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Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by EncourageMe: 8:32am On Apr 15, 2019 |
ednut1:This is exactly where the guys are missing it. Who told you that you and your wife cannot hustle and make money together?, who told you that you must do a wedding that cost 2m naira like you said? who told you you must set your house before you marry. May God give you guys understanding about life. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by loomer: 8:34am On Apr 15, 2019 |
agarawu23: Oga, you no fit use 100k marry, abi you no go do traditional? Now adays. Parents dey see their daughter as investment. Especially those wey go sch |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Nobody: 8:38am On Apr 15, 2019 |
MelaninGold:Not 30 yet, but getting there in a bit |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by maasoap(m): 8:39am On Apr 15, 2019 |
ejibaba: Who doesn't pray? But leaving everything to prayer is like gambling. You don't wait to have everything before making that big decision because the truth is that only few can have everything. 2 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by maasoap(m): 8:53am On Apr 15, 2019 |
ejibaba: Stop being aggressive here. You ladies? Has M in front of my username changed to F? Back to the discuss: he doesn't need to steal or kill himself but he still needs to think outside the box because if he doesn't, he's trapped, he's stucked for life. I'm in Nigeria, the fact he has 55k fixed income means that he has a head start. He has wide range of options my friend. He could go into part time selling or transport. He can acquire skills on part-time basis. He should save from his existing income. If he can't, he should call it a quit. And of course, there is late marriage. The words "late marriage" didn't exist for nothing. 1 Like |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Jyde89: 8:54am On Apr 15, 2019 |
MelaninGold: Yea it's good bro, but the economy does not shear the same sentiment; and trust me many of the guys you call "not serious minded" are so because of the forum in which they found their selves. Trust me they are more responsible offline, if the economy is nicer everybody go marry early my brother. 1 Like |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by ednut1(m): 8:55am On Apr 15, 2019 |
EncourageMe:even if u want low key. The lady ur family and hers may not agree 1 Like |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by MelaninGold(f): 9:04am On Apr 15, 2019 |
[quote author=truthsayer009 post=77552894] Not 30 yet, but getting there in a bit[/quote You better start working on it. |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by ayanbaba2(m): 9:06am On Apr 15, 2019 |
ednut1: who told you they won't agree, who? me, I cannot come and kee myself, laiali! I can't borrow a kobo from anyone to fund a-day party, kolework! 2 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Nobody: 9:06am On Apr 15, 2019 |
MelaninGold: Well good to know, problem is even when you are willing to settle for less. A bare minimum must still be earned. Look since I started living on my own & paying my own bills, I have been grateful to my parents & feel the need to apologize to every thing I have complained in life about. How far can a 50k - 100k salary get you in a city like Lagos? Not really far. The minimum wage is 19,800 don't forget, everything I'm saying now will be a joke to you until you finish school & your eyes will be wide open. 1 Like |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Nobody: 9:07am On Apr 15, 2019 |
[quote author=MelaninGold post=77553554][/quote] Don't worry, I'll wait till you finish school, then come & marry you. |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by erifeoluwasimi(f): 9:08am On Apr 15, 2019 |
IkpuMmadu:this is so true.from childhood omotola has been my mentor on marriage and career. I got Married at 20 immediately after b.sc, my husband was 26. We have 2 kids now after 8years of marriage. I'm back To my m.sc. I don't regret it . many of my friends who got married later due to hustle and career are finding it difficult to cope. They have become to independent to live or allow a man control them. Also the kind of men they find are the ones that have all n they are just looking for someone to sit at home and bear kids. It s not going down well with ma friends. Marrying early also has its stress but sincerely you will enjoy it if you plan it well 3 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Macgabe(m): 9:16am On Apr 15, 2019 |
MelaninGold: Early marriage is and will always remain the best. There's no doubt about this fact and I so much love your submissions. God bless your reasoning dear. There are lots of factors that contribute to late marriage if properly dissected. First is the area of finance. We all agree that the guy MUST be financially stable and have regular means of income before embarking on the journey. This does not mean that he must be earning millions before thinking of marriage. The amount he earns must be such that he can at least cater for two more persons I.e the wife and a child. Secondly, he must be emotionally stable and have a great sense of humor, perseverance, tolerating and accommodating. These are ingredients that will help keep the marriage going. Now, when you consider all these factors and lots more, how many young guys of nowadays have all these qualities and mind you, my second point has really contributed to success of marriage and lack of it also contributes to majority of divorce issues in Nigeria. But, to those that have the capacity to settle down at early age, please kindly do so. For those still trying to find their feet, please don't take this post as depressant but rather, a wake up call. May God answer our prayers. 2 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by agarawu23(m): 9:21am On Apr 15, 2019 |
