11/17/2018: Male, the landlord (OP), met a female (22 years old Liberian), would-be tenant. She requested to stay/sleepover. I said okay.

11/18/2018: In the early hours, ~2 am, we had sex in my room, twice.

11/19/2018: She moved in fully with my help. Offered her the Plan B I bought from the CVS

11/20/2018: Found the Plan B unopened. When confronted, she said: I don't get pregnant."

11/30/2018: I asked the female tenant for rent; she got angry told me she would pay in a few days.

12/2/2018: Asked tenant for rent again, she flared up, told me she is pregnant, that I sexually harassed her because she did not really consent to the sex we had on 11/18/2018. FYI, we only had sex once on 11/18/2018.

12/3/2018: Asked her for rent again, she flared up, brought up sexual harassment. I told her to call the cops because I did nothing wrong. She called the cops. Cops said I was doing rent-for-sex. No arrest made. Cops went to her job the following day encouraging her to file charges. She refused. After she returned home, I asked why she refused to press charges, she said she felt guilty 'cos I did nothing wrong. She said she was angry and I didn't care. She said I pushed her to call the cops so I should not be mad. I asked why she is angry, she said after the sex I pretty much stopped talking to her.

12/3/2018: Went to CVS to buy a pregnancy test. The pregnancy test was faintly positive, unfortunately. She was happy to see a positive test.

12/4/2018: Scheduled her for Planned Parenthood (PP). A pregnancy test at Planned Parenthood (PP) was positive. Second PP appointment was scheduled for 12/18/2018. After the 12/4/2018 appt, she was scheduled for the video watching appointment on 12/10/2018 and medication administration was supposed to be on 12/20/2018. She gave conflicting dates for the date she was meant to go in for the meds; sometimes she said 12/18/2018 and sometimes 12/20/2018. When I ask for specifics, she gets defensive and walks away.

12/6/2018: She syncopized/syncopated at work. She was rushed to the hospital. The urine test was negative, saw the original document due to her carelessness. She told me it was positive.

12/7/2018: Still at the hospital, HCG 193. Discharge summary by ED doc states "chemical pregnancy."

12/7/2018 - date: Threatens to put me on child support anytime we argue. States I cannot kick her out of my house because she is pregnant. She demanded I buy her a car in order to get rid of the baby. I told her I am not that rich. She demanded $2000, I negotiated to $1000 ($450 for the abortion at PP, $60 for food on the day of the abortion, and an extra $500 for her). She also demanded my iPad ($500), Samsung smartwatch ($350), and LV driver shoes ($850). I complied. I gave her $500 for the abortion with a promise to pay her the rest in installments.

12/10/2018: She refused to allow me to drop her off at Planned Parenthood. She collected $60 from me. After she returned, I asked her for the length of the video she was supposed to have watched, she said 25 mins. PP told me over the phone that the video was 15 mins long. She told me she went.

12/15/2018: Noticed I was changing toiletries at a very rapid rate; 1 toilet roll per day. Only two of us in the house. I asked her what was going on, she confessed she had been bleeding X 1 day, plus cramping. Bleeding more than the normal period, per tenant

12/18/2018: Went to the ED, told them she had been bleeding X 2 weeks. HCG 548
Transvaginal ultrasound: 1. There is a tiny cyst in the endometrial canal. This could represent a small pocket of fluid or an earlygestational sac, with a small pocket of fluid more likely. If this is a gestational sac it would have a gestational age of 4 weeks 5 days. Serial beta hCG and a follow-up ultrasound in 2 weeks is recommended to confirm viability.2. A small amount of free fluid in the cul-de-sac. No adnexal masses are seen.

12/19/2018: She asked for the first $100 of the remaining $500, I gave it to her, reluctantly.

12/20/2018: She refused to go to Planned Parenthood. Her excuse, she is still bleeding and she would like to take control of that first before doing the abortion. I requested for a refund of the money I had given her since she is not respecting her end of the agreement. She told me she would not return the money and there is no evidence I gave her the money. No one would believe me.

My Dilemma

Based on the 12/18/2018 transvaginal ultrasound, online calculators estimated a conception date of 11/15/2018. LMP per patient 11/1/2018. Since we only had sex on 11/18/2018, am I excluded from being the father of the child?

Based on the HCG level of 193 on 12/7/2018, assuming a doubling time of 48 hours, shouldn't the hcg on 12/18/2018 be 6000+? The actual level was 548 of 12/18/2018. Does the 548 reflect a post-miscarriage HCG level given that she had been bleeding for 2 weeks?

ThanksA frustrated and stupid landlord who made a huge mistake. I apologize for my screw-up. Feel free to pass judgment. Just here looking for answers/clarity.


12/24/2018 (AM): I started the eviction process

12/24/2018 (PM): Tenant told me she was going to the hospital for blood work. A few hours later, she called me to pick her up from the mall, I said NO. When she got home (via Uber/taxi she paid for), she said: " You are mean and heartless. You are wicked. I will show you what wickedness is." I kept my cool and continued with my work.

12/25/2018: I came back from work, had dinner and settled to watch some heavyweight boxing. Tenant, who has been home all day came down, after getting out of the shower; she said she was hungry and that I should buy her food. She said she is pregnant with my baby and that it is my responsibility to make sure she and the baby are well fed. I told her child support does not start until the child is born.



Later on, she asked me to take her to a Chinese restaurant about 15 mins away, I told her NO.

She asked me to order Uber for her promising to repay me, I said No.

She snatched my key and asked if she could use my car to pick-up her take-out, I said NO.

