Planet3xi:



I said fake it. I didn't say go do it. Act irrational to steal back the power remote. You've handed her the power control in the relationship. Wake up.

The power remote got me here . Though the nigger really too soft for the woman , I think the wife has got his password.

Moganajoe:


The power remote got me here . Though the nigger really too soft for the woman , I think the wife has got his password.

He needs to go back to the depth of hell to regain the key to his control. He's lost more than the vagina here

It's either she sees your desire for sex as your weakness

or she has low sex drive

or She is struggling to cope with your hyper libido

or your bedmatics is not sound enough

or she has been collecting the rod from advanced sources

or she has a female partner that satisfies her urge

or it's part of her family planning strategy considering you have 3 children already.

Talk to her and do your private investigation to rule out the possible causes as listed. If you must kniw the truth, you have to take each scenario as a possibility rather than downplaying the possibility.

Goodluck.

Planet3xi:



Forget sex for now, go and regain the power dynamics in this relationship. You've put her in the front seat hence she's riding you anyhow. Give irritating habits, strange habits come late. Don't ask for sex. Dress up walk out. In two weeks shell be back begging. Toss this toxic relationship aside nigger life is too short. Call her people tell them there can't be two men in the house and you have needs. If she can't meet your needs you wish to create space for some who will give it


Just man up already. If people hate peace then give them war. I'm a peaceful man but once a person rejects my peace offering straight I wear my war uniform. God punish devil

From Abraham Lincon principle's of relationship
In his word he says and I quote "Gentle with the gentle people and tough with the tough ones"

Respect.

INTEGRITYA1:


From Abraham Lincon principle's of relationship
In his word he says and I quote "Gentle with the gentle people and tough with the tough ones"

Respect.

That's it bro. That's the principle.

Optimus212:

Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.

Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.

My story is brief.

I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.

Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.

I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.

Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

....Talk out the issues with her. If she insists,ignore it. Anyway must you have sex.

Guy Man...Don't ask again...Be on lock up mode and Guy..She be cheating on u bro....Prepare urself for that....

A situation like this happens when the girl is smarter than the man in the relationship, you invested all your emotions while she hold her own. You gave the sex too much priority that is why she is it to manipulate you. As the thing as been happening for years even after been married, you needs to get another partner either second wife or sidechic for a long term relationship. If she see that she is not the only one she will behave well. Just try this and thank me later.

Hmmm

Your wife must be very pretty, clean, young, healthy and athletic for you to still be dying to fück her like this... even after three kids.

You must be a lucky man.

As for me, I don't even know what I will still be doing with my wife in the bed after two kids.

I just can't.

Idaytesj29:



This is spot on. God bless you.
Op follow her advise.

Bukatyne, what's your relationship status? I am interested in a lady like you.

I will DM you.

Bros, madam bukatyne maybe good at providing paper solutions and turn out bad at implementation. So don't be dissapointed if u guys end up together(that is, if she is single) and she is not the exact picture here.

bukatyne:


I am happy you have realized that adultery kills a marriage so we know that is a no.

From all your posts on this thread, I would say that you have a healthy libido and you are still sexual interested in your wife (I would guess she is still sexy/good looking).

Your wife knows this and has decided to make it a weapon.

I do not know what the problem is however, of she can laugh with you and relate normally till it is time for sex, then it is a non-issue except if she is psychotic or she has issues with your sexual performance.

You know why playing with her, doing more chores etc. Would not work in your case? Because you are rewarding bad behavior. She misbehaves and you keep dancing round to please her. It has registered that if I sexual starve my husband, he will bend over to please me.

If the issues she had with you was not giving her attention or not helping with chores etc, the above would have helped.

Don't just reward bad behavior in your spouse.

What is the solution?
1. Engage her once again, apologize for breaching the trust in your marriage and assure her that you have never cheated again. Whatever the issues are, look into them genuinely and adjust where needed.

If she does not change, then:

Learn how to control yourself sexually. It will be hard however, don't let her feel you cannot do without her.

Stop playing with her or giving her attention. If she ignores your sexual needs, ignore her need for attention and learn to be self sufficient. If she wouldn't cook, feed yourself. Whatever leverage she has on you, learn to provide or beat it.

