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The men too will argue for that freedom to behave the way they like. What makes the rape of the body and the rape of the mind different. Both have terrible consequences. A violent person and one that incites violence are just as guilty as one who comits rogue se.xual acts and one that incites sex through perversion. That is why everyone should be considerate for his fellow man. Bothmen and women should be on a leash. No one has the right to destroy the other.

That's very stupid

Rape is a CRIME

just as stealing is a crime

so because someone left his bag on the bench, one is justified in stealing it?

you will still be locked in jail

same with rape.

so that is not even an argument

your last statement is applicable tho

buchilino:
Nna ur speaking 2 much English

of course it will be English to you lots

Being raised in a useless environment like Nigeria has messed up the sensibilities of so many

Today, everybody seems to be politically correct and i still find it hard to believe how the media has brain-washed people and they can no longer think for themselves. It's a always a surprise to see how much hatred the liberals in the US have for their own president no matter his decision for the betterment of the country.

Now, one things i notice about the so called liberals is that they are mostly bunch of people with a very low IQ incapable of thinking for themselves. A typical liberal preaches freedom today and his against his conservative brother who has a different opinion and call him all sorts of things for just having a different opinion. What then is Liberalism.

The truth about all these feminists is that they are most ugly women who have no men's impact in their lives or women who have been used and dumped by several men because of their stupidity. But i can guarantee you they are mostly ugly women who are jealous of other women loved by men. I can bet anybody bring 10 feminists and i can assure you that 8 will fit in the above description or they are trained by a single mother who herself had lived wayward livestyle. No father no brother to show them love.

My opinion about equality between a man and a woman - are men better than women in terms of capability? Hell no, there is nothing to support this scientifically. But the truth is for reason unknown to anybody men have proven they are better leaders and are capable of making the right decision on the average than women. When i see people trying to convince women to venture into something just to challenge men i laugh at all these. Let's look at startup for instance there are lot of organizations and women pushing women to do more over the last 20 years. But go check founders of the most promising startups in the last 20 years - they are mostly men even without any encouragement or whatsoever. Am i against women empowerment? Hello no, but trying to pitch women against men is very stupid to me. Look at people who have given up all their life in sciences they are mostly men.The point is we function differently and nature itself has differentiated us over the years. On the average a woman will perform better in customer service or human resources. And a man will perform better in Engineering, programming or sciences. Even the best doctors are men - this is not a coincidence and this is not the time for anyone to wail about my message but to look at the facts and statistics. Does that mean they are no better female doctors than males?Yes, there are!

My point is we have both have our strengths and weakneses. Let us both maximize our strengths and strengthen our weaknesses. If a woman wants to study engineering it should not be because she wants to challenge a man. But to see it as a way to strenthen what we might comsider women weakness.

Today people cry about equal pay blah blah without putting into consideration the kind of jobs both love to do. So you want an Engineer or a doctor to earn same as receptionist?

And let us call a spade a spade there is no where in the world where people are totally free to do what they want to do even in the so called America. The difference all over the world is the degree of freedom. Ofcourse if there is total freedom in America Snowden will not be in Russia seeking asylum. And robbery will not be criminalised - imagine people have the freedom to steal?

The idea that there is total freedom anywhere in the world is an illusion. Give human total freedom then that is the end of human. Just look at what "almost total freedom" in the west has cuased them? Can anybody explain transgender? I have argued this with a doctor and he later agreed with me that they are sick in the head. You cant prove it scientically or whatever means. What those people need is rehabilitation but they are now categorizing them as special species just because of useless freedom they are claiming to have. Same thing with gay or lesbain - nobody is born homosexual or heterosexual. You learn to love a man or a woman. And you learn to have sex with either opposite or same sex. But the norm all over the world is a man and a woman anything else should be seen as mental disorder.Just the same way people should not be given the freedom to steal. The norm all over the world is that you cant take what does not belong to you.

Smart women pushes for equity and not equality because they realise the difference between men and women and they understand men will always have the advantage naturally.Imagine two students righting exams a girl and a boy. The girl is having her menstruation with severe stomach ache and they both have to write the same time. Ofcourse the boy will most likely do better. Equity is to allow the girl to write her exam when she is done with her period equality is writing it at the same time with the boy.I hope the wise one can see the point i am driving at.

