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laurazea:
This trend, the insult, was all for you.
There are some people who you have to cut out of your life for things to make sense. Once you do this, things will change.

A man who insults you all over the place and talks to you anyhow doe not have respect for you. For any affair to work there must be respect by the man for the woman.

A matured woman is speaking dear

my dear aunty am tired of his trouble , i wish nairaland is an institution i would av called anti cult 4 him

chenzen:
shut up

With pleasure, while you keep messing up.

Clean work you have here.

I disagree with everything u wrote there....a woman should be protect herself and keep her body count as low as possible.

But I, like many other guys, slept with my wife d first day I met her. We weren't even dating then it was her first visit to my house. D grace and no drama with which she handled the event was a pointer to the fact she's a keeper!

When it comes to finding the right one, THERE ARE NO RULES!!

Acidosis:
Marriage is not dating man. Once a man gets that premarital sex, his level of trust, commitment and respect automatically drops by 50%. It drops by 100% if he came solely for sex (hidden motive).

One more thing, don't ever put love and sex together in a sentence when you're discussing a man's psychology. A man will have sex with a woman for many reasons, love isn't one.

Marriage is a completely different ball game. Men don't go into marriage for sex-related reasons.

I know love has nothing to do with sex, so if a man truly loves a lady premarital sex or not his love for her will still be there why should sex create distrust in a man's heart? Why should sex stop a man from been committed? Why should sex make a man disrespect a lady? Am on a point that if sex could make a man do these negative things you mentioned during premarital sex, it will make him do same during marriage, a man will not hurry to marry a lady cause he is sex starved by her no way so the topic the op raised here I see no wisdom in it really

laurazea:
With pleasure, while you keep messing up.

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Deepfeel:
I know love has nothing to do with sex, so if a man truly loves a lady premarital sex or not his love for her will still be there why should sex create distrust in a man's heart? Why should sex stop a man from been committed? Why should sex make a man disrespect a lady? Am on a point that if sex could make a man do these negative things you mentioned during premarital sex, it will make him do same during marriage, a man will not hurry to marry a lady cause he is sex starved by her no way so the topic the op raised here I see no wisdom in it really

If u understand the twist that exists when it comes to Love, sex and marriage in our world today, u will be wiser than you are now. why will someone even think of sex before marriage, the holy book even frowns at it. If a man claims to love a woman let him act than speak, acting means marriage and getting married means commitment.



Read 1 Corinthians 7:9

fykes:
I disagree with everything u wrote there....a woman should be protect herself and keep her body count as low as possible.

But I, like many other guys, slept with my wife d first day I met her. We weren't even dating then it was her first visit to my house. D grace and no drama with which she handled the event was a pointer to the fact she's a keeper!

When it comes to finding the right one, THERE ARE NO RULES!!

that's u

Amatarasha:
my dear aunty am tired of his trouble , i wish nairaland is an institution i would av called anti cult 4 him

mumu

hatbricker:
Oh! What a stupid and bias post, I can't believe a man is encouraging women to use their body as a bargaining chip to manipulate men into marrying them. Well, I don't blame men who are reluctant to marry. In fact, I urge all men not to marry, the only thing women have to offer this days is the deep hole between their legs, remove that and most women have nothing else to offer.

if u re sharp you would have read the post twice for better understanding.

Deepfeel:
The feelings of a man towards a lady may be true and genuine, but the reality of it is that, he doesn't see his lady the same way he did before the sex... her value to him becomes less than it was.



So if this should happen after marriage won't the lady suffer the more? If a man truly loves a lady, he loves her even more after sex, marriage is not a trap there is a way out in marriage so even if a lady keeps her pussy till the man marries her, he can still back out after marriage

if you read the bible your views and philosophy on the topic will be better. u can't claim to be wiser than ur maker... he knows whats best for his people.

chenzen:
if you read the bible your views and philosophy on the topic will be better. u can't claim to be wiser than ur maker... he knows whats best for his people.

And how do you know what is written in the Bible is truly from the maker, just cause the people that wrote it claim its from the maker doesn't make it true, we have different religions claiming different theories that are from the maker, the maker won't contradict himself, with all these different laws, theories from different religions, don't you think so?

chenzen:
If u understand the twist that exists when it comes to Love, sex and marriage in our world today, u will be wiser than you are now. why will someone even think of sex before marriage, the holy book even frowns at it. If a man claims to love a woman let him act than speak, acting means marriage and getting married means commitment.



