I know some people will judge me for this but i honestly need your advise pls.. i have been dating ma fiends ex for 3yrs without ma friends consent, though he actually gave me the go ahead to have just sex with her then cus he was forming Bleep boy but i told him i wasn’t interested, but i liked her which was the mistake i made.. he is actually the one that broke her hymen.. since the girl was always coming from Anambra to see him in Akwa ibom state, i didn’t like the way he used to treat the poor girl so i started treating her better but with nothing in mind, she developed feelings for me i asked me we date cus i was nice to her.. she pleaded ma friend should not know about it even though he was showing less interest..i objected at first but she pleaded n told me all was gonna be fine, then i was single so i accepted.. she was like “that’s the only way i can pay back for the things you have done for me”.. i have been training her in school since then and she’s in her 200level now, last weekend i was with her, i went through her whatsapp, saw messages from my friend begging her to come back that he wants to marry her, dude was claiming he doesn’t want the girl anymore before I traveled to see her, so when i asked her, she said ma friend has been disturbing her since but she told him she’s with someone else now, but he is not aware i am the someone, he is not aware i have been seeing this girl, bro started confessing his love for her to me ever since i came back n he’s pushing me into pleading the girl to take him back based on ma good relationship with her.. the thing is i don’t know how to put it to him cus this girl and i are actually in love n she’s begging we end up together.. pls what do you advise i do? Don’t wanna lose ma friendship with him, he’s more like a brother now..

stop training women in school except the ones that are your sisters or the ones that need help with no strings attached

This shít is messy.

First be real to yourself.
Is this girl really worth alienating your friendship?
Because your friend will see this as an act of betrayal.

Anyway, you had the audacity to backstab a friend.

Please have the decency to look him in the eye & talk like a man. Tell him everything happened so fast & you didn't plan for it. But keep in mind the conversation will not go well. Make sure you stress out she's is now your girl.

....i
have been training her in school since
then and she’s in her 200level now

SMDH.
Chai. Ur next post....
#HELP MY GIRLFRIEND IS BACK WITH HER EX AFTER SPONSORING HER IN SCHOOL.
Paying a girl's school fee is somethin u shud'nt risk. Bro, use ur money to invest or epp ur family. Hw ar u hapi sef dt she is datin both of u?

As lng as u neva marry her, no be only u get d gal.

Just lyk banana, may sense fall on u.

derrydinny:
stop training women in school except the ones that are your sisters or the ones that need help with no strings attached

them no dey ever hear

derrydinny:
stop training women in school except the ones that are your sisters or the ones that need help with no strings attached

just wanted to help her cus she’s from a very poor home..

"Don’t wanna lose ma friendship with him, he’s more like a brother now"


You're joking right?

He had his chance







He lost it

this is deep.

Do you value your relationship or your friendship? choose one.

Once she has been sufficiently trained she will leave you for your other friend and you will be back here lamenting on how wicked women are.
You negroes never learn!
What’s more important here brotherhood or vagina? You can’t have both.

MissRaine69:
Once she has been sufficiently trained she will leave you for your other friend and you will be back here lamenting on how wicked women are.
You negroes never learn!
What’s more important here brotherhood or vagina? You can’t have both.

Right answer.

RoyalBlu:
"Don’t wanna lose ma friendship with him, he’s more like a brother now"


You're joking right?

IKR

RoyalBlu:
"Don’t wanna lose ma friendship with him, he’s more like a brother now"


You're joking right?

not joking at all.. he’s ma childhood friend

MissRaine69:
Once she has been sufficiently trained she will leave you for your other friend and you will be back here lamenting on how wicked women are.
You negroes never learn!
What’s more important here brotherhood or vagina? You can’t have both.

the thingvis i’m ready to let her go but she’s not prolly she feels i will not fund her education anymore.. I value ma friendship but how do i tell him this? I honestly didn’t see it coming..

Heartbreak looming. In d end you will lose one. May be ur friendship or relationship.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Heartbreak looming. In d end you will lose one. May be ur friendship or relationship.

i’ll ready to end the relationship but how do i tell ma friend is the problem..

Wilson125:
not joking at all.. he’s ma childhood friend

If you'd valued your friendship this much, you shouldn't have yielded to her advances in the first place.

Woman matter between two friends is always messy. I'm sure you know this tho.

Wilson125:
i’ll ready to end the relationship but how do i tell ma friend is the problem..

Coward much? D way u guys play with people's emotions though. Man up and face ur friend and tell him.

