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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Newmans: 1:24pm On Apr 22, 2019
L's give your woman what she want stop given excuse.
Your a married man.
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by SexynSerious(f): 1:28pm On Apr 22, 2019
Of course now! From what i heard most men don't actually have low s** drive, but most men don't like doing it with their wifey. I know of many men who were slobs with their wifey but they are like a horse when they go outside with a side c. Men just don't like eating the same soup everyday, that's what they say tongue

ourema:

I want to know from you if it is possible for a man with poor sex thrive to go ahead to have a side cheek according to your statements. I need a response dear

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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by prizequest: 1:28pm On Apr 22, 2019
kenodrill:
Guy....you be capital MUMU!!!

You just insulted me except you give me a valid reason to believe you, you just constitute self to social nuisance.
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by crunchyg: 1:29pm On Apr 22, 2019
prizequest:
I got married to my wife few months back but she stays in another state due to her work and there had been measures for she to join me until now. One thing she had repeatedly complain about is my low sex drive as she has boosted of how other men in her life before are stallion but she doesnt want me to be one but be able to meet her libido demands. This comparison created psychological issues for me hence the lack of drive and she really want to make a baby due to her age. Not having more sex has made her fight me, attack me, despice and disrespectful but i have pleaded she give me more time to sort things out but she's more persistent hence we'd been separated for 4 months now, 3 more month to our anniversary.

Another angle is a week after our traditional wedding, i and wife decided to go to the marriage registry to get a certificate but her dad got to know through her, put a call to me and cursed that my children will disrespect me for not informing him. My Wife is a divorcee from another marriage
Some body that got married and divorced her former husband without giving birth, I will presume the marriage didn't stay long before it collapsed and she remarried again and innjust few months in the new marriage she is already separated with her new husband for 4 months, my brother na your wear the show, so na you get the answers
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Burgerlomo: 1:30pm On Apr 22, 2019
fuckerstard:
If you can't satisfy her from day one, don't bother trying..

Bitter truth cool

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by mr1759: 1:30pm On Apr 22, 2019
gloria34:
You get sister abi? If no sister, what of cousin? Niece that is off age nko? If i carry you beat
baby please it has not come to that, you considering beating me up, all I was doing was finding lasting solution

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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Nobody: 1:31pm On Apr 22, 2019
Didi2d:
Wetin I wan advice this guy set?

Before I got married, I saw and I knew all her bad attitude, but I still went ahead to marry her, today am facing the challenges all by myself.

Note* friends even warned me then, but love cover my eye
Are you serious? Example of "bad attitude", how are you coping?
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by SexynSerious(f): 1:32pm On Apr 22, 2019
meanie tongue

UyaiIncomparabl:
Divorce her ASAP!
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Aboguede(m): 1:32pm On Apr 22, 2019
This is where you got it wrong.

Every woman is hot no matter her age and every man can perform no matter his size

As a woman try to make ur man f



Oyindidi:
They are now the weaker vessels grin
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Nobody: 1:32pm On Apr 22, 2019
Didi2d:
Wetin I wan advice this guy set?

Before I got married, I saw and I knew all her bad attitude, but I still went ahead to marry her, today am facing the challenges all by myself.

Note* friends even warned me then, but love cover my eye
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by SexynSerious(f): 1:33pm On Apr 22, 2019
Is this your low s** drive only with her or with other women as well? it's possible you might not be compatible in that area, if you know what i mean.

prizequest:


My first marriage yes, no child from her previous. medical report indicate i am sound

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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by realtalk19: 1:34pm On Apr 22, 2019
prizequest:
I got married to my wife few months back but she stays in another state due to her work and there had been measures for she to join me until now. One thing she had repeatedly complain about is my low sex drive as she has boosted of how other men in her life before are stallion but she doesnt want me to be one but be able to meet her libido demands. This comparison created psychological issues for me hence the lack of drive and she really want to make a baby due to her age. Not having more sex has made her fight me, attack me, despice and disrespectful but i have pleaded she give me more time to sort things out but she's more persistent hence we'd been separated for 4 months now, 3 more month to our anniversary.

Another angle is a week after our traditional wedding, i and wife decided to go to the marriage registry to get a certificate but her dad got to know through her, put a call to me and cursed that my children will disrespect me for not informing him. My Wife is a divorcee from another marriage

If she sees a more wealthier man she will still bail out. you were just her plan B. she is not relly into you which may be the reason for her fustration and anger coupled with her family manipulating her.

put yourself together and move on if you don't see any improvement.

it's just so painful that it's the bad ones that give the good ones bad names because of experiences like this.

she doesn't know how lucky she is being a divorcee and still remarried to a single guy who relly loves her. I guess because she has options that's y and they take the good ones for granted.

it is well Op.

it is well
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by sacajawea: 1:34pm On Apr 22, 2019
Everything should be In Moderation and the right Proportion
If Sexual Urge and Desire is too much, she should Work Fast Too Correct it. If Not You Have To Let that Go and Go Your Seperate Ways.
And Yes Divorce doesn't necessarily have to be bad
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by jaxxy(m): 1:35pm On Apr 22, 2019
prizequest:


registry done.

her mom i know aint aiding her. if the engagement had materialized she wont be running back to me so i dont see love even though i was her first date 8 years back.

