LordKO:





Believe you me, I don't see how the OP is at fault and, as such, I don't see how she will succeed in harming her in whatever evil she may nurse against him. Every relationship must not automatically lead to marriage. And loving someone doesn't automatically mean falling in love with the same person or having a justifiable reason to remain in love with the same person forever. The only thing about love I know is constant, and should be constant for any sane person, is loving others selflessly - of course, selflessness doesn't mean absence of conscientiousness.

It's unfortunate that most people don't like to volitionally assume responsibility of their personal lives, actions and inactions. A person (man/woman) whose intention of entering into a relationship with another is solely marriage (there's nothing wrong with such intention), should communicate same to the other party beforehand and set a limited time frame to stay in the relationship, so that if it doesn't work within the set time frame, s/he takes a walk without demonizing the other person in any form - there's nothing wrong in losing honorably. Those who fail to lose honorably will always lose dishonorably or disgracefully - small-minded people (greedy, self-centered and selfish people in this regard) never like to lose honorably. Entitlement should neither be mistaken for expectation nor equated to good.

So a woman (or man) should be discerning enough to know when she is a girlfriend of convenience or not, although the best thing always is for both parties to periodically tell each other what status they hold in each other's life - expectation.

Unassumingness is gold.

For the first time. Since I know this moniker I disagree with you. While we see from different perspectives and you reserve the right to your comment, I choose to disagree. Anyway, it's human to disagree doesn't make superior over the other. I just don't agree with your position on this issue atall

DukeofNZ wetin you think about wetin we dey read here.

generationz:


my dear, this isn't an issue of not allowing her or allowing her.

Op has bitten more than he can chew.

For a girl to bring out ring, you think its ordinary ring

I pity men who go around feeling like champs for the number of women they can successfully deceive.

It doesn't make you a man nor add to your account. Neither does it make you a better person. If anything it wastes time and money you would have saved or invested for your kids future

Maybe the girl is witch and knows the op is a liar. She only keeps asking "do you love me" to justify how she was going to deal with him.

In the realm of the spirit ( both with God and Satan ) you need legal ground to pass judgment on a person or deal with a person.


Some ladies deliberately go around looking for womanizers like this to cage.


Op happy married life.

It could even be mixed with years of frustration and suffering.

Funny you happy married life.

MiddleSpot:





For the first time. Since I know this moniker I disagree with you. While we see from different perspectives and you reserve the right to your comment, I choose to disagree. Anyway, it's human to disagree doesn't make superior over the other. I just don't agree with your position on this issue atall

We'll always disagree to agree. Are you for or against the OP's actions and inactions? I'll like to know your perspective in detail.

LordKO:



We'll always disagree to agree. Are you for or against the OP's actions and inactions? I'll like to know your perspective in detail.

You are completely wrong o. I feel sad to ask if you have private concerns troubling you. Cause this isn't you. Find your way back to whom you used to be is only what I'll say Sir

MiddleSpot:





For the first time. Since I know this moniker I disagree with you. While we see from different perspectives and you reserve the right to your comment, I choose to disagree. Anyway, it's human to disagree doesn't make superior over the other. I just don't agree with your position on this issue atall

We'll always disagree to agree. Are you for or against the OP's actions and inactions? I'll like to know your perspective in detail.

Chai nwanne you try ooo immediately she bring out ring and ask you to put it just give a good story about your family traditions before you can give anything like that, u go think of better lie wey she self go fair, no allow anybody push u do anything u no want ooo a lot of unwanted children Dey street Dey suffer.

One babe like that in the middle of d thing when I was about to *** she just ask me to wait wait I thought she wanted me to change style or something then she asked me do you love me? I said yes, then will marry me? I said only God has d final say I am just a small ink on a paper, she come say uhmmm... ok promise me you will never leave me? and you will marry me no matter what? (all these while my thing still dey inside) I just tell her make I land first she say no, make I comot am she say no, there I just tell myself guy use ur bring ooo.

I just don’t know why 9ja babes mostly see sex like if a guy have it with them na must he suppose marry them after Dem still go collect money do hair, buy cloth etc

My advice guy just tell her one better lie ooo, most of them don’t want d truth, although some dem are very kind and good but extremely few, if you’re not ready forget about the blood thing ooo no allow one fake man ** come dey use that one they enter u collect money all in the name of braking one covenant.