Read 1 Corinthians 7:9

You are wrong marriage is not a sure act or prove of love , people marry for different reasons, people marry for financial gain wealth, people marry for physical beauty, yes people marry for sex, people marry for green card citizenship, marriage is never an act of love don't be deceived, marriage is just a form of legally tying another human being to yourself in a selfish manner people do it , you can love someone without necessarily marrying that person, stop quoting scriptures here like those scriptures mean something they mean nothing people in the Bible did same, married and gave their daughter's in marriage for selfish gains too

Deepfeel:
I know love has nothing to do with sex, so if a man truly loves a lady premarital sex or not his love for her will still be there why should sex create distrust in a man's heart? Why should sex stop a man from been committed? Why should sex make a man disrespect a lady? Am on a point that if sex could make a man do these negative things you mentioned during premarital sex, it will make him do same during marriage, a man will not hurry to marry a lady cause he is sex starved by her no way so the topic the op raised here I see no wisdom in it really

Bro, the point is sex before marriage is completely different from sex in marriage. A man won't consider his legally married wife as "cheap" for giving him sex in marriage. It is a constitutionally ordained and naturally-binding 'integration'. What the man sees is 'the bone of my bone', and nothing else.

Two things happen when a man gets premarital sex;

First, he dramatically loses interest if sex was the original purpose behind his incessant attention and promises.

Second, trust issues rise sporadically if he genuinely feels something towards the woman (and you know single women never stop seeking/getting needless attention from men). In that scenario, there is no legally binding reason to exhibit trust aside the fact that the two profess love and have sex. What the man sees as commitment under this arrangement is nothing but fear, lack of trust, and attempts to jealously guide the illegal sex deal from other predators. This arrangement is nothing but competition with other predators.

Real commitment only exist in marriage, or at least, in the book of marriage seeking men.

Acidosis:
Bro, the point is sex before marriage is completely different from sex in marriage. A man won't consider his legally married wife as "cheap" for giving him sex in marriage. It is a constitutionally ordained and naturally-binding 'integration'. What the man sees is 'the bone of my bone', and nothing else.

Two things happen when a man gets premarital sex;

First, he dramatically loses interest if sex was the original purpose behind his incessant attention and promises.

Second, trust issues rise sporadically if he genuinely feels something towards the woman (and you know single women never stop seeking/getting needless attention from men). In that scenario, there is no legally binding reason to exhibit trust aside the fact that the two profess love and have sex.

70% of married people have lost sexual attraction for each other they are just there for marriage sake, you talk about trust issues trust issues are more in married people than singles, married people still cheat on themselves , so I don't get your point in all these

Deepfeel:
70% of married people have lost sexual attraction for each other they are just there for marriage sake, you talk about trust issues trust issues are more in married people than singles, married people still cheat on themselves , so I don't get your point in all these

Answer these questions and get the point;

Would a married man consider his wife as "cheap" for giving him sex in marriage?

What is the likelihood that a man will consider his girlfriend as "cheap" after a round of hot premarital sex?

Acidosis:
Answer these questions and get the point;

Would a married man consider his wife as "cheap" for giving him sex in marriage?

What is the likelihood that a man will consider his girlfriend as "cheap" after a round of hot premarital sex?

Sorry but am not a traditional or religious person, these mentality of calling a lady who give premarital sex, cheap is not in me so I don't know the difference, if I love a lady and she loves me, and we have sex I don't look at her cheap cause I don't see myself cheap for having sex with her, two mature people who are sexually attracted to each other having sex there's nothing cheap in it

Deepfeel:
Sorry but am not a traditional or religious person, these mentality of calling a lady who give premarital sex, cheap is not in me so I don't know the difference, if I love a lady and she loves me, and we have sex I don't look at her cheap cause I don't see myself cheap for having sex with her, two mature people who are sexually attracted to each other having sex there's nothing cheap in it

Self-deceit is the greatest form of lie. Meanwhile, I didn't ask you to speak for yourself. Speak for men in general, same way you came up with a 70% statistics about married men.

Deepfeel:
70% of married people have lost sexual attraction for each other they are just there for marriage sake

I'm forced to quote this portion again.

First, your conclusions are very faulty. What led to the loss of sexual attraction btw? Does it have anything to do with not having premarital sex?

Second, what do you mean by "they are just there for marriage sake"? The fact that they are there is the essence of marriage in the first place -- being there in good and bad times. The extent at which single people 'japa' at the slightest provocation or disappointment defines the unseriousness and lack of commitment that characterise sexual relationships between two unmarried people.

Acidosis:
Self-deceit is the greatest form of lie. Meanwhile, I didn't ask you to speak for yourself. Speak for men in general, same way you came up with a 70% statistics about married men.

