I've never been happy for almost 8 years of marriage with 3 wonderful kids.I wake up everyday asking God how I got entangled with the worse woman I've ever met in my life.

I'm a very responsible and decent man who provides for his family.My family has always been my priority, but my wife's disrespectful attitude towards me has rendered me hopeless,shattered and broken.

She insults me at any slightest argument,raises her voice to attract the attention of neighbours and the kids whenever we have a misunderstanding.She hates been talked to,even if she's wrong.

I have my own imperfections too as a man,but it really baffles me when a woman you paid her bride price sees you as trash,challenges you in a very rebellious and arrogant manner for the whole time you've ever spent with her.

My kids has been the ones keeping me from leaving the marriage since I've complained to virtually all her family members yet it seems to be worse. I die in silence and pains everyday.

My wife can't serve me food with water to wash my hands,I'll always go and wash my hands myself and mostly take the plates back to the kitchen if the maid didn't do it.She has never asked why I rejected a particular food,she'll just take it away without remorse.

I'm just nothing to her and her family members. Her sister even called me to warn and threaten me one certain time we had problem.It even became worse when she got a job,I'm a laughing stock because I lost my job.

I usually send her money to pay the kids fees,I was owing some little amount this term,surprisingly,the gave the school accountant my number to embarrass me.

I've come to realize that any woman disloyal to her husband definitely has someone she's loyal to and if you don't let her go,she might end up killing you or you do the unthinkable out of frustration.

Divorce might not be the best way to end an unhappy marriage,but it can surely prolong the lives of the couples involved. Kids will surely grow into adults someday to understand things. This is my point of no return.

She started as a terrible girlfriend and ended as a bad wife.I pray my daughters don't ever take after their mother because I can't wish a fellow man what I've experienced for almost 8 years.No body should ever marry a man or woman with flaws thinking they'll change with time;they don't change,they only get worse.

Lots of people are really misquoting me.I only lost a high paying job but still got a very big business which is already yielding income,just that my spending pattern changed.I still run all aspects of mybhome.

My wife's money remains her business and she's not mandated to spend it on me or the family.I truly assist her to the best of my ability in domestic chores and otherwise.

She's a very bad tempered woman that doesn't regard or respect me and that's where the problem lies.My only crime is that I wanted respect from her.

Someone started as a terrible girl friend and you thought you could fix her ?Man not all that glitters is Gold

I feel your pain.
Marriage is not always easy and the feeling of regret is a terrible one to carry around.

But you have got to do some soul searching.
Ask yourself why she treats you that way.

How does she percieve you?
What signals are you sending out consciously and unconsciously.

What are you permitting that you should not.
What should you be doing that you are not.

Find out what it is, then flip it.
In this case words are a waste of time.

You guys never learn. Never stay in an abusive relationship, whether physical abuse or emotional abuse. If you both are not ready to see a counselor, what's the point? You can leave your wife and still find ways to be in the life of your kids. If you don't want to divorce, stay away for some time.

Never marry a terrible girlfriend no matter the love.

Dump her ass Marriage is not by force.
The worst mistake you can do as a man is to marry a bad wife because even the devil will leave you alone.

She insults you,sends the accountant to embarrass you,the sister and the family also insults you?

Role reversal. She's now in a place of power and control while you are weakened.

How were you treating her and family when you were at the peak of your powers?

What are the lessons this situation is currently showing you?

What are your plans for a sizzling comeback to reclaim,restore and install true exemplary leadership?

You could put in the work and reclaim your world or take the easy way out.

Retrain your mind and hands to always get your water to wash your hands and serve yourself. Now, if someone perhaps your wife or maid offers to help out of love or service, be grateful and let them know about it.

Treasured4eva:
I've never been happy for almost 8 years of marriage with 3 wonderful kids.I wake up everyday asking God how I got entangled with the worse woman I've ever met in my life.

I'm a very responsible and decent man who provides for his family.My family has always been my priority, but my wife's disrespectful attitude towards me has rendered me hopeless,shattered and broken.

