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Nah don't date that guy. You will be bored out of your mind and keep thinking of other guys.
Yes he is an ideal marriage guy for a lot of girls but not at this stage of your life. At this time you are wild, and would prefer someone of similar tastes.
So no don't date him now. In future you will look for his type but they won't be there anymore.

I can understand where Lacrissa is coming from.Conversation has never really been my greatest asset but i'm not that bad o!Especially when i'm downing some alchohol,(jheeze!that's when i'm in my elements)I rememba when a girl once told me;'what's ur problem,don't you ever talk'?Back then i always had my mind on my money,money on my mind .

cold:
I can understand where Lacrissa is coming from.Conversation has never really been my greatest asset but i'm not that bad o!Especially when i'm downing some alchohol,(jheeze!that's when i'm in my elements)I rememba when a girl once told me;'what's your problem,don't you ever talk'?Back then i always had my mind on my money,money on my mind .

It's not even only the talking, almost everything. He is a good guy yes on his own but that's about it. The conversations both phone, activities, having quality time, you know things that make couples compatible, nothing!

deniyor:
Nah don't date that guy. You will be bored out of your mind and keep thinking of other guys.
Yes he is an ideal marriage guy for a lot of girls but not at this stage of your life. At this time you are wild, and would prefer someone of similar tastes.
So no don't date him now. In future you will look for his type but they won't be there anymore.

Wild? Me? I wish. i'm not wild and this has nothing to do with meeting other guys, having fun. it would still be the same thing even if i'm 50, what are we going to be doing if we are married, looking at our faces? sex? then what else?

SA Lady:
DAMN @Lacrissa, bring this guy here and let me show you what you do with a man like that, only you cant have him back once he's in my chambers girl. This guy is simply saying "Love me best way you can" and you cant do that?

Tell us what do you bring in this relationship? he brought his bit, bring yours too by making this relationship a bit more exciting. He sounds like a complete man who needs somebody to bring a bit of spark in his life, C'mon girl light up his fire. What are you doing?

You don't understand at all. I'm sure if u have him, you would also come here to post and say the same thing. i have nothing against him as a person but for the both of us to click, form chemistry and be compatible and happy together, there are other factors, not just you love/like me, then what else, that's it? then to talk of long term?

[quote author=baby.me link=topic=596407.msg7664906#msg7664906 date=1296810346]Poster is clearly a YOUNG girl looking for fun. Go catch your fun and go back to him when you are done[/quote]what do ya'll understand by me catching fun? who is talking of fun here

segunjowo:
I am the guy this poster's talking about. Cause we act same way. Nikki, why?

who is this? lol

aminalib:
lacrissa, lacrissa, u never learn, ok so u have a good man who is quiet and stays out of trouble and WANTS YOU, yet he is boring, yet u on here wanting advise about how to get your friend who is still in love with his ex, girl get a grip on life.

yawns who is talking about him being a good man and boring. whether he is a bad man and he is like this, i would still say he's boring. this has nothing to do with being good or bad! And yes i came seeking advice on my friend ehn, what's wrong?

amarula:
i know what you are going through cos i have been in a relationship with such a person for a long time( still dont know what i am doing in that relationship).
His lethargy kills me, but am so in love

At least you are in love which is good, mine i haven;t opened myself yet to even like deeply 'cos this whole behavior between us is driving me away to not want a deep committed relationship with him.

tashanja:
Evidently you are not compatible, accept that and move on, both of you deserve somebody better than you can offer to each other - unless of course you are still attracted to his good looks & money or wondering that he may have some hidden assets/talent that may help tilt the balance in his favour, e.g. a 9 incher that by chance could do all the conversation you need for the both of you.

Bottom line, follow your heart, do what makes you happy. Good luck.

Thanks

@ Lacrissa >>> your take, you have repeatedly emphasized and described how quiet he is >>> but there are 2 major things I'd wager on people with that guy's psyche
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[li]they have an other boisterous side which hardly reveals itself[/li]
[li]they need someone to pull them out of their rut[/li]
[/list]

note that some of the greatest love/marriage relationships began with little or no initial chemistry (in a certain marriage it was after 23 years !) >>> also note that there are women (always on Chaz B's show) complaining about abusive men_ something to be grateful for

Jeez ! Nigerians and double standards sha *SMH*

I remember one thread where one guy said his girlfriend is boring and dull. . .most said shez a witch,pretender, slowpoke blah blah blah

now coin is flipped we have a boring boy and we all paint him as the "good husband material"  

oh please husband material ko ? who needs a boring husband anyways ? no one said he should be the party type or talk till Jesus comes. Just carry on a

decent conversation and stop being a zombie

@Uyi Iredia,who wants to wait for 23 years before you hear your hubby speak for the first time,another Oyaks miracle (I knw that was not what you meant).@Lacrissa,how did you even meet this guy,did he chat you up?If he did i'm wondering what he said.Did you just make eye contact & you followed him like you were under a spell?Or was it the car,looks,& power dressing that attracted you to him.In any event i'd advise you to break it off now & forget any thoughts about marriage if the chemistry isn't there.Otherwise you life will be a living hell.
Oh yes lest i forget,a couple more things;is this relationship intimate or just at the platonic stage?Does he drink,alchohol that is?

give him some goodies and he'll change. trust me.

