Hi everyone.... just need your veiw if am doing the right thing.
I started dating my current gf last December and it have been alot of up and few down........what really happened was Wen we met she just lost her job so I felt like helping her out so I came up with the idea of her doing a business of her own were we can both benefit....so one of my friend gave me a link to were she can pick perfumes ,body spray and female slippers in bulk at cheap prices and resale since she knows lot of people due to her friendly nature.
After discussing with her and she accepted so I sent her 100k around feburary ds year to start and got her a new phone has well cos d one she was using was bad so she can also advertise online.....sales was good according to her........fast forward to April
I just felt like knowing if she was keeping the money in her account as she Claimed so i asked her to come give account of the sales cos I told her we will share the gains between ourselves becos i didn't want her to lose track and be financially reackless ........she did the account and it good sales......i now asked her to send me the capital back...to my surprise
She said she sorry that her dad was in need of cash and was depressed so she borrow him 80k out of the money......I was really angry cos she didn't tell me before doing it so alot of drama happened..... after begging she said her dad will give her back d cash ending of last month...... ending came she started begging again dat I should give her till mid this month.....last week she started begging again I should give her till ending of D's month.

Ds were I need you guys help.....I love the gal if God permit I want to marry her.
Her birthday is on Friday and I av plans of celebrating it on Sunday with few friends at a nice lounge....(get cake, wristwatch with set of nice panties has gift).
But has I was making order for the wristwatch D's afternoon at work something in me just ask if am sure am doing the right thing and ever since I am really thinking I should just cancel the plan.... because what she did with the business money really hurt and I find it difficult to trust her.

Pls am I doing the right thing celebrating her birthday or I should just cancel it....thanks

not a wife material. she is begging now because she is not in yet. Some people are just blind In the name of love, u can't see the warning signs of a spelling disaster.

Wow

Brooo once you’ve given a woman you’re involved with money, remove your mind from it, never ask for it back even if she says she’ll pay back.

If she pays back like she says, then great!

I won’t blame you though, the things we do for love most times cannot be explained.

Samyj247:
not a wife material. she is begging now because she is not in yet. Some people are just blind In the name of love, u can't see the warning signs of a spelling disaster.

bro I can't deny I love her......but am not blinded by love.... have made her gone through alot from last month till now for doing that rubbish .....I use my head before my heart.
Anyway thanks ur point noted.

Bro... reduce your financial commitment on her for now. Still go ahead and celebrate her birthday... She is your gf and that is not too much. Forget the 80k and hope she becomes more prudent in the future. People make mistakes but from now on; watch out for any further signs of lack of prudence.

dawnomike:
Bro... reduce your financial commitment on her for now. Still go ahead and celebrate her birthday... She is your gf and that is not too much. Forget the 80k and hope she becomes more prudent in the future. People make mistakes but from now on; watch out for any further signs of lack of prudence.

thanks G....because celebrating it depends on the view of people I get from here.

ending came she started begging again dat I should give till mid this month.....last week she started begging again I should give till ending of D's month.


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JasonScoolari:
"has has" I believe you're a typical Yoruba boy.

You gave her the money out of your generosity, I see no reason for this "close marking" and intensive pressure to return the capital. Allow her concentrate in the business and please reduce the pressure.

bro it not not just about generosity. they entered a business deal here. this is exactly a prototype of Francis odega's wife who he said squandered 7m with her kid. spelling doom. when she becomes ur wife u will have to face more of this kind of issue until u get tired like Francis Odega

JasonScoolari:
"has has" I believe you're a typical Yoruba boy.

You gave her the money out of your generosity, I see no reason for this "close marking" and intensive pressure to return the capital. Allow her concentrate in the business and please reduce the pressure.

Yes am a Yoruba man and am very proud to be one.
honestly bro I don't need the capital back or gains.... just wanted to know if she was on track...am not a business person but I do hear people say in business you must never touch the capital no matter the reason else the business will collapse.

Godoverevery:
Yes am a Yoruba man and am very proud to be one.
honestly bro I don't need the capital back or gains.... just wanted to know if she was on track...am not a business person but I do hear people say in business you must never touch the capital no matter the reason else the business will collapse.

