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Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by Blakjewelry(m): 7:59am On Mar 16, 2019

sanmtiago:
Sorry my write up may be lengthy but I'll try as much as possible to be concise

I don't usually see myself as a ladies man cause i'm just a simple person who likes it low key but ladies keep coming around. Of course I like women but I'm not the type who has that excessive impulse to have a woman around me for sex and all that romantic ish. I do have sex when I want to cause I have a girlfriend and I'm loyal to her also. I'm not loyal to her because I love her so much i think I'm loyal because I technically have this inherent self discipline so I hardly chase women. I've dated my girl friend for 2yrs and I've never cheated on her even when I've a deluge of girls flocking around me.

I'm a final year student in my mid twenties and my girl in her early twenties. I don't cohabit cause it doesn't appeal to me so all she does is visit and spend the weekend at my house at times.

Now down to the subject matter I make friends irrespective of their sex but the thing is most of the females I make friends with always want to take the friendship further, they visit me at late hours at times 8pm, 9pm and they stay beyond 10pm and once it's after 10 they begin to give frivolous excuses like, I don't think it'd be safe going home alone by this time of the night or they say they've locked my hostel gate so I literally have no choice than to let them pass the night.

The shocking thing is they begin to make romantic demands like 'can you pls cuddle me I'm cold' I find it so disrespectful cause they know full well I have a girlfriend and I'm not that kind of guy they think I'm.

It happens too often and I'm no longer comfortable with it at this same time I don't want to lose friends as they're nice people. Even as much as my girl knows my level of honesty and discipline she still nervous breakdown because of the inordinate amount of calls from this so called Jezebels.

Please how do I curb this without losing friends cause like I said earlier they're nice and to some extent they've been helpful.

same experience back then, the only thing is once you can handle the issue above the emotional stage? everything will go smoothly

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Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by Blakjewelry(m): 8:02am On Mar 16, 2019

Ray97:
same thing wif me . right from primary school till university ladies draw close to me.. there was a day i was traveling back home from school and i got to chat with a lady seating beside me. the way we wer communicating felt as if we've known each other for years.. long story short she invited me to visit her place... this is someone i just met in the bus..... anything i do or say how ever odd it may be seems to attract ladies to me... although am very friendly i don't like drawing attention to myself so i try not to get too comfortable wif them... people who don't know me will think am a flirt because of the way ladies stick around. its not money( who dash me), its not sex. they just love being around in fact if i was a monster or a randy person, i would have slept with lots of women.... back in sec school seniors would always put me in their black book. they didn't understand how i do it, talk and flow with their mates and seniors freely like i was using magic.... now i cant keep a girlfriend because they ones I've loved genuinely felt insecure because of the way they see ladies around. they don't believe i can date only them when a finer, richer or smarter person is around the corner. they just prefer being friends. am scared it'll affect me in future before or after i settle down......

I had similar experience back then in school it better you tune it down because that is how I lost the girl I love with whole heart.

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by Mouthgag: 8:03am On Mar 16, 2019

sanmtiago:
Sorry my write up may be lengthy but I'll try as much as possible to be concise

I don't usually see myself as a ladies man cause i'm just a simple person who likes it low key but ladies keep coming around. Of course I like women but I'm not the type who has that excessive impulse to have a woman around me for sex and all that romantic ish. I do have sex when I want to cause I have a girlfriend and I'm loyal to her also. I'm not loyal to her because I love her so much i think I'm loyal because I technically have this inherent self discipline so I hardly chase women. I've dated my girl friend for 2yrs and I've never cheated on her even when I've a deluge of girls flocking around me.

I'm a final year student in my mid twenties and my girl in her early twenties. I don't cohabit cause it doesn't appeal to me so all she does is visit and spend the weekend at my house at times.

Now down to the subject matter I make friends irrespective of their sex but the thing is most of the females I make friends with always want to take the friendship further, they visit me at late hours at times 8pm, 9pm and they stay beyond 10pm and once it's after 10 they begin to give frivolous excuses like, I don't think it'd be safe going home alone by this time of the night or they say they've locked my hostel gate so I literally have no choice than to let them pass the night.