All in my entire schools both secondary and university girls have always been at the top of my class. And i have worked with very intelligent women as well.

We have to understand our differences and respect it. Telling girls to where whatever they feel like without looking at the consequence on the part of men is selfish and not a good advice.

Ugosample:
of course it will be English to you lots

Being raised in a useless environment like Nigeria has messed up the sensibilities of so many

Remember u grew up in the same useless environment

donstan18:
I also agree with her that a lady should wear g-string and bra and walk alone in the midst of touts and hoodlums by 1am night.

Louts.

francescainnoce:
I don’t quite agree with this woman. Many things she says, I don’t follow at all.
There’s a very tin but crystal clear lines between morality, and, freedom.
I understand with the women’s right to things as human; if that’s what she’s advocating for, fine.
But she shouldn’t just open her mouth and say things just to remain relevant.
No need to pull crowd, with irrelevant stance and border line view.
We have cultural morals and we have social norms, as African, we have standard of living and they have served us all our lives. Don’t tell my girl to wear what she wants just to prove she can exercise her freedom. Who is fighting her for her freedom??
Why do I feel that Chimamanda is raising fighters against no enemy or is she raising them against unforeseen circumstances?
Teach our young women to be hardworking, goal driven, determined, pacesetters, women of vision, women on a mission, strong women, resilient, dependable, consistent and constant women.
Teach our ladies and women to be FEMALES WHO STAYS. Stay in their homes, in their success path, in their academics, in their career pursuit, and so on.
I may be wrong and I stand to be corrected but the real victims of social injustice, abuse, and many more are in war-torn countries. There crazy things happens and girl-child are victimised every second.
All these feminist and their leader should head towards there and fight a good fight.

Chimamanda is no longer adding value in literature. She's trying 2b relevant 2d west, promoting western values. She has lost her way& her africanness which was what gave her a name.

buchilino:
Remember u grew up in the same useless environment

not EXACTLY so.

lexy2014:
Chimamanda is no longer adding value in literature. She's trying 2b relevant 2d west, promoting western values. She has lost her way& her africanness which was what gave her a name. If I had 2 choose between her& prof adesanmi being alive today, I will go 4 prof

which one is africanness again

delugajackson:
This woman keeps leading women astray. What about strict adherence to modesty? Women have become sex objects all in the name of modernism and this is the singular reason why women are being put down on a day to day. Why do you think they get raped? Why do they get sexually harassed? Why do they use their bodies as a means to an end? Yet you wonder why women are not taken seriously in the society.

Congratulations, Chimamanda . You have spoken for the majority of women out there whose selling point is their body and not their brains.

How does Adichie's comment relate to rape, modesty or prostitution?? Too many nairalanders always scrambling to impress more than they know. Majority of the comments on this thread just shows not everyone with a respectable command of English language is intelligent enough to understand the simplest of messages without bias.

Message: Do not dress to impress men, Wear only what you can afford.

Simple, what is so difficult to understand?

TrueNigerian300:
Today, everybody seems to be politically correct and i still find it hard to believe how the media has brain-washed people and they can no longer think for themselves. It's a always a surprise to see how much hatred the liberals in the US have for their own president no matter his decision for the betterment of the country.

Now, one things i notice about the so called liberals is that they are mostly bunch of people with a very low IQ incapable of thinking for themselves. A typical liberal preaches freedom today and his against his conservative brother who has a different opinion and call him all sorts of things for just having a different opinion. What then is Liberalism.

The truth about all these feminists is that they are most ugly women who have no men's impact in their lives or women who have been used and dumped by several men because of their stupidity. But i can guarantee you they are mostly ugly women who are jealous of other women loved by men. I can bet anybody bring 10 feminists and i can assure you that 8 will fit in the above description or they are trained by a single mother who herself had lived wayward livestyle. No father no brother to show them love.

My opinion about equality between a man and a woman - are men better than women in terms of capability? Hell no, there is nothing to support this scientifically. But the truth is for reason unknown to anybody men have proven they are better leaders and are capable of making the right decision on the average than women. When i see people trying to convince women to venture into something just to challenge men i laugh at all these. Let's look at startup for instance there are lot of organizations and women pushing women to do more over the last 20 years. But go check founders of the most promising startups in the last 20 years - they are mostly men even without any encouragement or whatsoever. Am i against women empowerment? Hello no, but trying to pitch women against men is very stupid to me. Look at people who have given up all their life in sciences they are mostly men.The point is we function differently and nature itself has differentiated us over the years. On the average a woman will perform better in customer service or human resources. And a man will perform better in Engineering, programming or sciences. Even the best doctors are men - this is not a coincidence and this is not the time for anyone to wail about my message but to look at the facts and statistics. Does that mean they are no better female doctors than males?Yes, there are!

