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To say that the bolded is insane would be an insult to everyone who is truly insane.

Can you take your own advice and outsource your own bedroom duties to younger men to service your wife?

MajorJeffery:
Married for 22years? Haba Haunty, you never tire? Delegate some of your bed duties to slay queens and live longer.

Edited: I just read your long post and I have few words for you. No one holds the key to your happiness and life, not even your husband. Think of what ending your life will do to your kids, siblings, parents and friends. Outlive your challenges, never allow them to outlive you. Shalom

why is he cheating? I think he is reacting to those little moments of neglect, you said it yourself you worked hard but forgot about him, forgot his needs as a man, it is the same thing that plays out usually it starts so lovely but something changes, quit whining you have the ace, it your ground you have played on it you should not loose on your turf, he is your reach out deep into him you can't loose so do not give him up so easily.

Itzogunsakin:
I am here to write about my experience. I don't know where to go or what to do except to give up everything as I feel very sad, and in pain. I was seeking answers but in my case, it's different and I truly need help.

We have been married about 22 years ago. We were so in love and so close to each other. He was my first true boyfriend that I dated seriously and married. He was very good to me. After the unexpected first pregnancy, things started to go downhill. I found myself not having help at home, having to deal with work, baby etc. I have lost my libido and got tired often as I had to juggle so much without much help. But we managed and I didn't think there was problem. I am the hard working type and trusted him with all my heart.

Then we had 2nd child and I continued to work hard. We both had our share of stresss. He started his own business and went thru hard times initially. I was not able to help him as I have to work hard to support the family as I was having stable income. He advised me to start my own too and in summary, I did and went thru lots of struggle and hard work. I become successful and continued to support the family. For many years, I supported the children's education till university, I managed to upgrade our homes and paid it off. There is a heavy price to pay for being so hard working and doing better than my husband. I don't have a choice as he does not provide me any financial support. He went thru hard times and claimed I was not helpful and was not available for him during his darkest hours.

This led to him falling for his loyal staff who is obviously younger, prettier and made him feel better. He admitted his affair after I confronted him as I finally felt the changes in him. He stopped being intimate with me, he got impatient with me, he let me pay for most bills on my own and many more. I refused to believe as I trusted him as he says he is under so much stress and asked for me to understand him. I always prayed hard for the family and him and waited for him to overcome his problems and to love me back as before. I believe in him so much that I shared all my own financial rewards with him, the properties that I paid for and literally everything I have. I am not an angel but I resisted cheating behind him as I believed he won't and I wanted to keep my marriage wow.

Now I am so lost, am so depressed that I want to sleep forever and never to face fhe cruelty of what he has done to me. I worked so hard for our retirement, saving much I can in our joint accounts and looking forward to grow old with him. Despite him having changes last many years, I continued to pray for him and for us to be happy. Despite my instincts that I am being used and being cheated, I chose to trust him and went all out to reach out to him, to love and to care for him. But he always avoided and gave excuses to be away.

During the confrontation about his cheating, he admitted loving her so much, and he also wants to marry her eventually as he needs her and she is much better than me. It broke me to pieces. He apologised for the pain but he can't stop the affair and can't stop loving her. He even admitted he is conflicted as he loves the family so much and he still loves me but he said it's different love now. He still admits he wants to be with her.

I have been made to feel very unattractive and bad to the extent to I am losing my self confidence. I am a successful Profesional and doing well in my work. I juggled and worked hard and do not depend on him financially. I actually supplemented him in the many family expenses. I feel so lonely all these years but I chose to believe him and living in denial that he has lost his love for me.

I only know I love him as I have always been faithful. I am so heartbroken that I do not want to continue my professional work although I am doing well. I am now choosing to end everything I have. I have lost my will to live and to go on. I share too much with my husband as I put his name in all I have. Be it bank accounts properties. He would not hesitate to let me make most payments but he does not directly use my money.

i want to end it all and go to sleep forever. My heart is empty, my dreams are crushed, my values are betrayed, I can't love another man again. My tears have dried up. I have lots of friends and acquaintances but none I feel comfortable to talk to as I have been the one being looked up to and giving advices.

My life has collapsed.

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Itzogunsakin:
I am here to write about my experience. I don't know where to go or what to do except to give up everything as I feel very sad, and in pain. I was seeking answers but in my case, it's different and I truly need help.

We have been married about 22 years ago. We were so in love and so close to each other. He was my first true boyfriend that I dated seriously and married. He was very good to me. After the unexpected first pregnancy, things started to go downhill. I found myself not having help at home, having to deal with work, baby etc. I have lost my libido and got tired often as I had to juggle so much without much help. But we managed and I didn't think there was problem. I am the hard working type and trusted him with all my heart.