She then went into my fridge and started eating my fruits. I kept my cool, fell asleep on the couch, and begged her to leave me alone. While sleeping/napping, she came down yelling and threatening to restart the sexual assault case if I do not order Uber/allow her to use my car. I ignored her. After about 35-40 mins of threatening to call the cops, she finally did. The cops came banged on my door, asked me to step outside for a chat, I told them I was not dressed for the weather. I stayed in my house and complied with their instructions (ID, my side of the story, etc). She told them I discarded the food she kept in my fridge. I told the cops the food I discarded were rotten and smelling bad. And that the food was weeks old and she was fully informed before I dumped them in the trash. In the end, the cops escorted her out to her father's house ( the same house she did not want to return to).

On her way out of my house, I asked the cops if they can help pack her stuff out, the cops said no. The cops said there is no room in their car. I asked her for my house key in front of the cops, she refused to return the key. The cops said they cannot force her to give me the key and that we will have to sort it out in court.

Shortly after, neighbors came out to show support. Neighbors told cops I am the nicest person ever.

Around 08:48 PM she texted me:: "We will have to go to court thank you." No response from me!!!!!

Trouble dey sleep ... Very obvious you aren't in naija.

Hey Mr nicest person, you are not a landlord yet, come to Nigeria for some landlord apprenticeship. Location of the field work should be Lagos not vgc or banana island o, but areas like okomaiko. After five days into the programme, come back here and give your testimony.

When you say police tell you make you come outside, you no gree, say you no dress well. I come dey reason say you no dey Naija

ITbomb:
When you say police tell you make you come outside, you no gree, say you no dress well. I come dey reason say you no dey Naija

Yes, I no dey Naija. Thank God!

It was cold outside

iragbmite:
11/17/2018: Male, the landlord (OP), met a female (22 years old Liberian), would-be tenant. She requested to stay/sleepover. I said okay.

11/18/2018: In the early hours, ~2 am, we had sex in my room, twice.

11/19/2018: She moved in fully with my help. Offered her the Plan B I bought from the CVS

11/20/2018: Found the Plan B unopened. When confronted, she said: I don't get pregnant."

11/30/2018: I asked the female tenant for rent; she got angry told me she would pay in a few days.

12/2/2018: Asked tenant for rent again, she flared up, told me she is pregnant, that I sexually harassed her because she did not really consent to the sex we had on 11/18/2018. FYI, we only had sex once on 11/18/2018.

12/3/2018: Asked her for rent again, she flared up, brought up sexual harassment. I told her to call the cops because I did nothing wrong. She called the cops. Cops said I was doing rent-for-sex. No arrest made. Cops went to her job the following day encouraging her to file charges. She refused. After she returned home, I asked why she refused to press charges, she said she felt guilty 'cos I did nothing wrong. She said she was angry and I didn't care. She said I pushed her to call the cops so I should not be mad. I asked why she is angry, she said after the sex I pretty much stopped talking to her.

12/3/2018: Went to CVS to buy a pregnancy test. The pregnancy test was faintly positive, unfortunately. She was happy to see a positive test.

12/4/2018: Scheduled her for Planned Parenthood (PP). A pregnancy test at Planned Parenthood (PP) was positive. Second PP appointment was scheduled for 12/18/2018. After the 12/4/2018 appt, she was scheduled for the video watching appointment on 12/10/2018 and medication administration was supposed to be on 12/20/2018. She gave conflicting dates for the date she was meant to go in for the meds; sometimes she said 12/18/2018 and sometimes 12/20/2018. When I ask for specifics, she gets defensive and walks away.

12/6/2018: She syncopized/syncopated at work. She was rushed to the hospital. The urine test was negative, saw the original document due to her carelessness. She told me it was positive.

12/7/2018: Still at the hospital, HCG 193. Discharge summary by ED doc states "chemical pregnancy."

12/7/2018 - date: Threatens to put me on child support anytime we argue. States I cannot kick her out of my house because she is pregnant. She demanded I buy her a car in order to get rid of the baby. I told her I am not that rich. She demanded $2000, I negotiated to $1000 ($450 for the abortion at PP, $60 for food on the day of the abortion, and an extra $500 for her). She also demanded my iPad ($500), Samsung smartwatch ($350), and LV driver shoes ($850). I complied. I gave her $500 for the abortion with a promise to pay her the rest in installments.

12/10/2018: She refused to allow me to drop her off at Planned Parenthood. She collected $60 from me. After she returned, I asked her for the length of the video she was supposed to have watched, she said 25 mins. PP told me over the phone that the video was 15 mins long. She told me she went.

12/15/2018: Noticed I was changing toiletries at a very rapid rate; 1 toilet roll per day. Only two of us in the house. I asked her what was going on, she confessed she had been bleeding X 1 day, plus cramping. Bleeding more than the normal period, per tenant

12/18/2018: Went to the ED, told them she had been bleeding X 2 weeks. HCG 548
Transvaginal ultrasound: 1. There is a tiny cyst in the endometrial canal. This could represent a small pocket of fluid or an earlygestational sac, with a small pocket of fluid more likely. If this is a gestational sac it would have a gestational age of 4 weeks 5 days. Serial beta hCG and a follow-up ultrasound in 2 weeks is recommended to confirm viability.2. A small amount of free fluid in the cul-de-sac. No adnexal masses are seen.

12/19/2018: She asked for the first $100 of the remaining $500, I gave it to her, reluctantly.

12/20/2018: She refused to go to Planned Parenthood. Her excuse, she is still bleeding and she would like to take control of that first before doing the abortion. I requested for a refund of the money I had given her since she is not respecting her end of the agreement. She told me she would not return the money and there is no evidence I gave her the money. No one would believe me.

My Dilemma

Based on the 12/18/2018 transvaginal ultrasound, online calculators estimated a conception date of 11/15/2018. LMP per patient 11/1/2018. Since we only had sex on 11/18/2018, am I excluded from being the father of the child?