The shocking thing is they begin to make romantic demands like 'can you pls cuddle me I'm cold' I find it so disrespectful cause they know full well I have a girlfriend and I'm not that kind of guy they think I'm.

It happens too often and I'm no longer comfortable with it at this same time I don't want to lose friends as they're nice people. Even as much as my girl knows my level of honesty and discipline she still nervous breakdown because of the inordinate amount of calls from this so called Jezebels.

Please how do I curb this without losing friends cause like I said earlier they're nice and to some extent they've been helpful.

Simple,
Go to the hospital to get castrated.

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Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by BerryAnny(m): 8:09am On Mar 16, 2019

illitrate:
Yeye guy, people wey you suppose dey nyash nyash all of them

Nah Yoruba language you used nah. Lmao

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by prettyliz(f): 8:15am On Mar 16, 2019

soul95:
Not everyone lacks self control like you. I can definitely relate to the OP. He basically described some aspects of me. Sex while pleasurable is not something that freaks me to the extent of dedicating time and resources chasing women. If I am to chase a woman, its because I really do like being around her,.sex or no sex (unfortunately that doesn't happen often as many folks lack a sound personality and mind, and me I'm well reserved). I've had a girl for 4 years, never cheated, even when she was messing up, not because I want to prove anything to her, its just my principle.

I live by my principles. At a time, I was feeling jaded about the whole marriage thingy in lieu of the feminism wave and general apathy of our generation to values like loyalty, honoured trust and truth. I was bold enough to tell my spiritual head that I might have a baby mama or be a serial polygamist and I backed it up with reason.
I only dropped it when I was shown that doing so will be in violation to God's ordinance, otherwise I would have done it without batting an eyelid.
You see Principle before hormones. Sex is not some ultimate prize.

Nice one bro,proverbs says a man with self control is greater than man that brings down several cities..

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by Nobody: 8:22am On Mar 16, 2019*

Hmmmm.this is what broke my previous relationship, guy attracts ladies too much,at first he was able to resist bt later on,i found out that he was sleeping with some of them,d most annoying thing is the ladies knew he had a gf bt won't back off,whenever i see his chats,i always feel like crying,one was always telling him to break up with me,that she will wait for him,can you imagine!!...some gals are jst shameless,d problem with d guy is he is too soft,don't wanna hurt their feelings bt at the same,he was hurting mine.....broke up with him,can't deal.(he loves me no doubt)..so op,please be mean to them,they won't stop if u take it lightly,speaking from experience

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Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by tightpussy156: 8:22am On Mar 16, 2019

@op you are just like me.during my university days girls flock around me like honey bee tall,short,thin,fat,lepa,popostic but I was so discipline I rejected their offers but they start to label me Jew guy an the girls gossip me round hostels.during my final year that was how I change my mind an flog all the girls one after the other.at that point I let them no as far they label me a Jew guy which am not but just discipline I will turn the table around for them.my final year was so sweet that all the girls that label me I nack all of them my room was like an hotel during that final year.there was a time two hostel girls slept at my room I flog the two of them together. sometimes as one girls is coming in another is going out.it was not magic, it just my person,I was so clever,good looking,jovial so girls love to be around me so many cook for me with their money even when I didn't ask for it.sometimes 7 different foods will be in my room Cook by different girls I have to share the food to some hostel boys to consume especially those that don't have.so @ op that is it.it a battle field.

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by myself13: 8:24am On Mar 16, 2019

Martinez39:
From my experience, just act as if you are not aware of the sexual advances. Just carry on with your life. When they are tired, they will leave.

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by Fidelismaria: 8:24am On Mar 16, 2019

Check my signature

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by akaahs(m): 8:26am On Mar 16, 2019

Dude want to be D nice guy...
Dude want D friendships....
Dude want D help coming from them....
Dude want to continue to be discipline...

Dude the bottom line is U CANT have all of that.
U have to pay a price.

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by Cikobets16: 8:27am On Mar 16, 2019

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Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by wizod(m): 8:35am On Mar 16, 2019

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Wrong advice?

not really my darling. The advice really made my day

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by myself13: 8:38am On Mar 16, 2019

akaahs:
Dude want to be D nice guy... Dude want D friendships.... Dude want D help coming from them.... Dude want to continue to be discipline...