Then we had 2nd child and I continued to work hard. We both had our share of stresss. He started his own business and went thru hard times initially. I was not able to help him as I have to work hard to support the family as I was having stable income. He advised me to start my own too and in summary, I did and went thru lots of struggle and hard work. I become successful and continued to support the family. For many years, I supported the children's education till university, I managed to upgrade our homes and paid it off. There is a heavy price to pay for being so hard working and doing better than my husband. I don't have a choice as he does not provide me any financial support. He went thru hard times and claimed I was not helpful and was not available for him during his darkest hours.

This led to him falling for his loyal staff who is obviously younger, prettier and made him feel better. He admitted his affair after I confronted him as I finally felt the changes in him. He stopped being intimate with me, he got impatient with me, he let me pay for most bills on my own and many more. I refused to believe as I trusted him as he says he is under so much stress and asked for me to understand him. I always prayed hard for the family and him and waited for him to overcome his problems and to love me back as before. I believe in him so much that I shared all my own financial rewards with him, the properties that I paid for and literally everything I have. I am not an angel but I resisted cheating behind him as I believed he won't and I wanted to keep my marriage wow.

Now I am so lost, am so depressed that I want to sleep forever and never to face fhe cruelty of what he has done to me. I worked so hard for our retirement, saving much I can in our joint accounts and looking forward to grow old with him. Despite him having changes last many years, I continued to pray for him and for us to be happy. Despite my instincts that I am being used and being cheated, I chose to trust him and went all out to reach out to him, to love and to care for him. But he always avoided and gave excuses to be away.

During the confrontation about his cheating, he admitted loving her so much, and he also wants to marry her eventually as he needs her and she is much better than me. It broke me to pieces. He apologised for the pain but he can't stop the affair and can't stop loving her. He even admitted he is conflicted as he loves the family so much and he still loves me but he said it's different love now. He still admits he wants to be with her.

I have been made to feel very unattractive and bad to the extent to I am losing my self confidence. I am a successful Profesional and doing well in my work. I juggled and worked hard and do not depend on him financially. I actually supplemented him in the many family expenses. I feel so lonely all these years but I chose to believe him and living in denial that he has lost his love for me.

I only know I love him as I have always been faithful. I am so heartbroken that I do not want to continue my professional work although I am doing well. I am now choosing to end everything I have. I have lost my will to live and to go on. I share too much with my husband as I put his name in all I have. Be it bank accounts properties. He would not hesitate to let me make most payments but he does not directly use my money.

i want to end it all and go to sleep forever. My heart is empty, my dreams are crushed, my values are betrayed, I can't love another man again. My tears have dried up. I have lots of friends and acquaintances but none I feel comfortable to talk to as I have been the one being looked up to and giving advices.

My life has collapsed.

you want to kill yourselves

My dear sister i will advice you not quit your marriage and if not for anything for your kids and I know some people may be telling you to quit your marriage but know it that those people telling you to leave your for another woman will be the same people that will be laughing at you when it will set. A word is enough for the wise let him who have ear hear

My dear sister i will advice you not to quit your marriage and if not for anything for your kids and I know some people may be telling you to quit your marriage but know it that those people telling you to leave your home for another woman will be the same people that will be laughing at you when it will set. A word is enough for the wise let him who have ear hear

I don't blame the man, and I don't blame you.

Love doesn't last forever, and twenty-two years is a very long time for some men who are polygamous in nature.

Itzogunsakin:
I am here to write about my experience. I don't know where to go or what to do except to give up everything as I feel very sad, and in pain. I was seeking answers but in my case, it's different and I truly need help.

We have been married about 22 years ago. We were so in love and so close to each other. He was my first true boyfriend that I dated seriously and married. He was very good to me. After the unexpected first pregnancy, things started to go downhill. I found myself not having help at home, having to deal with work, baby etc. I have lost my libido and got tired often as I had to juggle so much without much help. But we managed and I didn't think there was problem. I am the hard working type and trusted him with all my heart.

Then we had 2nd child and I continued to work hard. We both had our share of stresss. He started his own business and went thru hard times initially. I was not able to help him as I have to work hard to support the family as I was having stable income. He advised me to start my own too and in summary, I did and went thru lots of struggle and hard work. I become successful and continued to support the family. For many years, I supported the children's education till university, I managed to upgrade our homes and paid it off. There is a heavy price to pay for being so hard working and doing better than my husband. I don't have a choice as he does not provide me any financial support. He went thru hard times and claimed I was not helpful and was not available for him during his darkest hours.