loomer:people marry with lesser amount. What's traditional marriage? No be to go villa go know your wife people? Na as u present yourself the family go take you. It all depends on the lady you are dating. Don't tell me all these married poor men married with over 100k 2 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by MelaninGold(f): 9:22am On Apr 15, 2019 |
Macgabe: Thank you sir for your kind contributions. You have done well. 2 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by tommysin16(f): 9:23am On Apr 15, 2019 |
IkpuMmadu:Mr poster calm down. Let people marry wen they re ready ND not because of an article. Many people marry young and end up running out because they were forced by society. My mummy married at 34 and yet was able to sponsor me. She was 55 when I graduated University at 20 nd my dad 58. So let nature take it's due course and I have a 1 year old sister. Because it did not work out for you, doesn't mean it can't work for another person. |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Lokoyen(m): 9:26am On Apr 15, 2019 |
ednut1: Cut ur coat according to ur material and u will see marriage isnt dat a bigdeal. 2 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Ugosample(m): 9:50am On Apr 15, 2019 |
chemgee: no mind black man o |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by EncourageMe: 9:51am On Apr 15, 2019 |
ednut1:waka leave them, look for another lady that will agree. If Bishop oyedepo wife was looking for already made man and big wedding, he would have missed Oyedepo now, but is there any man richer than Oyedepo now apart from just few men? 2 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Nobody: 9:51am On Apr 15, 2019 |
Well written. But the slow minded family members are not yet through with marry this one, don't marry that one stupidity. He is busy looking for a beautiful woman. He is looking for youngie. Stupidity is inbuilt. Follow come. Hating on your own. |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Ugosample(m): 9:52am On Apr 15, 2019 |
SIRTee15: no mind black man o |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by ednut1(m): 10:00am On Apr 15, 2019 |
EncourageMe:u no fit compare that time and now |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Coolgent(m): 10:04am On Apr 15, 2019 |
I totally agreed with the OP, i got married at 29 though i initial plan was to marry at 25. My Dad passed away when i was 21. 1 Like |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Chem20(m): 10:07am On Apr 15, 2019 |
Some of these guys on this platform can they keep a wife at age 25?.Marraige require maturity in the mind to handle issue in it. Without this divioce might set in. It is good to marry early as Op stated but capability of a man is another thing entirely now. I enjion u to do the needful as soon as u are fully mature, capable |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by jare4sure(m): 10:11am On Apr 15, 2019 |
ednut1:that had been my mentality back then i was always of the opinion that how would i get married when i can't successfully cater for my self little did i realize that our sustenanace is not by our power or might, my two other friends at that time whom am better than financial wise got married out of nothing but with firm belief that things will be be better. Now they are happily married with kids i still remain single yet my financial condition has not greatly improved. 1 Like |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Nobody: 10:11am On Apr 15, 2019 |
i wan do marriage now.....but i need money jere. all these marry now, marry now, na money e dey cost!!!!!! and where is the money with the kind job persin dey see do for this lagos. |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Ugosample(m): 10:12am On Apr 15, 2019 |
stanley000: And that is why our women are the most entitled and ungrateful women in Nigeria Because the unfortunate man has slaved his life to build something, and she comes into the picture when it's time for harvest That is one thing we need to expunge from our midst as Igbos 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by ayoevans6: 10:20am On Apr 15, 2019 |
Marriage is for companionship na what are all these ? |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by bgtunnex: 10:43am On Apr 15, 2019 |
Yigiyaga: I wish I married at 25, It would have come with a lot of hardship. I was constantly thinking about it, all permutations worked against me. No job, no income, girlfriend was pushing me to have baby, but I stood my ground that I wasn't going to settle for less. Now, I can afford basic things in life but I regret not starting family earlier. 2 Likes |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Macgabe(m): 11:09am On Apr 15, 2019 |
MelaninGold:Your are most welcome. 1 Like |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by Yoighaman(m): 11:14am On Apr 15, 2019 |
@OP, nice post but I don't agree with all its content. Some got married at age 26 and never had their first child until about 15 years later, while some do at age 36 and the following year, they have a child. Although I get your point on this matter but it's still quite relative and subjective. For the finance part, just work hard & smart and pray for God's financial blessings and then it won't matter if you married late or gave birth late. Try find out how old Tony Elemelu's first child is compared to his age, Jay Z also got married late but they've got the money to take care of their children even after 'retirement age'. My point, make money, don't depend on retirement benefits. Finally, may God order our footsteps and direct our paths, we can only try but the final decision lies with him. 1 Like |
Re: The Consequences Of Late Marriage And Why You Should Marry Early by blackslayer: 11:19am On Apr 15, 2019 |
Emilokoiyawon: good on you! keep using that brain God gave you! its a good thing. |
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