By now, she would start trying to get your attention by throwing more tantrums... Let her be. If she offers you sex because she is turned on, don't oblige her.

If you do not care about your appearance prior to now, please do. Change your haircut, mode of dressing, get good cologne etc.

When she finally comes around genuinely (not because she needs sex or something else), respectfully lay down the ground rules. If she has issues with you, discussion is the way to go.

Now, if after first engagement, she says your sex life is the problem, get self help books on sex and seduction and up your game in the bedroom.

In all of this, do not cheat or behave in any manner that you will have a blame.

Couples should not treat sex as a treat or reward. It is a duty (I am even taking live out of the equation) you pledged to do.

Goodluck.

At Op, No truer words have ever been spoken.

bukatyne:


I am happy you have realized that adultery kills a marriage so we know that is a no.

From all your posts on this thread, I would say that you have a healthy libido and you are still sexual interested in your wife (I would guess she is still sexy/good looking).

Your wife knows this and has decided to make it a weapon.

I do not know what the problem is however, of she can laugh with you and relate normally till it is time for sex, then it is a non-issue except if she is psychotic or she has issues with your sexual performance.

You know why playing with her, doing more chores etc. Would not work in your case? Because you are rewarding bad behavior. She misbehaves and you keep dancing round to please her. It has registered that if I sexual starve my husband, he will bend over to please me.

If the issues she had with you was not giving her attention or not helping with chores etc, the above would have helped.

Don't just reward bad behavior in your spouse.

What is the solution?
1. Engage her once again, apologize for breaching the trust in your marriage and assure her that you have never cheated again. Whatever the issues are, look into them genuinely and adjust where needed.

If she does not change, then:

Learn how to control yourself sexually. It will be hard however, don't let her feel you cannot do without her.

Stop playing with her or giving her attention. If she ignores your sexual needs, ignore her need for attention and learn to be self sufficient. If she wouldn't cook, feed yourself. Whatever leverage she has on you, learn to provide or beat it.

By now, she would start trying to get your attention by throwing more tantrums... Let her be. If she offers you sex because she is turned on, don't oblige her.

If you do not care about your appearance prior to now, please do. Change your haircut, mode of dressing, get good cologne etc.

When she finally comes around genuinely (not because she needs sex or something else), respectfully lay down the ground rules. If she has issues with you, discussion is the way to go.

Now, if after first engagement, she says y


our sex life is the problem, get self help books on sex and seduction and up your game in the bedroom.

In all of this, do not cheat or behave in any manner that you will have a blame.

Couples should not treat sex as a treat or reward. It is a duty (I am even taking live out of the equation) you pledged to do.

Goodluck.

At Op, No truer words have ever been spoken.

You are a mad man .

Optimus212:

Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.

Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.

My story is brief.

I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.

Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.

I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.

Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

Optimus212:


She still believes am cheating on her ever since d last destructive experience she had but before God and man, I am not cheating on her. Whenever she accuses me, I sometimes accept just to get her mad, d accusations don tire me. And she does not like it when I shout madly at her but brotherly, I am d man of d house, I gast show her dat am in charge nau.

lemme start by saying i am not yet married buh i see alot of comments here charging you up to react , and when heard you say "shout madly @ her" i knew the problem is you talk to much that as given her the lead over you, no be say ur wife no dey crave for you buh women are good @masking there feeling when their is a motive or goal to be achieved
Men act women talk, first of all stop nagging,be joyful,make her jealous however i won't advice you cheat since you're married rather give her a silent treatment, act unpredictable(fake tins up) women crave for attention show little or none,stop giving her that lustful look that make her feel she is turning ur head, its hard but summon courage ,its a little price to pay to get ur power back.
nothing unsettles a woman like when they don't see that lust in there man's eye anymore.




when people see you joyous without them and tell cannt tell or trace ur source of joy they get jealous n crave to come closer..lol !!

Planet3xi:
You sound too soft. Is she doing you a favor? You better look for what would weaken her and push that button. Look at how annoying your comments is. You're begging her cause your a Christian sheybi. Oga come back home 11 pm pour alcohol on your body. Start snapping pics of young girls on your phone. Behave irregular. Gibe her jab, you're in demand outside and watch her change as you stop this simping. Its annoying.


Dem no dey mine gold inside toto


Yan yan starve me of sex. If you were here I'll slap you to reset your brain.


