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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by PaulAris: 10:07am On Apr 01, 2019
victorian:










Kiss ke! U want make guys wooing me in this forum get angry with me.
No kiss! Biko. I don't know who I will end up settling down with. Lemme not burn my bridges with my own hands.

Just my morning pic instead, I'm just feeling my looks this morning

Lol .

cheesy
Hahaha!!
I thought she was supposed to be at work
She couldn't resist showing me herself huh
So what, you want my review?
Uhh... those lips keeps on staring at me though. Gotta change the angle
p.s. Its just a kiss, it won't hurt nobody. As a matter of fact, I'm coming over to come get it!
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by victorian(f): 10:12am On Apr 01, 2019
PaulAris:

Hahaha!!
I thought she was supposed to be at work
She couldn't resist showing me herself huh
So what, you want my review?
Uhh... those lips keeps on staring at me though. Gotta change the angle
p.s. Its just a kiss, it won't hurt nobody. As a matter of fact, I'm coming over to come get it!














I'm in the office already. I took this pic in the classroom. Im simply feeling myself tongue. No harm sharing my today's look nah.
Who's asking for your review?

No be only come and get it, nah come and chew it!

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Ishilove: 10:16am On Apr 01, 2019
victorian:



Correct Babe!

Your head is screwed right!

People just like posting pictures of their lives, as if they will get paid doing it.

The op prefers celebrity wife. grin

They can show off anything, even their bathroom, they will post it online.
Smhhh.

Op problem is the wife doesn't show him off on social media and publicly, as if she's won a huge prize marrying him.

I like the way u analyze the situation. For me, anyone waiting to see the pic of my husband will wait, till 1000years to come. I ain't showing off Nada! cheesy
My sister, op seems like a social media person while his wife is the opposite. I don't find anything wrong with her attitude. The only thing that raises my eyebrows is her cold attitude to gifts, but I bet if we question the wife what she will tell you is completely different from what the OP has painted here.

My verdict- OP is a noisemaker while his wife is his exact opposite

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by kimoyo: 10:17am On Apr 01, 2019
@ishilove and Victorian, I so concur with you. Op wants all these social media feferity. SM destroying marriages since time immemorial. The only part I wish she should work on is her attitude to gifts.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by victorian(f): 10:32am On Apr 01, 2019
Ishilove:

My sister, op seems like a social media person while his wife is the opposite. I don't find anything wrong with her attitude. The only thing that raises my eyebrows is her cold attitude to gifts, but I bet if we question the wife what she will tell you is completely different from what the OP has painted here.

My verdict- OP is a noisemaker while his wife is his exact opposite








Exactly!

Her attitude to gifts is also the only thing I see wrong.. Apart from that, Op has no issues. He had better adjust, likewise she too.
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by sacajawea: 10:44am On Apr 01, 2019
Lol As Soon as He said Medical Dr, a Nigerian Medical Dr grin it is Finished
Those People are Sick Cold People
You are Married to a Sociopath! OP this is Just the beginning grin grin

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by DukeNija(m): 11:05am On Apr 01, 2019
obicentlis:

Tell her that you need a divorce and see her reaction.

I swear this is what I’ll do. Not to threaten her, but actually file for divorce.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by DukeNija(m): 11:08am On Apr 01, 2019
Ishilove:

My sister, op seems like a social media person while his wife is the opposite. I don't find anything wrong with her attitude. The only thing that raises my eyebrows is her cold attitude to gifts, but I bet if we question the wife what she will tell you is completely different from what the OP has painted here.

My verdict- OP is a noisemaker while his wife is his exact opposite

This is not true. She posts her own pics and those of her colleagues but crops him out? She wasn’t even excited when he bought her a brand new car. Jeez! Are you kidding? The woman doesn’t love him one bit. Who asks her husband not to post her pics on her own birthday. Like who does that? The man is doomed

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 11:14am On Apr 01, 2019
victorian:















I'm in the office already. I took this pic in the classroom. Im simply feeling myself tongue. No harm sharing my today's look nah.
Who's asking for your review?

No be only come and get it, nah come and chew it!

Thought you're a seamstress? What has classroom got to do with sewing?

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Janey2486(f): 11:33am On Apr 01, 2019
She does not love u, l will not tell u to leave her but if u do contact me

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Janey2486(f): 11:42am On Apr 01, 2019
She does not love you, l will not ask u to leave her but if u do. Pls do contact me. wink shocked

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Michelle55: 12:00pm On Apr 01, 2019
Janey2486:
She does not love you, l will not ask u to leave her but if u do. Pls do contact me. wink shocked
Contact you? What for? Wanna take over from where she stopped or what?

