state of d husband improve then they becomes active again. 2. Women sexual libido reduces with age. As they give birth to children, their libido n activeness to sex drastically reduce. U need to study her n probably communicate with her. I don't push my wife again regarding this because I have already identified why she behave like this.

agarawu23:
i will be happy if what u guys spew here is what you do in reality.

Twice a week isn't bad for couples married for 20-30 years not to talk of 10 years.

People like u preach holiness here and Fvck olosho outside while you claim holy holy to your wife.

What is this miscreant blabbing about? Get lost biko

Menopause

Ikpongiton:
if you don't force her,what do you give to your preek,if it stand erect and refuse to fall in the night.just asking

Except u took Viagra anything that goes up will naturally come down, just ignore the dick it will behave itself

Nawa ooo
Marriage and different issues

Coolgent:


Oga i knew someone who do it 3 to 4 days in a week, they are married for 4yrs.
Is it healthy?

Yes it's normal they are newly married after 10years they might reduce it to twice monthly

ogawisdom:


Did u marry her for just sex? Focus on companionship

If u sex twice a week after being married for over 10 years how many times do u want newly married to Bleep weekly. Sex twice or three times weekly is for newly married less than 5 yrs or those on honey moon

Which doctor tell u this?

cococandy:
5 kids will ensure that she’s always tired. Especially when the last one is still a baby. Lord have mercy.

P.S forcing your way will make sure that she feels revolted some more by the act of sex and maybe even disgusted by you. I wouldn’t ever enjoy anyone who forced himself on me. EVER AGAIN


1) Start by apologizing to her. You have committed a crime against her spirit and body by raping her. Let’s hope she forgives you.
2) consider permanent birth control. If you can afford vasectomy, very good. If you can’t, use condoms. Birth control shouldn’t always be a woman’s problem to deal with. However if she wants to take on the responsibility of birth control for your family, very good as well. Thank her.
3) find out if there are additional issues related to her decreased appetite for sex. Too much work at home or outside the home?, fear of pregnancy, resentment for you for any reasons including your offense of raping her? Etc. resolve those issues.
4) start over. Build the romance up again. Show more interest in her besides sexual interest. That works to make sex more appealing after you’ve been with someone for a while.
5) decrease your expectations.
6) when you do start having sex again, ensure that she enjoys it. Many men see their women as masturbatory aides instead of physical beings who should achieve orgasm same as them. I would get tired too if the sex is always about your orgasm. If it’s over when you cum. Then No thanks.

Were you forced before?

Ahmed0336:
Your own is a joke compared to mine.

Well, if she ll give her consent go to any registered pharmacy and ask for SPANISH FLY.

It will help increase her libido

My Nigga

samsard:
Oga this is pure nonsense! If it's normal in to your relationship, it doesn't mean it works in the average home. Stop spewing garbage.

So u still never get any sense, ok continue being your foolish self