My point is we have both have our strengths and weakneses. Let us both maximize our strengths and strengthen our weaknesses. If a woman wants to study engineering it should not be because she wants to challenge a man. But to see it as a way to strenthen what we might comsider women weakness.

Today people cry about equal pay blah blah without putting into consideration the kind of jobs both love to do. So you want an Engineer or a doctor to earn same as receptionist?

And let us call a spade a spade there is no where in the world where people are totally free to do what they want to do even in the so called America. The difference all over the world is the degree of freedom. Ofcourse if there is total freedom in America Snowden will not be in Russia seeking asylum. And robbery will not be criminalised - imagine people have the freedom to steal?

The idea that there is total freedom anywhere in the world is an illusion. Give human total freedom then that is the end of human. Just look at what "almost total freedom" in the west has cuased them? Can anybody explain transgender? I have argued this with a doctor and he later agreed with me that they are sick in the head. You cant prove it scientically or whatever means. What those people need is rehabilitation but they are now categorizing them as special species just because of useless freedom they are claiming to have. Same thing with gay or lesbain - nobody is born homosexual or heterosexual. You learn to love a man or a woman. And you learn to have sex with either opposite or same sex. But the norm all over the world is a man and a woman anything else should be seen as mental disorder.Just the same way people should not be given the freedom to steal. The norm all over the world is that you cant take what does not belong to you.

Smart women pushes for equity and not equality because they realise the difference between men and women and they understand men will always have the advantage naturally.Imagine two students righting exams a girl and a boy. The girl is having her menstruation with severe stomach ache and they both have to write the same time. Ofcourse the boy will most likely do better. Equity is to allow the girl to write her exam when she is done with her period equality is writing it at the same time with the boy.I hope the wise one can see the point i am driving at.

All in my entire schools both secondary and university girls have always been at the top of my class. And i have worked with very intelligent women as well.

We have to understand our differences and respect it. Telling girls to where whatever they feel like without looking at the consequence on the part of men is selfish and not a good advice.

i will respond soon.

Check my sigi

This woman will b abroad doling out feminist advices here n there to Africans... Esp Nigerians... She dey craze?
Why she no come wear pant n bra waka MM1 and Ikeja axis??

phekima:
How does Adichie's comment relate to rape, modesty or prostitution?? Too many nairalanders always scrambling to impress more than they know. Majority of the comments on this thread just shows not everyone with a respectable command of English language is intelligent enough to understand the simplest of messages without bias.

Message: Do not dress to impress men, Wear only what you can afford.

Simple, what is so difficult to understand?

don't mind them

lexy2014:
Chimamanda is no longer adding value in literature. She's trying 2b relevant 2d west, promoting western values. She has lost her way& her africanness which was what gave her a name. If I had 2 choose between her& prof adesanmi being alive today, I will go 4 prof

No surprise there, my dear. You are probably right.
If people were to take a pick between you and the late Prof too, we all know Prof would still be alive and kicking.

folake4u:
Go and watch the video. Come back and then we could talk.

We have nothing to talk about. Absolutely nothing

Ugosample:
which one is africanness again

Ur identity as an African

InvertedHammer:
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Wear whatever you want to wear.

But be ready to bear the consequences.

People have inalienable rights to keep their houses unlocked. Just don't bother us when burglars pay a visit.

/

And when the burglars get caught

Don't you think they will also be jailed and dealt with?

Look!

her message is straightforward

But because a lot of people already have that bias in their minds

against her

many of you are not looking at it objectively

Nowhere did she say women should dress immodestly.
Does she dress immodestly?

How does wearing what you want to wear equals to dressing immodestly now?

Chimamanda is a goat and disgrace to the portorportor republic!

lexy2014:
Ur identity as an African

Which is

Lol quote author=donstan18 post=76545974]Yes!!! I agree with her that women should wear whatever they want.