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Nobody: 12:03pm On Apr 01, 2019
Ishilove:

My sister, op seems like a social media person while his wife is the opposite. I don't find anything wrong with her attitude. The only thing that raises my eyebrows is her cold attitude to gifts, but I bet if we question the wife what she will tell you is completely different from what the OP has painted here.

My verdict- OP is a noisemaker while his wife is his exact opposite

I'm not sure u read it well...she's a social media person too...she celebrates her male friends, use their picture for display in birthdays with warm messages. Infact she will get angry if the husband doesn't show her off..but she doesn't show him off....it's clear he married the guy cos she's running out of time just to be a mrs..she doesn't really dig the dude.....for me I think her options are still open, she seems to me like someone who won't even use her ring often.
Its probably morality code or the tot of who will marry her after kids that's just keeping her in the marriage.. if she finds someone she's crazy about and will love her and her kids. She will leave this dude sharp sharp

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by victorian(f): 12:22pm On Apr 01, 2019
UyaiIncomparabl:


Thought you're a seamstress? What has classroom got to do with sewing?









Smiles, Being a Seamstress is not my main job dear.

If I talk about other businesses and career I have alongside , u will start all over again with insults , saying I'm lying.

It's no use talking about them. I thank God I have more than one source of income.

Infact the sewing is a part time job, once in a while thing. Not my full time job.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by PaulAris: 12:34pm On Apr 01, 2019
victorian:

I'm in the office already. I took this pic in the classroom. Im simply feeling myself tongue. No harm sharing my today's look nah.
Who's asking for your review?

No be only come and get it, nah come and chew it!
Simply feeling yourself huh
Of course you're, you're clearly chatting with King Charming na
I guess you must be raining too,: hehe!
...
[At bold]; Lol! so chewing works it for you?
Damn! you must be an aggressive lover(lovemaker)
Well I could consider your proposal, but, my lips are tender right now and it needs all the softness it can get
So...
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by victorian(f): 12:37pm On Apr 01, 2019
PaulAris:

Simply feeling yourself huh
Of course you're, you're clearly chatting with King Charming na
I guess you must be raining too,: hehe!
...
[At bold]; Lol! so chewing works it for you?
Damn! you must be an aggressive lover(lovemaker)
Well I could consider your proposal, but, my lips are tender right now and it needs all the softness it can get
So...















Lol

No comment.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by whirlwind7(m): 12:45pm On Apr 01, 2019
Pkingman:
Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?


Actually, you're the abnormal one.
Abnormal with a crushingly huge low self-esteem.

That you saw all the signs and yet went ahead to marry her speak volumes. I would lay you down and flog you with a superior Hausa koboko if you were my brother.
Just disgusting.
So, you are tall, dark, handsome, educated, a nice guy and making some cool bucks, yet you are grovelling at the foot of a woman who doesn't care if you walk into the path of a speeding train right this moment? Huh!

What pathetic male specimen are you anyway? angry

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by gaby(m): 1:05pm On Apr 01, 2019
UyaiIncomparabl:


Thought you're a seamstress? What has classroom got to do with sewing?

Hahaha....this babe and Victorian ehnnn una case na war...

Were you guys per chance buddies in your former life and decided on the opposite in the present?

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by ITbomb(m): 1:06pm On Apr 01, 2019
like other women do.
Anyone noticed that he used this phrase more than 5 times?

You saw all these during dating but you were hell bent on marrying a medical doctor and a lady who doesn't demand from you.

Providing for your wife is a commandment. For me, if you don't ask anything from me as a man, I won't feel complete with you. Like every other thing, problem is when it's excessive

At 30+, she has seen it all, nothing excites her any more.
She just wanted a man to fertile her and just answer the name Married

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by arzizhy: 1:15pm On Apr 01, 2019
Pkingman:
Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?


My brother, if only you can forget about social media and enjoy your marriage. Mine is the exact opposite of yours... while my wife will love to post online, I don’t like it and I ensure I don’t post anything of ours together. Infact6i blocked her on Facebook but we are still married. The real life is outside of social media. If your life together outside of social media is okay, let it sleep

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Gloriagee(f): 1:23pm On Apr 01, 2019
I agree with you.

Ishilove:
She is not abnormal. She is just very reserved. I see a lot of myself in her and i can identify with her, which is why I know she's normal.

Not every woman likes showing off their private lives on social media contrary to what you think. I know I don't. I know I can write about my private life online, but definitely not post pictures. You two just have very different temperaments.

If you know you like social media wife then why did you marry her?? Never marry a person with the mindset that you will change them. Have you changed yourself? Are you the Holy Spirit that changes? You saw the kind of person she was yet you still went ahead to marry, thinking you are the doing her a favour by marrying her, now two years down the line you are complaining.