Based on the HCG level of 193 on 12/7/2018, assuming a doubling time of 48 hours, shouldn't the hcg on 12/18/2018 be 6000+? The actual level was 548 of 12/18/2018. Does the 548 reflect a post-miscarriage HCG level given that she had been bleeding for 2 weeks?

ThanksA frustrated and stupid landlord who made a huge mistake. I apologize for my screw-up. Feel free to pass judgment. Just here looking for answers/clarity.


12/24/2018 (AM): I started the eviction process

12/24/2018 (PM): Tenant told me she was going to the hospital for blood work. A few hours later, she called me to pick her up from the mall, I said NO. When she got home (via Uber/taxi she paid for), she said: " You are mean and heartless. You are wicked. I will show you what wickedness is." I kept my cool and continued with my work.

12/25/2018: I came back from work, had dinner and settled to watch some heavyweight boxing. Tenant, who has been home all day came down, after getting out of the shower; she said she was hungry and that I should buy her food. She said she is pregnant with my baby and that it is my responsibility to make sure she and the baby are well fed. I told her child support does not start until the child is born.



Later on, she asked me to take her to a Chinese restaurant about 15 mins away, I told her NO.

She asked me to order Uber for her promising to repay me, I said No.

She snatched my key and asked if she could use my car to pick-up her take-out, I said NO.

She then went into my fridge and started eating my fruits. I kept my cool, fell asleep on the couch, and begged her to leave me alone. While sleeping/napping, she came down yelling and threatening to restart the sexual assault case if I do not order Uber/allow her to use my car. I ignored her. After about 35-40 mins of threatening to call the cops, she finally did. The cops came banged on my door, asked me to step outside for a chat, I told them I was not dressed for the weather. I stayed in my house and complied with their instructions (ID, my side of the story, etc). She told them I discarded the food she kept in my fridge. I told the cops the food I discarded were rotten and smelling bad. And that the food was weeks old and she was fully informed before I dumped them in the trash. In the end, the cops escorted her out to her father's house ( the same house she did not want to return to).

On her way out of my house, I asked the cops if they can help pack her stuff out, the cops said no. The cops said there is no room in their car. I asked her for my house key in front of the cops, she refused to return the key. The cops said they cannot force her to give me the key and that we will have to sort it out in court.

Shortly after, neighbors came out to show support. Neighbors told cops I am the nicest person ever.

Around 08:48 PM she texted me:: "We will have to go to court thank you." No response from me!!!!!

You are were the father of the child. These online calculators try to estimate the closest possible time of conception. If you are still in doubt, you could have allowed the baby to be born and go for a DNA test. I can assure you the results will be positive.

She has nothing against you in the court from my perspective. I don't know what country you're in and how the laws apply.

Safe sex is highly underrated. You would not want to create a thread on "how my evil tenant gave me HIV"

so...when is the wedding and naming ceremony? i'll suggest you do both together to save cost

Nicely written.

You either keep a diary or have a retentive memory.

Expensive sex you had... you fvcked within 24hrs of her packing in.

iragbmite:
11/17/2018: Male, the landlord (OP), met a female (22 years old Liberian), would-be tenant. She requested to stay/sleepover. I said okay.

11/18/2018: In the early hours, ~2 am, we had sex in my room, twice.

11/19/2018: She moved in fully with my help. Offered her the Plan B I bought from the CVS

11/20/2018: Found the Plan B unopened. When confronted, she said: I don't get pregnant."

11/30/2018: I asked the female tenant for rent; she got angry told me she would pay in a few days.

12/2/2018: Asked tenant for rent again, she flared up, told me she is pregnant, that I sexually harassed her because she did not really consent to the sex we had on 11/18/2018. FYI, we only had sex once on 11/18/2018.

12/3/2018: Asked her for rent again, she flared up, brought up sexual harassment. I told her to call the cops because I did nothing wrong. She called the cops. Cops said I was doing rent-for-sex. No arrest made. Cops went to her job the following day encouraging her to file charges. She refused. After she returned home, I asked why she refused to press charges, she said she felt guilty 'cos I did nothing wrong. She said she was angry and I didn't care. She said I pushed her to call the cops so I should not be mad. I asked why she is angry, she said after the sex I pretty much stopped talking to her.

12/3/2018: Went to CVS to buy a pregnancy test. The pregnancy test was faintly positive, unfortunately. She was happy to see a positive test.

12/4/2018: Scheduled her for Planned Parenthood (PP). A pregnancy test at Planned Parenthood (PP) was positive. Second PP appointment was scheduled for 12/18/2018. After the 12/4/2018 appt, she was scheduled for the video watching appointment on 12/10/2018 and medication administration was supposed to be on 12/20/2018. She gave conflicting dates for the date she was meant to go in for the meds; sometimes she said 12/18/2018 and sometimes 12/20/2018. When I ask for specifics, she gets defensive and walks away.

12/6/2018: She syncopized/syncopated at work. She was rushed to the hospital. The urine test was negative, saw the original document due to her carelessness. She told me it was positive.

12/7/2018: Still at the hospital, HCG 193. Discharge summary by ED doc states "chemical pregnancy."

12/7/2018 - date: Threatens to put me on child support anytime we argue. States I cannot kick her out of my house because she is pregnant. She demanded I buy her a car in order to get rid of the baby. I told her I am not that rich. She demanded $2000, I negotiated to $1000 ($450 for the abortion at PP, $60 for food on the day of the abortion, and an extra $500 for her). She also demanded my iPad ($500), Samsung smartwatch ($350), and LV driver shoes ($850). I complied. I gave her $500 for the abortion with a promise to pay her the rest in installments.

12/10/2018: She refused to allow me to drop her off at Planned Parenthood. She collected $60 from me. After she returned, I asked her for the length of the video she was supposed to have watched, she said 25 mins. PP told me over the phone that the video was 15 mins long. She told me she went.