I guess you need to think twice about this issue of marriage. I personally hate pressure, especially if you are bieng forced to go ahead with it when you are not ready. Marriage is a life-time committment, so you should ensure you don'r make simple misakes

issylarry:

Guy u dey rough handle her,person pickin..lol..she was only been proactive.u tink say u get sense abi. .u wan use n drop her bfre u reach busstop..she knws wat she want and she feels u shud let go if u aint seeing d future with her.but if u do see future with her u will tk d ring


Modified
D girl na mumu,so u gave him ring means he will marry u,at dz stage ladies shud know wen a guy is into u n we he is not



To u Op
So because u feel all girls are crap means u shud f*ck d hell out of her.Even if u no go marry her ,still help her manage her t.o.t.o..

I still wonda y toto is part of tonto dicke's name

In all plz guy change ur mindset dere are still lady of integrity and virtue.dey are just hidden and hard to find.

lols I feel am being misunderstood by u...am not a bad person and she is not stupid either

MissRaine69:

See what vagina does to people’s brains?
You are so fcked
When is the wedding please? I need to start getting my dress made.....

lols very soon but definitely not with her

Never jump into marriage juts because your girlfriend wants you to. After all, you could be reading from different pages. But let me advise you that ladies sometimes lack the patience of men when it comes to such matters, so if you feel convinced that she is the one, make a move before someone takes her from your loose grip

LordKO:





Believe you me, I don't see how the OP is at fault and, as such, I don't see how she will succeed in harming him in whatever evil she may nurse against him. Every relationship must not automatically lead to marriage. And loving someone doesn't automatically mean falling in love with the same person or having a justifiable reason to remain in love with the same person forever. The only thing about love I know is constant, and should be constant for any sane person, is loving others selflessly - of course, selflessness doesn't mean absence of conscientiousness.

It's unfortunate that most people don't like to volitionally assume responsibility of their personal lives, actions and inactions. A person (man/woman) whose intention of entering into a relationship with another is solely marriage (there's nothing wrong with such intention), should communicate same to the other party beforehand and set a limited time frame to stay in the relationship, so that if it doesn't work within the set time frame, s/he takes a walk without demonizing the other person in any form - there's nothing wrong in losing honorably. Those who fail to lose honorably will always lose dishonorably or disgracefully - small-minded people (greedy, self-centered and selfish people in this regard) never like to lose honorably. Entitlement should neither be mistaken for expectation nor equated to good.

So a woman (or man) should be discerning enough to know when she is a girlfriend of convenience or not, although the best thing always is for both parties to periodically tell each other what status they hold in each other's life - expectation.

Unassumingness is gold.

tank u bro

Samshumy:

Why the matter dey pain you like this? Na you be the girl?

hahahahaha bros e tire me...

rowland545:
hahahahaha bros e tire me...

I Dey surprise as well. But she’s just being emotional because dem one use and dump a woman like her

simpleAg:
Chai nwanne you try ooo immediately she bring out ring and ask you to put it just give a good story about your family traditions before you can give anything like that, u go think of better lie wey she self go fair, no allow anybody push u do anything u no want ooo a lot of unwanted children Dey street Dey suffer.

One babe like that in the middle of d thing when I was about to *** she just ask me to wait wait I thought she wanted me to change style or something then she asked me do you love me? I said yes, then will marry me? I said only God has d final say I am just a small ink on a paper, she come say uhmmm... ok promise me you will never leave me? and you will marry me no matter what? (all these while my thing still dey inside) I just tell her make I land first she say no, make I comot am she say no, there I just tell myself guy use ur bring ooo.

I just don’t know why 9ja babes mostly see sex like if a guy have it with them na must he suppose marry them after Dem still go collect money do hair, buy cloth etc

My advice guy just tell her one better lie ooo, most of them don’t want d truth, although some dem are very kind and good but extremely few, if you’re not ready forget about the blood thing ooo no allow one fake man ** come dey use that one they enter u collect money all in the name of braking one covenant.

nice one...thanks

rowland545:
hahahahaha bros e tire me...

Bros lemme tell you confirm truth. Any girl wey you marry, you are doing her a favour. So marry anyone you feel like at any time and make sure you have total control over this particular girl if you wanna marry her including her phone password if there is any

rowland545:
lols I feel am being misunderstood by u...am not a bad person and she is not stupid either

U said u dont love her,u only needed d juice and she needed marriage

the words of Sansa in the game of thrones, she said and I quote "men do stupid things for love" literally what that love mean to me is to "Bleep." a man can withdraw all his money, sell his cars and house and even sell his destiny just to Bleep toto. here comes I have seen one

LordKO:



We'll always disagree to agree. Are you for or against the OP's actions and inactions? I'll like to know your perspective in detail.

