This is not applicable to average Nigerian youths....



he financial economy of this country is not smiling at all

This is DUMB writeup.

MelaninGold:

You are right...the men complaining here are well over 30 but have little or nothing to show for it and are not willing to settle down. That's why they are pained. The truth hurts.

so is it their fault They are trying their possible best. But wen u look at what wedding entails these days no blame them

MelaninGold:
Op is making some points here. But you need to be financially, emotionally and psychologically prepared before going into marriage.

A young man of 25 is old enough to get married but the economy of our country is very disabling. You will agree with me that some 25 year olds are still searching for admission due to the almighty JAMB or even finance. For those who are in school already,may be in 200l or 300l. Now, after graduation,NYSC.. looking for a job. This could take 2,3,4,5 years. When they finally get a job,they have to save enough before thinking of marriage.

Let's be sincere here..most men of 25-30 are not even serious-minded people.
Take Nairaland for example, I have observed that most young men and women are more interested in sex, violence, tribalistic threads than those that promote unity, innovation, education entrepreneural skills. Imagine if this peolpe choose to get married now.

Just to give an example of the disadvantage of late marriage. I know a family where the parents got married late. Mom was around 33,dad was about 36.They got married and had to start having kids. They have 5 children now, Their eldest child is 26, about to graduate. The other children are undergraduates. Parents are no longer working. Everyone now depends on the first born - soon to be medical doctor.

In a nutshell... early marriage is good y'all.

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Good observation abt Some people here

MelaninGold:

You are right...the men complaining here are well over 30 but have little or nothing to show for it and are not willing to settle down. That's why they are pained. The truth hurts.

No b ur fault nah.....shey b nah marry Dem go marry you......+you sef get married first to that man that u want.

MelaninGold:


Just to give an example of the disadvantage of late marriage. I know a family where the parents got married late. Mom was around 33,dad was about 36.They got married and had to start having kids. They have 5 children now, Their eldest child is 26, about to graduate. The other children are undergraduates. Parents are no longer working. Everyone now depends on the first born - soon to be medical doctor.

In a nutshell... early marriage is good y'all.

Lmao, you actually think getting married at 36 for a Man is late? 40+ is what is considered late for a Man, not 30+

IkpuMmadu:


https://etimes.com.ng/the-consequences-of-late-marriage-and-the-very-reasons-why-you-should-marry-early-if-you-can/

By Anayo M. Nwosu

If I had the means nothing will stop me from getting married tomorrow, d problem is the bills, You need a steady source of income, business or otherwise.
Nobody is urging me to marry, but seriously I feel how much time am loosing almost every time talk about marriage or age comes into play

So the very essence of marriage is having children? Marry when d time is right for u.

Everybody wants to marry at 30. I even planned to marry at age 24 but the economic realties in this country will make you irresponsible if you try it.

I know of some who tried it and defied all odds which include the financial burden and challenges in the country which will outweigh them and tag them irresponsible. It was a risk they are aware of and went ahead in taking such risks. Though they are still surviving, and struggling they have become hardlined debtors, a nuisance and liability to neighbours and so much irresponsible. Yet they hold on that it was maturity that made them take their stand.
I don't want to take that risk and I won't advice anyone on such.

yen yen yen... Obsession with marriage is why we are still where we are in this part of the world.
You will hardly see articles about how young people can attain financial freedom or at least survive in the face of daunting and grim economic realities.
No! It's articles goading them into marriage and reproduction to swell the already bloated and unkempt population.
Sometimes I truly wonder if this part of the world isn't cursed afterall

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
So the very essence of marriage is having children? Marry when d time is right for u.

Please ma, kindly tell us what the essence of marriage is.

This your write up is rubbish.
People graduate without jobs.
How do you expect them to marry.
Some people will look for jobs for 10 to 15 years.
No job in the country.

Provide jobs and this your write up will be the best.

Don't blame anybody that is single.

Some people don't even have hope of 3 square meal.

Getting married early is good but ability to sustain the marriage is more important. Better to marry late than marry wrong. it is also important that one is established to a certain extent before any talk of marriage. Dem no dey catch late comer for marriage.

Emilokoiyawon:
Rubbish. Its better to marry at 50 and last till death than to marry at 20 and divorce at 21.

don't mind d guy.....na him family problem.

Scientifically the OP is very correct

MelaninGold:
Op is making some points here. But you need to be financially, emotionally and psychologically prepared before going into marriage.

A young man of 25 is old enough to get married but the economy of our country is very disabling. You will agree with me that some 25 year olds are still searching for admission due to the almighty JAMB or even finance. For those who are in school already,may be in 200l or 300l. Now, after graduation,NYSC.. looking for a job. This could take 2,3,4,5 years. When they finally get a job,they have to save enough before thinking of marriage.

Let's be sincere here..most men of 25-30 are not even serious-minded people.
Take Nairaland for example, I have observed that most young men and women are more interested in sex, violence, tribalistic threads than those that promote unity, innovation, education entrepreneural skills. Imagine if this peolpe choose to get married now.