12/15/2018: Noticed I was changing toiletries at a very rapid rate; 1 toilet roll per day. Only two of us in the house. I asked her what was going on, she confessed she had been bleeding X 1 day, plus cramping. Bleeding more than the normal period, per tenant

12/18/2018: Went to the ED, told them she had been bleeding X 2 weeks. HCG 548
Transvaginal ultrasound: 1. There is a tiny cyst in the endometrial canal. This could represent a small pocket of fluid or an earlygestational sac, with a small pocket of fluid more likely. If this is a gestational sac it would have a gestational age of 4 weeks 5 days. Serial beta hCG and a follow-up ultrasound in 2 weeks is recommended to confirm viability.2. A small amount of free fluid in the cul-de-sac. No adnexal masses are seen.

12/19/2018: She asked for the first $100 of the remaining $500, I gave it to her, reluctantly.

12/20/2018: She refused to go to Planned Parenthood. Her excuse, she is still bleeding and she would like to take control of that first before doing the abortion. I requested for a refund of the money I had given her since she is not respecting her end of the agreement. She told me she would not return the money and there is no evidence I gave her the money. No one would believe me.

My Dilemma

Based on the 12/18/2018 transvaginal ultrasound, online calculators estimated a conception date of 11/15/2018. LMP per patient 11/1/2018. Since we only had sex on 11/18/2018, am I excluded from being the father of the child?

Based on the HCG level of 193 on 12/7/2018, assuming a doubling time of 48 hours, shouldn't the hcg on 12/18/2018 be 6000+? The actual level was 548 of 12/18/2018. Does the 548 reflect a post-miscarriage HCG level given that she had been bleeding for 2 weeks?

ThanksA frustrated and stupid landlord who made a huge mistake. I apologize for my screw-up. Feel free to pass judgment. Just here looking for answers/clarity.


12/24/2018 (AM): I started the eviction process

12/24/2018 (PM): Tenant told me she was going to the hospital for blood work. A few hours later, she called me to pick her up from the mall, I said NO. When she got home (via Uber/taxi she paid for), she said: " You are mean and heartless. You are wicked. I will show you what wickedness is." I kept my cool and continued with my work.

12/25/2018: I came back from work, had dinner and settled to watch some heavyweight boxing. Tenant, who has been home all day came down, after getting out of the shower; she said she was hungry and that I should buy her food. She said she is pregnant with my baby and that it is my responsibility to make sure she and the baby are well fed. I told her child support does not start until the child is born.



Later on, she asked me to take her to a Chinese restaurant about 15 mins away, I told her NO.

She asked me to order Uber for her promising to repay me, I said No.

She snatched my key and asked if she could use my car to pick-up her take-out, I said NO.

She then went into my fridge and started eating my fruits. I kept my cool, fell asleep on the couch, and begged her to leave me alone. While sleeping/napping, she came down yelling and threatening to restart the sexual assault case if I do not order Uber/allow her to use my car. I ignored her. After about 35-40 mins of threatening to call the cops, she finally did. The cops came banged on my door, asked me to step outside for a chat, I told them I was not dressed for the weather. I stayed in my house and complied with their instructions (ID, my side of the story, etc). She told them I discarded the food she kept in my fridge. I told the cops the food I discarded were rotten and smelling bad. And that the food was weeks old and she was fully informed before I dumped them in the trash. In the end, the cops escorted her out to her father's house ( the same house she did not want to return to).

On her way out of my house, I asked the cops if they can help pack her stuff out, the cops said no. The cops said there is no room in their car. I asked her for my house key in front of the cops, she refused to return the key. The cops said they cannot force her to give me the key and that we will have to sort it out in court.

Shortly after, neighbors came out to show support. Neighbors told cops I am the nicest person ever.

Around 08:48 PM she texted me:: "We will have to go to court thank you." No response from me!!!!!

am I the only one who doesn't really understand this write up

Who's at fault? Is it not the he goat that cannot keep to his prick. You're the cause of everything. Please, kindly face your cross alone. I have accommodated a lady for a week without having anything with her. Once some guys see a lady, the next thing they will be thinking about is sex.

IvarTheBoneless:
Nicely written.

You either keep a diary or have a retentive memory.

Expensive sex you had... you fvcked within 24hrs of her packing in.

Two Rounds before drafting tenancy agreement This is what you get when you can't differentiate business and pleasure.

Oga grab some evidence and sue her before they "Bill-Cosby" you

iragbmite:
11/17/2018: Male, the landlord (OP), met a female (22 years old Liberian), would-be tenant. She requested to stay/sleepover. I said okay.

11/18/2018: In the early hours, ~2 am, we had sex in my room, twice.

11/19/2018: She moved in fully with my help. Offered her the Plan B I bought from the CVS

11/20/2018: Found the Plan B unopened. When confronted, she said: I don't get pregnant."

11/30/2018: I asked the female tenant for rent; she got angry told me she would pay in a few days.

12/2/2018: Asked tenant for rent again, she flared up, told me she is pregnant, that I sexually harassed her because she did not really consent to the sex we had on 11/18/2018. FYI, we only had sex once on 11/18/2018.

12/3/2018: Asked her for rent again, she flared up, brought up sexual harassment. I told her to call the cops because I did nothing wrong. She called the cops. Cops said I was doing rent-for-sex. No arrest made. Cops went to her job the following day encouraging her to file charges. She refused. After she returned home, I asked why she refused to press charges, she said she felt guilty 'cos I did nothing wrong. She said she was angry and I didn't care. She said I pushed her to call the cops so I should not be mad. I asked why she is angry, she said after the sex I pretty much stopped talking to her.

12/3/2018: Went to CVS to buy a pregnancy test. The pregnancy test was faintly positive, unfortunately. She was happy to see a positive test.