Permit me to put it short but aptly, one answer please would you like your sister in the same exact position? No lengthy answers sire..!

MiddleSpot:



Permit me to put it short but aptly, one answer please would you like your sister in the same exact position? No lengthy answers sire..!

Yes, so long as my understanding of what transpired between the OP and his girlfriend, as he (OP) narrated, remain the same.

Samshumy:

Bros lemme tell you confirm truth. Any girl wey you marry, you are doing her a favour. So marry anyone you feel like at any time and make sure you have total control over this particular girl if you wanna marry her including her phone password if there is any

u talk sense for here ooo....but I no get any plans to marry DAT girl ooo

rowland545:
good evening nairalanders I will just go straight to the point I need advice as am really confused right now. ..there is this girl am seeing for a while now, we were always confessing love to each other although I don't really feel anything for her except the sex that am getting... fast forward to today. she came around after being away for a month due to her work...so we did the same process, have sex so after the first round we were discussing and she asked if I truly love her of course I said yes. so second round will b sure...she now brought a ring that I should put it on her finger I was scared at first so she insisted and I did it... she now said if I will marry her...now it became creapy and weird she now we are married ...I did not say anything.. but in d course of the second round I noticed blood on the condom I now asked if she was on her period she said no I asked y was she bleeding she said I was rough on her....so guys am really confused because am suspecting vodoo here.... is it possible for d bleeding to b normal pls I need answers...

Sir, you have no choice as this matter is concerned. You are no longer in the position to make any decision , you have been tied into an agreement stronger than paper works and events. Seek the counsel of an Elder for you are a married Man already.

rowland545:
u talk sense for here ooo....but I no get any plans to marry DAT girl ooo

Then Dey enjoy your life Dey go

MariaLavina:
Sir, you have no choice as this matter is concerned. You are no longer in the position to make any decision , you have been tied into an agreement stronger than paper works and events. Seek the counsel of an Elder for you are a married Man already.

lols not me abeg ...

LordKO:


Yes, so long as my understanding of what transpired between the OP and his girlfriend, as he (OP) narrated, remain the same.

Just a yes or no.


Take it easy with your egalitarianism. I just feel i should warn you that behind your liberal way of thinking is trouble looming. You act like you exist for laws which can be something my brother.


You continue to earn my respect anyday anytime though

rowland545:
good evening nairalanders I will just go straight to the point I need brought a was on her period she said no I asked y was she bleeding she said I was rough on her....so guys am really confused because am suspecting vodoo here.... is it possible for d bleeding to b normal pls I need answers...

Blood is not normal biko unless she is in her period ,
Maybe she has std

truthsayer009:


Blood of Jesus. I bind, I cast out any judgment against me.

Fear Fear



As long as you abide in Christ , are prayerful and don't deliberately do evil to people you are safe .

LordKO:





Believe you me, I don't see how the OP is at fault and, as such, I don't see how she will succeed in harming him in whatever evil she may nurse against him. Every relationship must not automatically lead to marriage. And loving someone doesn't automatically mean falling in love with the same person or having a justifiable reason to remain in love with the same person forever. The only thing about love I know is constant, and should be constant for any sane person, is loving others selflessly - of course, selflessness doesn't mean absence of conscientiousness.

It's unfortunate that most people don't like to volitionally assume responsibility of their personal lives, actions and inactions. A person (man/woman) whose intention of entering into a relationship with another is solely marriage (there's nothing wrong with such intention), should communicate same to the other party beforehand and set a limited time frame to stay in the relationship, so that if it doesn't work within the set time frame, s/he takes a walk without demonizing the other person in any form - there's nothing wrong in losing honorably. Those who fail to lose honorably will always lose dishonorably or disgracefully - small-minded people (greedy, self-centered and selfish people in this regard) never like to lose honorably. Entitlement should neither be mistaken for expectation nor equated to good.

So a woman (or man) should be discerning enough to know when she is a girlfriend of convenience or not, although the best thing always is for both parties to periodically tell each other what status they hold in each other's life - expectation.

Unassumingness is gold.

You are right in what you wrote

But what if the girl had an Agenda.
she might not want to marry op na Just to destroy his life.


The fact still remains a Liar

There are some women who will agree if you plainly tell them " I have a girlfriend ,wife etc I can't marry you"

Op doesn't have to lie with marriage.

When some women enjoy hanging around you or if he is good In the other room he may not spend money sef

You are talking as man .

I'm talking as one who has been in deliverance ministry for many years now and has read widely on the subject.