If truly you don't want the capital or the gains back, then please reduce the pressure bro. Yes, you want to keep her on her toes by being productive, but please reduce the pressure,

Nor be all women fit handle that kind of financial pressure.

God bless you Bro.

JasonScoolari:
If truly you don't want the capital or the gains back, then please reduce the pressure bro. Yes, you want to keep her on her toes by being productive, but please reduce the pressure,

Nor be all women fit handle that kind of financial pressure.

God bless you Bro.

ok Baba.
so should I go on with the plans of celebrating her birthday on Sunday??

You giving her that amount of money to start business shows you really love her and trust her.
The simple logic tell her she returning the capital you invested shows you can trust her anytime. That she may need help to invest more next time and you wont trust her to return it mean she isnt reliable to return it. Hope you understand the logic.
If it is not about the money let her be and forget the money. Give her a word to create memory next time she will need help then forget it. No matter how forcefully you try to collect the money she will give it to you when she has it or rather you may not get the money again. Which ever way just be cool with it.
But if its about the money abeg collect your money back you help her to stand she should be grateful enough to return the capital.
As for the birthday if you love her do what your mind says. I dont have any advice for that.

bethyz:
You giving her that amount of money to start business shows you really love her and trust her.
The simple logic tell her she returning the capital you invested shows you can trust her anytime. That she may need help to invest more next time and you wont trust her to return it mean she isnt reliable to return it. Hope you understand the logic.
If it is not about the money let her be and forget the money. Give her a word to create memory next time she will need help then forget it. No matter how forcefully you try to collect the money she will give it to you when she has it or rather you may not get the money again. Which ever way just be cool with it.
But if its about the money abeg collect your money back you help her to stand she should be grateful enough to return the capital.
As for the birthday if you love her do what your mind says. I dont have any advice for that.

God bless G with the logic thing.....is not about the money... just want to know if am not over doing things with the birthday.

Godoverevery:
Hi everyone.... just need your veiw if am doing the right thing.
I started dating my current gf last December and it have been alot of up and few down........what really happened was Wen we met she just lost her job so I felt like helping her out so I came up with the idea of her doing a business of her own were we can both benefit....so one of my friend gave me a link to were she can pick perfumes ,body spray and female slippers in bulk at cheap prices and resale since she knows lot of people due to her friendly nature.
After discussing with her and she accepted so I sent her 100k around feburary ds year to start and got her a new phone has well cos d one she was using was bad so she can also advertise online.....sales was good according to her........fast forward to April
I just felt like knowing if she was keeping the money in her account as she Claimed so i asked her to come give account of the sales cos I told her we will share the gains between ourselves becos i didn't want her to lose track and be financially reackless ........she did the account and it good sales......i now asked her to send me the capital back...to my surprise
She said she sorry that her dad was in need of cash and was depressed so she borrow him 80k out of the money......I was really angry cos she didn't tell me before doing it so alot of drama happened..... after begging she said her dad will give her back d cash ending of last month...... ending came she started begging again dat I should give till mid this month.....last week she started begging again I should give till ending of D's month.

Ds were I need you guys help.....I love the gal if God permit I want to marry her.
Her birthday is on Friday and I av plans of celebrating it on Sunday with few friends at a nice lounge....(get cake, wristwatch with set of nice panties has gift).
But has I was making order for the wristwatch D's afternoon at work something in me just ask if am sure am doing the right thing and ever since I am really thinking I should just cancel the plan.... because what she did with the business money really hurt and I find it difficult to trust her.

Pls am I doing the right thing celebrating her birthday or I should just cancel it....thanks

If really she did the business well and made profit from it, an d the only wrong thing she did was lending 80k to her dad then you have to correct her and forgive her, but if she actually spent the money recklessly and can't give account of it, well she's not business minded, but you love this girl this is just her first tryer man give her a second chance don't just turn her off cause of this one bad act, not everyone is good with business,

Godoverevery:
ok Baba.
so should I go on with the plans of celebrating her birthday on Sunday??

Celebrate her like never before. To see better girls these days hard pass Nigeria Economy.

Goodluck bro!