Dude the bottom line is U CANT have all of that. U have to pay a price.

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by victorian(f): 8:48am On Mar 16, 2019

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
This Op personality is damn scarce and ought to b cherished. Op u have my full respect if what u pasted there is d truth. Kindly get a good tactics on discharging the ladies respectfully.

Guys like him are scarce , like looking for a drop of water in a desert .

Sanmtiago, your girlfriend is extremely lucky . And women know thats why they are always flocking around u ,and want to be the one .
Keep it up!

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by daben1(m): 8:50am On Mar 16, 2019

femi4:
yes

thanks

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by Ebymyk(m): 8:50am On Mar 16, 2019

see better green light, my guy dey dull me...pass their control to me...I go show dem d way...gals feels safe sexually with nice guys...but if the guy no sharp..na gbege!!

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by johnydon22(m): 8:52am On Mar 16, 2019

sanmtiago:
Sorry my write up may be lengthy but I'll try as much as possible to be concise

I don't usually see myself as a ladies man cause i'm just a simple person who likes it low key but ladies keep coming around. Of course I like women but I'm not the type who has that excessive impulse to have a woman around me for sex and all that romantic ish. I do have sex when I want to cause I have a girlfriend and I'm loyal to her also. I'm not loyal to her because I love her so much i think I'm loyal because I technically have this inherent self discipline so I hardly chase women. I've dated my girl friend for 2yrs and I've never cheated on her even when I've a deluge of girls flocking around me.

I'm a final year student in my mid twenties and my girl in her early twenties. I don't cohabit cause it doesn't appeal to me so all she does is visit and spend the weekend at my house at times.

Now down to the subject matter [b]I make friends irrespective of their sex but the thing is most of the females I make friends with always want to take the friendship further, they visit me at late hours at times 8pm, 9pm and they stay beyond 10pm and once it's after 10 they begin to give frivolous excuses like, I don't think it'd be safe going home alone by this time of the night or they say they've locked my hostel gate so I literally have no choice than to let them pass the night.

The shocking thing is they begin to make romantic demands like 'can you pls cuddle me I'm cold' I find it so disrespectful cause they know full well I have a girlfriend and I'm not that kind of guy they think I'm.

It happens too often and I'm no longer comfortable with it at this same time I don't want to lose friends as they're nice people. Even as much as my girl knows my level of honesty and discipline she still nervous breakdown because of the inordinate amount of calls from this so called Jezebels.

Please how do I curb this without losing friends cause like I said earlier they're nice and to some extent they've been helpful.[/b]

this post literally couldn't have been long if you went straight to the point. This post could have started and ended at the bolded words and would make far more sense.

You spent 60% of your written post given out personal background appraisal that turned out to be totally useless to the matter you are raising.

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Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by Nobody: 8:58am On Mar 16, 2019

Rubbish Story, Just fuvk all of them while you still can. Unless you are gay, if you are gay it's okay too.

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by Nobody: 9:02am On Mar 16, 2019

johnydon22:
this post literally couldn't have been long if you went straight to the point. This post could have started and ended at the bolded words and would make far more sense.

You spent 60% of your written post given out personal background appraisal that turned out to be totally useless to the matter you are raising.

I wonder oo! grin

You even have time to read it, Immideately i saw the headline of this Rubbish Story i, was like embarassed

blew!!

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by Futureyahooboi(m): 9:02am On Mar 16, 2019

This one na nollywood script? Abeg make i go select my beans o

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by yahmohy27: 9:05am On Mar 16, 2019

2dice01:
Lemme carry my chair here

Lets wait for the elderly elders

Im with you by the right hand side

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by yahmohy27: 9:06am On Mar 16, 2019

OCEANMORGAN:

Just tell them you steal pants.

They will all scattered

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by Nobody: 9:06am On Mar 16, 2019

Op have not smelt even one rotten Vagina in years let alone fuvk it. grin

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by SEXYBILLIONAIRE(m): 9:09am On Mar 16, 2019

They don't politely turn down ours why bother to do that politely

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by NwaEzefuNaMba(m): 9:11am On Mar 16, 2019

OCEANMORGAN:

Just tell them you steal pants.