12/4/2018: Scheduled her for Planned Parenthood (PP). A pregnancy test at Planned Parenthood (PP) was positive. Second PP appointment was scheduled for 12/18/2018. After the 12/4/2018 appt, she was scheduled for the video watching appointment on 12/10/2018 and medication administration was supposed to be on 12/20/2018. She gave conflicting dates for the date she was meant to go in for the meds; sometimes she said 12/18/2018 and sometimes 12/20/2018. When I ask for specifics, she gets defensive and walks away.

12/6/2018: She syncopized/syncopated at work. She was rushed to the hospital. The urine test was negative, saw the original document due to her carelessness. She told me it was positive.

12/7/2018: Still at the hospital, HCG 193. Discharge summary by ED doc states "chemical pregnancy."

12/7/2018 - date: Threatens to put me on child support anytime we argue. States I cannot kick her out of my house because she is pregnant. She demanded I buy her a car in order to get rid of the baby. I told her I am not that rich. She demanded $2000, I negotiated to $1000 ($450 for the abortion at PP, $60 for food on the day of the abortion, and an extra $500 for her). She also demanded my iPad ($500), Samsung smartwatch ($350), and LV driver shoes ($850). I complied. I gave her $500 for the abortion with a promise to pay her the rest in installments.

12/10/2018: She refused to allow me to drop her off at Planned Parenthood. She collected $60 from me. After she returned, I asked her for the length of the video she was supposed to have watched, she said 25 mins. PP told me over the phone that the video was 15 mins long. She told me she went.

12/15/2018: Noticed I was changing toiletries at a very rapid rate; 1 toilet roll per day. Only two of us in the house. I asked her what was going on, she confessed she had been bleeding X 1 day, plus cramping. Bleeding more than the normal period, per tenant

12/18/2018: Went to the ED, told them she had been bleeding X 2 weeks. HCG 548
Transvaginal ultrasound: 1. There is a tiny cyst in the endometrial canal. This could represent a small pocket of fluid or an earlygestational sac, with a small pocket of fluid more likely. If this is a gestational sac it would have a gestational age of 4 weeks 5 days. Serial beta hCG and a follow-up ultrasound in 2 weeks is recommended to confirm viability.2. A small amount of free fluid in the cul-de-sac. No adnexal masses are seen.

12/19/2018: She asked for the first $100 of the remaining $500, I gave it to her, reluctantly.

12/20/2018: She refused to go to Planned Parenthood. Her excuse, she is still bleeding and she would like to take control of that first before doing the abortion. I requested for a refund of the money I had given her since she is not respecting her end of the agreement. She told me she would not return the money and there is no evidence I gave her the money. No one would believe me.

My Dilemma

Based on the 12/18/2018 transvaginal ultrasound, online calculators estimated a conception date of 11/15/2018. LMP per patient 11/1/2018. Since we only had sex on 11/18/2018, am I excluded from being the father of the child?

Based on the HCG level of 193 on 12/7/2018, assuming a doubling time of 48 hours, shouldn't the hcg on 12/18/2018 be 6000+? The actual level was 548 of 12/18/2018. Does the 548 reflect a post-miscarriage HCG level given that she had been bleeding for 2 weeks?

ThanksA frustrated and stupid landlord who made a huge mistake. I apologize for my screw-up. Feel free to pass judgment. Just here looking for answers/clarity.


12/24/2018 (AM): I started the eviction process

12/24/2018 (PM): Tenant told me she was going to the hospital for blood work. A few hours later, she called me to pick her up from the mall, I said NO. When she got home (via Uber/taxi she paid for), she said: " You are mean and heartless. You are wicked. I will show you what wickedness is." I kept my cool and continued with my work.

12/25/2018: I came back from work, had dinner and settled to watch some heavyweight boxing. Tenant, who has been home all day came down, after getting out of the shower; she said she was hungry and that I should buy her food. She said she is pregnant with my baby and that it is my responsibility to make sure she and the baby are well fed. I told her child support does not start until the child is born.



Later on, she asked me to take her to a Chinese restaurant about 15 mins away, I told her NO.

She asked me to order Uber for her promising to repay me, I said No.

She snatched my key and asked if she could use my car to pick-up her take-out, I said NO.

She then went into my fridge and started eating my fruits. I kept my cool, fell asleep on the couch, and begged her to leave me alone. While sleeping/napping, she came down yelling and threatening to restart the sexual assault case if I do not order Uber/allow her to use my car. I ignored her. After about 35-40 mins of threatening to call the cops, she finally did. The cops came banged on my door, asked me to step outside for a chat, I told them I was not dressed for the weather. I stayed in my house and complied with their instructions (ID, my side of the story, etc). She told them I discarded the food she kept in my fridge. I told the cops the food I discarded were rotten and smelling bad. And that the food was weeks old and she was fully informed before I dumped them in the trash. In the end, the cops escorted her out to her father's house ( the same house she did not want to return to).

On her way out of my house, I asked the cops if they can help pack her stuff out, the cops said no. The cops said there is no room in their car. I asked her for my house key in front of the cops, she refused to return the key. The cops said they cannot force her to give me the key and that we will have to sort it out in court.

Shortly after, neighbors came out to show support. Neighbors told cops I am the nicest person ever.

Around 08:48 PM she texted me:: "We will have to go to court thank you." No response from me!!!!!

are you in Liberia or what?

they is no need for all this epistles, you did slept with her with out protection. you should have considered getting her pregnant before diving in raw. but that is buy the way



please what is wrong if you father a child at this your age?

iragbmite:
11/17/2018: Male, the landlord (OP), met a female (22 years old Liberian), would-be tenant. She requested to stay/sleepover. I said okay.

11/18/2018: In the early hours, ~2 am, we had sex in my room, twice.

11/19/2018: She moved in fully with my help. Offered her the Plan B I bought from the CVS

11/20/2018: Found the Plan B unopened. When confronted, she said: I don't get pregnant."