Bro u have to reduce the expenses u make on her u guys are not yet married. Take ur focus away from her and invest ur energy elsewhere. Don't let that woman drag u down. At least wat she did now shud be a eye opener for u. Be wise man

Bros, celebrate your woman's birthday.
Sit her down and talk to her the way she'll understand that you don't tamper with your capital rather you build it up.... with your story I believe she's a good girl but......if it's for that birthday, celebrate her wella.

Forget the money but never invest in a woman who isn't your wife or sister, the money is gone, I myself invest a lot in a girl I thought I was going to marry only for her to tell me "what have you even done for me" at the end of the day. Don't let her drag you down, if you're feeling generous remember your family at home, don't borrow your girlfriend or fiancee money. Peace.

You want to celebrate birthday for a girl have you celebrated birthday for your mom You better wake up. Please take the redpill

Go on with the birthday but don’t buy her any gift. Also make sure she get that money back and reinvest in the business... Business never even stand, she done dey spend money anyhow.. smh

mhizdebbygold:
Bros, celebrate your woman's birthday.
Sit her down and talk to her the way she'll understand that you don't tamper with your capital rather you build it up.... with your story I believe she's a good girl but......if it's for that birthday, celebrate her wella.

Yea she a good girl.
should i also get the gift don't want the love to enter her head and she start misbehaving.....cos she said non of her ex av done something like D's for her.

You said you both confirmed the returns from the business was okay. Just that she couldn't return the capital

It shows she can manage a business and she is a good girl. She made a mistake and your duty is to teach her what she needs to learn.

Throw the party for her and buy her the gifts if you can afford it

Then sit her down and talk to her. Tell her reasons why she should return the capital and see to it that it is returned. In business it is called discipline.

You can choose to support her with more capital after.

Godoverevery:
Hi everyone.... just need your veiw if am doing the right thing.
I started dating my current gf last December and it have been alot of up and few down........what really happened was Wen we met she just lost her job so I felt like helping her out so I came up with the idea of her doing a business of her own were we can both benefit....so one of my friend gave me a link to were she can pick perfumes ,body spray and female slippers in bulk at cheap prices and resale since she knows lot of people due to her friendly nature.
After discussing with her and she accepted so I sent her 100k around feburary ds year to start and got her a new phone has well cos d one she was using was bad so she can also advertise online.....sales was good according to her........fast forward to April
I just felt like knowing if she was keeping the money in her account as she Claimed so i asked her to come give account of the sales cos I told her we will share the gains between ourselves becos i didn't want her to lose track and be financially reackless ........she did the account and it good sales......i now asked her to send me the capital back...to my surprise
She said she sorry that her dad was in need of cash and was depressed so she borrow him 80k out of the money......I was really angry cos she didn't tell me before doing it so alot of drama happened..... after begging she said her dad will give her back d cash ending of last month...... ending came she started begging again dat I should give her till mid this month.....last week she started begging again I should give her till ending of D's month.

Ds were I need you guys help.....I love the gal if God permit I want to marry her.
Her birthday is on Friday and I av plans of celebrating it on Sunday with few friends at a nice lounge....(get cake, wristwatch with set of nice panties has gift).
But has I was making order for the wristwatch D's afternoon at work something in me just ask if am sure am doing the right thing and ever since I am really thinking I should just cancel the plan.... because what she did with the business money really hurt and I find it difficult to trust her.

Pls am I doing the right thing celebrating her birthday or I should just cancel it....thanks

Why on earth are u asking for advice right now??
From what u posted,do YOU think YOU still need to be advised Isnt the answer obvious
OP,haven't you been reading all stories like urs here? How did it end

U supported her which I think is brave of u but the moment she defaulted on her payment,did u find out if her dad is really sick/depressed?? Why did she give out the capital and not the profits?? Is her dad working? Even if he is,he might not give the daughter back that money. Also, she didn't tell u before she borrowed him(maybe she thought he would pay back sooner or that u won't EVER ask for ur capital back). Lots of loopholes here but I will still give her the benefit of doubt...
I hope ur mum and sisters are well taken care of, if not, u don fall hand

Raydans:
You said you both confirmed the returns from the business was okay. Just that she couldn't return the capital

It shows she can manage a business and she is a good girl. She made a mistake and your duty is to teach her what she needs to learn.