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Jeez ! Nigerians and double standards sha *SMH*

I remember one thread where one guy said his girlfriend is boring and dull. . .most said shez a witch,pretender, slowpoke blah blah blah

now coin is flipped [b]we have a boring boy and we all paint him as the "good husband material"  

oh please husband material ko ? who needs a boring husband anyways ? no one said he should be the party type or talk till Jesus comes. [/b]Just carry on a

decent conversation and stop being a zombie

My two cents exactly. Thanks for hitting the nail on the head esp on the sentences in bold. Because he's boring or doesn't conversate well, he is now a good husband material? Smh

cold:
@Uyi Iredia,who wants to wait for 23 years before you hear your hubby speak for the first time,another Oyaks miracle (I knw that was not what you meant).@Lacrissa,how did you even meet this guy,did he chat you up?If he did i'm wondering what he said.Did you just make eye contact & you followed him like you were under a spell?Or was it the car,looks,& power dressing that attracted you to him.In any event i'd advise you to break it off now & forget any thoughts about marriage if the chemistry isn't there.Otherwise you life will be a living hell.
Oh yes lest i forget,a couple more things;is this relationship intimate or just at the platonic stage?Does he drink,alchohol that is?

Umm i actually met him in school through facebook we were in the same university and he messaged, that he would love to visit me since we also lived very close to each other and so we met. it was just platonic 'cos i was also in another relationship we were taking breaks, but i guess automatically he assumed it was a relationship, then he started asking me out and to define the relationship. The only closeness was just a kiss we had, that's about it. It has been platonic. I doubt he drinks though.

Uyi Iredia:
@ Lacrissa >>> your take, you have repeatedly emphasized and described how quiet he is >>> but there are 2 major things I'd wager on people with that guy's psyche
[list]
[li]they have an other boisterous side which hardly reveals itself[/li]
[li]they need someone to pull them out of their rut[/li]
[/list]

note that some of the greatest love/marriage relationships began with little or no initial chemistry (in a certain marriage it was after 23 years !) >>> also note that there are women (always on Chaz B's show) complaining about abusive men_ something to be grateful for

Sighss, oh puleasse! non abusive men does not equal boring men. What has being abusive got to do with being very boring here? And p.s I salute those but I cannot wait trying to form or develop chemistry. 23 years?

If you personally a'int feeling his 'swag' as they term it,no one is gonna feel it for you. Suit yourself. End of.

For sure Yeas, then would think of a way of changing him.

@ lacrissa i can see dat u r just a bloody attention seeker some one u have not agreed with, u don't know if he is just hiding his attitude 4 u just to trap u and show u hi real attitude later i laugh in Togo and sorry 4 u as well

Lacrissa:
You don't understand at all. I'm sure if u have him, you would also come here to post and say the same thing. i have nothing against him as a person but for the both of us to click, form chemistry and be compatible and happy together, there are other factors, not just you love/like me, then what else, that's it? then to talk of long term?

@ Lacrissa, now I get you, you should've just said you are not feeling this guy. Like you say there is no chemistry between you two. Let him go, he is just not the one somehow you two are not connecting.

I guess any other person with the same qualities and is able to speak to your person person will do for. I guess this is what is lacking between the two of you, not just him. I have no doubt that some girl will find him sexy in his quiteness. You guys just dont connect, its that simple.

I hope he reads this. He doesn't need someone like you, you are way below his standard. He deserves better. Disgusting. If You need fun or a bad, loud talking guy go check for Jim Iyke or something. Leave him to find someone else, enjoy your club life.

Mobinga:
I hope he reads this. He doesn't need someone like you, you are way below his standard. He deserves better. Disgusting. If You need fun or a bad, loud talking guy go check for Jim Iyke or something. Leave him to find someone else, enjoy your club life.

So its too much to ask for a partner that wont bore you to death now abi ?

Lacrissa is a normal girl that is looking for the badboy type of guy. Those are usually fun, exciting and unpreditable. She just may not realise it yet.

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So its too much to ask for a partner that wont bore you to death now abi ?