11/30/2018: I asked the female tenant for rent; she got angry told me she would pay in a few days.

12/2/2018: Asked tenant for rent again, she flared up, told me she is pregnant, that I sexually harassed her because she did not really consent to the sex we had on 11/18/2018. FYI, we only had sex once on 11/18/2018.

12/3/2018: Asked her for rent again, she flared up, brought up sexual harassment. I told her to call the cops because I did nothing wrong. She called the cops. Cops said I was doing rent-for-sex. No arrest made. Cops went to her job the following day encouraging her to file charges. She refused. After she returned home, I asked why she refused to press charges, she said she felt guilty 'cos I did nothing wrong. She said she was angry and I didn't care. She said I pushed her to call the cops so I should not be mad. I asked why she is angry, she said after the sex I pretty much stopped talking to her.

12/3/2018: Went to CVS to buy a pregnancy test. The pregnancy test was faintly positive, unfortunately. She was happy to see a positive test.

12/4/2018: Scheduled her for Planned Parenthood (PP). A pregnancy test at Planned Parenthood (PP) was positive. Second PP appointment was scheduled for 12/18/2018. After the 12/4/2018 appt, she was scheduled for the video watching appointment on 12/10/2018 and medication administration was supposed to be on 12/20/2018. She gave conflicting dates for the date she was meant to go in for the meds; sometimes she said 12/18/2018 and sometimes 12/20/2018. When I ask for specifics, she gets defensive and walks away.

12/6/2018: She syncopized/syncopated at work. She was rushed to the hospital. The urine test was negative, saw the original document due to her carelessness. She told me it was positive.

12/7/2018: Still at the hospital, HCG 193. Discharge summary by ED doc states "chemical pregnancy."

12/7/2018 - date: Threatens to put me on child support anytime we argue. States I cannot kick her out of my house because she is pregnant. She demanded I buy her a car in order to get rid of the baby. I told her I am not that rich. She demanded $2000, I negotiated to $1000 ($450 for the abortion at PP, $60 for food on the day of the abortion, and an extra $500 for her). She also demanded my iPad ($500), Samsung smartwatch ($350), and LV driver shoes ($850). I complied. I gave her $500 for the abortion with a promise to pay her the rest in installments.

12/10/2018: She refused to allow me to drop her off at Planned Parenthood. She collected $60 from me. After she returned, I asked her for the length of the video she was supposed to have watched, she said 25 mins. PP told me over the phone that the video was 15 mins long. She told me she went.

12/15/2018: Noticed I was changing toiletries at a very rapid rate; 1 toilet roll per day. Only two of us in the house. I asked her what was going on, she confessed she had been bleeding X 1 day, plus cramping. Bleeding more than the normal period, per tenant

12/18/2018: Went to the ED, told them she had been bleeding X 2 weeks. HCG 548
Transvaginal ultrasound: 1. There is a tiny cyst in the endometrial canal. This could represent a small pocket of fluid or an earlygestational sac, with a small pocket of fluid more likely. If this is a gestational sac it would have a gestational age of 4 weeks 5 days. Serial beta hCG and a follow-up ultrasound in 2 weeks is recommended to confirm viability.2. A small amount of free fluid in the cul-de-sac. No adnexal masses are seen.

12/19/2018: She asked for the first $100 of the remaining $500, I gave it to her, reluctantly.

12/20/2018: She refused to go to Planned Parenthood. Her excuse, she is still bleeding and she would like to take control of that first before doing the abortion. I requested for a refund of the money I had given her since she is not respecting her end of the agreement. She told me she would not return the money and there is no evidence I gave her the money. No one would believe me.

My Dilemma

Based on the 12/18/2018 transvaginal ultrasound, online calculators estimated a conception date of 11/15/2018. LMP per patient 11/1/2018. Since we only had sex on 11/18/2018, am I excluded from being the father of the child?

Based on the HCG level of 193 on 12/7/2018, assuming a doubling time of 48 hours, shouldn't the hcg on 12/18/2018 be 6000+? The actual level was 548 of 12/18/2018. Does the 548 reflect a post-miscarriage HCG level given that she had been bleeding for 2 weeks?

ThanksA frustrated and stupid landlord who made a huge mistake. I apologize for my screw-up. Feel free to pass judgment. Just here looking for answers/clarity.


12/24/2018 (AM): I started the eviction process

12/24/2018 (PM): Tenant told me she was going to the hospital for blood work. A few hours later, she called me to pick her up from the mall, I said NO. When she got home (via Uber/taxi she paid for), she said: " You are mean and heartless. You are wicked. I will show you what wickedness is." I kept my cool and continued with my work.

12/25/2018: I came back from work, had dinner and settled to watch some heavyweight boxing. Tenant, who has been home all day came down, after getting out of the shower; she said she was hungry and that I should buy her food. She said she is pregnant with my baby and that it is my responsibility to make sure she and the baby are well fed. I told her child support does not start until the child is born.



Later on, she asked me to take her to a Chinese restaurant about 15 mins away, I told her NO.

She asked me to order Uber for her promising to repay me, I said No.

She snatched my key and asked if she could use my car to pick-up her take-out, I said NO.

She then went into my fridge and started eating my fruits. I kept my cool, fell asleep on the couch, and begged her to leave me alone. While sleeping/napping, she came down yelling and threatening to restart the sexual assault case if I do not order Uber/allow her to use my car. I ignored her. After about 35-40 mins of threatening to call the cops, she finally did. The cops came banged on my door, asked me to step outside for a chat, I told them I was not dressed for the weather. I stayed in my house and complied with their instructions (ID, my side of the story, etc). She told them I discarded the food she kept in my fridge. I told the cops the food I discarded were rotten and smelling bad. And that the food was weeks old and she was fully informed before I dumped them in the trash. In the end, the cops escorted her out to her father's house ( the same house she did not want to return to).