Throw the party for her and buy her the gifts if you can afford it

Then sit her down and talk to her. Tell her reasons why she should return the capital and see to it that it is returned. In business it is called discipline.

You can choose to support her with more capital after.

U were making sense till I got to the 'sit her down and talk to her part' and u lost it. I dislike that quoted above,u lots think women are some underdeveloped cretins who have no sense yet u continue being fooled by them. They are not as weak as u think. She knew already she goofed and should be disciplined,yet u advocate throwing a party for her? With which money o? Urs or hers or the business's? For me,no party anything,maybe a small gift and I will let her know the capital is the cause of that. That I need the capital back to boost my own business. That way,u teach her that business is business and defaults have consequences. She will get that money back(if she was sincere in the first place) and work harder to gain ur trust. That's how to teach discipline, not sitting her down after some birthday party issh...she might not see the seriousness of ur so-called financial lecture!

CyberWolf:
Go on with the birthday but don’t buy her any gift. Also make sure she get that money back and reinvest in the business... Business never even stand, she done dey spend money anyhow.. smh

Nicely put

JasonScoolari:
"has has" I believe you're a typical Yoruba boy.

You gave her the money out of your generosity, I see no reason for this "close marking" and intensive pressure to return the capital. Allow her concentrate in the business and please reduce the pressure.

What's this one saying bayi?

luminouz:

Why on earth are u asking for advice right now??
From what u posted,do YOU think YOU still need to be advised Isnt the answer obvious
OP,haven't you been reading all stories like urs here? How did it end

U supported her which I think is brave of u but the moment she defaulted on her payment,did u find out if her dad is really sick/depressed?? Why did she give out the capital and not the profits?? Is her dad working? Even if he is,he might not give the daughter back that money. Also, she didn't tell u before she borrowed him(maybe she thought he would pay back sooner or that u won't EVER ask for ur capital back). Lots of loopholes here but I will still give her the benefit of doubt...
I hope ur mum and sisters are well taken care of, if not, u don fall hand

her dad is actually working.... the issh is dere no way I can confirm if she is saying the truth about borrowing her dad the money.
But to be honest she is truthful because I have never caught her lying before...

Why are having a double mind. In order to understand any situation better I always place myself in the next person shoes. Unless you think she is lying, that she did not give the money to her dad who according to her needs it. Then you have a good reason to doubt. But if not. Why all this hassling.

Go ahead of you truly love her. I love her, I love her every where. You cannot pretend to blind to errors done in love. Mtchweee.

Godoverevery:

her dad is actually working.... the issh is dere no way I can confirm if she is saying the truth about borrowing her dad the money.
But to be honest she is truthful because I have never caught her lying before...

Aiit bro. I rest my case!

Filmewell:
Why are having a double mind. In order to understand any situation better I always place myself in the next person shoes. Unless you think she is lying, that she did not give the money to her dad who according to her needs it. Then you have a good reason to doubt. But if not. Why all this hassling.

Go ahead of you truly love her. I love her, I love her every where. You cannot pretend to blind to errors done in love. Mtchweee.

So what if I truly love her......do I know if she truly love me back or if she would have done same for me if table were turned.....Dat wat I don't like about most ladies always looking at things only from there angle......See most times I put love aside and I use my head becos one idiot have once told me is it love she will eat Wen I was still trying to get a job after my service year.

luminouz:

U were making sense till I got to the 'sit her down and talk to her part' and u lost it. I dislike that quoted above,u lots think women are some underdeveloped cretins who have no sense yet u continue being fooled by them. They are not as weak as u think. She knew already she goofed and should be disciplined,yet u advocate throwing a party for her? With which money o? Urs or hers or the business's? For me,no party anything,maybe a small gift and I will let her know the capital is the cause of that. That I need the capital back to boost my own business. That way,u teach her that business is business and defaults have consequences. She will get that money back(if she was sincere in the first place) and work harder to gain ur trust. That's how to teach discipline, not sitting her down after some birthday party issh...she might not see the seriousness of ur so-called financial lecture!

The gods has spoken