Jubilancy:
So people like us that's still searching hoping and praying should kill ourselves with B.P ?

SIRTee15:
Africans has a long way to go sha....
See what this one is discussing, an educated mind for that matter....
African youths will not talk of eradicating hunger or poverty in the continent....
They won't talk of creating wealth and adding value...
African young doctors won't talk of making STEM cell transplant easily accessible to millions of sickle cell patients on the continent....
It's all about getting married and having kids....
That's all they care about despite the investment in education....
Lord lugard was right after all- the African mind cares all about sex and procreation.....

matify83:
These permutations would only end up depressing your psyche if you ruminate on them too hard.

Make money
Invest wisely
Leave the rest to the ONE that governs the universe.

"First Class no be who collect extra sheets ""

IkpuMmadu:


https://etimes.com.ng/the-consequences-of-late-marriage-and-the-very-reasons-why-you-should-marry-early-if-you-can/

By Anayo M. Nwosu

truthsayer009:


Asin ehn, my bro. The thing tire me, foolish parents putting so much pressure on First borns.

That's how one Idiotic girl starting with "Saf**" in her name was arguing yesterday that Women in marriage is what make Men successful. Me that I know once you marry your life slows down by 85%. All the risk & opportunities you could take before is no longer available, you have to think of your Wife & children first.

Any man who doesn't get his finances right before marriage is forever doomed. He will die in Poverty I swear!

Emilokoiyawon:
Rubbish. Its better to marry at 50 and last till death than to marry at 20 and divorce at 21.

wonder233:
yen yen yen... Obsession with marriage is why we are still where we are in this part of the world.
You will hardly see articles about how young people can attain financial freedom or at least survive in the face of daunting and grim economic realities.
No! It's articles goading them into marriage and reproduction to swell the already bloated and unkempt population.
Sometimes I truly wonder if this part of the world isn't cursed afterall

starstaz:
Great article. Well researched.


I must confess this micro- jumbo resonated well with me. In some areas I so wish its me that do justice to this write up. I appreciate ur concoction as in our general local parlance in 100%.


My take away:

1) U know the subject matter very well as u said u have once experience the disadvantage of late marriage

2) The part that said ::: Men action gun is at best below 40 also tally with my advocacy

3) This advocacy must continue to be championed down down to the next generation. Ur ideas is unisexual as it is.

4) God bless u. cos u made my day. Richer.

ednut1:
Bros life no easy as u paint am. Many guys are over 30 earning peanuts. How den go marry. Average mariage costs 2m plus renting and pimping house 1m don waka.

lefulefu:
its mostly illiterate ignorant parents dat jus depend on first born. these days there are who save and invest for the future.many of them buy lands with the money they earn from their jobs.some build hostels for students to rent and the money they make from these business they save and invest. and dat one about women in marriage is wat makes men succcesful na big lie oooo.there are many young guys cos of the rush into early marriage they have become stagnant in life. the little money they would have saved and used to go back to school to upgrade themselves acedemically or set up a business they will be using it to feed wife and kids.no progress in life and all will just be about feeding wife and kids.i know one guy who got married in his finals in d university.the guy read mining engineering but till date the guy is doing porter job in one small hotel carrying bags for customers while his young wife sells crayfish in d market to survive.if u see d guy now he looks so worn out looking after his wife and his two children.the little money he makes he canr use it on himself and if u see him now he now looks like a pensioner.a young guy oo.omo wen u want to get married as a man make sure ur finiances are strong cos if not ur marriage will be hell.

wonder233:
yen yen yen... Obsession with marriage is why we are still where we are in this part of the world.
You will hardly see articles about how young people can attain financial freedom or at least survive in the face of daunting and grim economic realities.
No! It's articles goading them into marriage and reproduction to swell the already bloated and unkempt population.
Sometimes I truly wonder if this part of the world isn't cursed afterall

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
So the very essence of marriage is having children? Marry when d time is right for u.

truthsayer009:


Please ma, kindly tell us what the essence of marriage is.

tete7000:
Rubbish and nonsense, created to cause anxiety in people. Let God guide your decisions. He can't take you where he won't be able to sustain you. If he chooses to make you marry by 50, stick with that, he is capable of settling the rest...

gonkin:


If the economy was easier what's to stop u from marrying after graduation. I graduated at 24 finished nysc at 26. Spent 3yrs jobless. Using my skills to earn then. The girl I was dating told me I was going nowhere in life and im taking her along. Last year I scored job that pays 6 digits, took one of dad's cars to step up my profile now looking for the eligible but many are taken . Still searching, so sometimes it's situation. It's not like I chose to be at 30s and unmarried. If I see my type and shes of the right frequency it won't take long.

golddeejay:
All in I see in this article is a lot of 'in the box' thinking. Living life according to some archaic standard will only live you frustrated. The Op come across as the kind of parent that will advise his kids to "Go to school, get good grades, get a good job, marry early and retire at so or so year and let your children provide for you in your old age". No pun intended, you sound educated but with "rigid & programmed" thinking.

We live in a world with choices. Someone can decide not to get married or adopt a child/children or marry to same sex(where it is legal), work from home and other stuffs that are not according to your archaic programmed thinking.

You throw a lot of statistics to back up your points...like 1/400 baby dies at childbirth and so on. Again living your life on statistics will cripple you with fear, frustrations and the rest.

We are all different with different ideas and struggles
Making choices and planning your live or family is not always "one size fits all" or following the crowd.

I am not the one that rubbish other people's opinions but this is an offpoint.
BTW, I am married.

Tunagee:


His point is valid and realistic whether u believe it or not. Leave story!!!

chemgee:
I just wish you know how Japan, Norway and most 1st world nations view marriage.. why do Nigerians place so much value on marriage/children instead of making life better?
marry on time... give birth to children.. feed your wife & children.. buy car/build house for your family.. after that you na die.
is that what God created black man to do?
why don't we think about space exploration, curing diseases, scientific breakthrough.. the whole world is entering the 4th industrial revolution, 9ja still dey dance BTW 1st/2nd, but yet marriage, religion is wat fills our discuss..
You can go ahead and marry without any source of livelihood, bring children into this world to suffer/beg(almajiri style).

I must try my best to ensure my children ain't brought up in this country, if I can't afford it I will do my best to ensure they're born aboard, at least to secure dual citizenship..

everything for 9ja jus dey provoke person

SIRTee15:
Africans has a long way to go sha....
See what this one is discussing, an educated mind for that matter....
African youths will not talk of eradicating hunger or poverty in the continent....
They won't talk of creating wealth and adding value...
African young doctors won't talk of making STEM cell transplant easily accessible to millions of sickle cell patients on the continent....
It's all about getting married and having kids....
That's all they care about despite the investment in education....
Lord lugard was right after all- the African mind cares all about sex and procreation.....

Frankiss44:


And who said you can't get married and 50 and divorce at 51?

DanXplore:


LMAO. Your right up was well articulated but silly nevertheless. Your reason for marriage is centred around just having kids. This in my opinion is shallow of you.

missyblissy:


Look for a good woman not a slay gueen and start small. You must not have it all before you get married. Plan with a good woman in one bedroom apartment and see as your life will change for better.

The problem is how to find that one good woman that is willing to do this with you. Na money hungry women full everywhere. Bros i feel you but we scare sha!!! With God you will find her

A good hardworking woman oooo. Not the lazy ines that all they know is spend spend spend

Emilokoiyawon:
Rubbish. Its better to marry at 50 and last till death than to marry at 20 and divorce at 21.