Op is guilty. He has made promises and they are binding.

Many men get away with these fake promises.

Op should just pray that the babe isn't diabolical.

Witches have no regard for an innocent person let alone someone who has used his hands to buy trouble all for pleasure sake.

generationz:


You are right in what you wrote

But what if the girl had an Agenda.
she might not want to marry op na Just to destroy his life.


The fact still remains a Liar

There are some women who will agree if you plainly tell them " I have a girlfriend ,wife etc I can't marry you"

Op doesn't have to lie with marriage.

When some women enjoy hanging around you or if he is good In the other room he may not spend money sef

You are talking as man .

I'm talking as one who has been in deliverance ministry for many years now and has read widely on the subject.

Op is guilty. He has made promises and they are binding.

Many men get away with these fake promises.

Op should just pray that the babe isn't diabolical.

Witches have no regard for an innocent person let alone someone who has used his hands to buy trouble all for pleasure sake.

Don't mind op.
Most guys think that women reason the way we men reason.
Why will you be sleeping with a woman you are not ready to marry or claiming you are in relationship with her. If you want sex, you buy it not going about deceiving women.

He should just wish this one is not diabolical.
If she is diabolical, there is no Jupiter that will stop the repercussions.

I was talking with a guy yesterday who was lamenting how he ended up with a girl he met in this same scenario. Guy that was doing extremely well, totally reduced to a pauper and worse than nothing.

This is why we have many useless men all over the place. Men who have brought curses on themselves. Like they don't know that we an Africa again were diabolical things abound.

djon78:



Don't mind op.
Most guys think that women reason the way we men reason.
Why will you be sleeping with a woman you are not ready to marry or claiming you are in relationship with her. If you want sex, you buy it not going about deceiving women.

He should just wish this one is not diabolical.
If she is diabolical, there is no Jupiter that will stop the repercussions.

I was talking with a guy yesterday who was lamenting how he ended up with a girl he met in this same scenario. Guy that was doing extremely well, totally reduced to a pauper and worse than nothing.

This is why we have many useless men all over the place. Men who have brought curses on themselves. Like they don't know that we an Africa again were diabolical things abound.

They still won't learn their lessons

Congratulations Op, can't wait for the pre-wedding pics .. It's time to rock that my aba-made shoe

Citing his submission, he didn't make any marriage promise to her, even when she tried to cajole him into doing so in the middle of an action and, remember, they're in a relationship - a convenience relationship from the inception citing the indications available. Her action at such juncture amounted to cajolement which the OP pretentiously dodged - which is bad, diplomacy could have been a better option - through his act of silence. His action, however bad, was justifiable because the lady didn't come into equity with clean hands - what transpired at that juncture was a case of two "too clever by half" (sly) entities in a battle of wits.

Once more, I know that telling someone that you love him/her doesn't automatically mean promising marriage to such a person - and loving someone will always remain different from falling in love with the same person or having reason to remain in love with the same person forever. In fact, someone that made a promise of marriage to another can cancel same at the 11th hour - I'm not saying/justifying that one should trick or intentionally treat another in such manner - if s/he doesn't feel convinced (on principle) to continue with the arrangement. To be late is better than to be late.

My perspective is from my position as a conscientious libertarian, an altruist and a spiritual but not religious person; As such, I can't see things from the religious viewpoint - this doesn't invalidate your opinion in any way. I can never be caught using servility to sustain anything, and by extension, I don't support and expect others to do so. . . It was absolute disingenuousness on her part as she tried to cajole the OP into a cause under duress. Everyone deserves liberty - of course, liberty doesn't negate decorum.

Meanwhile, my submissions on the scenario under discussion don't nullify the obvious fact that the OP is of the manipulative ethical leanings as both pronounced and unpronounced connotation of his submission suggested. I don't hold brief for him.

generationz:


You are right in what you wrote

But what if the girl had an Agenda.
she might not want to marry op na Just to destroy his life.


The fact still remains a Liar

There are some women who will agree if you plainly tell them " I have a girlfriend ,wife etc I can't marry you"

Op doesn't have to lie with marriage.

When some women enjoy hanging around you or if he is good In the other room he may not spend money sef

You are talking as man .

I'm talking as one who has been in deliverance ministry for many years now and has read widely on the subject.

Op is guilty. He has made promises and they are binding.

Many men get away with these fake promises.

Op should just pray that the babe isn't diabolical.

Witches have no regard for an innocent person let alone someone who has used his hands to buy trouble all for pleasure sake.