She insults me at any slightest argument,raises her voice to attract the attention of neighbours and the kids whenever we have a misunderstanding.She hates been talked to,even if she's wrong.

I have my own imperfections too as a man,but it really baffles me when a woman you paid her bride price sees you as trash,challenges you in a very rebellious and arrogant manner for the whole time you've ever spent with her.

My kids has been the ones keeping me from leaving the marriage since I've complained to virtually all her family members yet it seems to be worse. I die in silence and pains everyday.

My wife can't serve me food with water to wash my hands,I'll always go and wash my hands myself and mostly take the plates back to the kitchen if the maid didn't do it.She has never asked why I rejected a particular food,she'll just take it away without remorse.

I'm just nothing to her and her family members. Her sister even called me to warn and threaten me one certain time we had problem.It even became worse when she got a job,I'm a laughing stock because I lost my job.

I usually send her money to pay the kids fees,I was owing some little amount this term,surprisingly,the gave the school accountant my number to embarrass me.

I've come to realize that any woman disloyal to her husband definitely has someone she's loyal to and if you don't let her go,she might end up killing you or you do the unthinkable out of frustration.

Divorce might not be the best way to end an unhappy marriage,but it can surely prolong the lives of the couples involved. Kids will surely grow into adults someday to understand things. This is my point of no return.

She started as a terrible girlfriend and ended as a bad wife.I pray my daughters don't ever take after their mother because I can't wish a fellow man what I've experienced for almost 8 years.No body should ever marry a man or woman with flaws thinking they'll change with time;they don't change,they only get worse.

Will you pay attention and stop this victim mentality. It is either you will take advise, since you brought this matter to the court of public opinion, or you will narrate your experience, believe your wife is the worst woman and conclude that you are leaving a marriage. You are sounding emotional and your feedback system has totally clouded your judgment.

Pay attention:
Being a husband is a full-time job. Just like any job, it comes with serious responsibilities and repercussions if you fail to understand how the game is played.

1. It is your responsibility to get the money, pay the rent, pay kids school fees. You are the chief medical officer of your home, so everyone's health including your wife's and kids', are under your care.

2. You are the chief security officer of your home, you must check that all doors are locked at night and ensure the safety of everyone in the family.

3. You are the chief romance officer, you must master how to play women with sweet words, give her massage every evening, and make sweet love to her during the massage sessions, and I mean this. Get a massage table, it goes for about 180K to 300K for a good one. If you cant afford that, then buy massage mat. Prepare the oil and get some candles.

4. You must join her in the kitchen, even if there is a maid to do the chores and help her out, you must learn this. Wash those plates sometimes.

5. You must lie down with that woman on bed after sex, hold her face, and tell her truths and lies of how you love her. Then if you have nothing more to do, do some gossiping with her. Stroke her nicely and tell her how hard you are working to ensure your family is financial stable for the next 100 years.

6. You must stop thinking like your ancestors. Define your own path and ignore customary and traditional ways of running your home. Times have changed. Why wont you fetch water and wash your own hand. Seems she is the one doing all the kitchen work and you are the African man waiting to be served. It is not mandatory, besides do you know if her mother used to serve her father that way? It might be she got a different kind of training.

7. Do not ever think you have done enough, cos you havent done jack. If you feel that your wife is cheating, then rent a place somewhere else and move towards a different location. It does not matter if you own the house you are living now. Go and rent someplace nice for a year and move there and change your children's school so as to forget the shame and embarrassment your quarrel may have caused. If it is your house, you can return back after a year.

8. Always remember that most women are like babies. You must master how to lie to them if you know that truth will hurt. Learn all those skills from yahoo boys how they control white women and use it for your marriage. If you do it right, your wife might be giving you pocket money sometimes and you all will fall in love again.

Do you think your wife is bad? You have no idea. No one will tell you what is going on in their homes.

Master how to manipulate women, and you will control them like a intimacy gadget.

Treasured4eva:
I've never been happy for almost 8 years of marriag


I'm just nothing to her and her family members. Her sister even called me to warn and threaten me one certain time we had problem.It even became worse when she got a job,I'm a laughing stock because I lost my job.



