₦airaland Forum

crackhaus:
I'll take this as a 'yes' then.

crackhaus:
Lol.. Only my side-chick dey nairaland, and that's Min.dfulness.

UjuJoan2:
Or maybe I'm just playing Devil's advocate . . . and trying not to be judgemental like someone I know.

Oyindidi:
One of your side chicks

crackhaus:
Hahahaha... Na story you dey find.

Oyindidi:
Na trouble I dey find

crackhaus:
Kwantinu...

Oyindidi:
How you dey enjoy your holiday?

djlinda77:
We are good.. thank you all

crackhaus:
No holiday for me.
Well apart from the less busy roads, I still dey on my normal routine, holiday or not.

The weather dey cool all through though, due to heavy rains this morning.

ifyalways:
Im trying to undertand why you called your FIL that same night? To talk to his daughter who is under same roof with you?

Tbh, i hate weak men who cannot find a way to resolve their spouse and marital problems without involving the whole world. Only in serious emergencies do you ring me by 11pm , dont disturb me for petty issues because you cannot control your impulse, think rationally as a man or react to everything you see.

You should have taken a cold beer and gone to bed. Have a long talk with your wife the next morning . . .like adults. 7 years of.marriage i should expect you to do better. Dont act on impulse, have expectations but keep your shock absorbers on 100% always.

Oyindidi:
Your wife needs your attention and you brought the issue to NL. Men are the reason most women cheat

djon78:
I am a man and true women need attention from there man.

And op said he has been working his ass off, but he may have started neglecting giving his wife attention. A very bag guy that comes around that knows what women ears want to hear can hijack the situation.

The dude need to balance his game. Improve on his connection with hioman are very different from we men. Most men don't understand that.

DukeofNZ:
some of una de like yarn trash. dem never tell you say na only woman wey believe in her husband and marriage de return in multiple folds any good thing wey her husband do foram. from wetin de man talk here so, you supposed to see say her woman no too believe in her marriage again, so unless she makes up her mind to make things better nothing good wey de husband do now she go return not to talk of returning in multiple folds .

truthsayer009:
Yes. So after some few years. She will now start comparing you to the Men that took the Risk & went for a high paying job.

It's an infinite loop, there is no winning in this thing

Daisy17:
So instead of telling her husband she needs attention, she signs up on a dating website? Is the husband a magician to know what his wife needs? @op from what I can tell your wife is bored and she is looking for fulfillment in the wrong place. Sometimes we are the cause of our headaches. Instead of your wife looking for ways to spice up her marital life she goes looking for excitement outside. What does she mean by you both rushed into marriage? She is an adult and if she was not ready for the commitment of marriage she should have said no to your proposal. I believe that in order for your marriage to move on from this rough patch, she would need to fully recommit herself to the union, apologize sincerely, stay off dating sites, communicate better and maybe keep herself fully occupied so that she doesn't have time for adulterous activities.

essenceplus:
Where then is loyalty? Where is loyalty?


All this modernist ideologies


Back in the days and recent times don't women get married to men who go to war and spend long times on battle fields. Please, loyalty is sacrosanct in marriage. I respect you too much to speak to you this way. Whatever happened to communication. Bar were drifting apart I need us to spend time with one another. What is marriage without effective communication. Baba you fall hand



Any little thing these days ladies gibe men divorce or attitude. Well in my wedding,I won't smile nor dance and let people know my heart is prepared even against a divorce. Cause this generation of ladies don't understand on an adept level what companionship,communication,loyalty and what marriage means

Cc Bukatyne

bukatyne:
Some things are stranger than fiction.

essenceplus:
Sister bulky, if a woman needs something in a relationship, why not say I need this or I like this? Why manipulate. Ineffective communication to me in a marital relationship is childish.

essenceplus:
Shatap. You and cococandy are extremists

Oyindidi:
our truth is giving you sleepless night

essenceplus:
Go manage your marriage. You've ceased to be who you used to be before so I won't engage you. Keep commenting to please you hear, that was the genesis of your fall/drift