This led to him falling for his loyal staff who is obviously younger, prettier and made him feel better. He admitted his affair after I confronted him as I finally felt the changes in him. He stopped being intimate with me, he got impatient with me, he let me pay for most bills on my own and many more. I refused to believe as I trusted him as he says he is under so much stress and asked for me to understand him. I always prayed hard for the family and him and waited for him to overcome his problems and to love me back as before. I believe in him so much that I shared all my own financial rewards with him, the properties that I paid for and literally everything I have. I am not an angel but I resisted cheating behind him as I believed he won't and I wanted to keep my marriage wow.

Now I am so lost, am so depressed that I want to sleep forever and never to face fhe cruelty of what he has done to me. I worked so hard for our retirement, saving much I can in our joint accounts and looking forward to grow old with him. Despite him having changes last many years, I continued to pray for him and for us to be happy. Despite my instincts that I am being used and being cheated, I chose to trust him and went all out to reach out to him, to love and to care for him. But he always avoided and gave excuses to be away.

During the confrontation about his cheating, he admitted loving her so much, and he also wants to marry her eventually as he needs her and she is much better than me. It broke me to pieces. He apologised for the pain but he can't stop the affair and can't stop loving her. He even admitted he is conflicted as he loves the family so much and he still loves me but he said it's different love now. He still admits he wants to be with her.

I have been made to feel very unattractive and bad to the extent to I am losing my self confidence. I am a successful Profesional and doing well in my work. I juggled and worked hard and do not depend on him financially. I actually supplemented him in the many family expenses. I feel so lonely all these years but I chose to believe him and living in denial that he has lost his love for me.

I only know I love him as I have always been faithful. I am so heartbroken that I do not want to continue my professional work although I am doing well. I am now choosing to end everything I have. I have lost my will to live and to go on. I share too much with my husband as I put his name in all I have. Be it bank accounts properties. He would not hesitate to let me make most payments but he does not directly use my money.

i want to end it all and go to sleep forever. My heart is empty, my dreams are crushed, my values are betrayed, I can't love another man again. My tears have dried up. I have lots of friends and acquaintances but none I feel comfortable to talk to as I have been the one being looked up to and giving advices.

My life has collapsed.

Madam, from your story I can see that you are an evil person. You destroyed your happy home with your own hands. Go back and read the the part of your story I bolded and you will find out how wicked and disloyal you have been.

Also, your husband started a business and he went through hell but you refused to help him. You must be one of those wives from hell. I Dont blame him for picking his loyal and younger staff that makes him happy over an old you. You denied him love and sex (claiming you lost your libido) you failed to stand by him during his hard time when he needed you the most yet you expect him to continue to love you unconstitutionally.

You can't eat your cake and have it.

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Itzogunsakin:
I am here to write about my experience. I don't know where to go or what to do except to give up everything as I feel very sad, and in pain. I was seeking answers but in my case, it's different and I truly need help.

We have been married about 22 years ago. We were so in love and so close to each other. He was my first true boyfriend that I dated seriously and married. He was very good to me. After the unexpected first pregnancy, things started to go downhill. I found myself not having help at home, having to deal with work, baby etc. I have lost my libido and got tired often as I had to juggle so much without much help. But we managed and I didn't think there was problem. I am the hard working type and trusted him with all my heart.

Then we had 2nd child and I continued to work hard. We both had our share of stresss. He started his own business and went thru hard times initially. I was not able to help him as I have to work hard to support the family as I was having stable income. He advised me to start my own too and in summary, I did and went thru lots of struggle and hard work. I become successful and continued to support the family. For many years, I supported the children's education till university, I managed to upgrade our homes and paid it off. There is a heavy price to pay for being so hard working and doing better than my husband. I don't have a choice as he does not provide me any financial support. He went thru hard times and claimed I was not helpful and was not available for him during his darkest hours.

This led to him falling for his loyal staff who is obviously younger, prettier and made him feel better. He admitted his affair after I confronted him as I finally felt the changes in him. He stopped being intimate with me, he got impatient with me, he let me pay for most bills on my own and many more. I refused to believe as I trusted him as he says he is under so much stress and asked for me to understand him. I always prayed hard for the family and him and waited for him to overcome his problems and to love me back as before. I believe in him so much that I shared all my own financial rewards with him, the properties that I paid for and literally everything I have. I am not an angel but I resisted cheating behind him as I believed he won't and I wanted to keep my marriage wow.