She started as a terrible girlfriend and ended as a bad wife.I pray my daughters don't ever take after their mother

please help a brother here. I have a girlfriend who I'm still trying to understand. what signs should I look out for in a terrible girlfriend?

Sorry bro bur the truth is that if you don't get your sorry ass away from that marriage asap then your trip to your grave is closer than u can imagine.

delugadou:


please help a brother here. I have a girlfriend who I'm still trying to understand. what signs should I look out for in a terrible girlfriend?

Do you intend to marry her? If Yes, the things to watch out for are:

Can she cook nutritious meals, not delicious, but healthy nutritious meals.

Can she maintain a very very clean environment, keeping home clean is a priority as well as fixing great organic meals? These will keep you and your family alive longer.

Do not marry a lady that drinks a lot or smokes weed. Not because they are bad, but a weed smoking girl can Bleep outside easily.

Beyond love is respect, if she respects you a lot and can keep your secrets, love is not important, sex is. Love will always wander on the direction of quiet desperation. No man or woman believe they have bleeped enough, they will always sneak out at least once in the life of their marriage. Expect the worse, but work hard to maintain the best.

See advise lol orisirisi

Capensis:


Do you intend to marry her? If Yes, the things to watch out for are:

Can she cook nutritious meals, not delicious, but healthy nutritious meals.

Can she maintain a very very clean environment, keeping home clean is a priority as well as fixing great organic meals? These will keep you and your family alive longer.

Do not marry a lady that drinks a lot or smokes weed. Not because they are bad, but a weed smoking girl can Bleep outside easily.

Beyond love is respect, if she respects you a lot and can keep your secrets, love is not important, sex is. Love will always wander on the direction of quiet desperation. No man or woman believe they have bleeped enough, they will always sneak out at least once in the life of their marriage. Expect the worse, but work hard to maintain the best.

I pity u man.


now I understand why some people don't care about marriage.

LMAO

A terrible girlfriend became an even more terrible wife. I'm shocked

OmoAlata1:
See advise lol orisirisi

O ma ya mi l'enu ke.

I think he is being sarcastic

If you not happy with her divorce is the next option dont kill ur see in an abusive relationship

delugadou:


please help a brother here. I have a girlfriend who I'm still trying to understand. what signs should I look out for in a terrible girlfriend?

First of all,run a thorough background check to know the kind of family she comes from because a lion can't give birth to a lamb.

Second,try to know her past.If you find anything messy she's done that you can't forgive her for,end it there.

Thirdly,check her temperament and the manner she reacts to the silly things you do.If she tends to be rude and aggressively challenges you;don't think twice,end it.

Also,check how much she values and respects you when you're alone,with family members and friends.
If she's angry and you ask her to calm down,how does she react?

Finally,check how she handles your home when she comes around."Charity truly begins at home".A woman without good home training can never make a good wife.

I obviously saw all these red flags but ignorantly overlooked them,hoping that she'll change,but I got more than what I bargained for.

otipoju:
I feel your pain.
Marriage is not always easy and the feeling of regret is a terrible one.

But you have got to do some soul searching.
Ask yourself why she treats you that way.

How does she percieve you?
What signals are you sending out consciously or unconsciously.

What are you permitting that you should not.
What should you be doing that you are not.


Find out what it is, then flip it.

In this case words are a waste of time.

If I say I'm perfect,I lie.As a man,I do all I can to give my family the best I can afford.

She's always been like that even before we got married.I never wanted to marry her but my mum made me rethink my decision. That's the worse decision I ever made in my life.

dear Sir,

I feel u.

see in all honesty, that's how women behave. especially to hard working, straight forward men,
once they get married and everything isn't rosy as they expect, they use that aspect of being in charge of the home to disrespect you.

especially when some needs are not met as when due,

they don't consider the economic situation and the size of your salary.

sir,
try to get over it, be patient. (this is very difficult).

with time as she gets older, the mirror she looks in everyday will let her realize that outer beauty fades.

my wife does such in higher magnitude once a while , this makes me sad, angry and sometimes ill but what can u do especially if u love her so much. I feel she is expressing her frustration of unmet expectation but she is doing it the wrong way.

forget about telling her family members,

just manage with her, with time and as she ages she will understand its not the best.

one thing I do after any of such episode is to tell her my plans for the family, like project I intended to do or asset I want to acquire to give her hope.
so we can run together again.

best of luck sir.