Go and manage your own home first

Oyindidi:
why are you pained? I'm not a feminist anyway so free me

DaBogu:
"Baby, leave my breast let me watch this movie in peace na, you de rush the breast like say na shawarma wey you thief "

"Don't tell me that oh, when I married you, I paid for my breast too, besides eh, this movie I'm watching is not as interesting as what I am touching "

Oluchi almost choked with laughter

"Okay, just put your hand inside since it's scratching you, ashawo husband like you"

"See you forming good person, when night reach now, you be wriggling like someone under annointing. You that does not allow me to sleep in the night, you de run marathon like all these people for Ethiopia and Kenya "

Oluchi looked at Ken, pretending to be angry.

"So because I de try manage you, you de run mouth ba? No worry, no show for you this night, konji go kill you this night, bet me" she said stretching out her hands.

"If dem born you well make you try am. I will cry till the whole neighbors will wake up and ask what the problem is, I will tell them my wife does not want me to sacrifice to the gods "

She laughed hard again and gave him a mild kiss.

"Oya, see eh, just make me my favorite food na, by the time the meal is ready, I will be done with the movie "

Ken quickly runs to the kitchen and puts on his apron as he proceeds to make her favourite food, jollof rice and fried plantain.

Just then there is a knock on the door and Oluchi opens the door to welcome Jude, Ken's friend.

They exchange pleasantries and she tells him that Ken is in the kitchen.

"Kitchen?" he asked with a surprise look on his face.

"What is he doing there? "

"He is planting mango in the kitchen sink, ofcourse he is cooking " Oluchi said with a smirk on her face. She's never liked him.

"So your husband is in the kitchen cooking while you watch TV?"

Just as she was about to reply him, Ken comes out from the kitchen.

"Ken wassup, I was just asking of you, your wife said you were in the kitchen " Jude said with a grin on his face.

"You make it sound like its a bad thing man, how far na" Ken said.

Jude drags Ken aside

"But bro, this is wrong by all standards, how can you be cooking while your wife sits with the remote, watching TV? This isn't normal. This kind of thing cannot happen in my house na, a whole man like you, do you know how many girls used to rush you back in those days"

Ken wipes his hands on the apron as he shakes his head.

"Jude Jude, why did you come here sef? "

"I came to inform you that we will be meeting later at the club , I called you but you didn't take your calls,now that I have seen you on your apron, I'm not surprised "

"Jude my good friend, first thing first,I am not you and will never be you. What works in your Family might not work for mine and I don't even want it to. My wife cooks everyday for me so what's the big deal in cooking for her just for today? I am always with my wife in the kitchen everyday to help her out, and so you know, I wash my clothes and hers when I have the time and I don't leave her to do the chores alone. She's my wife, not my slave "

At this point Jude didn't know what to say, he just stood there like a dumb lunatic.

"Look Jude, no two marriages are the same, do what you like but don't kill Becca in the process. Have you seen your wife lately? She looks like a frustrated mad woman, so thin and almost invisible and you are here , forming man of the house "

Jude brings out his handkerchief and wipes his face.

"I won't come to the club today, infact, I won't come for a while.My wife doesn't like clubbing that much and since she gave up her modeling career to do business because of me, I need to let go of somethings too. I need to get back to the kitchen, my regards to the boys "

Jude hasten his steps as he walks out of the house.

"My husband my husband, double ration for you this night, correct man wey sabi. Infact you see eh, de go that kitchen, make I do u rush rush inside"������

"Baby make I rush off the gas make we no do rough play burn house "

�Leave people alone and stop forcing your policies on them

�What works for you might not work for them, don't try to make people live like you except it's to make them better.

�Marriage is a union of happiness, make your home a playground, not a war zone .

�Share the chores, don't call her a weaker vessel and still give her all the hard work to do.

May God Almighty give us wisdom and understanding on how to go about our relationships/marriages in Jesus name