Ubunja

Martinez39

honestly u really burst my brain with this

Ogbeni, Someone is Almost Certainly Servicing your so called wife

Beg for sex!! From my wife!!! As in house, My conjugal right!!! , u pack ur stuff and leave my house . nonsense!!!

boomssey:
honestly u really burst my brain with this

Walahi

armyofone:
After 3kids na sex you dey worry about and want divorce are those kids in private schools or do you have a strong financial savings for each college education?
You know, man- you get misplaced priority and na fu....ck!

U should have ur head examined !!!

boomssey:
honestly u really burst my brain with this

I was there before and know what it feels like. So, I can relate. And as much as I don't want to be there,nor would ever be anymore, I don't want to see a brother there

armyofone:
After 3kids na sex you dey worry about and want divorce are those kids in private schools or do you have a strong financial savings for each college education?
You know, man- you get misplaced priority and na fu....ck!

Sister, regular sex between husband and wife is not a misplaced priority. In fact, it is the bedrock of any healthy relationship. Remove it, and the relationship will crumble. It shouldn't be about the kids and finances all the time, man needs it to calm the nerve.
The op is a strong man and he's really trying, that's all I have to say.

Planet3xi:



I was there before and know what it feels like. So, I can relate. And as much as I don't want to be there,nor would ever be anymore, I don't want to see a brother there

well done bro

UjuJoan2:


You sound like a sex addict . . . No offence. Almost as if sex is a god which you worship with all your being. People like you also have some twisted perversion and is mostly bad in bed because sex is all about your satisfaction and not your partners.

Why are you so consumed with sex? What time do you have to work and make money? I hope your wife is not left with all the bills while you walk about with a boner oooo

I just wonder what your wife is actually going through!

Now, you got everything twisted. Nice one.

bukatyne:


I am happy you have realized that adultery kills a marriage so we know that is a no.

From all your posts on this thread, I would say that you have a healthy libido and you are still sexual interested in your wife (I would guess she is still sexy/good looking).

Your wife knows this and has decided to make it a weapon.

I do not know what the problem is however, of she can laugh with you and relate normally till it is time for sex, then it is a non-issue except if she is psychotic or she has issues with your sexual performance.

You know why playing with her, doing more chores etc. Would not work in your case? Because you are rewarding bad behavior. She misbehaves and you keep dancing round to please her. It has registered that if I sexual starve my husband, he will bend over to please me.

If the issues she had with you was not giving her attention or not helping with chores etc, the above would have helped.

Don't just reward bad behavior in your spouse.

What is the solution?
1. Engage her once again, apologize for breaching the trust in your marriage and assure her that you have never cheated again. Whatever the issues are, look into them genuinely and adjust where needed.

If she does not change, then:

Learn how to control yourself sexually. It will be hard however, don't let her feel you cannot do without her.

Stop playing with her or giving her attention. If she ignores your sexual needs, ignore her need for attention and learn to be self sufficient. If she wouldn't cook, feed yourself. Whatever leverage she has on you, learn to provide or beat it.

By now, she would start trying to get your attention by throwing more tantrums... Let her be. If she offers you sex because she is turned on, don't oblige her.

If you do not care about your appearance prior to now, please do. Change your haircut, mode of dressing, get good cologne etc.

When she finally comes around genuinely (not because she needs sex or something else), respectfully lay down the ground rules. If she has issues with you, discussion is the way to go.

Now, if after first engagement, she says your sex life is the problem, get self help books on sex and seduction and up your game in the bedroom.

In all of this, do not cheat or behave in any manner that you will have a blame.

Couples should not treat sex as a treat or reward. It is a duty (I am even taking live out of the equation) you pledged to do.

Goodluck.

this makes sense

Optimus212:

Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.

Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.

My story is brief.

I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.

Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.

I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.

Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

You have no issue bro. Ask her what she wants and settle it amicably.

Acidosis:

Man, your situation is pathetic! Please pick the good tips here and work on your marriage.

A manipulative woman who uses silence, "ignore button" and sex as weapons is not someone any man on earth should pray or wish for. I can cope with no sex (with genuine reasons), but you see silence, not willing to talk about issues, reasons you don't want that sex? I can't man! I can read minds but not one of a manipulative witch.