I also agree with her that a lady should wear g-string and bra and walk alone in the midst of touts and hoodlums by 1am night.[/quote]

phekima:
No surprise there, my dear. You are probably right.
If people were to take a pick between you and the late Prof too, we all know Prof would still be alive and kicking.

U are spot on

Ugosample:
Which is

I guess u are ugo by name & u are from Nigeria. Or do u associate urself with any other continent?

Onyi22:
Thank you my sister, after all is a free world...

Yes,like wear the right size and shape of pant,skirt that covers the laps properly and the top doesn't show pant or buttocks hole line and when you sit down it doesn't show pant, tights should not show camel toe: this means you should wear a minor tight inside too. You girls nowadays need to be schooled in dressing thats why

wear what you want to wear does not translate to dressing like a LovePeddler. common sense should tell you that Chimamanda with the way she dresses, she dresses like a real African woman who has regards and respect for her body. for those who misinterpret what she said to mean dress like a LovePeddler then you seriously have comprehension problems.

folake4u:
I watched the video yesterday on IG yesterday and she's right.
Wear what you want to wear, don't let people decide for you. Cut your cloth according to your size,it's very important.


It's hard to believe this lady is 41 though, she's very beautiful naturally.

Her husband is cute too.

TrueNigerian300:
Today, everybody seems to be politically correct and i still find it hard to believe how the media has brain-washed people and they can no longer think for themselves. It's a always a surprise to see how much hatred the liberals in the US have for their own president no matter his decision for the betterment of the country.
My opinion about equality between a man and a woman - are men better than women in terms of capability? Hell no, there is nothing to support this scientifically. But the truth is for reason unknown to anybody men have proven they are better leaders and are capable of making the right decision on the average than women. When i see people trying to convince women to venture into something just to challenge men i laugh at all these.


Today people cry about equal pay blah blah without putting into consideration the kind of jobs both love to do. So you want an Engineer or a doctor to earn same as receptionist?




We have to understand our differences and respect it. Telling girls to where whatever they feel like without looking at the consequence on the part of men is selfish and not a good advice.

1) Equal pay is about paying people the same wages for doing the same job. If you don't understand something, its better to be silent than say rubbish.
2) Men are not better than women in engineering or programming and women are not better than men in customer service.
3) There's no consequence to a man when a woman dresses however she seems fit. If you have a problem with how a woman dresses, see your doctor.

lexy2014:
I guess u are ugo by name & u are from Nigeria. Or do u associate urself with any other continent?

Yea

My name is Ugo, I am of igbo ancestry, and currently a nomad.

So what does that have to do wity anything?

Your worldview is NOT determined by where you come from, your ancestry; ir whatever

We choose to become liberal or conservative

It has nothing to do with African or Europe

There are still many whites who are as ultra conservative as there are black Africans who are not

Does it mean that the white folks have lost their "Caucasianness?"

It's not applicants

Taich:
Chimamanda I have been searching all your pictures to see a naked or cleavage popping one, and I have not seen any. Some girls say they want to be like you, but they forgot you have a husband and intellectually you are always sound.
Dear young women, Chimamanda is only seeking for more attention as that improves sales of her books.

Ori e pe! Ur head is complete. Ur head is accurate.

Ugosample:
Yea

My name is Ugo, I am of igbo ancestry, and currently a nomad.

So what does that have to do wity anything?

Your worldview is NOT determined by where you come from, your ancestry; ir whatever

We choose to become liberal or conservative

It has nothing to do with African or Europe

There are still many whites who are as ultra conservative as there are black Africans who are not

Does it mean that the white folks have lost their "Caucasianness?"

It's not applicants

What do u mean by worldview? What do u mean by liberal & conservative & what has it got 2do with d discussion? Since ones ancestry has nothing 2do with ones "worldview", pls how did chimamanda make a name 4 herself? Was it thru her "worldview" or thru her literature that was steeped in her ancestry?

safarigirl:
I like this advise by Chimamanda.

Weat what you want to wear.

It is particularly good, becaause Chimamanda is a woman who dresses modestly, she refrains from wearing cleavage-baring outfits and anything with a high slit. She has often exprrssed concern for excessive show of HER skin and once said she risked wearing a dress with a light amount of cleavage becajse she found it too beautiful.