So its too much to have a partner that is reserved? I just hope she makes the right decision and doesn't end up as someone's punching bag.
Enjoy

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dude seriously ? so if hez not boring then he fights teakwondo innit ?

there is a clear difference between someone dat is not boring and a lousy guy

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dude seriously ? so if hez not boring then he fights teakwondo innit ?

there is a clear difference between someone dat is not boring and a lousy guy

@OP Make a decision you wouldn't regret https://smileys.on-my-web.com/repository/Disgusting/fart-in-bed.gif

@Poster If he's boring to you. break it off and stop complaining about him here!
Either you leave him or you tell him that if he doesn't change you'll never agree to be his girlfriend. I still agree with those who say he has a hidden boisterous personality and just needs someone to bring it out, no one is saying it must be you.

^^^^Wacky, how is she complaining about him?? she is asking our opinion and she is well within her rights to do so.

@Poster, If you don't have healthy communication with this man, I don't see how it can work. Move on to better things

No i won't

Abekeade08:
^^^^Wacky, how is she complaining about him?? she is asking our opinion and she is well within her rights to do so.

@Poster, If you don't have healthy communication with this man, I don't see how it can work. Move on to better things

Massive pimples

bobos and pimples sha, hmm

I don't know why some people can't just understand the poster. So because he's a quiet guy then he's a take home to mama material?
Being in a relationship ought to be fun, cheerful and open minded.
I can never date that kinda person, a guy who doesn't talk but prefers to remain forever mute? NEVER! With the way the poster even described him I don't think he'll be good in bed, u know it's like he's shy, frigid and non adventurous.
@poster my advice is that u shouldn't date the guy buh if u want to then you've got a lotta work to do on him like bringing him outta that shell he's hiding in. Let him know exactly how you feel about his cold attitude. U two can work things out together, don't wait for him to start a topic, start one and make sure the conversation flows between u two

^^Well as a matter of fact, everyone has what s/he want in a relationship cos one man's trash is another man's treasure, some ladies want cool/gentle guy whilst some other ladies wants to be with a talkative/jovial guy.

SALady:
DAMN @Lacrissa, bring this guy here and let me show you what you do with a man like that, only you cant have him back once he's in my chambers girl. This guy is simply saying "Love me best way you can" and you cant do that?

Tell us what do you bring in this relationship? he brought his bit, bring yours too by making this relationship a bit more exciting. He sounds like a complete man who needs somebody to bring a bit of spark in his life, C'mon girl light up his fire. What are you doing?

The bolded is just it!

They'll date anything so far there is money.

Lacrissa:
There is this guy i've known for a long time that has asked me out since. He is very handsome, smart, dresses well, makes money but OMG! his personality sucks for me at least. We could drive around for hours and a word would/might not be spoken till i initiate it and end it. Not adventurious, just movies, stay home chill and the chilling is boring itself. He could just sit at a corner and that's it. Sometimes i try to move him, speak, act funny or have a convo, but i have realized that's who he is. He is still asking me to be his girlfriend even when i show i'm not interested.

Ladies based on his description, would you still go ahead and date him?

,..You don't know that condition that made him like that,from what I see,he is an introvert like me,who loves calm,peaceful stuff,lemme tell u,he has his own vibes he vibes too,that's his aura,he choosed you because he loves you,instead of you to try Behind him up,u are complaining,do you know what background he grew up on,Look am a very introverted person and I have been an introvert right from birth,many things don't amuse me,parties I don't like,but if you are close to me,I like vibing inside and with someone I probably likes,and trust me,u wont find me cool at first,but later on you get to understand me,YOU are patient,YOU lack understanding skill,etc,....try talk to him,And I see you don't love him,Yeah,.you don't live him,....just change now to avoid regret later,....trust me,...leave him and you regret it.

bolshoiboo:
I don't know why some people can't just understand the poster. So because he's a quiet guy then he's a take home to mama material?
Being in a relationship ought to be fun, cheerful and open minded.
I can never date that kinda person, a guy who doesn't talk but prefers to remain forever mute? NEVER! With the way the poster even described him I don't think he'll be good in bed, u know it's like he's shy, frigid and non adventurous.
@poster my advice is that u shouldn't date the guy buh if u want to then you've got a lotta work to do on him like bringing him outta that shell he's hiding in. Let him know exactly how you feel about his cold attitude. U two can work things out together, don't wait for him to start a topic, start one and make sure the conversation flows between u two

,..there's is no sense in what you you just wrote especially that good in bed side,..lemme tell you,..once you Behind him up,..you will fuckin know you just found a treasure,...Lemme tell you,..you are not as freaky as the dude,...You are as bad as the dude,...sometimes human keep mute just to ensure,study to see if you would match their vibe and intelligence,..Girls would just open the mouth and talk,..ehn,..I want a very lively guy,he would be lively enough to dick your friends,..why am I even saying this?

Logically I think he is not the right man for you my dear not about been young or old

Bringing this to NL means u are just confuse and a gentle needs a stable woman


Go to club and you will find ur type of guy my dear live your life to the fullness