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UjuJoan2:
okay maybe I did exaggerate a bit . ..

That is why men should work hard and make money.

You cannot be wanting submission when you are unable to feed your family.

Even God will be upset with such an unrealistic expectation.

crackhaus:
Your elder bro must be a real G.

Is it not better he remains a bachelor and still get to enjoy everything that comes with marriage without signing any paper?

crackhaus:
Everything I put in bold there, believe me, most Gs already know. Na women dey deceive themselves.
It's the reason why we have never taken Nigerian women who preach equality serious cos we know wetin dey happen behind the scenes.

Yesterday, a lady here was trying to prove to herself (definitely not me) that money can't buy her submission. If only she knew how much I laughed as I read that statement. She never see money be that, is all I could say to myself.

blank:
There's something about generalizations that blind a person from knowing that the world is filled with such diverse people that there are people that actually believe and do contrary. Don't begrudge anyone their beliefs or opinions.

bukatyne:


Long time no hear

crackhaus:
Ahh you too?

So all of you are all married to the typical African man that doesn't assist with any of those 36 things she listed.

I will be here when another topic comes up. If I see you talking about being married to a 'progressive' man who is hands-on, I will call you out.

UjuJoan2:
I'll be very surprised if you are married . . You don't need four kids to know the effects, or feel the satisfaction of providing for your family and making your wife smile/glow.

You are still a learner.

blank:
There's something about generalizations that blind a person from knowing that the world is filled with such diverse people that there are people that actually believe and do the contrary. Don't begrudge anyone their beliefs or opinions.

biGDhAp:
. just look at this bullcrap.


this is the kind if thing that makes a man not wanting to get married ..




i swear if i no get babymama make i hear wetin happen.

Ranchhoddas:
I really like you walahi. I hope you actually live up to these ideals you constantly espouse.
I hope it's just not internet talk.
That would be really unfortunate.

GoldenJAT:
Your opinion!!! But I still ask... How will the woman help out?

armyofone:
Mine is progressive and a strong team player - the ones around me are too...so are many more out there...A few good guys
But I'm on the side of sistahs mentioned by the original poster. I know you will be progressive to your babes...not minding your tones

crackhaus:
Blank I'm not stupíd.
Of course there are always exceptions to generalizations, which is why they are called exceptions or outliers.
The existence of these outliers don't disprove the existence of the alternate majority.

Although I know you're implying I shouldn't have disbelieved the poster who said that, but then, what if I told you that I have a very special superpower?
It takes me just one conversation with a person(male or female) to decode their personality and mindset. I didn't just wake up one morning and knew how to do this, I worked on it and trained myself on it. It's not 10/10 accurate all the time, but the margin of error isn't enough to be a complete fail.

So yea, that particular person saying money cannot buy her submission, is blehhhhhhhh...
Maybe if Bukatyne said that, I would be more inclined to believe it.

blank:
The fact that you are insisting that they are outliers because it doesn't conform to your opinion means that part of my message was lost on you. However, opinions don't change facts, it only colours our perceptions.

Cheers anyway.

UjuJoan2:
But then he'll miss out on the best things in life . .

I used to think marriage was over rated, but not anymore. . . one thing I know for sure is that marriage has made me a better person, and I know my husband can say the same.

crackhaus:
Personal development makes people better than they were, not marriage.
But I appreciate what it did for you and your husband.

The best things in life are not found in marriage..no scratch that, how about you just share what you think the best things in life are, things which your brother will miss out on if he doesn't get married.

blank:
I gentle o.

No strength to type but i read sometimes and pass.

crackhaus:
And this my friends is exactly why women will continue to be women.

Money matter don come, they will agree to support and not drag leadership.
Tell them to be submissive, they will come for your head.

My brothers, hear read me.
Please make money and make lots of it. This is the goal in life.
Not falling in love, not finding a good woman, not marriage. MONEY.

Make money, I repeat, make money and be comfortable. It is the most important goal oo. Children are the bonus, they are the cherry on top of money goals, NOT wife oo.
A word is enough for the wise.

crackhaus:
Blank I'm not stupíd.
Of course there are always exceptions to generalizations, which is why they are called exceptions or outliers.
The existence of these outliers don't disprove the existence of the alternate majority.

Although I know you're implying I shouldn't have disbelieved the poster who said that, but then, what if I told you that I have a very special superpower?
It takes me just one conversation with a person(male or female) to decode their personality and mindset. I didn't just wake up one morning and knew how to do this, I worked on it and trained myself on it. It's not 10/10 accurate all the time, but the margin of error isn't enough to be a complete fail.

So yea, that particular person saying money cannot buy her submission, is blehhhhhhhh...
Maybe if Bukatyne said that, I would be more inclined to believe it.

UjuJoan2:
Only if/when you get married will you truly appreciate the concept of complementarity. . . . It's like having your own personal thermostat.

I would try to explain, but I doubt if you will understand

bukatyne:
@bold:

Interesting.

crackhaus:
Your idea of submission is based on religion. So yea, maybe.

bukatyne:
Religion ke?

Go and rescan again

crackhaus:
Unless you've not been entirely honest with yourself.
Too many of your opinions have religious undertones, so are you saying that's all an act?

It's not too late o, I can still change my mind and say it's money that makes you submissive, not biblical principles.

UjuJoan2:
I'm not talking about myself . . I can handle ALL expenses on my salary and still have the resources to take a cruise around the world if I want to (no joke) . . But why should I? I'm not a single mother na . . what will now be his role as the OGA kpata kpata of the house I need to be able to rub his stomach and say 'honey we need milo and cornflakes, and please also buy shawarma when coming home tomorrow . . '. It gives strength to the love!

And then what about this OP, who is not financially okay, and whose husband can comfortably provide feeding. Why won't he?

I'm very happy to be submissive and remain in my supporting role biko, I am a WOMAN!

bukatyne:
I am same everywhere, no acting.

I wouldn't say religion makes me submit else I would have married nay one with the tag Christian and just flow because we are Christians.

I would say love.

To me, that is all that is actually needed for a marriage to work.

I am a Christian so my values would be based on that.

crackhaus:
And what happens on those days when there are misunderstandings and this 'love' isn't burning as brightly as it ought to, what keeps you submissive?

bukatyne:
Same thing that keeps his loving.

Genuine Love.

Love is an action and not a feeling.

Besides, my idea of submission is different from the 'Nigerian' one.