On her way out of my house, I asked the cops if they can help pack her stuff out, the cops said no. The cops said there is no room in their car. I asked her for my house key in front of the cops, she refused to return the key. The cops said they cannot force her to give me the key and that we will have to sort it out in court.

Shortly after, neighbors came out to show support. Neighbors told cops I am the nicest person ever.

Around 08:48 PM she texted me:: "We will have to go to court thank you." No response from me!!!!!

Come on brother like seriously? There are mistakes and then there is this!
So it has not occurred to you to just change the locks?
This is beyond stupid.
No sympathy for you here, how idiotic can a man get all because of vagina?
You walked into this one with your eyes open. How do you know she did not have a termination or was pregnant already and was looking ( for an idiot to pin it on her) and found one

IF and I mean IF there is a baby DNA via court order and then just pray you ain’t the daddy!

Were Are You From Now ?
Bro Actually It's Not Easy To Sleep With Any Girl Without Sex Most Expecialy Sleep Together For Night Anyway Wait Till She Gave Birth And Go For "DNA"

ritmek:
am I the only one who doesn't really understand this write up

I understood it, it’s the stupidity that’s got me flummoxed!

iragbmite:


Yes, I no dey Naija. Thank God!

It was cold outside

Go on and post this on Reddit. You'll get helpful responses on there presuming you're in the US?

iragbmite:
11/17/2018: Male, the landlord (OP), met a female (22 years old Liberian), would-be tenant. She requested to stay/sleepover. I said okay.

11/18/2018: In the early hours, ~2 am, we had sex in my room, twice.

11/19/2018: She moved in fully with my help. Offered her the Plan B I bought from the CVS

11/20/2018: Found the Plan B unopened. When confronted, she said: I don't get pregnant."

11/30/2018: I asked the female tenant for rent; she got angry told me she would pay in a few days.

12/2/2018: Asked tenant for rent again, she flared up, told me she is pregnant, that I sexually harassed her because she did not really consent to the sex we had on 11/18/2018. FYI, we only had sex once on 11/18/2018.

12/3/2018: Asked her for rent again, she flared up, brought up sexual harassment. I told her to call the cops because I did nothing wrong. She called the cops. Cops said I was doing rent-for-sex. No arrest made. Cops went to her job the following day encouraging her to file charges. She refused. After she returned home, I asked why she refused to press charges, she said she felt guilty 'cos I did nothing wrong. She said she was angry and I didn't care. She said I pushed her to call the cops so I should not be mad. I asked why she is angry, she said after the sex I pretty much stopped talking to her.

12/3/2018: Went to CVS to buy a pregnancy test. The pregnancy test was faintly positive, unfortunately. She was happy to see a positive test.

12/4/2018: Scheduled her for Planned Parenthood (PP). A pregnancy test at Planned Parenthood (PP) was positive. Second PP appointment was scheduled for 12/18/2018. After the 12/4/2018 appt, she was scheduled for the video watching appointment on 12/10/2018 and medication administration was supposed to be on 12/20/2018. She gave conflicting dates for the date she was meant to go in for the meds; sometimes she said 12/18/2018 and sometimes 12/20/2018. When I ask for specifics, she gets defensive and walks away.

12/6/2018: She syncopized/syncopated at work. She was rushed to the hospital. The urine test was negative, saw the original document due to her carelessness. She told me it was positive.

12/7/2018: Still at the hospital, HCG 193. Discharge summary by ED doc states "chemical pregnancy."

12/7/2018 - date: Threatens to put me on child support anytime we argue. States I cannot kick her out of my house because she is pregnant. She demanded I buy her a car in order to get rid of the baby. I told her I am not that rich. She demanded $2000, I negotiated to $1000 ($450 for the abortion at PP, $60 for food on the day of the abortion, and an extra $500 for her). She also demanded my iPad ($500), Samsung smartwatch ($350), and LV driver shoes ($850). I complied. I gave her $500 for the abortion with a promise to pay her the rest in installments.

12/10/2018: She refused to allow me to drop her off at Planned Parenthood. She collected $60 from me. After she returned, I asked her for the length of the video she was supposed to have watched, she said 25 mins. PP told me over the phone that the video was 15 mins long. She told me she went.

12/15/2018: Noticed I was changing toiletries at a very rapid rate; 1 toilet roll per day. Only two of us in the house. I asked her what was going on, she confessed she had been bleeding X 1 day, plus cramping. Bleeding more than the normal period, per tenant

12/18/2018: Went to the ED, told them she had been bleeding X 2 weeks. HCG 548
Transvaginal ultrasound: 1. There is a tiny cyst in the endometrial canal. This could represent a small pocket of fluid or an earlygestational sac, with a small pocket of fluid more likely. If this is a gestational sac it would have a gestational age of 4 weeks 5 days. Serial beta hCG and a follow-up ultrasound in 2 weeks is recommended to confirm viability.2. A small amount of free fluid in the cul-de-sac. No adnexal masses are seen.

12/19/2018: She asked for the first $100 of the remaining $500, I gave it to her, reluctantly.

12/20/2018: She refused to go to Planned Parenthood. Her excuse, she is still bleeding and she would like to take control of that first before doing the abortion. I requested for a refund of the money I had given her since she is not respecting her end of the agreement. She told me she would not return the money and there is no evidence I gave her the money. No one would believe me.

My Dilemma

Based on the 12/18/2018 transvaginal ultrasound, online calculators estimated a conception date of 11/15/2018. LMP per patient 11/1/2018. Since we only had sex on 11/18/2018, am I excluded from being the father of the child?