She might actually love u bt her family and wanted smtn else for her. We still don’t know why the engagement to the other guy didn’t fly maybe she add to ruining it and only went tru cos of her parents especially her dad. U need to access situations better to make the right decision.

One thing I know is her parents majorly her dad is an issue.

On her Sex drive issue it’s not really about sex drive bt I wanna have a baby right now drive. Hope she doesn’t hv fertility issues based on her age so check all the necessary details out and decide if u want to go further or not. Character of a person is very important also.
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by HitSong: 1:36pm On Apr 22, 2019
prizequest:
CONTINUED...after she divorced her first husband, we clicked and i collected the marriage list but somehow even when the family gave me the list they introduced her to a more wealthier guy whose business concern affect the family fortune positively but the engagement failed and my wife ran back to me. During the course of her engagement to the other guy my wife kept delaying our ceremony, no longer visit and her family wont tell me any meaningful excuse not until the engagement was put off and she ran back to me and we immediately commenced the marriage process. It Was a week after marriage i discovered everything and despiced her sexually.

We have been separated 4 months now but the mom had been calling and begging we reconcilled even employing a marriage counsellor for us but the dad had been indiferent and my wife though pompous had shown signs of reconciliation but wont apologize for the irrational actions that sent her away.

There can be reconciliation BUT DO I NEED IT
This is low self-esteem

Why would you marry a divorcee in the first place?

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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Deltatoto: 1:36pm On Apr 22, 2019
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Oga Go Screw your Wife so well, she'll abandon her family and work and cling to you. All these complaints won't solve anything. Be a Man! Don't let another man (her dad) dictate shii to you. There can't b two captains on a Boat for God's sake.
u are not d only one that can open Toto o so shut up

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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Nobody: 1:36pm On Apr 22, 2019
mr1759:

baby please it has not come to that, you considering beating me up, all I was doing was finding lasting solution
Where i keep my pistol

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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by whytediamond(m): 1:36pm On Apr 22, 2019
elmagnifico411:
Me I don't know what u still want to hear from us. It shows clearly that theyve been playing u. Her demeanours has affected your psyche, hence your low performance sexually.

If u agree, u guys will fight again, and again.. from your story, I think u love her more than she loves you and she seen that..

Lastly, there's this Yoruba Addage that says, "omo buruku shee'fe, Ana buruku nio shee'ni." Means marrying a bad wife isn't really a problem, having bad in-laws is the main issue. use your tongue count your teeth.

You are a wise yoruba man.
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by ragoannagogia: 1:38pm On Apr 22, 2019
Broz u were suppose to apply de principle of Environmental Impact Assessment b4 her as ur wife.
I had a similar experience wen I was in courtship for 4years some women libido are higher dan dat of a rabbit I had to run away since a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Your destiny is ur hand.

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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by InvisibleB: 1:39pm On Apr 22, 2019
Katier00:
give yourself time and relax. Marriage comes with its up and downs. Have a talk with your wife and try to exclude others from it. If she could be transferred to your state to foster the union. She loves you, that's why she ran back to you. Make her happy and one way to do that, is by making her pregnant (you know age is not on her side, that alone could make her aggressive and stubborn). If she is worth fighting for, pls move for peace.
She does not love him. She ran back because things did not work out with the rich guy. Read the story OP is second choice, Plan B and backup

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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Aboguede(m): 1:39pm On Apr 22, 2019
This is where you got it wrong.

Every woman is hot no matter her age and every man can perform no matter his size

As a woman try to make ur man feel hungry for u

Dont bate with a man and always keep some distance and dont let a man see ur private always.

Hide it so he can look for it


During our father's dayz, a man and his wife dont sleep in the same room

The man will have go seek her when ever he is hungry

It is normal food, when you have too much to eat, you abuse it. Dont abuse sex. Be smart

Oyindidi:
They are now the weaker vessels grin
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by HitSong: 1:40pm On Apr 22, 2019
prizequest:
CONTINUED...after she divorced her first husband, we clicked and i collected the marriage list but somehow even when the family gave me the list they introduced her to a more wealthier guy whose business concern affect the family fortune positively but the engagement failed and my wife ran back to me. During the course of her engagement to the other guy my wife kept delaying our ceremony, no longer visit and her family wont tell me any meaningful excuse not until the engagement was put off and she ran back to me and we immediately commenced the marriage process. It Was a week after marriage i discovered everything and despiced her sexually.

We have been separated 4 months now but the mom had been calling and begging we reconcilled even employing a marriage counsellor for us but the dad had been indiferent and my wife though pompous had shown signs of reconciliation but wont apologize for the irrational actions that sent her away.