Abeg carry your cross and make things work. Your madam sef is acting like she is doing you a favour by marrying you. A little appreciation would go a long way in making your partner feel like they didn't waste their resources buying you gifts, although I wouldn't go as far posting pictures if my man buys me a car. That would be dialing your village people's numbers.

Na una two sabi abeg.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by generationz(f): 1:30pm On Apr 01, 2019
Xaos:


Disgusted at someone she married — the father of her child? Okay. For you to say this, maybe you skipped the part he said she has been / still is a good wife. Or the fact that he ‘only’ isn't a part of her life online. undecided

Oh... You don't know a thing or two about people who hates attention. Is not something you can ‘just’ fathom.

you are very correct dear.


It could even be that she sees her husband as a catch and doesn't want social media slay queens to trace him and steal him from her.

some married women would even want to have a piece of him if they know how much he is worth and does for her.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Pkingman(m): 1:49pm On Apr 01, 2019
Age: I am 38 ,she is 34.

Her past dating life.. I met her very single.. She told me her last relationship ended about 8 months earlier..because the guy smoked and drank a lot, although he was also a doctor.
I met her while my mum had a ruptured appendix and was rushed to the hospital where she worked. She was very nice and friendly to her, treated her like her own mother and not like a patient. Maybe my mum would have died that night if not for her.While other members of the team were dragging leg and nonchalant about the case, she pushed it and operated on my mum that night around midnight. We became close during that period..I was always visiting my mum is I wanted to see her... I was lonely and needed to settle down and well, being a doctor.. I had to take the bold step.. And she accepted.. No hassles.
While dating, I thought she didn't want to show me off in case the relationship didn't work out or perhaps, maturity.. Showing off a boyfriend when her mates were already married ?

She told me I suited her in many ways.. Educational background, family, finance, physical attributes, career, etc.

On cheating : I don't think she is cheating. I don't need to clone her phone or social media accounts. Her devices are unlocked and open to me at anytime,even while we were dating. She can travel and leave her phone with me.. No password, no restrictions. It's even me who passwords my phones and she doesn't bother, has never made any attempt to touch my phone..

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Chubhie: 2:01pm On Apr 01, 2019
That's the spirit of Bree van de kamp in your wife. No public display of affection.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Nobody: 2:02pm On Apr 01, 2019
This is strange and disheartening.
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Nobody: 2:04pm On Apr 01, 2019
Pkingman:
Age: I am 38 ,she is 34.

Her past dating life.. I met her very single.. She told me her last relationship ended about 8 months earlier..because the guy smoked and drank a lot, although he was also a doctor.
I met her while my mum had a ruptured appendix and was rushed to the hospital where she worked. She was very nice and friendly to her, treated her like her own mother and not like a patient. Maybe my mum would have died that night if not for her.While other members of the team were dragging leg and nonchalant about the case, she pushed it and operated on my mum that night around midnight. We became close during that period..I was always visiting my mum is I wanted to see her... I was lonely and needed to settle down and well, being a doctor.. I had to take the bold step.. And she accepted.. No hassles.
While dating, I thought she didn't want to show me off in case the relationship didn't work out or perhaps, maturity.. Showing off a boyfriend when her mates were already married ?

She told me I suited her in many ways.. Educational background, family, finance, physical attributes, career, etc.

On cheating : I don't think she is cheating. I don't need to clone her phone or social media accounts. Her devices are unlocked and open to me at anytime,even while we were dating. She can travel and leave her phone with me.. No password, no restrictions. It's even me who passwords my phones and she doesn't bother, has never made any attempt to touch my phone..

There is something she's not telling you about...

How do you people make love?

Does she moan?..d

Does she scream your name out loud when you hit the Gspot?
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by victorian(f): 2:08pm On Apr 01, 2019
gaby:


Hahaha....this babe and Victorian ehnnn una case na war...

Were you guys per chance buddies in your former life and decided on the opposite in the present?















grin

She's the one asking the questions nah .

What have I done again?

Can't someone answer in peace again? angry

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Pkingman(m): 2:10pm On Apr 01, 2019
On her relationship with me at home: She is a perfect partner.. Very friendly and jovial, respects me.. Despite her busy schedule, she still takes out time to keep the home running.. Cooks and does chores, without bothering me to assist.. I hate domestic chores ..we have no maid because she said she doesn't need a maid. My mum and hers take turns to visit and assist.

On Intimacy... Good.. Top notch.. Na she dey rush me sef. We play, pray and laugh.. We even watch football matches together. We both support Arsenal. We hardly quarrel.

On social functions : She isn't the very outgoing type.. More of an indoor person but we attend dew occasions together and she acts just okay... Not cold, not overly excited.. But if we take pictures together, she will never upload that but will rather upload her personal picture.