So, women who take this particular advise should know they do it at their own risk. Chimamanda is a respected woman in society and she takes it seriously. She dresses as she wants to be addressed. She is a happily married woman as well, so, if you aren't one, please, sieve out whatever advice you want to take and leave others. Also, know how to discern her advice, do not assume she is advocating for a reckless dress sense

I love you already.

donstan18:
Yes!!! I agree with her that women should wear whatever they want.

I also agree with her that a lady should wear g-string and bra and walk alone in the midst of touts and hoodlums by 1am night.

This guy sef

Guy I just dey wonder wetin women do you sef

TrueNigerian300:
Today, everybody seems to be politically correct and i still find it hard to believe how the media has brain-washed people and they can no longer think for themselves. It's a always a surprise to see how much hatred the liberals in the US have for their own president no matter his decision for the betterment of the country.

Now, one things i notice about the so called liberals is that they are mostly bunch of people with a very low IQ incapable of thinking for themselves. A typical liberal preaches freedom today and his against his conservative brother who has a different opinion and call him all sorts of things for just having a different opinion. What then is Liberalism.

The truth about all these feminists is that they are most ugly women who have no men's impact in their lives or women who have been used and dumped by several men because of their stupidity. But i can guarantee you they are mostly ugly women who are jealous of other women loved by men. I can bet anybody bring 10 feminists and i can assure you that 8 will fit in the above description or they are trained by a single mother who herself had lived wayward livestyle. No father no brother to show them love.

My opinion about equality between a man and a woman - are men better than women in terms of capability? Hell no, there is nothing to support this scientifically. But the truth is for reason unknown to anybody men have proven they are better leaders and are capable of making the right decision on the average than women. When i see people trying to convince women to venture into something just to challenge men i laugh at all these. Let's look at startup for instance there are lot of organizations and women pushing women to do more over the last 20 years. But go check founders of the most promising startups in the last 20 years - they are mostly men even without any encouragement or whatsoever. Am i against women empowerment? Hello no, but trying to pitch women against men is very stupid to me. Look at people who have given up all their life in sciences they are mostly men.The point is we function differently and nature itself has differentiated us over the years. On the average a woman will perform better in customer service or human resources. And a man will perform better in Engineering, programming or sciences. Even the best doctors are men - this is not a coincidence and this is not the time for anyone to wail about my message but to look at the facts and statistics. Does that mean they are no better female doctors than males?Yes, there are!

My point is we have both have our strengths and weakneses. Let us both maximize our strengths and strengthen our weaknesses. If a woman wants to study engineering it should not be because she wants to challenge a man. But to see it as a way to strenthen what we might comsider women weakness.

Today people cry about equal pay blah blah without putting into consideration the kind of jobs both love to do. So you want an Engineer or a doctor to earn same as receptionist?

And let us call a spade a spade there is no where in the world where people are totally free to do what they want to do even in the so called America. The difference all over the world is the degree of freedom. Ofcourse if there is total freedom in America Snowden will not be in Russia seeking asylum. And robbery will not be criminalised - imagine people have the freedom to steal?

The idea that there is total freedom anywhere in the world is an illusion. Give human total freedom then that is the end of human. Just look at what "almost total freedom" in the west has cuased them? Can anybody explain transgender? I have argued this with a doctor and he later agreed with me that they are sick in the head. You cant prove it scientically or whatever means. What those people need is rehabilitation but they are now categorizing them as special species just because of useless freedom they are claiming to have. Same thing with gay or lesbain - nobody is born homosexual or heterosexual. You learn to love a man or a woman. And you learn to have sex with either opposite or same sex. But the norm all over the world is a man and a woman anything else should be seen as mental disorder.Just the same way people should not be given the freedom to steal. The norm all over the world is that you cant take what does not belong to you.

Smart women pushes for equity and not equality because they realise the difference between men and women and they understand men will always have the advantage naturally.Imagine two students righting exams a girl and a boy. The girl is having her menstruation with severe stomach ache and they both have to write the same time. Ofcourse the boy will most likely do better. Equity is to allow the girl to write her exam when she is done with her period equality is writing it at the same time with the boy.I hope the wise one can see the point i am driving at.

All in my entire schools both secondary and university girls have always been at the top of my class. And i have worked with very intelligent women as well.

We have to understand our differences and respect it. Telling girls to where whatever they feel like without looking at the consequence on the part of men is selfish and not a good advice.

Chimaamanda Ngozi Adichie is not ugly. Nice try and stay losing!