Just to give an example of the disadvantage of late marriage. I know a family where the parents got married late. Mom was around 33,dad was about 36.They got married and had to start having kids. They have 5 children now, Their eldest child is 26, about to graduate. The other children are undergraduates. Parents are no longer working. Everyone now depends on the first born - soon to be medical doctor.

In a nutshell... early marriage is good y'all.

so the father has no investiments.so they are now depending on the first son.na wa. anyway if u marry too early as a man and you have ambition of moving forward in ur life u can never move forward in ur life cos the wife and the kids will forever become a saddle in ur life.best time to marry as a man is wen ur finances can include other feeding mouth and ur job is very secured. u cant be thinking of marriage as a youngman wen the only way u earn money is playing betnaija or u teaching in private lessons.

mascot345:
This your write up is rubbish.
People graduate without jobs.
How do you expect them to marry.
Some people will look for jobs for 10 to 15 years.
No job in the country.

Provide jobs and this your write up will be the best.

Don't blame anybody that is single.

Some people don't even have hope of 3 square meal.

lol and senseless.....he lacks d moral justification to tell anybody wen to marry.

Rubbish and nonsense, created to cause anxiety in people. Let God guide your decisions. He can't take you where he won't be able to sustain you. If he chooses to make you marry by 50, stick with that, he is capable of settling the rest...

Nice piece. Alhamdulillah. Got married at age 28. Wish everyone the very best.

Every mature man is willing to marry when necessary, but the situation of the country is so frustrating for a good number of teeming young people. Therefore, plan yourself according to ur ability and don't create unnecessary wahala for yourself.

IkpuMmadu:


https://etimes.com.ng/the-consequences-of-late-marriage-and-the-very-reasons-why-you-should-marry-early-if-you-can/

By Anayo M. Nwosu

If the economy was easier what's to stop u from marrying after graduation. I graduated at 24 finished nysc at 26. Spent 3yrs jobless. Using my skills to earn then. The girl I was dating told me I was going nowhere in life and im taking her along. Last year I scored job that pays 6 digits, took one of dad's cars to step up my profile now looking for the eligible but many are taken . Still searching, so sometimes it's situation. It's not like I chose to be at 30s and unmarried. If I see my type and shes of the right frequency it won't take long.

I can't bcux of early marriage collect loan nah.. Lai lai when the ryt time comes, wil get married, i knw my God aint sleeping

See what buhari is causing here na..

Well, marriage is not ticket to heaven oo

This days, is not when men cry when wife is not giving birth to make child..

Now even female child can make u happy

Marry anytime God has prepared for u to..

Even if u marry late, try to make it better and Godly..

Sarah in Bible gave birth at what age?
And still lived a Godly life..

lefulefu:
so the father has no investiments.so they are now depending on the first son.na wa. anyway if u marry too early as a man and you have ambition of moving forward in ur life u can never move forward in ur life cos the wife and the kids will forever become a saddle in ur life.best time to marry as a man is wen ur finances can include other feeding mouth and ur job is very secured. u cant be thinking of marriage as a youngman wen the only way u earn money is playing betnaija or u teaching in private lessons.

Asin ehn, my bro. The thing tire me, foolish parents putting so much pressure on First borns.

That's how one Idiotic girl starting with "Saf**" in her name was arguing yesterday that Women in marriage is what make Men successful. Me that I know once you marry your life slows down by 85%. All the risk & opportunities you could take before is no longer available, you have to think of your Wife & children first.

Any man who doesn't get his finances right before marriage is forever doomed. He will die in Poverty I swear!

Seun when will you marry? Nairaland babes are tired of waiting for you to make your final selection

I think it's more reasonable to hustle well while you're young than rushing to get married. If you hustle well at a young age you may have just created a lasting foundation for financial success. I mean a foundation that could last a life time. When one thinks negative you have to think positive as well and always go with the positive. So I think it's better one gets married when you are really ready. Let's not forget. You can get married early and still fail to live up to your responsibilities

All in I see in this article is a lot of 'in the box' thinking. Living life according to some archaic standard will only live you frustrated. The Op come across as the kind of parent that will advise his kids to "Go to school, get good grades, get a good job, marry early and retire at so or so year and let your children provide for you in your old age". No pun intended, you sound educated but with "rigid & programmed" thinking.

We live in a world with choices. Someone can decide not to get married or adopt a child/children or marry to same sex(where it is legal), work from home and other stuffs that are not according to your archaic programmed thinking.

You throw a lot of statistics to back up your points...like 1/400 baby dies at childbirth and so on. Again living your life on statistics will cripple you with fear, frustrations and the rest.

We are all different with different ideas and struggles
Making choices and planning your live or family is not always "one size fits all" or following the crowd.

I am not the one that rubbish other people's opinions but this is an offpoint.
BTW, I am married.

babyfaceafrica:
too .many generalizations..... people should marry when they are ready... simple!,

don't mind the yeye op

Okay now I wan marry,who go marry me o...