On gifts : I don't know if it's because she has her own money and can easily afford anything I buy for her.. She has never asked me for anything, even cash I give her because I believe I have to. She only says thank you, no excitement at all. Is this how independent women act?
I complained about this to her parents and siblings.. They said that's how she is.. But I don't feel good about this.. It's so not feminine. As if I am not adding anything to her.

On changing my attitude towards her : She doesn't even want me to put her up on social media as well.. So if I stop that, it won't bother her.
I can't just start giving her cold attitude at home.. No reason for that. Besides, she may just enjoy the space and shun me.. That will be to my own detriment because she sure knows how to keep to herself and mind her business while I can't .

My concern is that my friends, relatives, colleagues show off their partners and celebrate them online. They take pictures and post.. They use their spouses on their DPs.If I don't do same, won't people think my marriage is having issues? And my wife being the reason for this just doesn't sit well with me. I am uncomfortable about it because normal women don't behave like this. They are proud of being married. They are usually crazy about their husbands and look for every opportunity to show them off,display gifts and all that... How many women will husband buy new car for And they won't show off online, at least on whatsapp? Even though she already has a car she bought before we got married, I thought this will be different, being a new car and a SUV...Haba!

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by itsmepareto: 2:10pm On Apr 01, 2019
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Pkingman:
Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.













Well, with what you have written and if all you have said is true, I can assure you that your wife is having a sweet relationship either with her ex or someone she's in love with. Now. The solution to your case is to just act as if you don't care as well. The more you push her to love you the more she hate you. Just ignore her and do your responsibilities. She will be surprise in her mind but base on her atttitude she might not shoe it to you. Women hate it when they are ignore and abandon. Get another lady that you can share your feelinga with, enjoy sex outside ur marriage but use condom
With time you won't even feel her bad behaviour. Move on inside you, don't be weigh down. Be in the marriage for marriage sake and don't put too much stress on urself regarding her behavior, Instead just be strong and start a good relationship with a reasonable lady. ( My opinion ) No insult please.
By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Nobody: 2:21pm On Apr 01, 2019
Wow I wish I had someone like her we'd be perfect together.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Nobody: 2:21pm On Apr 01, 2019
Pkingman:
On her relationship with me at home: She is a perfect partner.. Very friendly and jovial, respects me.. Despite her busy schedule, she still takes out time to keep the home running.. Cooks and does chores, without bothering me to assist.. I hate domestic chores ..we have no maid because she said she doesn't need a maid. My mum and hers take turns to visit and assist.

On Intimacy... Good.. Top notch.. Na she dey rush me sef. We play, pray and laugh.. We even watch football matches together. We both support Arsenal. We hardly quarrel.

On social functions : She isn't the very outgoing type.. More of an indoor person but we attend dew occasions together and she acts just okay... Not cold, not overly excited.. But if we take pictures together, she will never upload that but will rather upload her personal picture.

On gifts : I don't know if it's because she has her own money and can easily afford anything I buy for her.. She has never asked me for anything, even cash I give her because I believe I have to. She only says thank you, no excitement at all. Is this how independent women act?
I complained about this to her parents and siblings.. They said that's how she is.. But I don't feel good about this.. It's so not feminine. As if I am not adding anything to her.

On changing my attitude towards her : She doesn't even want me to put her up on social media as well.. So if I stop that, it won't bother her.
I can't just start giving her cold attitude at home.. No reason for that. Besides, she may just enjoy the space and shun me.. That will be to my own detriment because she sure knows how to keep to herself and mind her business while I can't .

My concern is that my friends, relatives, colleagues show off their partners and celebrate them online. They take pictures and post.. They use their spouses on their DPs.If I don't do same, won't people think my marriage is having issues? And my wife being the reason for this just doesn't sit well with me. I am uncomfortable about it because normal women don't behave like this. They are proud of being married. They are usually crazy about their husbands and look for every opportunity to show them off,display gifts and all that... How many women will husband buy new car for And they won't show off online, at least on whatsapp? Even though she already has a car she bought before we got married, I thought this will be different, being a new car and a SUV...Haba!

Not posting ur pics on the internet, not wanting u to post hers, not showing instructions functions...
Could it be she doesn't want people to know she's a married woman? Wants to appear single to the public?
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by SeunKelechi: 2:45pm On Apr 01, 2019
Pkingman

I don't think you have a problem in your marriage,
See those people posting their lifes on social media, if you should check their inner life you will be surprise bro.

Just accept the way your wife is, forget posting on social media as long as she is doing her responsibilities as a wife, she finds time out of busy schedule to cook at home, take care of the kids, do chores and even good sex! Bro, you don't have a problem...

Just forget social media.

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