You are an offspring of Solomon.

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by frankblinkz(m): 9:12am On Mar 16, 2019

uuzba:
Sex is meant for marriage. Don't get any gilrfriend if you have no job, cannot pay rent, cannot support yourself. It is unrealistic and irresponsible to use your father's money to be doing boyfriend-Girlfriend.
They will tell you people, you won't hear.

You will soon impregnate a lady and start murdering an innocent baby in the name of abortion.

truth is bitter and u are not far from it.. Thanks
Am equally trying my best...hv bn avoiding her calls and keepn her at a distance now,I will be doing this untill she gets tired of me..not like I have had sex with her and want to push her away..am not ready.jst done with service and on the job hunt..she keeps telling me,it's going to be well..but I don't need those cheap words for now.
once again thanks for ur advice

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by Nobody: 9:14am On Mar 16, 2019

Preshy561:
Wow!! Such a rare gem.

Seems the guys on This thread are sensible too.

Keep it up, as you are already graduating, you will soon leave and then, keep them at arms length. The distance Will make their infatuation die naturally.

How is he a rare gem?

If it were gays dudes coming to his house and giving him sexual advances, will he be clueless on how to chase them away?

Because na women, he is now helpless.
angry

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Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by jojothaiv(m): 9:15am On Mar 16, 2019

BOOOMNAIJA:
PASS THEIR NUMBERS TO ME.....I WOULD BE ACTING TO THEM ON UR BEHALF

ABI...

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by frankblinkz(m): 9:15am On Mar 16, 2019

johnydon22:
this post literally couldn't have been long if you went straight to the point. This post could have started and ended at the bolded words and would make far more sense.

You spent 60% of your written post given out personal background appraisal that turned out to be totally useless to the matter you are raising.

to you it's useless,to me Its detailed....I share his plight and I tell u,I know what the OP is going through

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Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by irumole1975: 9:31am On Mar 16, 2019

sanmtiago:
Sorry my write up may be lengthy but I'll try as much as possible to be concise

I don't usually see myself as a ladies man cause i'm just a simple person who likes it low key but ladies keep coming around. Of course I like women but I'm not the type who has that excessive impulse to have a woman around me for sex and all that romantic ish. I do have sex when I want to cause I have a girlfriend and I'm loyal to her also. I'm not loyal to her because I love her so much i think I'm loyal because I technically have this inherent self discipline so I hardly chase women. I've dated my girl friend for 2yrs and I've never cheated on her even when I've a deluge of girls flocking around me.

I'm a final year student in my mid twenties and my girl in her early twenties. I don't cohabit cause it doesn't appeal to me so all she does is visit and spend the weekend at my house at times.

Now down to the subject matter I make friends irrespective of their sex but the thing is most of the females I make friends with always want to take the friendship further, they visit me at late hours at times 8pm, 9pm and they stay beyond 10pm and once it's after 10 they begin to give frivolous excuses like, I don't think it'd be safe going home alone by this time of the night or they say they've locked my hostel gate so I literally have no choice than to let them pass the night.

The shocking thing is they begin to make romantic demands like 'can you pls cuddle me I'm cold' I find it so disrespectful cause they know full well I have a girlfriend and I'm not that kind of guy they think I'm.

It happens too often and I'm no longer comfortable with it at this same time I don't want to lose friends as they're nice people. Even as much as my girl knows my level of honesty and discipline she still nervous breakdown because of the inordinate amount of calls from this so called Jezebels.

Please how do I curb this without losing friends cause like I said earlier they're nice and to some extent they've been helpful.

You must be handsome

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Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by irumole1975: 9:35am On Mar 16, 2019

Op, I hope Victorian isn't among the girls flocking around you? Don't mind her o i know she's easily swayed by fine bois. When she comes, just shove her out. She's for me pls

Re: How Do I Politely Turn Down Ladies' Sexual Advances? by Nobody: 9:40am On Mar 16, 2019

NwaEzefuNaMba:
You are an offspring of Solomon.

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