Well, 70% of men who are well exposed and are not enslaved to religion or tradition, do not look at ladies they have premarital sex with as cheap, 90% of typical men who are enslaved to tradition and religion look at women who are into premarital sex as cheap,
But come to think of it what makes her cheap? There are women who are millionaires, billionaires, having premarital sex everyday and are still well respected in the society what makes them cheap really? Not everyone wants to marry

Acidosis:
I'm forced to quote this portion again.

First, your conclusions are very faulty. What led to the loss of sexual attraction btw? Does it have anything to do with not having premarital sex?

Second, what do you mean by "they are just there for marriage sake"? The fact that they are there is the essence of marriage in the first place -- being there in good and bad times. The extent at which single people 'japa' at the slightest provocation or disappointment defines the unseriousness and lack of commitment that characterise sexual relationships between two unmarried people.

Alot of people who married with out premarital sex, realize after marriage that they are not compatible sexually, so yes to your first question,
Now people remain in marriages for different reasons which I consider selfish or self denial and not an act of love commitment, most people are not happy in their marriages, no single love for there partners anymore but they are still there cause maybe religiously, they claim their God hates divorce, traditionally their tradition frowns against divorce, Socailly people might mock them for divorcing, others can't divorce cause of their kids, some cause the depend of their partner for financial support, I can go on and on

Deepfeel:
Alot of people who married with out premarital sex, realize after marriage that they are not compatible sexually, so yes to your first question,
Now people remain in marriages for different reasons which I consider selfish or self denial and not an act of love commitment, most people are not happy in their marriages, no single love for there partners anymore but they are still there cause maybe religiously, they claim their God hates divorce, traditionally their tradition frowns against divorce, Socailly people might mock them for divorcing, others can't divorce cause of their kids, some cause the depend of their partner for financial support, I can go on and on

Okay. Let me take you back to the very essence of this thread. Are you saying that premarital sex can address the above challenges? Is it safe to also conclude that most of the women will see with battered faces on Instagram (domestic violence) had that encounter because they kept their virginity? Does keeping ones virginity has anything to do with the above problems?

I hope you're aware that it is easier to satisfy a man or woman with fewer sexual encounters than one with many? If you're complaining about satisfaction, you should direct your complaints to the appropriate quarters. Majority of the virgins out there won't even understand all you're saying, they're less bothered about your hypothesis.

Acidosis:
Okay. Let me take you back to the very essence of this thread. Are you saying that premarital sex can address the above challenges? Is it safe to also conclude that most of the women will see with battered faces on Instagram (domestic violence) had that encounter because they kept their virginity? Does keeping ones virginity has anything to do with the above problems?

I hope you're aware that it is easier to satisfy a man or woman with fewer sexual encounters than one with many? If you're complaining about satisfaction, you should direct your complaints to the appropriate quarters. Majority of the virgins out there won't even understand all you're saying, they're less bothered about your hypothesis.

Keeping one's virginity till marriage won't address the above mentioned neither, please go back to the thread read what the op wrote again and go through my comments again you will see the points am making , your last comment shows we are saying same thing

Deepfeel:
And how do you know what is written in the Bible is truly from the maker, just cause the people that wrote it claim its from the maker doesn't make it true, we have different religions claiming different theories that are from the maker, the maker won't contradict himself, with all these different laws, theories from different religions, don't you think so?

l m not here to join issues with an unbeliever. we do not belong to the same school of thought, so shift with ur unrealistic shallow opinions

chenzen:
l m not here to join issues with an unbeliever. we do not belong to the same school of thought, so shift with ur unrealistic shallow opinions

What's unrealistic about my opinions? Am a believer let's just say my beliefs are different from yours,

Deepfeel:
What's unrealistic about my opinions? Am a believer let's just say my beliefs are different from yours,

well... cool, then u should have known than make it seem the op knows not what he says.

chenzen:
well... cool, then u should have known than make it seem the op knows not what he says.

Well cause the op wasn't talking only to his own little group of religions traditional believers, so I did same

Deepfeel:
Well cause the op wasn't talking only to his own little group of religions traditional believers, so I did same

why not just create a counter thread

chenzen:
why not just create a counter thread

I don't need to, I already said whatever it is to be said by me here

chenzen:
mumu

Laurazea ,this is d shameless guy..
Deepfeel this is him



Ladies forever ©

Amatarasha:
Laurazea ,this is d shameless guy..
Deepfeel this is him



Ladies forever ©

lol... l m coming for ya

Amatarasha:
Laurazea ,this is d shameless guy..
Deepfeel this is him



Ladies forever ©

Amatarasha I will tell you like I told chenzen before am not a troublesome person and I won't belong to a group of mobs that all they do is curse and insult, don't tag me on any insulting post you make, tag me on sensible posts, thank you