Oyindidi:
The post I quoted

Far from it.

By the way, between me and the person joining dating sites and locking her phone, I wonder who wants to destroy the marriage.

crackhaus:

Far from it.

By the way, between me and the person joining dating sites and locking her phone, I wonder who wants to destroy the marriage.

You

Oyindidi:
You

Perhaps if I was one of the people she would meet on that dating site, I would have had a stake in the matter.

Fortunately, I don't use dating sites.

crackhaus:

Perhaps if I was one of the people she would meet on that dating site, I would have had a stake in the matter.

Fortunately, I ,x, use dating sites.

I don't know what a dating site is. Is it like fb?

Oyindidi:
I don't know what a dating site is. Is it like fb?

Lol.

Ask Mr. Oyindidi

crackhaus:

Lol.

Ask Mr. O.yindidi

Be serious I want know

Oyindidi:
Be serious I want know

Well let me indulge you.

They call them dating sites, personally I think that's bullcrap. Most of them are just undercover meet-up and hook-up spots disguised as dating platforms.

There may be people genuinely looking for relationships there though, but very negligible compared to the number of males who are there just looking for a quick fvck and the number of females willing to offer it for a price.

Satisfied?

crackhaus:

Well let me indulge you.

They call them dating sites, personally I think that's bullcrap. Most of them are just undercover meet-up and hook-up spots disguised as dating platforms.

There may be people genuinely looking for relationships there though, but very negligible compared to the number of males who are there just looking for a quick fvck and the number of females willing to offer it for a price.
Satisfied?

Wow! I see, its safe to say the woman needed attention reason she registered there. Advice to spend some quality time with his wife.

Oyindidi:
Your wife needs your attention and you brought the issue to NL. Men are the reason most women cheat

So instead of telling her husband she needs attention, she signs up on a dating website? Is the husband a magician to know what his wife needs? @op from what I can tell your wife is bored and she is looking for fulfillment in the wrong place. Sometimes we are the cause of our headaches. Instead of your wife looking for ways to spice up her marital life she goes looking for excitement outside. What does she mean by you both rushed into marriage? She is an adult and if she was not ready for the commitment of marriage she should have said no to your proposal. I believe that in order for your marriage to move on from this rough patch, she would need to fully recommit herself to the union, apologize sincerely, stay off dating sites, communicate better and maybe keep herself fully occupied so that she doesn't have time for adulterous activities.

Daisy17:


So instead of telling her husband she needs attention, she signs up on a dating website? Is the husband a magician to know what his wife needs? @op from what I can tell your wife is bored and she is looking for fulfillment in the wrong place. Sometimes we are the cause of our headaches. Instead of your wife looking for ways to spice up her marital life she goes looking for excitement outside. What does she mean by you both rushed into marriage? She is an adult and if she was not ready for the commitment of marriage she should have said no to your proposal. I believe that in order for your marriage to move on from this rough patch, she would need to fully recommit herself to the union, apologize sincerely, stay off dating sites, communicate better and maybe keep herself fully occupied so that she doesn't have time for adulterous activities.

Na the op side of the story you hear so

Daisy17:


So instead of telling her husband she needs attention, she signs up on a dating website? Is the husband a magician to know what his wife needs? @op from what I can tell your wife is bored and she is looking for fulfillment in the wrong place. Sometimes we are the cause of our headaches. Instead of your wife looking for ways to spice up her marital life she goes looking for excitement outside. What does she mean by you both rushed into marriage? She is an adult and if she was not ready for the commitment of marriage she should have said no to your proposal. I believe that in order for your marriage to move on from this rough patch, she would need to fully recommit herself to the union, apologize sincerely, stay off dating sites, communicate better and maybe keep herself fully occupied so that she doesn't have time for adulterous activities.

I completely agree with you.

bukatyne:


I completely agree with you.

Thanks

Oyindidi:
Wow! I see, its safe to say the woman needed attention reason she registered there. Advice to spend some quality time with his wife.