Now I am so lost, am so depressed that I want to sleep forever and never to face fhe cruelty of what he has done to me. I worked so hard for our retirement, saving much I can in our joint accounts and looking forward to grow old with him. Despite him having changes last many years, I continued to pray for him and for us to be happy. Despite my instincts that I am being used and being cheated, I chose to trust him and went all out to reach out to him, to love and to care for him. But he always avoided and gave excuses to be away.

During the confrontation about his cheating, he admitted loving her so much, and he also wants to marry her eventually as he needs her and she is much better than me. It broke me to pieces. He apologised for the pain but he can't stop the affair and can't stop loving her. He even admitted he is conflicted as he loves the family so much and he still loves me but he said it's different love now. He still admits he wants to be with her.

I have been made to feel very unattractive and bad to the extent to I am losing my self confidence. I am a successful Profesional and doing well in my work. I juggled and worked hard and do not depend on him financially. I actually supplemented him in the many family expenses. I feel so lonely all these years but I chose to believe him and living in denial that he has lost his love for me.

I only know I love him as I have always been faithful. I am so heartbroken that I do not want to continue my professional work although I am doing well. I am now choosing to end everything I have. I have lost my will to live and to go on. I share too much with my husband as I put his name in all I have. Be it bank accounts properties. He would not hesitate to let me make most payments but he does not directly use my money.

i want to end it all and go to sleep forever. My heart is empty, my dreams are crushed, my values are betrayed, I can't love another man again. My tears have dried up. I have lots of friends and acquaintances but none I feel comfortable to talk to as I have been the one being looked up to and giving advices.

My life has collapsed.

There is always another version to every story I wish I can hear the husband's version of the story.

donstan18:
Madam! Are you normal atall? What exactly is the problem with some of you?

When you are suppose to quit your marriage, you'll stay. Bu will be quick to quit when you are not suppose to.

Isn't it obvious he doesn't care or think about you and the success of that marriage?
Have you not tried emotionally, domestically and financially? Do you want to die for a man who will be quick to rejoice your death?

He even made it clear to you that he doesn't love you and will soon be bringing another woman, yet you dey stress yourself unnecessarily.

Make una dey get sense Abeg.

LEAVE THAT MARRIAGE and be happy.

Nobody is irreplaceable!!!!!!!!

...Oga e be like say you still dey high on youth baa,With the severity of the matter, I thought that small fries like you would keep off and learn shit from her ordeal.Oh nooo u too must talk..By the way your reek of ignorance!!

You can't possibly end your life while he goes on with his life even with a new wife.

Forget what he thinks of you. You are beautiful, hardworking and successful. You have your children to live for. You can pick up your life and still live a happy life.

He has chosen another person. No problem. It will be hard but you have to move on. Thank God you have work and your children to keep you busy. Go out more, spend time with family and friends. Find something that makes you happy. If you can afford it, go on vacation with your children.

You shouldn't have suicidal thoughts when the person who is the cause of it doesn't even care enough to respect you and be faithful to you.

You have tried. I think you should have allowed him be financially responsible for the house too. But you took all the load while he was able to use his money to cater for someone else

Newboss:
Fake story!

Look at the use of words, too fake!

Oh, you paid off the house? Paid off indeed!

Dude is even a blogger. More articles, please.

I can't believe people are taking the OP serious. LMAO

I am a believer, I believe.

sagebot:
So you think if they pray and she mentions all that then Miracle and Magic will happen ba...stop deceiving yourself...So she should be crying and giving herself headache...Haba

Prayers work though but not necessarily this way. It's really sad but there's nothing impossible for God to do but like u said earlier let her focus be on her kids n her biz, while she also prays. It is well, hmmmm

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Its not too late ooo just buy hypo or sniper... U won't even sleep before u won't wake up

Suicide is no option!! It's just an option for selfish and ungrateful people. Pick up yourself Ma'am, you can severe whatever joint account you have, report your husband to elders in the family and also in the church, if he doesn't change, find your happiness and keep praying for him! being in the hand of a younger woman who accept him completely is enough for him to thread you on his foot since you are older and not as beautiful as that jezebel "husband snatcher", scatter both of them with fire of prayer, pray some violent prayers and ask God to teach both of them some good lessons. Thanks.

Newboss:
Fake story!

Look at the use of words, too fake!

Oh, you paid off the house? Paid off indeed!

Dude is even a blogger. More articles, please.

I can't believe people are taking the OP serious. LMAO

U are smart