There can be reconciliation BUT DO I NEED IT
You don't need any nonsense reconciliation.
You deserve better than a whóre
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by banio: 1:40pm On Apr 22, 2019
prizequest:
CONTINUED...after she divorced her first husband, we clicked and i collected the marriage list but somehow even when the family gave me the list they introduced her to a more wealthier guy whose business concern affect the family fortune positively but the engagement failed and my wife ran back to me. During the course of her engagement to the other guy my wife kept delaying our ceremony, no longer visit and her family wont tell me any meaningful excuse not until the engagement was put off and she ran back to me and we immediately commenced the marriage process. It Was a week after marriage i discovered everything and despiced her sexually.

We have been separated 4 months now but the mom had been calling and begging we reconcilled even employing a marriage counsellor for us but the dad had been indiferent and my wife though pompous had shown signs of reconciliation but wont apologize for the irrational actions that sent her away.

There can be reconciliation BUT DO I NEED IT


Marriage is very complex. There isn't any one medicine that cures it all. Just think deeply and do as your mind pleases.
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by ourema(f): 1:45pm On Apr 22, 2019
SexynSerious:
Of course now! From most men don't actually have low s** drive, but most men don't like doing it with their wifey. I know of many men we are slobs with their wifey but they are horses when they go outside with a side c. Men just don't like eating the same soup everyday, that's what they say tongue

OK baby thank you
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 1:46pm On Apr 22, 2019
prizequest:
CONTINUED...after she divorced her first husband, we clicked and i collected the marriage list but somehow even when the family gave me the list they introduced her to a more wealthier guy whose business concern affect the family fortune positively but the engagement failed and my wife ran back to me. During the course of her engagement to the other guy my wife kept delaying our ceremony, no longer visit and her family wont tell me any meaningful excuse not until the engagement was put off and she ran back to me and we immediately commenced the marriage process. It Was a week after marriage i discovered everything and despiced her sexually.

We have been separated 4 months now but the mom had been calling and begging we reconcilled even employing a marriage counsellor for us but the dad had been indiferent and my wife though pompous had shown signs of reconciliation but wont apologize for the irrational actions that sent her away.

There can be reconciliation BUT DO I NEED IT
You are the architect of your problem
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Taich(m): 1:48pm On Apr 22, 2019
Brotherly, I called you this name because you problem can be solved. The only way to win the war against ur wife is to win the war. How is ur job, are u always under pressure and delivery of timeline? Check ur diet, cut sugar ur intake, increase banana, carrot, nuts, dabino, coconut and Aki Hausa intake. Add small exercise to your diet, press up is essential plus jogging. Try to reduce work related pressure and enjoy ur marriage.

As for ur father in law, find out what he likes, look for his good friend, get those things he loves and go and beg him, tell him it was an over sight.
Marriage to me is about challenges and over coming them win all it battles.

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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Aladdin1(m): 1:48pm On Apr 22, 2019
prizequest:


you're correct. the 3 stallions she met before me why could'nt she save the marriage/relationships?
i think my financial regression made me develop low esteem.

i'll end the marriage.
kudos man for taking a bold step.dont let a woman lead u to early grave.it happened to my late bro.she doesnt love u.she just wants to get married &use u to get kids.kids she would later deny u or ur family of.if u continue in d marriage she would be having s.ex with other men.u can never satisfy her sexually.she would always compare u financially and sexually to her ex and always s3 u as a lesser man and weakling and she can never be submissive to u.u would be like a slave to her.u made a mistake becos u saw negative signs and still went ahead to marry her.quit now b4 its too late and be careful next time.
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by brown116: 1:48pm On Apr 22, 2019
Awoo88:
She no be your size. Do your best and leave the rest for God. You can do a lot of foul play, using you tongue and finger. When she climax, you can insert you dick and do your one minute thing. At least she will still enjoy herself
how do u know when a woman climax.
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by deavicky(m): 1:51pm On Apr 22, 2019
Katier00:
is this your first marriage? Does she have children from her previous marriage? What do you mean by low sex drive? Have you tried some medications? Where you guys sexually active before marriage or did she just found out after marriage? Was this the only reason for the separation?
sex drive is relative u could be very good with ladyA but weak with B maybe because B is stronger that u or u don't connect well with her, u also do not love her like A or u detest her because of something or probably her zero is far bigger than ur I.
Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by digestng: 1:53pm On Apr 22, 2019
prizequest:
I got married to my wife few months back but she stays in another state due to her work and there had been measures for she to join me until now. One thing she had repeatedly complain about is my low sex drive as she has boosted of how other men in her life before are stallion but she doesnt want me to be one but be able to meet her libido demands. This comparison created psychological issues for me hence the lack of drive and she really want to make a baby due to her age. Not having more sex has made her fight me, attack me, despice and disrespectful but i have pleaded she give me more time to sort things out but she's more persistent hence we'd been separated for 4 months now, 3 more month to our anniversary.

Another angle is a week after our traditional wedding, i and wife decided to go to the marriage registry to get a certificate but her dad got to know through her, put a call to me and cursed that my children will disrespect me for not informing him. My Wife is a divorcee from another marriage

Bro if you are a christian you should know its a sin to marry a Divorcee ... anyway goodluck

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