Sadly, most wives use all the three you listed but husbands just need to know what to do to counter it. One of the best counter measures is to make the home unbearable for such wives until they fall in line.

davillian:

We've seen woman cry and complain that their husband's doesn't touch them or eat their food.

Now this is what you will do
1)stop eating at home before but you can eat breakfast if you like but don't eat dinner .
Women are scared of this because they feel another woman is cooking for you and they can jazz you from there.
2) if you come home early start coming late and dont pic her calls after work.
3) store her name with a guys name
4) if you dont password your phone or she knows the password change it .
5) you can receive fake calls making her believe you talking to another woman.

6) dont near her when you doing all this things and if she tries to touch you decline too .
Even allow condom fall from your pocket self

But write all this down somwere with date on it o, snap and keep on your phone

U're a very badt guys!!

Brotherly,....as for me going close to her, I don lock up!!!

I just built a mindset now that am in a cult group & d condition they gave me is not to have sex with my wife for a year lest I die!

I know myself & she knows me too well, if I make up my mind for something, even my papa no fit mk me change my mind. Am as strict & wicked as that. I noticed from yesterday evening she had started getting closer which I believe her Aunt in Texas must have cautioned her strongly but me, I will never adhere to her advances at all. I have done it b4 & can do worse. Her next life she'll be cool. Anyways she's my wife & graciously d mother of my kids bt, I don lock up & I know she'll beg which I know will not work.

Single & Married Brothers in the House, No matter how you love ur wife or girl, never u allow them take charge of d relationship, whether there's money or not, God made u d head. I laugh at some comments here that states am d wife & she d husband, they knoweth me not.

And to the Sensible Ladies in d House, we all know how women strive to get husbands meanwhile some women have 3 to 4 men fighting for their hand in marriage at a go, its not about your beauty neither is it about ur intelligence. It is GRACE, & who's grace is it? Jehovah's of course. In a nutshell, if u don't cherish or value ur man, that means u do not value God's gift upon ur life.

My wife loves me to an extent that she's extremely jealous, sometimes I'd say to her "Why are u scared" jokingly, she'll reply "which scared" abegii. But I know she is. I jst feel they sometimes do all these to test d man's patience. Any which way sha, me I don lockup. Let her keep learning d HARDWAY.

And sincerely, I have been so relieved with the highly sensitive contributions from some intelligent members here, God Bless U more abundantly. I am far way better compared to the way I was 2 days back before I posted this here.

I believe strongly Suicidal rates looming about will reduce if only d victims can share that burning issue flaming them up.

I'll pick a few folks here before this my comment i'll gift something no matter how small. They won't understand d help they rendered to a burning heart. But not today, within Monday to Friday next week.

God Bless!!

I think the best thing for you to do is to call her to sit down and tell her you are not happy with the way she starves you of sex and you demand to know why she is acting the way she does. I believe she hasn't still gotten over your cheating expedition and when ever you demand for sex, it brings back the bad memory. You need to bear you mind to her and be sorry for what you did. I can see that you wife Love's you but she needs a reassurance that you wouldn't mess with her again with other woman. Please be patient with her for a while even if you feel the urge to cheat on her. May be she wants to see how long you can be patient with her again which is quite detrimental to the marriage, but you just have to be patient. Women think differently from men.

Dnt ask her for it again or make calls like dear am at home now and I will see u tomorrow but make sure ur children are not dia ooo u will see that she will be the one to ask u to cum for it

Guy. First check if she doesn't have a man out dia that satisfies her either through phone intimacy, or face to face, if u find out then u know how to follow her, cos she can be using ur misunderstanding as an excuse and be hollering outside while u are here pyning away

Planet3xi:



Forget sex for now, go and regain the power dynamics in this relationship. You've put her in the front seat hence she's riding you anyhow. Give irritating habits, strange habits come late. Don't ask for sex. Dress up walk out. In two weeks shell be back begging. Toss this toxic relationship aside nigger life is too short. Call her people tell them there can't be two men in the house and you have needs. If she can't meet your needs you wish to create space for some who will give it


Just man up already. If people hate peace then give them war. I'm a peaceful man but once a person rejects my peace offering straight I wear my war uniform. God punish devil

You speak like my kinsman!