You're so funny, so you still think a wife lacking attention is enough reason to be on any site like the one I just described to you?

Someone that is lacking attention, bored, and having too much free time on her hands, did not see The Holy Bible to read or just look for a book to consume, it's to register on a dating site.

If she even has the uncontrollable need to press phone as that is what most bored people now spend every free time doing, she could not indulge in a site for married people where marital issues are discussed and solutions proferred abi.

Come, no make me bite you oo...

crackhaus:

You're so funny, so you still think a wife lacking attention is enough reason to be on any site like the one I just described to you?

Someone that is lacking attention, bored, and having too much free time on her hands, did not see The Holy Bible to read or just look for a book to consume, it's to register on a dating site.

If she even has has the uncontrollable need to press phone as that is what most bored people now spend every free time doing, she could not indulge in a site for married people where marital issues are discussed and solutions preferred abi.

Come, no make me bite you oo...

You dey read Bible when dey bored and need your woman by your side?

Oyindidi:
You dey read Bible when dey bored and need your woman by your side?

I dey read many things.
Just yesterday here, I finished reading a 600-page Nelson Mandela Biography by Martin Meredith, na one week I use run am even with my schedule.

I understand some people desire lots of physical contact and affection from their partners, but person wey no fit control that thing will always be prone to falling for sexual temptations.
It's the reason why woman no fit use puccy take do shakara for me, I go just waka leave am and even she herself go begin wonder whether blood dey my body at all.

crackhaus:

I dey read many things.
Just yesterday here, I finished reading a 600-page Nelson Mandela Biography by Martin Meredith, na one week I use run am even with my schedule.

I understand some people desire lots of physical contact and affection from their partners, but person wey no fit control that thing will always be prone to falling for sexual temptations.
It's the reason why woman no fit use puccy take do shakara for me, I go just waka leave am and even she herself go begin wonder whether blood dey my body at all.

Watin make her lonely before, no be the sexual temptation she dey want? Mr op no dey dig well

Oyindidi:
Watin make her lonely before, no be the sexual temptation she dey want? Mr op no dey dig well

Man shall not live by digging puccy alone.
Make she go invest in vibrator and be cvmming three times in five minutes.

If he come here still complain say vibrator don take him place as man of the house, we go cross that bridge then and advise am to improve him game.

crackhaus:

Man shall not live by digging puccy alone.
Make she go invest in vibrator and be cvmming three times in five minutes.

If he come here still complain say vibrator don take him place as man of the house, then we go cross that bridge then and advise am to improve him game.

Kill me him go complain.

There's another silent point in the op's story, he wants to check her bank statement. Just maybe thing are kinda tight.

Oyindidi:
Kill me him go complain.

There's another silent point in the op's story, he wants to check her bank statement. Just maybe thing are kinda tight.

That man know the kind wife wey him marry.

Let me not say what is really on my mind, I'm trying to be respectful of the poster.

crackhaus:

That man know the kind wife wey him marry.

Let me not say what is really on my mind, I'm trying to be respectful of the poster.

I rest my case, single or married?

Oyindidi:
I rest my case, single or married?

All of the above.

crackhaus:

All of the above.

Your wife and your side chick dey nairaland. I see you as a mature guy though your own dey your body like that Sagamu boy

crackhaus:

He thinks she might.
Being suspicious means being aware of a possibility...so if she has cheated already, he will be ALL the wiser, not NONE the wiser like you posited earlier.

So what do you suggest he does then? Based on your conclusion that she 'might' already be cheating. I mean aside from your subtle accusations that the woman is cheating already, what do you have to say about this man's fears?

I don't know how it works in your marriage, but I'm thinking you've admired a woman or two who isn't your wife, does that make you adulterous?

She got bored, and explored a bit . . . . so what? I think what should really matter here is if the man himself has NEVER strayed . . if he has, even just a bit, then isn't it hypocritical not to expect his wife not to also?