Sorry man

I really feel lucky that ended a relationship with a lady that shares similar traits with your wife. Only regret is I didn't end it earlier. Wasted time.

Oh well, better late than never.

Treasured4eva:
I've never been happy for almost 8 years of marriage with 3 wonderful kids.I wake up everyday asking God how I got entangled with the worse woman I've ever met in my life.

I'm a very responsible and decent man who provides for his family.My family has always been my priority, but my wife's disrespectful attitude towards me has rendered me hopeless,shattered and broken.

She insults me at any slightest argument,raises her voice to attract the attention of neighbours and the kids whenever we have a misunderstanding.She hates been talked to,even if she's wrong.

I have my own imperfections too as a man,but it really baffles me when a woman you paid her bride price sees you as trash,challenges you in a very rebellious and arrogant manner for the whole time you've ever spent with her.

My kids has been the ones keeping me from leaving the marriage since I've complained to virtually all her family members yet it seems to be worse. I die in silence and pains everyday.

My wife can't serve me food with water to wash my hands,I'll always go and wash my hands myself and mostly take the plates back to the kitchen if the maid didn't do it.She has never asked why I rejected a particular food,she'll just take it away without remorse.

I'm just nothing to her and her family members. Her sister even called me to warn and threaten me one certain time we had problem.It even became worse when she got a job,I'm a laughing stock because I lost my job.

I usually send her money to pay the kids fees,I was owing some little amount this term,surprisingly,the gave the school accountant my number to embarrass me.
J've come to realize that any woman disloyal to her husband definitely has someone she's loyal to and if you don't let her go,she might end up killing you or you do the unthinkable out of frustration.

Divorce might not be the best way to end an unhappy marriage,but it can surely prolong the lives of the couples involved. Kids will surely grow into adults someday to understand things. This is my point of no return.

She started as a terrible girlfriend and ended as a bad wife.I pray my daughters don't ever take after their mother because I can't wish a fellow man what I've experienced for almost 8 years.No body should ever marry a man or woman with flaws thinking they'll change with time;they don't change,they only get worse.

She started as a terrible girlfriend and ended as a bad wife.

Its too late to cry now.....the handwriting was clearly written on the wall

Treasured4eva:


If I say I'm perfect,I lie.As a man,I do all I can to give my family the best I can afford.

She's always been like that even before we got married.I never wanted to marry her but my mum made me rethink my decision. That's the worse decision I ever made in my life.

Let your mum spend some quality time with her.

Start looking for a self contained apartment and leave the house for her,cos one day she might just lace ur food with otapiapia

Don't make troubles with her,just stay away from her,as for ur kids, report to Nigerian police or any relevant authority so that when u want to see them there won't be qualms,three kids are enough bro,if not the need to kill sexual urge and all,u can live a perfect life as a single man, better Still get a younger girl

I don't know if I made any sense shaa

Hmm those that start up as a terrible girlfriend always end up as a bad wife. Be wise people

If a girl dosnt paint you well before her family to the point her sister calls you to be warning you, my brother i don't know what to tell you

Go and meet a strong dibia for better otumokpo


She has a strong juju that she use in controlling you
Go find a more powerful dibia for a stronger jazz

And your case is solved.
Take my advice or leave it

Treasured4eva:


... She started as a terrible girlfriend and ended as a bad wife.I pray my daughters don't ever take after their mother because I can't wish a fellow man what I've experienced for almost 8 years.No body should ever marry a man or woman with flaws thinking they'll change with time;they don't change,they only get worse.

When people reach a certain age and they act stupidly, I have no pity for them. You knew she was a terrible girlfriend and you married her? In this 21st century, If you don't want embarrassment from a woman, have money like Davido or go and adopt. Better divorce her and take custody of your children. If you don't do that, don't come here complaining. Mtewwwww

OmoAlata1:
You sound like those husbands that will emotionally drained their wives. I know your type very well. You can fool others with your poor me victim card post but not me.