Based on the HCG level of 193 on 12/7/2018, assuming a doubling time of 48 hours, shouldn't the hcg on 12/18/2018 be 6000+? The actual level was 548 of 12/18/2018. Does the 548 reflect a post-miscarriage HCG level given that she had been bleeding for 2 weeks?

ThanksA frustrated and stupid landlord who made a huge mistake. I apologize for my screw-up. Feel free to pass judgment. Just here looking for answers/clarity.


12/24/2018 (AM): I started the eviction process

12/24/2018 (PM): Tenant told me she was going to the hospital for blood work. A few hours later, she called me to pick her up from the mall, I said NO. When she got home (via Uber/taxi she paid for), she said: " You are mean and heartless. You are wicked. I will show you what wickedness is." I kept my cool and continued with my work.

12/25/2018: I came back from work, had dinner and settled to watch some heavyweight boxing. Tenant, who has been home all day came down, after getting out of the shower; she said she was hungry and that I should buy her food. She said she is pregnant with my baby and that it is my responsibility to make sure she and the baby are well fed. I told her child support does not start until the child is born.



Later on, she asked me to take her to a Chinese restaurant about 15 mins away, I told her NO.

She asked me to order Uber for her promising to repay me, I said No.

She snatched my key and asked if she could use my car to pick-up her take-out, I said NO.

She then went into my fridge and started eating my fruits. I kept my cool, fell asleep on the couch, and begged her to leave me alone. While sleeping/napping, she came down yelling and threatening to restart the sexual assault case if I do not order Uber/allow her to use my car. I ignored her. After about 35-40 mins of threatening to call the cops, she finally did. The cops came banged on my door, asked me to step outside for a chat, I told them I was not dressed for the weather. I stayed in my house and complied with their instructions (ID, my side of the story, etc). She told them I discarded the food she kept in my fridge. I told the cops the food I discarded were rotten and smelling bad. And that the food was weeks old and she was fully informed before I dumped them in the trash. In the end, the cops escorted her out to her father's house ( the same house she did not want to return to).

On her way out of my house, I asked the cops if they can help pack her stuff out, the cops said no. The cops said there is no room in their car. I asked her for my house key in front of the cops, she refused to return the key. The cops said they cannot force her to give me the key and that we will have to sort it out in court.

Shortly after, neighbors came out to show support. Neighbors told cops I am the nicest person ever.

Around 08:48 PM she texted me:: "We will have to go to court thank you." No response from me!!!!!

I have been shouting myself hoarse, maybe, you will understand me now. Most young men of nowadays are totally worthless and completely useless!
They just live for pussy! Masturbate to reduce your libido? No! Buy a sex doll or masturbator to save yourself unnecessary headache? No!

Look at how stupid this one is. A few minutes of pleasure and you are stressed and wasting thousands of Dollars! Look at how your stupidity changed your life!

God help you.

MissRaine69:

Come on brother like seriously? There are mistakes and then there is this!
So it has not occurred to you to just change the locks?
This is beyond stupid.
No sympathy for you here, how idiotic can a man get all because of vagina?
You walked into this one with your eyes open. How do you know she did not have a termination or was pregnant already and was looking ( for an idiot to pin it on her) and found one

IF and I mean IF there is a baby DNA via court order and then just pray you ain’t the daddy!

Even if he's not the Dad, he's got responsibility to pay child support still. Depends on his jurisdiction though.

See how baba crammed all the dates,hours,minutes,seconds every detail of the incident occurred. You write well,sir.


Your only problem is bringing this issue to Nairaland. You should have known that people here are mostly mentally unstabled fellows who have no meaningful advice to proffer.

OP simplify things for yourself....

There are 3 issues here

1. Pregnancy

2. Rent

3. Rape case/Sexual Assualt...

1. Pregnancy...

There are two options here...

a. Wait for the 9 months period...

If she births it and you test and its yours then voila, congratulations......

b. Pay her to remove it...

Not this mumu payments you have been doing...

Pay her very handsomely. Infact promise to pay her a used car if possible and drive her to PP. But make sure its removed...

2. Rent

This is the least of your problems mate...
This one is gone for the agreed period ...

Once the rent expires, do not renew..

Let her go...

Count your losses and move on...

3. If you solve the problem of pregnancy, the case of assault will go away..

Because right now, she has the upper hand ...

Its better you pay your way and move on

BLUEJAYY:
Even if he's not the Dad, he's got responsibility to pay child support still. Depends on his jurisdiction though.

Not true some states WILL allow the mother to start the process but the father HAS to acknowledge paternity. If he does support will have to commence ( or not) paternity has been established so after the baby has been born.

IFEOLUWAKRIZ:
See how baba crammed all the dates,hours,minutes,seconds every detail of the incident occurred. You write well,sir.


Your only problem is bringing this issue to Nairaland. You should have known that people here are mostly mentally unstabled fellows who have no meaningful advice to proffer.

Speak for yourself

Donjazzy12:

I have been shouting myself hoarse, maybe, you will understand me now. Most young men of nowadays are totally worthless and completely useless!
They just live for pussy! Masturbate to reduce your libido? No! Buy a sex doll or masturbator to save yourself unnecessary headache? No!

Look at how stupid this one is. A few minutes of pleasure and you are stressed and wasting thousands of Dollars! Look at how your stupidity changed your life!

God help you.

God is busy right now ...please try again later

anochuko01:
so...when is the wedding and naming ceremony? i'll suggest you do both together to save cost

I don’t think he even knows her second name...

MissRaine69:

I don’t think he even knows her second name...

that makes the party more interesting. two naming ceremonies and one wedding!

anochuko01:
that makes the party more interesting. two naming ceremonies and one wedding!

The child will be called Regret.

anochuko01:
that makes the party more interesting. two naming ceremonies and one wedding!

MissRaine69:

Speak for yourself

I didn't say all. Why are you feeling like you belong to the category of aforementioned people?

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