We can be rational all we want, but when it comes to matters of the heart there's nothing common sensical about it. This woman feels some sort of unresolved resentment. She has a need her husband cannot fill now. She is going through something her spouse can never understand. Her idea that maybe a total stranger, who won't see her face to face to make unreasonable demands and doesn't know her in real life to judge her, may be the perfect solution for her to vent, is not such a bad one.

Maybe that's what she really needs to get back to a place of peace.

We are good.. thank you all

UjuJoan2:


So what do you suggest he does then? Based on your conclusion that she 'might' already be cheating. I mean aside from your subtle accusations that the woman is cheating already, what do you have to say about this man's fears?

I don't know how it works in your marriage, but I'm thinking you've admired a woman or two who isn't your wife, does that make you adulterous?

She got bored, and explored a bit . . . . so what? I think what should really matter here is if the man himself has NEVER strayed . . if he has, even just a bit, then isn't it hypocritical not to expect his wife not to also?

We can be rational all we want, but when it comes to matters of the heart there's nothing common sensical about it. This woman feels some sort of unresolved resentment. She has a need her husband cannot fill now. She is going through something her spouse can never understand. Her idea that maybe a total stranger, who won't see her face to face to make unreasonable demands and doesn't know her in real life to judge her, may be the perfect solution for her to vent, is not such a bad one.

Maybe that's what she really needs to get back to a place of peace.

Issue resolved... thank you.

crackhaus:

I dey read many things.
Just yesterday here, I finished reading a 600-page Nelson Mandela Biography by Martin Meredith, na one week I use run am even with my schedule.

I understand some people desire lots of physical contact and affection from their partners, but person wey no fit control that thing will always be prone to falling for sexual temptations.
It's the reason why woman no fit use puccy take do shakara for me, I go just waka leave am and even she herself go begin wonder whether blood dey my body at all.

djlinda77:
Issue resolved... thank you.

Oga tell us what happened so we can learn too which Kain cliffhanger be dis?

Twoclans:


I agree with you on this,however open your eyes my dear 1,Look around you.
2,Look within your church environment
3,Look at children born by your parents friends.
4,Look within your village
5,Look at siblings of your male friends .

If you check within this five circles and still can't find a girl.Then come back let us reappraise the qualities you want in a wife,lf we still don't make headway then you can just sacrifice your odogwu and become a priest.

Lol, you really care about me and my "odogwu" that you don't want it to be useless.

Thanks!

UjuJoan2:


So what do you suggest he does then? Based on your conclusion that she 'might' already be cheating. I mean aside from your subtle accusations that the woman is cheating already, what do you have to say about this man's fears?

I don't know how it works in your marriage, but I'm thinking you've admired a woman or two who isn't your wife, does that make you adulterous?

She got bored, and explored a bit . . . . so what? I think what should really matter here is if the man himself has NEVER strayed . . if he has, even just a bit, then isn't it hypocritical not to expect his wife not to also?

We can be rational all we want, but when it comes to matters of the heart there's nothing common sensical about it. This woman feels some sort of unresolved resentment. She has a need her husband cannot fill now. She is going through something her spouse can never understand. Her idea that maybe a total stranger, who won't see her face to face to make unreasonable demands and doesn't know her in real life to judge her, may be the perfect solution for her to vent, is not such a bad one.

Maybe that's what she really needs to get back to a place of peace.

Hmmmmm...
Seems an awful lot like you've been there and done something similar before.

djlinda77:
Issue resolved... thank you.

Good one.

Oyindidi:
Your wife and your side chick dey nairaland. I see you as a mature guy though your own dey your body like that Sagamu boy

Lol.. Only my side-chick dey nairaland, and that's Mindfulness.

crackhaus:

Hmmmmm...
Seems an awful lot like you've been there and done something similar before.

Are we not talking about me and what I've done?

UjuJoan2:


Are we not talking about me and what I've done?

I'll take this as a 'yes' then.