Sister sister,you know brother somewhere ni?Your comment cracked me up.

Capensis:


Will you pay attention and stop this victim mentality. It is either you will take advise, since you brought this matter to the court of public opinion, or you will narrate your experience, believe your wife is the worst woman and conclude that you are leaving a marriage. You are sounding emotional and your feedback system has totally clouded your judgment.

Pay attention:
Being a husband is a full-time job. Just like any job, it comes with serious responsibilities and repercussions if you fail to understand how the game is played.

1. It is your responsibility to get the money, pay the rent, pay kids school fees. You are the chief medical officer of your home, so everyone's health including your wife's and kids', are under your care.

2. You are the chief security officer of your home, you must check that all doors are locked at night and ensure the safety of everyone in the family.

3. You are the chief romance officer, you must master how to play women with sweet words, give her massage every evening, and make sweet love to her during the massage sessions, and I mean this. Get a massage table, it goes for about 180K to 300K for a good one. If you cant afford that, then buy massage mat. Prepare the oil and get some candles.

4. You must join her in the kitchen, even if there is a maid to do the chores and help her out, you must learn this. Wash those plates sometimes.

5. You must lie down with that woman on bed after sex, hold her face, and tell her truths and lies of how you love her. Then if you have nothing more to day, do some gossiping with her. Stroke her nicely and tell her how hard you are working to ensure your family is financial stable for the next 100 years.

6. You must stop thinking like your ancestors. Define your own path and ignore customary and traditional ways of running your home. Times have changed. Why wont you fetch water and wash your own hand. Seems she is the one doing all the kitchen work and you are the African man waiting to be served. It is not mandatory, besides do you know if her mother used to serve her father that way? It might be she got a different kind of training.

7. Do not ever think you have done enough, cos you havent done jack. If you feel that your wife is cheating, then rent a place somewhere else and move towards a different location. It does not matter if you own the house you are living now. Go and rent someplace nice for a year and move there and change your children's school so as to forget the shame and embarrassment your quarrel may have caused. If it is your house, you can return back after a year.

8. Always remember that most women are like babies. You must master how to lie to them if you know that truth will hurt. Learn all those skills from yahoo boys how they control white women and use it for your marriage. If you do it right, your wife might be giving your pocket money sometimes and you all will fall in love again.

You think your wife is bad? You have no idea. No one will tell you what is going on in their homes.

Master how to manipulate women, and you will control them like a intimacy gadget.

What kidda advice is this? The man said he's jobless you're advising him to buy massage table of 300k. You're practically telling him to worship his wife and his life should evolve around her. It's doesn't work that way, she'll take advantage.

OP. I'll not advice you to leave your wife because of the kids, but you deserve to be happy. Don't kill yourself to satisfy any woman,

Chubhie:
She insults you,sends the accountant to embarrass you,the sister and the family also insults you?

Role reversal. She's now in a place of power and control while you are weakened.

How were you treating her and family when you were at the peak of your powers?

What are the lessons this situation is currently showing you?

What are your plans for a sizzling comeback to reclaim,restore and install true exemplary leadership?

You could put in the work and reclaim your world or take the easy way out.

Retrain your mind and hands to always get your water to wash your hands and serve yourself. Now, if someone perhaps your wife or maid offers to help out of love or service, be grateful and let them know about it.

SMH. So this is what you will do if you were in his shoes? And you think this will change things? The best thing to do is dissolve the marriage.

Treasured4eva:


She started as a terrible girlfriend and ended as a bad wife.I pray my daughters don't ever take after their mother because I can't wish a fellow man what I've experienced for almost 8 years.No body should ever marry a man or woman with flaws thinking they'll change with time;they don't change,they only get worse.

This line got me.
You met a terrible lady, befriended a teribble girlfriend, made a terrible decision to convert terrible GF to a WIFE,

NOW you are complaining terribly.

Pray u don't end terribly for your failure to make critical decision when you have to!