What is wrong with these young men paying school fees for ladies they are not married to

This is a serious matter. You never should have gotten involved with her. Although i understand that it's karma paying him a visit but it shouldnt have been through you. That said, if you really wanted a drama free relationship with her you should have told your friend from the very beginning; i mean when he told you to have her.. Even through out those times he was hating on her. If you had done that, shame wont let your friend beg her to reconcile he'd only be wishing in his heart secretly. But now he believes she is still single.. Sighs.. I use to think its only girls that have wahala...


Well, i think you should man up and explain everything to your friend ( I hope he is not a psycho). However, be prepared to lose your friendship with him (you cant eat your cake and have it) even if he eventually says its cool, still give him some space. As for your gf, let her block him from all social media... Block every form of communication with him... To make the regret easier on him.

Everyone might call you a betrayer but you should know that God works in mysterious ways. If you are meant to be, it doesnt matter the circumstances, it will happen. Who knows? Maybe destiny turned his heart black against her just so you will be together.

Kweensavvy:
This is a serious matter. You never should have gotten involved with her. Although i understand that it's karma paying him a visit but it shouldnt have been through you. That said, if you really wanted a drama free relationship with her you should have told your friend from the very beginning; i mean when he told you to have her.. Even through out those times he was hating on her. If you had done that, shame wont let your friend beg her to reconcile he'd only be wishing in his heart secretly. But now he believes she is still single.. Sighs.. I use to think its only girls that have wahala...


Well, i think you should man up and explain everything to your friend ( I hope he is not a psycho). However, be prepared to lose your friendship with him (you cant eat your cake and have it) even if he eventually says its cool, still give him some space. As for your gf, let her block him from all social media... Block every form of communication with him... To make the regret easier on him.

Everyone might call you a betrayer but you should know that God works in mysterious ways. If you are meant to be, it doesnt matter the circumstances, it will happen. Who knows? Maybe destiny turned his heart black against her just so you will be together.

And its very important to explain how it happened to him because if you move on without this, any sane person might think you snatched her while you were pretending to reconcile them so act wisely.

Wilson125:
the thingvis i’m ready to let her go but she’s not prolly she feels i will not fund her education anymore.. I value ma friendship but how do i tell him this? I honestly didn’t see it coming..

1. Men need to learn from the past mistakes of others
2. She is NOT your cross to bear, she owes you no loyalties she is with you as you are providing a service. You are funding her education. Has it ever occurred to you that is the reason why she opted for you because you were the more gullible of the two friends?
3. Your friend is not going to forgive you. Three years is a long time to carry a lie.
4. Why won’t she tell the guy she is seeing you? She is also responsible for the deceit.

Boss13:
What is wrong with these young men paying school fees for ladies they are not married to

Vagina.

Kweensavvy:
This is a serious matter. You never should have gotten involved with her. Although i understand that it's karma paying him a visit but it shouldnt have been through you. That said, if you really wanted a drama free relationship with her you should have told your friend from the very beginning; i mean when he told you to have her.. Even through out those times he was hating on her. If you had done that, shame wont let your friend beg her to reconcile he'd only be wishing in his heart secretly. But now he believes she is still single.. Sighs.. I use to think its only girls that have wahala...


Well, i think you should man up and explain everything to your friend ( I hope he is not a psycho). However, be prepared to lose your friendship with him (you cant eat your cake and have it) even if he eventually says its cool, still give him some space. As for your gf, let her block him from all social media... Block every form of communication with him... To make the regret easier on him.

Everyone might call you a betrayer but you should know that God works in mysterious ways. If you are meant to be, it doesnt matter the circumstances, it will happen. Who knows? Maybe destiny turned his heart black against her just so you will be together.

thanks.. i’ll try letting him know

[quote author=NwanyiAwkaetiti post=77734794]Heartbreak looming. In d end you will lose one. May be ur friendship or relationship.[/quopte]



NO. HE LL LOSE BOTH

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Heartbreak looming. In d end you will lose one. May be ur friendship or relationship.

NO. HE LL LOSE BOTH

MissRaine69:

Vagina.

Absolutely ridiculous! My Goodness. I just can’t advise such a young man

Wilson125:
i’ll ready to end the relationship but how do i tell ma friend is the problem..

My dear I m so sorry, but it ll take a miracle for you to retain either and both the friendship or relationship.

As per the friendship, it ll take 'extreme' maturity from your friend for that friendship to be retained

MissRaine69:

Vagina.

Lolzzz..Crazy you